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Sparquin

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There have been several threads before on how punting has impacted forum members but I would like to raise one that has got me a bit worried.

When I started seeing WGs I did not regard it as 'punting' so much as getting the sexual fulfillment that was lacking at home. Encounters were few and far between for me (usually when away on business) and overall I was comfortable with my situation. After discovering UKP I started taking more interest in punting; created a HL and pretty much went for it. As the number and frequency of punts increased, I think I have been developing a somewhat cynical attitude. I can fuck what I want, when I want (all within reason) 'cos it's my money and I can afford it. I feel I have developed a sense of sexual entitlement that has made me a rather selfish individual. Certainly I feel that I, or my values, have changed since punting proper and I am not comfortable with that, not least in that this attitude is having a bad effect on relationships with people close to me.

Every addiction has an impact on the person who is addicted and I am getting the feeling that punting does have some sort of transformative effect.

As a result I have decided to take a break from punting and see if it changes my outlook on life and behavior towards others.

I doubt that my experiences apply to the majority of UKP members and I do think the less of anyone who is happy being a punting addict, but I would like to know if I am alone in my perceptions.

As this thread topic is not far removed from several others I am happy if NIK wants to merge it with those.

Offline Bangers and Gash

... After discovering UKP I started taking more interest in punting; created a HL and pretty much went for it...

...but decided not to bother doing any reviews.

Offline iPad3

How often do you punt? I can keep to more or less 2 per month and can manage the attitude thing quite well, yes I find myself thinking of hookers as a commodity to a certain extent but fall well short of viewing them as simply objects.

Outside of punting I don't view women as commodities or objects but have often wondered if others find they do and suffer for it.

My reality is though firstly I do not have an addictive personality but more importantly I don't have the budget to go mad and feel this does keep me in check, I drink but have never felt it could become a problem. I take drugs occasionally and this is no problem. However I do feel that if money was no object punting could be a problem.
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Offline Sonny Crockett

The only side effect of punting for me is financial, as I have spent a lot of money in order to get great pleasure from having sex with different women.

I must admit I enjoy the pleasure I get from having sex as it makes me feel like a complete man!!! However there are times when I do think that I am spending too much money and I need to rein it in (or stop punting for a while). However, my love of porn and reading both UKP and AW means that my sex drive takes over and I want to punt again in order to get that sexual buzz!!!!!

Though to conclude...... I LOVE PUNTING!!!!!  :yahoo: :yahoo: :yahoo:
« Last Edit: May 04, 2015, 06:56:37 pm by Sonny Crockett »

Sparquin

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...but decided not to bother doing any reviews.

I live overseas (I am a Brit) and have only punted rarely in the UK hence no reviews. Yes, I know it is UK Punting but then again a lot of the girls are foreign anyway so I hope my location does not disqualify me. 

Sparquin

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How often do you punt? I can keep to more or less 2 per month and can manage the attitude thing quite well, yes I find myself thinking of hookers as a commodity to a certain extent but fall well short of viewing them as simply objects.

Outside of punting I don't view women as commodities or objects but have often wondered if others find they do and suffer for it.

My reality is though firstly I do not have an addictive personality but more importantly I don't have the budget to go mad and feel this does keep me in check, I drink but have never felt it could become a problem. I take drugs occasionally and this is no problem. However I do feel that if money was no object punting could be a problem.

Punting was getting up to 2-3 a month at one point. I might add that the thrill of seeing a new girl was also starting to diminish somewhat, again suggesting possible addiction. I am someone who can easily get obsessed and punting fed that obsessive nature.

Bigboy69

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The only side effect of punting for me is financial, as I have spent a lot of money in order to get great pleasure from having sex with different women.

I must admit I enjoy the pleasure I get from having sex as it makes me feel like a complete man!!! However there are times when I do think that I am spending too much money and I need to rein it in (or stop punting for a while). However, my love of porn and reading both UKP and AW means that my sex drive takes over and I want to punt again in order to get that sexual buzz!!!!!

