Relationships with escorts do they work?

[Geordiejay]

I no this has been mentioned a few times... but going to open a new topic to see what you all think.
Do they work..? Dont they work.... Having an actual real life relationship with a working girl no paying to fuck her.
Actual sex and feelings and emotion doing real life things with her.... Or is it always about the money with these bitches weather your together with her or not? Would like to hear of any experiences good or bad....

[closeshave]

So you're going out with a girl who does the things to please the punters descriptions on here.

Have to be hard skinned

That said they are humans and gave needs and feelings just like us.

[SmackmaBitchUp]

In a nutshell.... No 

[johnnyboy61]

Or is it always about the money with these bitches weather your together with her or not? Would like to hear of any experiences good or bad....

Of course, I would imagine that many of the WGs have a private life where they have normal relationships with men where money doesn't exchange hands. However, there is a clear line, like most working people , that demarcates where work ends and their private life begins. You, I and the other members on this site are clearly on the work side of this divide and this is how most of us want it. However friendly we might be with a particular girl we are there for the sex without all the baggage that goes with a normal relationship. There are rare occasions when a punter crosses the dividing line, but I think that it is something that just happens by chance and that neither party set out looking for this from the paid meetings. If you are seeing WGs with this intention you are sadly deluded; you are paying a worker for a service, not going for a 30 minute first date.

Oh, and incidentally, I don't see bitches and if you do why would you want to have a relationship with them? The WG that I see are all nice friendly ladies, and although we get on well, I don't imagine they would look twice at me unless I arrive bearing the correct amount of folding stuff in my sweaty hand.

[NelsonH]

One of the most well respected local girls here, married a client about 5 years ago.

[dave_59]

Would be ok with me.
Quite a fantasy of mine sharing my missus but she wont eentertain idea.

[306]

what would you feel if your mrs had been fucked by 10,000 men
and had another 10,000  to go?
thats the guts of it.

[Tailpipe]

Big mistake 1 in 250 chance I would say ,

Of making it work.

[Sureshot]

what would you feel if your mrs had been fucked by 10,000 men
and had another 10,000  to go?
thats the guts of it.

If she's already been fucked 10,000 times you probably wont feel anything at all 

[HappyandLucky]

From experience a big No.
Easier to pay and keep happier punting

[Oberyn1]

I have always wondered, do you think most guys who visit working girls find it harder to, not just date normal girls, but get intimate with them? For e.g. you are visiting wg's who are amazing at pleasing you, but then you get to the bedroom with a normal girl and your expectations are lowered so much because you find the latter just cannot press your buttons the same way as a wg can.

Back onto the topic at hand, i think if you had an open relationship then it wouldn't be a problem, but how would the majority of working girls feel about their guy fucking around with random women? I would think if she didn't like it, then she would certainly be quite the hypocrite.

[herelonely]

Oh, and incidentally, I don't see bitches and if you do why would you want to have a relationship with them? The WG that I see are all nice friendly ladies, and although we get on well, I don't imagine they would look twice at me unless I arrive bearing the correct amount of folding stuff in my sweaty hand.
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[johnnyboy61]

I have always wondered, do you think most guys who visit working girls find it harder to, not just date normal girls, but get intimate with them? For e.g. you are visiting wg's who are amazing at pleasing you, but then you get to the bedroom with a normal girl and your expectations are lowered so much because you find the latter just cannot press your buttons the same way as a wg can.

Back onto the topic at hand, i think if you had an open relationship then it wouldn't be a problem, but how would the majority of working girls feel about their guy fucking around with random women? I would think if she didn't like it, then she would certainly be quite the hypocrite.

Hi Oberyn, did you manage to pop your punting cherry yet with that foursome you were trying to arrange? Love to see the review...

[george r]

well I suppose you can have some feeling for a working girl if you see her often enough, but it must be very hard to know a dozen guys are fucking her most working days 

[daveev]

it cost me more money being in a relationship with one, than paying for the hourly, so you'll still be paying and a lot more, can we buy this can we go out can we can we can we, for fucks sake i want to stay in, and two years later she's gone, there you go, they will always get and want your cash

[James999]

As long as she doesn't charge you to fuck her, or you let her get into your life / finances then no problem, you may even be able to get her to pay for you to shag some other pro$$ies while she's with clients 

[Geordiejay]

