any tips for ease of climax?

[Cuntminion]

I have no problem getting erect but moment condom goes on becomes a job to maintain which means no climax during penetration is this a condom issue or are there others things I can do?

By my own admission not overly experienced only three different women in my timeline including wg, never had this issue with past gf but then didn't use condoms
So far usually finish myself I could probably finish in owo but that's not an option or hj

Condoms tried
Durex blue (fucking horrible)
Skyns (bit better but don't smell great)

To try
Druex ribbed and bumped
Durex real feel

Gonna pack in the smoking and eat healthy/drop a few pounds see if that helps

It's not so much disappointing just frustrating a little

Any pointers?

[ampersand]

Blue pills?

[latecomer]

Certainly concentrating on living healthily will help, in every way.  As for the condom, is it the lack of sensation with a condom or perhaps the fact that you now associate using a condom with a lack of pleasure?  Easy to say, I know, but try to get this idea out of your head and concentrate on enjoying the pleasure of the girl's body close to you.  Ask her to excite you (if she's not great at this find someone else!) then plunge in when you're ready to explode, so to speak.  Always remember that we're not machines so it's not a question of just pushing a button to get an orgasm.

Hope this helps and keep us posted about how you get on.

[OakTree]

Commonly known as condom collapse. It's mainly anxiety and becomes a vicious circle. The more you will it to get hard the more anxious you get, the more anxious you get the softer it becomes, very common in this line of fun. You can either get your head round it, not easy, or go down the little blue tablet road. Guaranteed rock hard unless of course there's something medically wrong with you. You should see your GP first

[Cuntminion]

I'm 28 so don't want to blue tablet just yet

I have noticed when I gave up smoking for a while last year and when I eat healthy I do have more energy but not sure if this would rollover into the sex side of things as when I have done the above mentioned I have not been fucking so I have only noticed the energy boost and lethargy disappearing from day to day life

Condoms mentally I don't think it's making harder each time just seem to hit the same wall, maybe something in the lubricant because after using a condom and going back to owo the owo doesn't feel as good as owo pre condom


I don't think it's gp worthy as maintaining is not a prob outside of condom use

Might have to try 20 different types of condom before I find a decent one 

[Marmite]

Maintaining a good level of fitness helps in many ways, not just this hobby.

If you are not that experienced tell the wg.  Get used to lots of hand and mouth action.  Find a good wg and she will be able to a put a condom on delicately, maybe just with her mouth.  Just lie back, let her get on with it and enjoy the ride.  Try not to get obsessed with the condom, staring at it is not going improve things.  The wg will take care of that, concentrate on the girl.

Above all have fun, with practice it is possible to have much more control over your own body.

[johnnyboy61]

Comaminion, I know you don't want to hear this, but I mean it in all seriousness, but perhaps this is telling you that you need to try a different girl. I know that the one you visit is a top notch girl, but it just might be that things are becoming too predictable and you now expect to finish off the same way, even if only subconsciously. Perhaps with success elsewhere you can return to her with a renewed freshness. There are quite a few well reviewed girls around Colindale, so you don't have to stray too far.

[vw]

Comaminion, I know you don't want to hear this, but I mean it in all seriousness, but perhaps this is telling you that you need to try a different girl. I know that the one you visit is a top notch girl, but it just might be that things are becoming too predictable and you now expect to finish off the same way, even if only subconsciously. Perhaps with success elsewhere you can return to her with a renewed freshness. There are quite a few well reviewed girls around Colindale, so you don't have to stray too far.

That is so true, had a phase and ended up with a short notice teen outcall (A moose aged about 40), she was rushing things annoyingly not what I intended but the annoyance in me cured all this, she was rushing and I flipped if you want rush hows this pounding.

Not what you want a bait and triple switch who rushes you but cured my problem so maybe she was sent to save me.

[Cuntminion]

It's not the girl or being predictable

The frustrating part is that she is stunning and makes me aroused so I don't think it's the girl or changing to a different sp would help
It took me maybe three trips to get over nerves

The situation has been the same from punt 1, I'm not embarrassed over my lack of experience I just find it hard to go in depth over I think I fleetingly mentioned it to her once but maybe be more descriptive in a future meet? I sort of put off trying different positions because I don't want to add something whilst working through this

Honestly till two months ago I had no idea what owo dfk ro pse all meant abbreviations were like Spanish too me

[vw]

It's not the girl or being predictable

Maybe your falling in love, or getting in the friend zone and consider her more than the initial escort punter/relationship.