Though to conclude...... I LOVE PUNTING!!!!!  :yahoo: :yahoo: :yahoo:

To true ! I suffer from this affliction as well and agree with all of what you wrote ! But unlike the OP I do suffer from a addictive personality and just can't seem to give it up ! I sky dive to and get just as much of a buzz punting if not more than I do from jumping out of a plane at 10,000 feet   :wacko:  I don't know about anyone else but it makes me lazy with girls full stop. If I see a girl I quite like I just think I can go pay a stunner for filthy sex anytime I want and not have to put the work in with a girlfriend and of course I love the sex but it's the turn on of paying someone you don't know to have sex with you !!! I really need help !!!

a10

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To true ! I suffer from this affliction as well and agree with all of what you wrote ! But unlike the OP I do suffer from a addictive personality and just can't seem to give it up ! I sky dive to and get just as much of a buzz punting if not more than I do from jumping out of a plane at 10,000 feet   :wacko:  I don't know about anyone else but it makes me lazy with girls full stop. If I see a girl I quite like I just think I can go pay a stunner for filthy sex anytime I want and not have to put the work in with a girlfriend and of course I love the sex but it's the turn on of paying someone you don't know to have sex with you !!! I really need help !!!

Had skidiving ever made you cum? Always wonder this when I hear the old "it's better than sex!" routine.

Sureshot

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My first spell with prostitutes really was an addiction and seriously made me question myself and my lifestyle.  It took a move to a different city, marriage etc to put a stop to it. 

I started punting again recently and my outlook is completely different.  I dont feel the guilt that i did before and look at it more of a past time than anything else.  I do however see girls in the street and wonder how much they'd be prepared to charge tho!

LL

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I know where you're coming from OP.  I've noticed changes in my own behaviour and others have noticed it too.  It's not all bad though - I'm a lot more confident at work, where I used to be very shy.  Cocky you might say?  Who cares.  I'm doing a better job as a result.

At home I'm often short with my family - this is the bad side to it.  I put it down to guilt from punting.  Something I'm trying to work on.

I've also become a bit of tight-arse on occasions when I'm saving for a punt.  I'll often equate non-punting expenses with the price of a punt.  E.g. after paying for a nice meal, I'll think, "I could have had a punt for instead!".  Again something I need to work on.

It's all about moderation isn't it?  Take your break as planned and then come back to it if you feel like it - or not.  I quit punting for several years and didn't really miss it.  Don't ask me why I got back into it again - a lack of sex in my life I expect.  Simple as that.

Offline smiths

There have been several threads before on how punting has impacted forum members but I would like to raise one that has got me a bit worried.

When I started seeing WGs I did not regard it as 'punting' so much as getting the sexual fulfillment that was lacking at home. Encounters were few and far between for me (usually when away on business) and overall I was comfortable with my situation. After discovering UKP I started taking more interest in punting; created a HL and pretty much went for it. As the number and frequency of punts increased, I think I have been developing a somewhat cynical attitude. I can fuck what I want, when I want (all within reason) 'cos it's my money and I can afford it. I feel I have developed a sense of sexual entitlement that has made me a rather selfish individual. Certainly I feel that I, or my values, have changed since punting proper and I am not comfortable with that, not least in that this attitude is having a bad effect on relationships with people close to me.

Every addiction has an impact on the person who is addicted and I am getting the feeling that punting does have some sort of transformative effect.

As a result I have decided to take a break from punting and see if it changes my outlook on life and behavior towards others.

I doubt that my experiences apply to the majority of UKP members and I do think the less of anyone who is happy being a punting addict, but I would like to know if I am alone in my perceptions.

As this thread topic is not far removed from several others I am happy if NIK wants to merge it with those.

Interesting post. I have always punted since I was 19 so being a selfish cheat is second nature to me. I am able through years of practice to separate punting from my civvie life but overall I want my cake and to eat it. I assume you meant you DONT not DO think less of anyone who is happy being a punting addict.

