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Offline od13218

Well I wasn't expecting this...2 of my wife's best friends have caught their husbands having affairs with hideous messy consequences. Last night it was all "you think you know someone and then something like this happens- how do I know we're ok?"; she thenrelated how one friend had become suspicious and started searching pockets, checking phones and laptops and caught him that way.
I take all the usual precautions but FFS could do without this...may have to lie low for a bit!
Hopefully back in the saddle once it's all blown over. Jeez!

Offline Fragilehand

You have to think worse case scenario at every punt.  Think of a story why you are there mine is normally it's a friends bday or a relations b day and I was buying or looking at something from gum tree at that address etc it's not hard but remember she could be following you!buy her a android phone or I phone and track her think outside the box.

Offline Happyjose

Affairs invariably end up messy, as women become increasingly needy after time and you then have to consider your discretion 24/7. I've had a few over the years and this was my experience.

I find punting much less risky if you take sensible precautions

bod666

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The key thing is shagging escorts isn't having an affair. Affairs are messy and leave lots of evidence. If you're careful punting leaves minimal trace.

Still you're right to be careful and to keep your head down for a bit.

Offline AgedCases

Thank fuck I divorced my wife before discovering the world of punting. Feel like there's no place in my life for a relationship now, just meaningless and dirty sex!  :thumbsup:

lancspunter

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You need a ready made excuse for the existence of your punting phone and why it only contains the phone numbers of prostitutes. Apart from that it should be plain sailing.

Offline Taggart

All it takes is the slightest suspicion, and the wife starts to dig.  And do they dig !!!! Whatever they ask, it should be deny, deny, deny.

You cannot afford to become secretive, be late home from work, leave a paperwork trail, pin code on phone, password on PC, larger than normal cash withdrawals, and the like can trigger the Spanish Inquisition.

Even buying flowers unexpectedly, or buying new pants, changing deoderent and more attentive to personal care can make a women suspicious. And woe betide you if you glance at the girl with the nice arse and legs as you pass by in the car - if she's in the car with you.

Sometime 'normal' behaviour is necessary for a while. I've had too many close ecounters including some very stupid mistakes I've extracated myself from,  but I wouldnt be cocky to say I've perfected it. As I tend to punt 20+ miles from home, there is the risk of a accident, breakdown, speeding ticket etc, and the why were you there question?

One of the safest ways is when you have to be in an area for business. Hard for those who are office based, but I am on the road, so there's more flexibility. I still risk being spotted by someone who knows the family who might ask why I was coming out of a block of flats etc.  I do prefer punting in winter as the dark nights act as a good cover.


Offline thefoxman

IME all women are nosey and often can't help themselves going through your pockets. laptops etc  :rolleyes:

My method is not to be "too clean", i.e. leave a porn browsing history on the laptop,
a bar receipt in pocket etc

I'm sure they're happy having found "something", and I get to admit to the lesser crime when grilled,
without being suspiciously virtuous ...


306

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Affairs invariably end up messy, as women become increasingly needy after time and you then have to consider your discretion 24/7. I've had a few over the years and this was my experience.

I find punting much less risky if you take sensible precautions

this is so true

lancspunter

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IME all women are nosey and often can't help themselves going through your pockets. laptops etc  :rolleyes:

My method is not to be "too clean", i.e. leave a porn browsing history on the laptop,
a bar receipt in pocket etc

I'm sure they're happy having found "something", and I get to admit to the lesser crime when grilled,
without being suspiciously virtuous ...

I like your style.

Offline cueball

IME all women are nosey and often can't help themselves going through your pockets. laptops etc  :rolleyes:

My method is not to be "too clean", i.e. leave a porn browsing history on the laptop,
a bar receipt in pocket etc

I'm sure they're happy having found "something", and I get to admit to the lesser crime when grilled,
without being suspiciously virtuous ...