[HornyByNature]

Comaminion, I know you don't want to hear this, but I mean it in all seriousness, but perhaps this is telling you that you need to try a different girl. I know that the one you visit is a top notch girl, but it just might be that things are becoming too predictable and you now expect to finish off the same way, even if only subconsciously. Perhaps with success elsewhere you can return to her with a renewed freshness. There are quite a few well reviewed girls around Colindale, so you don't have to stray too far.

Totally agree.

[cueball]

Comaminion, I know you don't want to hear this, but I mean it in all seriousness, but perhaps this is telling you that you need to try a different girl. I know that the one you visit is a top notch girl, but it just might be that things are becoming too predictable and you now expect to finish off the same way, even if only subconsciously. Perhaps with success elsewhere you can return to her with a renewed freshness. There are quite a few well reviewed girls around Colindale, so you don't have to stray too far.

^^ Correct, nothing better for getting the brew flowing than a new lass to play with.^^

I must be one of the lucky ones, I prefer a jacket on, I can last longer then, when barebacking in civvie relationships I can pop too quick

[OakTree]

It's not the girl or being predictable

The frustrating part is that she is stunning and makes me aroused so I don't think it's the girl or changing to a different sp would help
It took me maybe three trips to get over nerves

The situation has been the same from punt 1, I'm not embarrassed over my lack of experience I just find it hard to go in depth over I think I fleetingly mentioned it to her once but maybe be more descriptive in a future meet? I sort of put off trying different positions because I don't want to add something whilst working through this

Honestly till two months ago I had no idea what owo dfk ro pse all meant abbreviations were like Spanish too me

I agree it's probably nothing to do with the girl and I suspect the type of condom isn't relevant either. You're now almost conditioned to not perform and it really is something you've got to get your head round. It certainly will help if you can talk about it with girl you're seeing as that will take a lot if the pressure off. Spending periods of time using visualisation techniques can help, for example imagining the condom being rolled on your dick and it becoming rock hard. You really have to get over the moment of anxiety once the condom is on and stop the vicious circle.
Improving fitness will obviously contribute to a well being feeling and therefore confidence.
The blue tablet certainly is the easy course and is a dead cert of rock hardness but the trouble with them is you can become psychologically dependent on them and may never be able to perform without them.

[Cuntminion]

Cheers for all the tips I try stay away from any kind of tablet after a dependency on sleeping tablets years ago, I know how easy it can be to trap yourself in false economy and how hard it is to break from

Two things that are not an option are
Blue pills
Change of girl


Will talk it through with her, change smoking/diet also the way of thinking is not something I thought about before and shined new light on this so will try that too

[Trevor12]

no problem getting erect but moment condom goes on becomes a job to maintain

I have a similar issue on punts, but have gone down the blue pill route.

Gonna pack in the smoking and eat healthy/drop a few pounds see if that helps

This should help with a number of things.

If you're a chronic masturbator with an iron death grip, cutting down on the porn and wanking may help too.

[johnnyboy61]

Two things that are not an option are
Blue pills
Change of girl

Comaminion, I hate to say it, but you sound as if you are in a dangerous place with this girl and the only way that it will end will be in tears.

For god's sake please go and see another well reviewed girl. I'm not suggesting that you should give up your reg, but you've got to understand that there are many scores of other top girls out there who will fuck you for your money too. I like the security of knowing that I will have a good time with a girl as well, but I have about six girls who I can rotate around, supplemented by the occasional newbie. Granted that there are some that I see more than others, but that has more to do with logistics.

It's starting to sound like infatuation and your statement that a change of girl is not an option is ringing all the alarm bells and is possibly the root of your problem, and even if it is not it's not healthy.

[HornyByNature]

Cheers for all the tips I try stay away from any kind of tablet after a dependency on sleeping tablets years ago, I know how easy it can be to trap yourself in false economy and how hard it is to break from

Two things that are not an option are
Blue pills
Change of girl


Will talk it through with her, change smoking/diet also the way of thinking is not something I thought about before and shined new light on this so will try that too

Friendly advice, be careful how you approach the conversation and not to imply anything (not that you will) these conversations can cause misunderstandings and affect relations.

[Cuntminion]

Friendly advice, be careful how you approach the conversation and not to imply anything (not that you will) these conversations can cause misunderstandings and affect relations.

When you say imply?

[cueball]

Podge a new face comaminion, trust me, that will work, when you return to your regular she will feel fresher too

[Hertsgent]

I use the blue pill (or even better cialis when I'm treating myself) but agree with some of the comments about coming dependent on it, and understand your reservations.