Sparquin

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Thanks Smiths. To be correct: I do not think less of anyone who is addicted to punting and enjoys it, as you do. Sorry for any confusion there.

Bigboy69

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Had skidiving ever made you cum? Always wonder this when I hear the old "it's better than sex!" routine.

It's better than sex with someone you have been shagging for years as the excitement isn't really there anymore :thumbsdown:  but do find the buzz of just paying a escort and doing pretty much what ever you want to them more appealing than jumping out of a plane ! Skydiving is a hell of a rush don't get me wrong but 30 seconds free fall then 5 minutes under canopy equates to just 5 minutes of fun and all the waiting around for perfect weather conditions plus the constant fear of death isn't quite as exciting as a 1 hour booking with your favourite escort !  :lol:  My addiction however is getting worse one of the reasons I joined this site is to speak to other like minded individuals. I used to see girls once every few months now it's maybe twice a month, one isn't always enough so have threesomes every few months and only recently started seeing two separate escorts in the same day, anything just to get that extra buzz and for me it's not always about the sex but the thrill of the punt in general   :wacko:

Ben4454

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When I first started punting I was a shy boy. I was having sex with 17 year old civvies while I was 18. When I got into punting I wanted to try the older females. They took control of the punt and that is how I punted for a few good years. Over time my confidence increased by the bucket loads. My sexual ability also increased. I started to get better quality civvies as well as indulging in a strong punting hobby. The effects which I came in contact with have all been positive. Apart from being scammed and ripped off numerous times.

In punting you also start to become more street smart and thick skinned. Back in the old days before the GPS phones and when a large amount of prossies gave you the sherlock holmes treatment navigation and tracking became a skill in itself. I am sure most of us would give Rambo a run for his money.
« Last Edit: May 04, 2015, 09:50:48 pm by Ben4454 »

Offline cueball

I too have been punting many years but like the op, since finding and using ukp I've become much more prolific.

I don't feel any particular side effects though, I've always had a roving eye.

unclesweetheart

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I'm losing a lot of things through punting. I've drifted from friends I can't talk to about it, and as the sex with escorts gets wilder and more dirty, I feel that I'm drifting away from the sexual zone in which most of my peers live their lives. When I talk to escorts or fellow punters, it's like we inhabit a kind of secret society together. I'm less interested in politics and am more-or-less brazenly objectifying when I look at women. I guess the latter was always the case, but I was guilty about it. Punting has widened my sexual horizons unbelievably. It's made me more comfortable with my sexual nature. It might also have made me a narrower, more selfish and pleasure-orientated arsehole than I was a year and a half ago. The Micheal Fassbinder film "Shame" made me feel more than a bit queasy, because if you're following your cock, you're probably not giving other major organs due attention. I suppose my basic feeling is that if you're seriously into punting, you're withdrawing from "ordinary" life. My fear is that ordinary life will turn round and bite me very strongly in the arse. Not that I'm about to cancel next week's threesome, mind.

jimbobwood

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Punting has completely transformed me in many ways. I'm more confident, don't feel nervous at all in front of women, more street wise, thicker skin and it's given a red pill mentality (not sure if this is good or bad).

I entered the world of punting from a dark depression and somewhat desperate state. I had a terrible skin condition all over my body and my skin was on the mend. I thought if I see a few prossies it would build my confidence and give me some sexual experience, then eventually meet a girlfriend and close the punting door behind. Three years later I'm still punting and no girlfriend! :lol: I think civvies are too much hard work, I'll have a punt instead. :lol:

Plus I suffered EAS and that took 7 months to get over! It's does make you lazy to go out and meet women, which isn't a good thing and I need to work on that. What I don't like is sometimes I put punting first before friends and family, which I hated myself for (especially if it was a bad punt) - but now I make a conscious effort to put them first.