Yes finally someone on my wavelength daveev you've hit the nail on the head mate!
I can't speak for every single escort out there... but the one i was in a 'relationship' with for a year and a half wow started of great then BOOOOOM money shopping more shopping lets go out all the time. Nights out takeaways weekends away. (all paid by me) Sex was spot on for the first 6 months banging all the time then... the bitch just never gave it up.... altho.. i had to (earn it) like a little school boy.....then the arguments and the fights.
Advice to anyone out there about to do this.... TREAD CAREFULLY.... they 'hustle' us guys day in day out with there pictures and there bullshit they write on there pages... they really could not give a flying fuck.... its "ALL ABOUT THE MONEY"
In my opinion every escort out there is waiting for that rich sugar daddy type to come along and sweep them off there feet and give them what they want... in reality there never gunna give the 'game' up for anyone. Unless they have endless cash...

[johnnyboy61]

OK, now understand your use of "bitch". Can quite understand why you feel so bitter. Think that you might have got more replies on your "wavelength" if we had known your own starting point. I had assumed it was something that you were considering rather than something you had experienced. Thanks for sharing your experience as a warning to other punters not to fly too close to the flames.

[RedKettle]

but the one i was in a 'relationship' with for a year and a half wow started of great then BOOOOOM money shopping more shopping lets go out all the time. Nights out takeaways weekends away. (all paid by me) Sex was spot on for the first 6 months banging all the time then... the bitch just never gave it up.... altho.. i had to (earn it) like a little school boy.....then the arguments and the fights.

sounds like any marriage 

[Tjkooker]

sounds like any marriage 

Beat me to it. Sounds like every relationship I've had.
As soon as the sex dries up get rid.. Prossie or civvy.

[vt]

It takes a girl with a mercenary attitude to decide to have sex with strangers for cash, most women wouldn't. So you've got to expect that attitude to seep into every aspect of their life and taint every relationship.

Just enjoy them for what they're good at and leave it there, don't go getting emotionally involved.

You will soon resent her for fucking other guys for cash and she will resent you because you're not paying (enough).

You will end up heartbroken or poor, likely both. 

[spkmstr48]

Now I like a good fantasy as much as the next geek but for God's sake, watch Lord of the Rings or something, more believable than getting into a relationship with a WG!

[MancSean]

This is not a black and white topic in fact it's about as grey as it gets and generalising is pointless.
Like a few of the lads on here I had a long term relationship with a girl I met at a sauna/massage parlour. I saw her every week at least twice for nearly 2 years plus I was married at the time. I hated my wife because she was a lazy gold digging good for nothing.
I really fancied the wg but I never thought about starting anything. Plus it was standard sauna service no kissing and everything covered.
Then one day the sauna got raised and was closed down for about 2 weeks. Eventually it opened again and I made sure I was the first person to see her on her first shift back.  She told me it wasn't safe there and she was leaving after today's shift and if I wanted to see her again it can be privately and gave me her personal number. This was a Sunday. On the Tuesday I went to her home and had a 2 hour session that really was different to anything we did in the sauna.  I paid her the fee I would pay in the sauna for 30 minutes and she was happy with that. The next day for 3 hours for £50. And on the Friday we went on our first date. This was just before Christmas. I took a few days off work and went round to her place each day all day and no money exchanged hands.
Then she told me she was going back to work and it hit me hard got to admit it. On Christmas eve I spent the day at hers instead of Christmas shopping for my wife.  At about 5 she had to leave for work and I had to go home. I gave her a lift part way. When she got out the car and the door shut I was in pieces. There I was about to spend Christmas with someone that repulsed me and her shitty friends whilst the woman I really wanted to be with was going to be shagging other men. A couple of days before she gave me a very expensive Christmas present. 
Anyway I am going to speed this up.
Me and my wife (we got divorced just after this) had a massive argument that night and I walked out the next day. I went to stay with the girl that night. My ex went back to where she comes from and me and the girl shacked up for 2 weeks including me taking her back to Manchester for a few days over new year. It was in manchester that she gave me owo and cim. She gave the best blow jobs I have ever had some come close but are never as good.
To cut a long story short. I left my wife she stopped work in fact Christmas eve was the last time she worked. We moved in and got a place together. She got a decent job and everything was ok. Apart from she was very jealous and had the most horrific temper you could ever imagine in fact actually scary as she knew no limits.
We planned to get married as I used to brush her evil side under the carpet. We met each others families and I have never told them how we met or that she was an ex wg.
For the first 7 years whilst things weren't perfect and in the first year or so I was dumped every couple of weeks. I got used to how erratic she was.
But then some major things happened that changed our relationship for the worse. How we went on another 3 years I will never know.  My heart wasn't in it but I thought we would patch things up but we never did. She used to get very jealous when I used to go to football each week. So I got her a season ticket next to mine.  She went to 2 games and ended up being really rude to my best mate who is female.  I took my mates side and she dumped me again.  She disappeared for 4 days. In this time I decided it was time to get rid.  She came back and I told her it's over and I do not want to be with her anymore but she can still live at my place for as long as she likes. I moved into the spare room and although she tried it on I never shagged her again. Just before Christmas she left and went abroad. 
I have never seen her since although we do text each other occasionally. Yes I really loved her and miss her. But it's for the best we are apart as I wouldn't want to be the victim of domestic murder which she did threaten a few times.
So to answer the OP yes one can get involved and it can work. I was unlucky that she was so volatile but I knew this from the start and she never changed unfortunately.
I don't regret my time with her and I know I destroyed her heart when I finally dumped her. But this could have happened with a girl from any profession.
One thing is for sure though I could not have been with her if she had been working as a prossie and I know that she would never have let me shag other women even if she had continued to work.
I have not mentioned what caused the change after 7 years because that's a completely different story.