Like it, the double bluff method

Offline tazz

Why on earth people believe that they should only be able to have sex with one person has always been a mystery to me. Dont think humans like the rest of the animal kingdom are programmed for this. Have had tons of women with husbands and partners make moves on me, so i can only suspect most wives have sleept with other guys.

markw

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The double bluff sounds too scarey for me! I'd rather appear squeaky clean.

If you can punt on your commute to/from work, it's a good way of always being where you're supposed to be. And the inevitable delays on public transport cover those lost hours.

And beware of Whatsapp - there are a lot of scare stories about it giving the game away.

markw

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Have had tons of women with husbands and partners make moves on me...

You lucky ***!!!!@@***

Offline tazz

You lucky ***!!!!@@***

Unfortunately not sleept or snogged many due to the difficulties of getting away with it. They often even do this in front of other people, so just shows so many women are hypocrites with having ago at their hubby for having an affair when they would gladly do the same.

Person i work with has been having an affair with a married women for the past 4 years, hes missus who he hardly speaks to knows and doesnt care. Only reason their together is because of the kids and the hassel of selling the house and moving etc.

spkmstr48

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IME all women are nosey and often can't help themselves going through your pockets. laptops etc  :rolleyes:

My method is not to be "too clean", i.e. leave a porn browsing history on the laptop,
a bar receipt in pocket etc

I'm sure they're happy having found "something", and I get to admit to the lesser crime when grilled,
without being suspiciously virtuous ...

Sssh, don't give away the best stuff, oops too late :)

Damn right, give them something to find. I'm always lazy with the little sins makes her think I'm crap at hiding stuff.

Plus the three day silent treatment is a bonus!

 :drinks: :diablo: :lol:

306

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the brown letter from her solicitor
with your name on it

 may give many more than 3 days of  silence!

spkmstr48

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the brown letter from her solicitor
with your name on it

 may give many more than 3 days of  silence!

I think you misunderstood me. The things I allow to be discovered are things like:

Going for a beer or three
Getting a takeaway
Etc.

All on the sly but nothing that's going to lead to divorce, the big things remain well hidden, hopefully.

 :drinks: :diablo: :lol:

Sureshot

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Been busted for an affair/fling years ago and she still brings it up on occasion, they're not only sneaky fuckers but they can be bitter too! 

The suspicion is always there and she never believes my excuses / reasons any way so i just make sure i dont do anything stupid that will link directly to prostitutes

306

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Sureshot

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a woman never forgets .

True, its not just her arse that resembles an elephant  :lol:

Offline Largs43

Punting should be much safer than an affair; there's less personal contact & no ongoing storyline....

You can never be 100% bulletproof though; my nearest falls were;

(1) a lost return train ticket which I'm hoping is now litter, miles away and not in a pocket.
(2) a long auburn hair on my shirt which thankfully I noticed & checked there weren't any more!

spkmstr48

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Punting should be much safer than an affair; there's less personal contact & no ongoing storyline....

You can never be 100% bulletproof though; my nearest falls were;

(1) a lost return train ticket which I'm hoping is now litter, miles away and not in a pocket.
(2) a long auburn hair on my shirt which thankfully I noticed & checked there weren't any more!

Good point, must do hair check before going home today, all blondes at home so Romanian hair will be suspicious!

 :drinks: :diablo: :lol:

Offline od13218

Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences - as ever UKP a refuge of sanity and good advice!
What pisses me off is that it's some *other* buggers' screw-ups that have put *my* behaviour under the microscope! Yesterday I showed her a facebook post on my phone and she scrolled for ages, saying "sorry I'm just browsing your facebook, feel free to snatch it out of my hand", which was obviously an invitation to incriminate myself by being twitchy about her looking at my phone. Of course, I had no need to be twitchy and wasn't, but I hate that attitude.

Luckily I travel a lot for work and my hours have always been irregular, but I'd better keep things squeaky clean for a while...

Offline wheeliebinwanking

Very true.