Diet and fitness (and not smoking) should definitely help. At the risk of having the piss taken, when I had some lethargy issues I took some herbal pills (called menergy).... One noticeable effect for me was more frequent and substantial hard ons.....think they are just stuff like ginger and ginseng.....wasn't Linford Christie on similar at one stage?!

[Cuntminion]

Comaminion, I hate to say it, but you sound as if you are in a dangerous place with this girl and the only way that it will end will be in tears.

For god's sake please go and see another well reviewed girl. I'm not suggesting that you should give up your reg, but you've got to understand that there are many scores of other top girls out there who will fuck you for your money too. I like the security of knowing that I will have a good time with a girl as well, but I have about six girls who I can rotate around, supplemented by the occasional newbie. Granted that there are some that I see more than others, but that has more to do with logistics.

It's starting to sound like infatuation and your statement that a change of girl is not an option is ringing all the alarm bells and is possibly the root of your problem, and even if it is not it's not healthy.

I understand what your saying

What I mean is not an option in regards to this situation

I couldn't begin to explain to you and its not really necessary or appropriate but there is no infatuation , without going into the reasoning I am devoid of personal attachment

I keep my life unattached I pretty much have only two things in the world that I have to pay enough attention too to function and maintain my life as it is
 when I've had enough of those I will walk away, to something better, brighter ? Probably not but I know I can and that's a relief

Please believe me or don't I don't get attached or infatuated

[Cuntminion]

I use the blue pill (or even better cialis when I'm treating myself) but agree with some of the comments about coming dependent on it, and understand your reservations.

Diet and fitness (and not smoking) should definitely help. At the risk of having the piss taken, when I had some lethargy issues I took some herbal pills (called menergy).... One noticeable effect for me was more frequent and substantial hard ons.....think they are just stuff like ginger and ginseng.....wasn't Linford Christie on similar at one stage?!

Hmmmm not a bad idea will Google some herbal remedies see what there is

[Pdubz]

Who cares if he only sees his regular, as long as he gets what he wants, is happy, comfortable then that's cool

every punter should know what this is about, if however your falling in love, eas, expecting some kind of commitment then the above saying "you will be in tears" is definitely right.

[Cuntminion]

Who cares if he only sees his regular, as long as he gets what he wants, is happy, comfortable then that's cool

every punter should know what this is about, if however your falling in love, eas, expecting some kind of commitment then the above saying "you will be in tears" is definitely right.

Thanks dubz the questions I ask sometimes have nothing to do with who I see but are just specific questions


I honestly think with this I would be in the same boat whoever I saw, at least this way I don't have to do 300 notes getting comfortable again

[Malvolio]

Hmmmm not a bad idea will Google some herbal remedies see what there is

If you're in your twenties and don't have any serious health issues your problem has to be psychological - can't give you any tips on how to get over it unfortunately.  On the off chance you're an obsessive self-abuser, give that a rest of a few days before you punt and see if that makes a difference.

[Mansell]

Comaminion, I know you don't want to hear this, but I mean it in all seriousness, but perhaps this is telling you that you need to try a different girl. I know that the one you visit is a top notch girl, but it just might be that things are becoming too predictable and you now expect to finish off the same way, even if only subconsciously. Perhaps with success elsewhere you can return to her with a renewed freshness. There are quite a few well reviewed girls around Colindale, so you don't have to stray too far.

I agree with Johnnyboy, had the same issue myself with a really attractive girl, one pop and just couldn't manage a second but I always do with my regular girl if I want to.

[johnnyboy61]

Who cares if he only sees his regular, as long as he gets what he wants, is happy, comfortable then that's cool

But he's posted on here to say that everything is not ok for members to give their advice. Granted that he says that he doesn't want to consider seeing another WG and is fully aware of possible problems that this might cause, but I don't think that it can be entirely dismissed as a contributing factor.

She was the first and only WG he has seen and admits to having problems from the very first meeting. Now he is more experienced I think that it is worth considering meeting another girl so that he can put these problems behind him and start with a completely clean slate. Once he has got over this barrier he can return to his reg with a newfound sense of confidence.

[Cuntminion]

But he's posted on here to say that everything is not ok for members to give their advice. Granted that he says that he doesn't want to consider seeing another WG and is fully aware of possible problems that this might cause, but I don't think that it can be entirely dismissed as a contributing factor.

She was the first and only WG he has seen and admits to having problems from the very first meeting. Now he is more experienced I think that it is worth considering meeting another girl so that he can put these problems behind him and start with a completely clean slate. Once he has got over this barrier he can return to his reg with a newfound sense of confidence.

