Know what your saying there but I do believe I have never lied to my wife, ( but I know she will not see it the same way ) she withdrew sex due to her state of mind and attitude, our relationship then changed in to a non sexual relationship ( not my choice ) yet I still wanted sex, arguments ( due to frustration and bitterness ) wer frequent , while watching loads of porn to satisfy ones wants vista street pop ups kept popping up on my computer, after about another year of bad relations at home we had a massive row, and in my red mist moment rang a number and polish voice answers and 24 hours later I'm shaging fuck out of this little life saver in Newport, near the auction place, a load of punts on and due to there being no conflict in our sex life now due to my punting our marriage is much better, but our kids have grown up ( in 20''s and working ) so luckily I can afford to punt within reason, am I cheating, I don't think so, just having some fun, that she denies me, do I lie, never spoken to my wife ( obviously ) about my punting so how can I have lied ? I do lead a life apart of my normal life, I do have to be two different people that don't know each other but have to work together to make time and space for those hours when the real me does't exist for a while. So what I'm saying is , it's all her falt and if she was half the wife she thinks she is I wouldn't be here now.