I was on my way to a punt this weekend past and the following went through my mind

- Drive carefully (no accidents)
- Don't speed
- What if I am seen by OH friends (though I was 30+ miles out of town)

I addressed the first two items by driving carefully. I also have deleted Google Location History (be VERY careful people) and switched off my GPS signal and mobile data

I took the WG address on a stick notepad and memorised the directions (ie I didn't use the car sat nav)

I had a cover story about playing a 2.5hr game of sport, but if I am recognised I would have told my OH i was hunting for stuff on Gumtree. I've travelled 2hrs+ for a Gumtree bargain so I have form here.

In the end the visit was absolutely horrific and I won't be going for FS again for a long while

Offline Boundless

Yikes, there's some suspicious women about isn't there??

I suppose it all comes down to what they consider to be "normal" activity.

I'm the sort of bloke that has a day off and travels 50 miles to go to see a museum, steam engine, old factory, canal boat, ship, signal box, etc etc.
Ok, so it probably makes me a bit of a nerd, but gives me loads of opportunities to go off piste. Told her I was thinking about going to Geneva to see the Hadron Collider and she said, go for it!  :roll eyes:
I'm always tatting about with technology too, she knows I've got at least 3 mobiles (actually it's 5, one for punting and a punting back up)

I always take the standard precautions still though, you can't be too careful.

Offline wheeliebinwanking

Yikes, there's some suspicious women about isn't there??

I suppose it all comes down to what they consider to be "normal" activity.

I'm the sort of bloke that has a day off and travels 50 miles to go to see a museum, steam engine, old factory, canal boat, ship, signal box, etc etc.
Ok, so it probably makes me a bit of a nerd, but gives me loads of opportunities to go off piste. Told her I was thinking about going to Geneva to see the Hadron Collider and she said, go for it!  :roll eyes:
I'm always tatting about with technology too, she knows I've got at least 3 mobiles (actually it's 5, one for punting and a punting back up)

I always take the standard precautions still though, you can't be too careful.

That's all good and well BUT, if she calls do you normally pickup the phone? And by NOT doing so, would that arise suspicision?

That's the issue for me, I am a family man and like to be available and to pickup the phone whenevr 24*7 BUT I don't want to take my normal phone with me. Hence why I need a proper cover story that could explain 1-2hrs of no contact by phone

jcdmj12

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Turn it back on her. Ask her to prove that she's not up to something.

Offline anonyorks

Been busted for an affair/fling years ago and she still brings it up on occasion, they're not only sneaky fuckers but they can be bitter too! 

The suspicion is always there and she never believes my excuses / reasons any way so i just make sure i dont do anything stupid that will link directly to prostitutes

+1000000000

Offline Steely Dan


That's the issue for me, I am a family man and like to be available and to pickup the phone whenevr 24*7
I suggest you get in to the habit of NOT always picking up, or else give up punting.  Remember, people were good parents even before the advent of mobiles.

Ben4454

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When I used to be in a relationship I would never check my girlfriends phone/laptop.

However - I once caught her checking my phone - so i got rid of her.

I never cheated on her but it was just the principle.

A lot of the checking phones/laptops everywhere you are going is from a deep insecurity in themselves or the relationship.

Unfortunately if you're losing interest in the relationship it shows - which makes them want to check your phone because of their gut feeling inside that you 'must be cheating'

I do not know how you guys do it but frankly i would never be with someone who doesn't put out.
« Last Edit: May 18, 2015, 08:28:58 pm by Ben4454 »

Offline sticko

I suggest you get in to the habit of NOT always picking up, or else give up punting.  Remember, people were good parents even before the advent of mobiles.

!00% agree with this.  It's a standing 'joke' at home how shit I am at answering my phone.  So now I just get a text and an instruction to call if it's anything important.  This has nothing to do with punting btw, I'm just shit at answering my phone.  But there is massive side benefit that I've only just realised...

S

Sureshot

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A lot of the checking phones/laptops everywhere you are going is from a deep insecurity in themselves or the relationship.

