BDSM, tie and tease & correction

[Turtle Z]

Are these services generally offered by chancers who don't actually want to fuck to earn their money but want to earn similar money to those who do?

[johnnyboy61]

I tried the BDSM stuff only once and found out pretty quickly it wasn't for me. To tell the the truth it was the girl and not the services that attracted me. I couldn't get into the role play and was on the verge of laughing all the time. She said "this isn't really working, is it?" and it morphed into the most fantastic GFE. Went back to her once more, but ditched all the kinky stuff. She asked me not to mention that she did non-BDSM services in any reviews of her. She's now one of the top BDSM WGs in the area and is published in fetish mags, but I moved out of the area and never saw her again (it was slightly awkward anyway when we realised that we had come across each other a few times in a civvies environment). I met her in a hotel, but she now has a fully kitted dungeon and not a hint of anything other than BDSM services on her AW page, but I know that she has a softer side to her, but I guess she wouldn't want to spoil the illusion by revealing it now.

[willbred]

IMHO there's a spectrum with WGs who offer  dom / fetish services at one end and the 'lifestyle' dommes who probably don't offer sex at the other end. Not all clients want sex and not all in either camp will be 'chancers'

[Turtle Z]

What prompted this post was getting a response to a reverse booking from someone who offered these services. My RB was clear that I was seeking sex but this idiot suggested that I might just prefer a bit of 'tie and tease' or light BDSM, and guess what her rates were the same as if I was paying her for a fuck. She almost shit herself when I suggested that I would want reverse oral and it was a short telephone conversation. How the fuck can you tease someone with a tie, what a load of bollocks!

[od13218]

It's not bollocks per se - but clearly bollocks for your particular RB!
"Tie and tease" doesn't mean teasing someone with a tie- rather tying them up and bringing them gradually to the edge several times before allowing them to fuck & cum. Pretty hot if you're into that kind of thing.
There is a spectrum though- serious specialists will offer a massive range of kinky BDSM services but no sex; there are some wgs who put BDSM on the list but don't really know what they're doing beyond a half-hearted spanking. Very rare is the wg who knows how to do BDSM properly but will also fuck- that's the holy grail for me!
Doug

[Turtle Z]

It's not bollocks per se - but clearly bollocks for your particular RB!
"Tie and tease" doesn't mean teasing someone with a tie- rather tying them up and bringing them gradually to the edge several times before allowing them to fuck & cum. Pretty hot if you're into that kind of thing.
There is a spectrum though- serious specialists will offer a massive range of kinky BDSM services but no sex; there are some wgs who put BDSM on the list but don't really know what they're doing beyond a half-hearted spanking. Very rare is the wg who knows how to do BDSM properly but will also fuck- that's the holy grail for me!
Doug

I might understand it with a fuck as the end result but this 'lady' clearly didn't like to fuck. Edging is edging and there are numerous ways this can be achieved without spoiling any of my silk ties.

[regular_guy]

BDSM / tie & tease and all that good stuff,  you have to be in a particular mood and find the right girl for this.

I had a tie and tease session once where it resulted in a BJ and then she rode me while i was tied and blindfolded which was great.

then once,  quite a few years ago,  went to see a mistress to see what that was like,  got tied up on this special bench (for want of a better word),  small dildo up ass and all that and it was good,  she then rode me for a finish.
weird thing was,  i went back a few weeks later, and very unexpectedly,  while i was tied up,  her mate came round,  the mistress sat on my face,  while her mate wanked me off for a finish. 

I think i would only ever go to one again,  if sex was on the agenda or you would end up frustrated at the end.

[mh]

I might understand it with a fuck as the end result but this 'lady' clearly didn't like to fuck. Edging is edging and there are numerous ways this can be achieved without spoiling any of my silk ties.

Is it extra kinky if you use a bow-tie in tie and tease?
 

[Turtle Z]

Is it extra kinky if you use a bow-tie in tie and tease?
 

Maybe I've got it completely wrong, as part of the BDSM scenario, perhaps its a cable tie? 

[fredpunter]

Surely its when you both finish at the same time

[closeshave]

My mistress offers bdsm. No sexual services

[Sebastian]

I met her in a hotel, but she now has a fully kitted dungeon and not a hint of anything other than BDSM services on her AW page,

johnnyboy61  Do you have the URL or AW name? TFAI

[johnnyboy61]

johnnyboy61  Do you have the URL or AW name? TFAI

Normally I wouldn't have a problem, but at the time she said that she would appreciate it if I didn't mention that we had sex in any feedback. Seeing as I've already mentioned it on here I don't think it would be fair to identify her. Sorry.

[Ben4454]

I am quite fond of tie and tease but prefer to dominate opposed to being dominated in the punt.

Not into the stereotypical whipping and using equipment. I prefer it when it is psychological and verbal. These are best incorporated within roleplays. Such as law enforcement doing a interview, Mafia Boss and Female Lawyer etc etc.