[Bangers and Gash]

I'm not too sure about a relationship with an escort, but for nearly 10 years I was extremely close to a 2.8i Capri.... ahh the curves on that little beauty. Eventually she broke my heart by running away with some strange bloke from the Ad-Mag. 

[closeshave]

What a bitch

[MancSean]

What a bitch

She wiped my bank account out twice left me with 5 grand debt and also took my mac book nowt like a woman scorn

[closeshave]

She wiped my bank account out twice left me with 5 grand debt and also took my mac book nowt like a woman scorn

Ok  but I actually meant the car

[Bangers and Gash]

Ok  but I actually meant the car

 

Women come and go, but cars.... 

[HappyandLucky]

Not as intense as your history, but like you met family, friends and others over a 2 year period. But in the end it did not work out and turned into a train crash. Cost me circa 40K. Sent her home, set her and family in a great house. When I left for the airport for last time she asked what about money for food and house, although my monthly paid cash was 10x what she would earn in her country . I was very clear, it's over and go get a job and live a lifestyle you can afford.
The only positive is me and her mum are still great friends, she understood a genuine person.
So like you, been there, then train crash. In many ways an expensive and emotional way to take a lesson. Pay, punt, leave 

[Geordiejay]

HappyandLucky... spot on mate!
PAY TO FUCK... NOT TO HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH ONE.... no matter how genuine they seem.... THERE AFTER THE CASH!
MONEY MONEY MONEY... alls these "escorts" "prossies"  think of.
So tempted to out the bitch... MASSIVE HATRED towards her... and even i think HATE is a strong word.... but WOW... WELL PLAYED!

[MancSean]

HappyandLucky I feel I could tell you the bits that I have left out of my story as you would understand.
Emotionally it scarred me a lot and I doubt I would ever trust a woman in a relationship again. Hence why I am punting now because it's sex without emotion which is perfect for me

[spkmstr48]

HappyandLucky I feel I could tell you the bits that I have left out of my story as you would understand.
Emotionally it scarred me a lot and I doubt I would ever trust a woman in a relationship again. Hence why I am punting now because it's sex without emotion which is perfect for me

Ah yes, trust, There's a good word.

First OH - wanted me to change, so I did, into someone she didn't want any more.

Discarded spkmstr turns to WGs instead of trusting another OH.

Eventually bought an EE to cook clean and bear my children but carried on punting, now the EE OH doesn't trust me, that's fair I never loved or trusted her.

Scary place inside my head.

[Sonny Crockett]

Me, I don't see escorts for relationships... I only see them for sex!!!!

Pure & Simple!!!!

[spkmstr48]

Me, I don't see escorts for relationships... I only see them for sex!!!!

Pure & Simple!!!!

That's what they're for. Every example I've read about on here seems to end badly.