I read and understand what your saying

I just don't see a change of girl making a difference, especially when I feel comfortable around the one I see


I'm not dismissive of anything anyone's said and do take it all on board but this is not the solution for this issue for me

[Pdubz]

Yup i agree with you there johnnyboy, plenty of good looking wg around collindale even if he doesnt want to travel, Olivia was talked about. Also good to mix it up and seeing the same wg can get boring in my honest opinion

end of the day its up to him and if hes found his mojo with khloe and is fully comfortable and doesnt want to go through the whole experience of nerves and being comfortable again then thats understandable.

[d00fer]

OP, why are you so dismissive of the idea that you should punt with someone else? You want to try a pseudo-scientific approach with everything else why not the girl as well?

[Toby]

are there others things I can do?

Do you watch porn?

[Type_O_Negative]

I do understand comaminion's point of view. In my early days of punting i was so stressed while punting i couldn't get hard (!!!). I needed 2 or 3 sessions with the same girl to relax. And i'm only a few years older than him, i'm slim and fit, don't smoke - so it wasn't health problem.

In my case a key word was confidence. It took me some time to build it up. And now i'm very confident.

[d00fer]

I do understand comaminion's point of view. In my early days of punting i was so stressed while punting i couldn't get hard (!!!). I needed 2 or 3 sessions with the same girl to relax. And i'm only a few years older than him, i'm slim and fit, don't smoke - so it wasn't health problem.

In my case a key word was confidence. It took me some time to build it up. And now i'm very confident.

We're not talking about the same girl here are we?

Confidence could be part of it, but I stand by my earlier point that the OP should at least consider that it's down to his 'relationship' with the girl.

[Stapler]

Gonna pack in the smoking and eat healthy/drop a few pounds see if that helps
Any pointers?

Go here :

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Loads of info and advice. No need to subscribe.

Good luck!

..S...

[Spunky34]

Not going to comment about whether or not to see a different girl, but returning another part of the original post, if you are looking to try a condom with good sensitivity, I would recommend Trojan Bareskin which for me are the most comfortable and give the best feeling (one or two girls have also said they feel better than most, although who knows if that's just a line or not).  Unlike some of the Trojan ones, these don't smell really strong either.  Not sure I have ever seen them in the shops, I buy mine online - they are about the same price as most of the other 'ultra thin' ones from the likes of Durex, I think.

Durex Real Feel are also pretty good, in my book.

[Type_O_Negative]

We're not talking about the same girl here are we?

Confidence could be part of it, but I stand by my earlier point that the OP should at least consider that it's down to his 'relationship' with the girl.

What do you mean?

[azrael]

If you're in your twenties and don't have any serious health issues your problem has to be psychological - can't give you any tips on how to get over it unfortunately.  On the off chance you're an obsessive self-abuser, give that a rest of a few days before you punt and see if that makes a difference.

Generally agree most of the time it comes down to it being psychological, try not to over think during a punt. If you feel that this is the cuase of "limp dick" then tell your wg to stick a finger in your bum or bite your ear/nipple or every now and again give you a freindly slap this generally works for me

[brolin_76]

I have no problem getting erect but moment condom goes on becomes a job to maintain which means no climax during penetration is this a condom issue or are there others things I can do?

By my own admission not overly experienced only three different women in my timeline including wg, never had this issue with past gf but then didn't use condoms
So far usually finish myself I could probably finish in owo but that's not an option or hj

Condoms tried
Durex blue (fucking horrible)
Skyns (bit better but don't smell great)

To try
Druex ribbed and bumped
Durex real feel

Gonna pack in the smoking and eat healthy/drop a few pounds see if that helps

It's not so much disappointing just frustrating a little

Any pointers?

Changing a girl is the most effective from my experience. you have to believe different pussy different taste. I cannot see any reason why you have to fuck just one girl. As a final solution try bareback her if you are just only confident with one girl. I hope you can trust each other and she knows you just seeing her.   

[d00fer]

What do you mean?

Just asking if it was the same WG that you and the OP have both had problems getting it up with?

Despite OP's protestations otherwise, EAS could be an issue here. Certainly reads that way to me from his post history and reviews. Just my opinion though.

[Cuntminion]

Changing a girl is the most effective from my experience. you have to believe different pussy different taste. I cannot see any reason why you have to fuck just one girl. As a final solution try bareback her if you are just only confident with one girl. I hope you can trust each other and she knows you just seeing her.   