This may be true but doesnt alter the situation of her trying to catch you out
« Last Edit: May 18, 2015, 08:36:56 pm by Sureshot »

Offline Boundless

That's all good and well BUT, if she calls do you normally pickup the phone? And by NOT doing so, would that arise suspicision?

That's the issue for me, I am a family man and like to be available and to pickup the phone whenevr 24*7 BUT I don't want to take my normal phone with me. Hence why I need a proper cover story that could explain 1-2hrs of no contact by phone

Good question.
She rings me very infrequently so it's not a major problem but I do take my normal phone with me. She rang me once when it was obvious that I was at a railway station en route to a punt,  just not the station I said I was at.
If you really don't want to take your phone with you then I can see that it's a bit of a problem

Offline wheeliebinwanking

Good question.
She rings me very infrequently so it's not a major problem but I do take my normal phone with me. She rang me once when it was obvious that I was at a railway station en route to a punt,  just not the station I said I was at.
If you really don't want to take your phone with you then I can see that it's a bit of a problem


I heed the feedback. It's not too much of an issue, more a worry of mine. Today I was playing my 'sport' for near 3 hours and I didn't check my phone. So I do have a cover story, however it appears I only have one. TBH, I will only ever attempt to punt when OH is away. Can't deal with the paranoia

Offline Boundless


I heed the feedback. It's not too much of an issue, more a worry of mine. Today I was playing my 'sport' for near 3 hours and I didn't check my phone. So I do have a cover story, however it appears I only have one. TBH, I will only ever attempt to punt when OH is away. Can't deal with the paranoia

Yes, it's a free hit when the OH is away.

Planned to do an allnighter with my fave regular only to find that she was on holiday too!

Instead I punted on Tuesday, Thursday and Saturday, but found stamina to be a problem.
She's going away in July for a few days, planning is already at an advanced stage  :D

Offline anonyorks

I only punt when it is 100% (well 99.9%) safe that she won't try contact me.

I say my reg a couple of weeks ago and took a gamble and ended up having to text whilst driving back from the punt over the speed limit. Not ideal.


spkmstr48

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Good question.
She rings me very infrequently so it's not a major problem but I do take my normal phone with me. She rang me once when it was obvious that I was at a railway station en route to a punt,  just not the station I said I was at.
If you really don't want to take your phone with you then I can see that it's a bit of a problem

I suppose you could leave your main phone in the car set to divert to your punting phone, so you could take calls but not make them?

Don't forget to turn the divert off afterwards though  :scare:

 :drinks: :diablo: :lol:

Offline Boundless

I suppose you could leave your main phone in the car set to divert to your punting phone, so you could take calls but not make them?

Don't forget to turn the divert off afterwards though  :scare:

 :drinks: :diablo: :lol:

That's one way.
However, I'm always very careful about linking my punting phone to anything else. I only ever use it to ring/text prossies, bought the phone cash in a supermarket 50 miles away, never registered it, always topped up with voucher bought with cash. Minimal traceability.

Offline anonyorks

That's what I do, had to buy a top up from the local shop yesterday with cash after running out of credit. Luckily the Mrs never goes in. Luckily my network has gone to shit the last couple of weeks, I'm at home now with no signal, long may it continue  :lol:

spkmstr48

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That's one way.
However, I'm always very careful about linking my punting phone to anything else. I only ever use it to ring/text prossies, bought the phone cash in a supermarket 50 miles away, never registered it, always topped up with voucher bought with cash. Minimal traceability.

Fairly low risk if it's a dumb phone, you can always dump the sim card afterwards and get another just to be sure.

 :drinks: :diablo: :lol:

Offline Duke of Earl

Golf is a good hobby to get into if you want to conceal your punting. You can always have a very slow fourball in front of you resulting in you being late back or need a trip to the driving range on a Saturday afternoon.

If your mrs sees you put the clubs in the car and take them back out again she won't ask any questions. You can also pass random numbers on your phone off as occasional golf partners.

And even a woman would know it is bad etiquette to answer your phone on the course

spkmstr48

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Golf is a good hobby to get into if you want to conceal your punting. You can always have a very slow fourball in front of you resulting in you being late back or need a trip to the driving range on a Saturday afternoon.

If your mrs sees you put the clubs in the car and take them back out again she won't ask any questions. You can also pass random numbers on your phone off as occasional golf partners.

And even a woman would know it is bad etiquette to answer your phone on the course

Downside is you might actually have to play golf occasionally.

 :drinks: :diablo: :lol:

Offline od13218

Just about gave myself a heart attack today: texting my wife, about to hit send, realised I had absent-mindedly leant on the screen a moment too long and brought up an old copy-paste - which was the website of a WG I had mentioned on UKP!!!  :scare:
I'd written a couple of posts and reviews on my smartphone, using private browsing obviously, but had copied the link for the website and clearly it was the last thing I'd copied/pasted and was still on the clipboard.
Thank FUCK I noticed in the nick of time, switched on airplane mode instantly and calmly deleted the whole thing before starting again.
So watch out for this one guys - didn't see it coming and there but for the grace of God etc...


Offline anonyorks

I always check what a paste would be before leaving my pc, I've nearly done the same

Aspen

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Why on earth people believe that they should only be able to have sex with one person has always been a mystery to me. Dont think humans like the rest of the animal kingdom are programmed for this. Have had tons of women with husbands and partners make moves on me, so i can only suspect most wives have sleept with other guys.

Yeah, but it's okay when they do it.

Aspen

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IME all women are nosey and often can't help themselves going through your pockets. laptops etc  :rolleyes:

My method is not to be "too clean", i.e. leave a porn browsing history on the laptop,
a bar receipt in pocket etc

I'm sure they're happy having found "something", and I get to admit to the lesser crime when grilled,
without being suspiciously virtuous ...


Noooooo - Big mistake!

You do something like that and it becomes like a nineteenth century gold rush. They go at it 24/7 until they find what they are looking for.

Aspen

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When I used to be in a relationship I would never check my girlfriends phone/laptop.

However - I once caught her checking my phone - so i got rid of her.

I never cheated on her but it was just the principle.

A lot of the checking phones/laptops everywhere you are going is from a deep insecurity in themselves or the relationship.

Nah! They all do it. The woman that doesn't is very rare indeed.

They check phone, wallet, paperwork, on a regular basis. I've had one writing down the mileage on my car when I'm in the shower and even going through the recycling bin. I would never have known if the neighbour opposite hadn't mentioned it one day.

vt

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Nah! They all do it. The woman that doesn't is very rare indeed.

They check phone, wallet, paperwork, on a regular basis. I've had one writing down the mileage on my car when I'm in the shower and even going through the recycling bin. I would never have known if the neighbour opposite hadn't mentioned it one day.

Sounds like she knows you're up to something, but hasn't found out what it is...yet!!  :scare:

Aspen

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Sounds like she knows you're up to something, but hasn't found out what it is...yet!!

The lesson I learned from that was that is what they are capable of doing. As a matter of fact I was not up to anything at all at the time, but it made me very cynical about relationships and women. And of course that relationship was unsustainable with that kind of behaviour. She had an older sister that was cheated on very badly, and I dare say she'd had some bad experiences herself. But there's not many people on the planet that haven't been seriously let down. I feel sorry for women that feel so insecure that they go to such extremes. There's another thing as well, and that is that they share horror stories with each other at work or socially, and wind each other up to be suspicious. I've never had a male friend or colleague tell me equivalent horror stories, yet women cheat just the same. I think that men accept what happens more philosophically, whereas women are control freaks, and let's face it, they have this need to feel attractive, and any attention deviation from them is not well received.

The point is though, is that it's best to be aware of what they are capable of. They can always go much further than you can imagine.