Sometimes I think of punting too much, kills the boredom of mind numbing work. I forget sometimes the simple pleasures of life like meeting my friends for a game of pool, popping round to see a family member for a chat and dinner, playing computer games I used to love.

Punting has made me a tight arse, even more so! I think I won't buy that jacket for £120, I'll get that other one that still looks nice for £70 and £50 can go towards my next punt.

When booking a holiday, I look at the punting opportunities of that place. Like instead of going to Tunisia for the sun and sea water, I'll go to Manchester instead because there are plenty of massage parlours and the thrill of walking through the RLD. It's fucking stupid, but I enjoy doing it and life is too short.


Offline nike

The only side effect of punting for me is financial, as I have spent a lot of money in order to get great pleasure from having sex with different women.

I must admit I enjoy the pleasure I get from having sex as it makes me feel like a complete man!!! However there are times when I do think that I am spending too much money and I need to rein it in (or stop punting for a while). However, my love of porn and reading both UKP and AW means that my sex drive takes over and I want to punt again in order to get that sexual buzz!!!!!

Though to conclude...... I LOVE PUNTING!!!!!  :yahoo: :yahoo: :yahoo:

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Offline Boundless

It's made me much more confident with women, because when I'm talking to an attractive one I used to think, "I'd really like to shag you but I don't stand a chance", now I don't care because I can shag a variety of hotties whenever the fancy takes me and do a lot more than just shagging them too.  :D

I think my relationship with Mrs Sam is better than ever. Sex has been off the menu for a few years now due to health issues, so I now fulfil that need by punting. I'm not keen that it means that I have to be a little economical with the truth but that's just part of punting.

Agree with Uncle Sweetheart, it's a good thing that there's UKP to discuss these things. I would never, ever, admit punting to anyone I know. I do have a regular though that usually lets me go way over the time as she loves hearing about my punting exploits.
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I guess I'm lucky then for not getting sex at home so I don't feel guilty about getting it elsewhere.
I get everything I need except sex with the OH and get only sex from prossies.

Of course there is the bonus of them being young, slim, good looking and dirty as fuck!  :D

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Well Yeah .....having a young gorgeous sexy hot big busty teen bouncing on your cock does cure some of the guilt  to be fair :lol:

jcdmj12

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For me the effects have been very positive - I used to have a lot of fights about sex (or lack thereof) at home, now it's not a problem.  My missus's libido waxes and wanes and I'm fine with that because I can get it elsewhere no problem.  It's also made me appreciate my relationship a lot more, because previously the sexual side was the main thing.  Now I've learned that I can get the sex I want easily, the other aspects of my relationship seem more special.  I also used to confuse sexual infatutation with love, which I don't any more thanks to punting.

I'm more relaxed talking to women generally. I don't find the objectifying thing to be a problem, because I view prostitutes as people who provide a valuable service to me.  I have respect for them in the same way I have respect for my plumber or accountant.  I'm happier paying for sex because it creates clearly defined boundaries around the relationship.

Weirdly, it's also made me more relaxed about money.  Previously, I'd be tight around spending £20 on something, now I compare it to the cost of a punt, which is something I'll happily spend cash on :)

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For me the effects have been very positive - I used to have a lot of fights about sex (or lack thereof) at home, now it's not a problem.  My missus's libido waxes and wanes and I'm fine with that because I can get it elsewhere no problem.  It's also made me appreciate my relationship a lot more, because previously the sexual side was the main thing.  Now I've learned that I can get the sex I want easily, the other aspects of my relationship seem more special.  I also used to confuse sexual infatutation with love, which I don't any more thanks to punting.

I'm more relaxed talking to women generally. I don't find the objectifying thing to be a problem, because I view prostitutes as people who provide a valuable service to me.  I have respect for them in the same way I have respect for my plumber or accountant.  I'm happier paying for sex because it creates clearly defined boundaries around the relationship.