Not ever ever ever

[Cuntminion]

Just asking if it was the same WG that you and the OP have both had problems getting it up with?

Despite OP's protestations otherwise, EAS could be an issue here. Certainly reads that way to me from his post history and reviews. Just my opinion though.

There's no point protesting you have your opinion I say no it's not agree to disagree

I'm gonna try different condoms till I find a good, diet pack the fags in

Most handy tip I picked up from the replies was not to overthink it during I realize with hindsight I may have been concentrating too hard rather than focusing on the experience as a whole
Going to try and sort the psychological aspects of it too which I never considered before

[johnnyboy61]

Not ever ever ever

Sorry, but this comment alone speaks volumes.

[d00fer]

There's no point protesting you have your opinion I say no it's not agree to disagree

I'm gonna try different condoms till I find a good, diet pack the fags in

Most handy tip I picked up from the replies was not to overthink it during I realize with hindsight I may have been concentrating too hard rather than focusing on the experience as a whole
Going to try and sort the psychological aspects of it too which I never considered before

I'm not saying that you can't sort out the issues you have with the WG in question if you manage to get over yourself and your feelings for her, but you do need a wake up call and the fact that you're so dismissive of this, worries me on your behalf.

I wish you well though.

[d00fer]

Sorry, but this comment alone speaks volumes.

I'm assuming OP was referring to the ludicrous bareback part

[johnnyboy61]

Sorry, but this comment alone speaks volumes.

Apologies if I misunderstood this as you quoted the whole of the previous post rather than just the section that you were responding to. Is this a response to the idea of barebacking her (sensible), or to the change of girl (sounds slightly unhinged)?  I assumed the latter but then noticed you had quoted the whole post.

[Cuntminion]

Bareback

Not a fucking chance

[new_punter_1]

I have no problem getting erect but moment condom goes on becomes a job to maintain which means no climax during penetration is this a condom issue or are there others things I can do?

By my own admission not overly experienced only three different women in my timeline including wg, never had this issue with past gf but then didn't use condoms
So far usually finish myself I could probably finish in owo but that's not an option or hj

Condoms tried
Durex blue (fucking horrible)
Skyns (bit better but don't smell great)

To try
Druex ribbed and bumped
Durex real feel

Gonna pack in the smoking and eat healthy/drop a few pounds see if that helps

It's not so much disappointing just frustrating a little

Any pointers?

if you cum within 3 minutes of entry you got PE. Deny it as much as you want.

it can be cured in 2 minutes. 1 minute is to admit it. 2 minute is to find the cure that you want.

call as many experts as you want to confirm the 3 minutes.

then discuss the PE cure.

90% of PE is in the head.

i wont give you soloutions as you must find one that you want working for you. again pyscological thing.

hope that helps.

[Cuntminion]

if you cum within 3 minutes of entry you got PE. Deny it as much as you want.

it can be cured in 2 minutes. 1 minute is to admit it. 2 minute is to find the cure that you want.

call as many experts as you want to confirm the 3 minutes.

then discuss the PE cure.

90% of PE is in the head.

i wont give you soloutions as you must find one that you want working for you. again pyscological thing.

hope that helps.

What the fuck are you on about, premature ejaculation would be a dream come true

You obviously don't read

[new_punter_1]

What the fuck are you on about, premature ejaculation would be a dream come true

You obviously don't read

If you wish to cum within 3 minutes then please watch rabbits or lions or monkeys. assume the postion and go in hard and fast.

perosnally i want to last as long as i can, and go again asap.

for that mindset and other things need to be right.

it is true some people are deplated with the first cum. if thats within 3 mins then 57 minutes of a 60 mins is waste of money. for me not everyone.

i am sorry if i misunderstood the op

[shagbambi]

Speaking from experience, you have developed an anxiety regarding sex which is manifesting itself in ercectile issues, come condom time.  I suffered from a similar issue for a period when I was younger, about your age.

As others have correctly pointed out you should stop jerking off and watching porn.  This is the easy part.
You know have to unlearn this flawed "behaviour".

This takes a lot of time and if its paid sex, money.
The short cut is to use the blue pill as a crutch to help get you there almost instantly.
You can unlearn this behaviour then going forward.  See  loads of different girls to give yourself confidence in multiple situations.  You can then slow down on the meds cutting them down until you are taking nothing and all will be fine.

If you do not want to go the med route you risk compounding the issue and making it far worse.  You then risk developing other anxiety issues such as premature ejaculation.

PS the long way is therapy....