What I mean is, that the person is not being forced into it. I.e is doing what they are doing through choice. I don't want to support trafficking, nor violent co-ercion. I'm looking for someone that is genuinely doing this as it works for them. I also don't want to feel that it's a business transaction - yep, I understand it is, but I would like to not feel that way during the time.
Thanks for the suggestions so for in the thread.
I went through the exact same thought process to you. I didn't think all working girls were victims of horrible things, but it did concern me that I didn't want to pay to sleep with a girl who was really not happy sleeping with me, and the only reason she was doing it was because she had no choice... This really doesn't matter to allot of men. In fact, I'm pretty sure allot of men actually like the girl to be downtrodden. I'm assuming it gives them a sense of power which they get off on.
I was talking with the girl I saw last night about this in some depth. (If you're reading this ****** get back to SAAFE! : ) It was something that had concerned me, and I needed to feel OK about it, or this was something that was not going to be for me.
Luckly for me this girl totally understood where I was coming from, and was happy if not even interested to talk about it... Long story short the vast majority of these girls are bloody smart. They know exactly what they're doing, and they're earning a allot of money doing it... Some will enjoy what they do more than others, and some will be able to deal with it mentally better than others. So take your time, pick wisely and use your intuition.
As for "I also don't want to feel that it's a business transaction". This is a very valid way to feel. I'm the same. However, maybe you need to ask yourself why you don't want it to feel that way. Should you really be looking for a girlfriend?... From my very limited experience with the girl I was with it felt very natural, and even very friendly. (I do think I might have struck lucky though.)
All I can really suggest it that you take your time picking who you wish to spend your time with much like you would in the real world, as, although it's a somewhat false dynamic, it's still really two humans being very intimate.
Hope this helps. If you have any questions feel free to ask!