Weirdly, it's also made me more relaxed about money.  Previously, I'd be tight around spending £20 on something, now I compare it to the cost of a punt, which is something I'll happily spend cash on :)

Great post and I couldn't have put it better myself.  The only thing I'd add is the pernicious impact of this bloody website.  For example, here I am happily reading and contributing to an interesting thread when I should be writing a presentation for tomorrow.  Which I'll now have to finish at home later on.  On the plus side though, bloody hell the quality of my punts has gone up since I started on UKP.  The pros still very much outweigh the cons...

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I definitely got addicted a little. 1 punt a week always on the edge of my punting budget. I'm a very calm, hard to provoke person but started getting impulsive if punt wouldn't go through.
My interest in dating dropped from low to nonexistent.

I'm taking a few weeks break to prove myself i still have some control over it. Going strong so far but the urge is surfacing slowly.

Positives are there though. Life in general seems better, i'm happier more energetic person. I'm a definite improvement over not punting me. I'm not objectifying women around me or prostitutes for that matter like i used to because i'm satisfied.

Wanting sex is just like wanting food. You cannot live constantly hungry and stay sane. Masturbation is like crisps, it fills you for a little while but isn't as nourishing or satisfying as proper meal :)... no i'm not obese and i'm not talking about swallowing my own jizz :D

Offline Dime

Last week, the day after I had a punt, I was extremely irritable and in a bad mood. A few family members and colleagues said things along the lines of "What is wrong with you today?" as I snapped at them a few times. Deep down, I possibly felt guilty about using WG's, and for the whole day the previous day's punt was on my mind. Also, I find that a lot of times  I get extremely horny and aroused in the hours and days after I have a punt, wanking up to 5 times a day, thinking about the girl I punted with.

Bigboy69

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I fear when it comes to this particular hobby that a fair percentage of us are suffering with addictive personality disorder, I'm pretty sure this is the case with me ! Punted on Sunday with a regular and 48 hours later I was trying to book another escort, fortunately she was unavailable  :D

bigsoftie

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I see possibly one girl every two/three months or so in a way to try and stop it taking over my life but I have been punting on and off now for 22 years and I have to say it would be so easy to be addicted to it. I am a bit soft arse to be honest and do feel a little guilty about it but the way I bury it is to think of it as interactive porn and that it isn't cheating, I don't care for the girl at all its just a way of living out a fantasy that the mrs wont do.

Offline Boundless

I see possibly one girl every two/three months or so in a way to try and stop it taking over my life but I have been punting on and off now for 22 years and I have to say it would be so easy to be addicted to it. I am a bit soft arse to be honest and do feel a little guilty about it but the way I bury it is to think of it as interactive porn and that it isn't cheating, I don't care for the girl at all its just a way of living out a fantasy that the mrs wont do.

Interactive porn - like that expression.

When does it become wrong?
Well, before the internet I started with dodgy mags, then chat lines - the ones where you could speak 1 to 1 with other callers - spent hours on those, luckily it was from work phones and they didn't have itemised bills in those days. Then with the advent of the internet, viewing porn videos and then progressing to cams, then paying for private sessions on cam.
Finally the transition to real flesh. A few visits to parlours, then indies, then discovering AW, then UKP. Now pushing the boundaries, older, younger, bigger, smaller, anal, facial, 2 girls, 3 girls, parties, bukkake, MMF, TS, BDSM etc etc.  Always in pursuit of the ultimate experience.

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IMO,  punting is a personal journey, sure a few our stories may play out a little similarly, but we all got here a different way. I've seen talk about addiction a few times and seen some people laugh at how little someone's spent and think they are addicted. I think the fact of the matter is if it's affecting your life in adverse way overall, then your better off without it, and if you can't go without it. Then you need to reach out for some support. If it balances or affects your life in a positive way overall then no harm I guess right?

I've had a tough journey. I've dealt with being an outsider and quite extreme racism throughout my whole school life.  My wife died of cancer at a really young age, and so on. Punting has been both an escape and a medicine in some respects. But like anything we rely on for something it's gotta be you that's calling the shots and not being a slave to something. And if it is too much. Honestly talk to someone, even if it's on here. Just pm or reply to something.  It'll be the first step in taking back the reigns.