[closeshave]

Si do a lot of normal relationships

[HappyandLucky]

HappyandLucky I feel I could tell you the bits that I have left out of my story as you would understand.
Emotionally it scarred me a lot and I doubt I would ever trust a woman in a relationship again. Hence why I am punting now because it's sex without emotion which is perfect for me

Cheers MS, not emotionally scarred but enough of a lesson of EAS and why never to get involved with a WG again. But good things come from negative memories. The mum sent me a gift for my birthday and I know it cost her with postage all she could afford in that month. So some good things come from a train crash, when you meet a genuine family, who no longer talk with with partner. Life is short, my pockets still have some change in them so punting plus civvies still makes the earth spin for me 

[spkmstr48]

Si do a lot of normal relationships

So true

Why spoil something good by turning it into a doomed relationship.

[Lt Shaffer]

It's in our DNA to seek relationship - especially with women who know how to suck cock.  Even within the membership on here I would imagine there's a fair percentage who, deep-down, are desperate for relationship, or one that actually works.  So, it's entirely understandable that when you meet a WG who you connect with in some small way (not just the cock-sucking) that the mind turns to fantasy island.

I'm glad that MancSean went into as much detail as he did, bravo amigo.  I know that I'm often tempted to try to see a WG socially but if there's an object lesson here it's that relationship is difficult enough without the additional minefield of complications that come with seeing a WG or soon-to-be ex-WG. 

[306]

Emotionally it scarred me a lot and I doubt I would ever trust a woman in a relationship again. Hence why I am punting now because it's sex without emotion

+1

[Catullus]

Or is it always about the money with these bitches ...

The money is also central for the the punter: paying the girl allows him to make demands and get his terms, and to leave at the end with no strings no questions no involvement.  It's the money that creates this distance despite the intimacy. The distance is freedom but also an unsurmountable divide.

On another thread an OP reported a scene where he was cuddled up with his regular and she said something along the lines of "you know we can never be friends" [from memory].  That struck me as wistful and beautiful on her part and a big compliment to him in a way because obviously she was considering/wishing that they could be friends.  It was the complement to "it's always about the money with these bitches".

[Catullus]

... Even within the membership on here I would imagine there's a fair percentage who, deep-down, are desperate for relationship, or one that actually works.  ...

Speaking for myself, I took up punting because in the context of my marriage, I needed to touch a woman again, to connect physically ...  of course one imagines more, but then it turns out it's a good thing that that is not possible, it would just be too complicated for words. 

Within the parameters of the commercial transaction, the relationship actually works.

[Eastend69er]

Spooky, I am actually watching Lord of the Rings right now while reading this post!

Now I like a good fantasy as much as the next geek but for God's sake, watch Lord of the Rings or something, more believable than getting into a relationship with a WG!

[anyfucker]

...
Back onto the topic at hand, i think if you had an open relationship then it wouldn't be a problem, but how would the majority of working girls feel about their guy fucking around with random women? I would think if she didn't like it, then she would certainly be quite the hypocrite.

saw a WG earlier this week who told me she would have no problem with her guy seeing another prossie as it's just sex but would not want him having an affair = relationship.

[nodrah]

How long is a piece of string ??? ..... for some people with a certain WG, then yes a relationship can work ...... for others, who judging by their posts on UKP, consider all WGs to be the lowest of the low, then obviously not.
Though I suppose it depends on how you define ' a relationship '.... now there lies another piece of string ......

[spkmstr48]

saw a WG earlier this week who told me she would have no problem with her guy seeing another prossie as it's just sex but would not want him having an affair = relationship.

If she's telling the truth then that's a very healthy attitude, shame it's not more common amongst the female population.

[virtualplayer]

To me I think it could work but you would both have to the same mind set about it.

I have been in a relationship where we both were swingers. We saw people together and we saw people on our own. We had our rules and boundaries and things there were just for us.

Like every relationship there will be things that can get in the way and things that become issues which can't be resolved.

Never say never be open and honest and see how it goes.

[BillGoldberg]

It's a bit like asking 'relationships with women, do they work?'

Depends on the individuals involved, as with most interpersonal relationships or friendships

[Punting Valley]

With WGs, I can only maintain the status quo business relationship (money for sex), or friendship (no more sex).
I don't see anything romantic can happen. I maybe open minded but not to the point that I would not mind someone I care about to have sex with others, not even for just work.

[willmo1]

Theyre just women doing a job and its sure they save their love for the boyfriend.

Couldnt ever work for me anyway.

[Punting Valley]

Theyre just women doing a job and its sure they save their love for the boyfriend.

Whenever a girl tells about her significant others after a punt (and it sounds like the guy knows she escorts). I always wonder what kind of fellow wouldn't mind his gf fucking strangers everyday and all the time doing all sort of things to her