Type_O_Negative

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I don't know what to think about it - but even when i go to see my trusted regular i'm very stressed and nervous.

Offline CardiffCentral

I guess if I had thousands of pounds to burn on punting I could see myself going crazy with it, but sadly I don't.  I'm also doing this 'no fap' thing and haven't wanked or fucked for months.  It's been great so far and I'm slowly starting to think of women in terms of civvy relationships and conventional interaction.  No more porn.  I don't think 'Oh, I'm going to wank off to that bitch', but rather 'Hmmm...the feeling of a wet pussy around my cock would be fucking awesome...must go out and meet women!'

BUT...I guess an addiction of mine that is punting related is the endless pouring through profile after profile on AW and other sites.  It's an addiction because your brain is constantly seeking out more sexual imagery, like porn, but with the added dynamic of possibly 'mating' with them. In that regard it's very much like the logic behind the 'no fap' method of weaning yourself off masturbating to porn and viewing girl after girl with diminishing levels of satisfaction in return. 

My cock has also gotten back to how it was before I wanked so much, fatter (no more death grip multiple times a day to damage the muscle tissue!) and harder, fuller erections.  That's a bonus in anyone's book!

In my opinion, punting should not be habitual.  It should be a treat, rare and unexpected but enjoyed as a delicious experience.   :cool:

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And then there is those of us that can't kick the addiction  :crazy:  :dash:

So your erection is more fully and happy.... But your doing nothing with it? That must be like walking around with a loaded gun  :lol:

spkmstr48

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I could easily be addicted, however, find myself now seeking fewer but better experiences rather than cheap thrills. UKP has helped this no end. Of course I do have the odd slip whenever spare cash is burning a hole in my pocket!

jcdmj12

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I guess if I had thousands of pounds to burn on punting I could see myself going crazy with it, but sadly I don't.  I'm also doing this 'no fap' thing and haven't wanked or fucked for months.  It's been great so far and I'm slowly starting to think of women in terms of civvy relationships and conventional interaction.  No more porn.  I don't think 'Oh, I'm going to wank off to that bitch', but rather 'Hmmm...the feeling of a wet pussy around my cock would be fucking awesome...must go out and meet women!'

BUT...I guess an addiction of mine that is punting related is the endless pouring through profile after profile on AW and other sites.  It's an addiction because your brain is constantly seeking out more sexual imagery, like porn, but with the added dynamic of possibly 'mating' with them. In that regard it's very much like the logic behind the 'no fap' method of weaning yourself off masturbating to porn and viewing girl after girl with diminishing levels of satisfaction in return. 

My cock has also gotten back to how it was before I wanked so much, fatter (no more death grip multiple times a day to damage the muscle tissue!) and harder, fuller erections.  That's a bonus in anyone's book!

In my opinion, punting should not be habitual.  It should be a treat, rare and unexpected but enjoyed as a delicious experience.   :cool:

This goes to show that everyone's reasons, along with what they hope to get from punting, vary. For me it's more of a maintenance thing, having sex regularly is very good for my well-being, so I ideally aim for once a week.   I don't obsess over it the rest of the time, because I have lots of other stuff going on in my life.  I find paying for it to be a very good balance, because it means I can take care of that particular need with a few hours' effort each week (earning the money, plus time spend arranging/travelling/doing the punt), instead of the endless fucking hassle pit which any of the alternatives would involve.

I have no idea how anyone does the nofap thing for months. After a week I go insane. I agree about porn though, it's fucking boring when you can make a call and order the real thing.

PS There is no muscle tissue in your cock. 


Offline Itsnotshy

Am currently on a break from punting because,in part,of guilt.Only 2 months since my last punt but am getting irritable,sullen and difficult to be around.So you takes your choice guilt or  :dash: