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Offline spkmstr48

Ok fair enough, no offence taken then. If it was as you say just couldn't be bothered then at least some resentment would ease the guilt. The only way to rectify it would be a hysterectomy and there's no way I'm going to want that just for my sexual needs.  I know it's my decision despite what's been said here but just wondered if others here had different reasons for punting than just wives holding back.

Everything is perfect at home except the sex and I do love my wife no less. Men's stimulation starts visually that's why we like porn and I would like a PSE punting. Women's needs are emotional so I can't see sex changing at home as the medical problem affects her emotions.

Narrowed it down to 3 WG's so just need to make a decision one way or other

Thanks guys

2 of your shortlist have been reviewed on here so I'd narrow it down to those 2 if I was you. Then read the reviews on here and make your decision based on that.

Can't help you there as my tastes are very different.
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Offline Mansell


Everything is perfect at home except the sex and I do love my wife no less.

I have found that drops off as the sex stops and it's been a long time now for me, so don;t be surprised if it happens to you.

Offline freddiej

It's a 2-way street, though. What I mean by that is: It's realistic of you to expect your wife to be considerate of your needs/urges and up her game to compensate for the impact of her medical condition on you and the sexual aspect of your relationship.

In this situation men are always being told they are being selfish. "I've gone off sex so you can too."

If partners really cared about their other half they would make an effort. They've got hands and mouths haven't they and used properly they would get no complaints. the truth is to them it's a one way deal.

I can honestly say that if I had got incurable impotence I would have had no trouble spending an hour or two servicing my wife in other ways and enjoying it, or at least pretending to if I didn't.

Sorry for the rant but it pisses me off.

I believe we are not designed to just have one sexual partner. It's in our DNA, any guy would have extra marital sex if he could. Look at Ashley Cole he had a perfect wife who 99% of us on here would fuck.

Women stop making as much of an effort after marriage, it's a common joke and fact. Real life gets in the way, you stop dating each other.

Anyway ranting now, get punting op it'll be the best thing you ever do. If you feel shit after take a time out.

In this situation men are always being told they are being selfish. "I've gone off sex so you can too."

If partners really cared about their other half they would make an effort. They've got hands and mouths haven't they and used properly they would get no complaints. the truth is to them it's a one way deal.

I can honestly say that if I had got incurable impotence I would have had no trouble spending an hour or two servicing my wife in other ways and enjoying it, or at least pretending to if I didn't.

Sorry for the rant but it pisses me off.

I agree but sure the partner if married thinks it's for life and believes in the word for word marriage vows. Sure they think that if they go off sex then as long as everything else at home is ok, the man will be content. I like most men like variation as I've said earlier, it's visual for me. I don't mean variation in women because I wouldn't have married if I wanted to play the field. But when it's none existent and when it does happen so predictable, it becomes very dull. If our partners spiced things up and did things we like to please us then it's a 2 way street and we would do the same. From reading on here, if partners did that many would not have a reason to punt. Punting in theory will fill that gap for me. No emotion, just sex as I like it and not get called a perv for wanting some PSE!

The 3 on my shortlist have all been discussed on here so sure I won't go wrong with any of them.

Offline Carmel

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Why would it been seen as cheating to see a prostitute for sex if your not getting at home? To me cheating is when the love, care and affection is given away to others. If someone still loves and cares for thier spouse that is where thier heart stays regardles of where they get sexual gratification from. Especially if it's because of medical or psychological reasons. If you just plain don't like your wife and have stopped loving her, leave and punt without qualms.
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Why would it been seen as cheating to see a prostitute for sex if your not getting at home? To me cheating is when the love, care and affection is given away to others. If someone still loves and cares for thier spouse that is where thier heart stays regardles of where they get sexual gratification from. Especially if it's because of medical or psychological reasons. If you just plain don't like your wife and have stopped loving her, leave and punt without qualms.

Each to their own. Married punters can justify punting however they like, but I am sure in reality the wife won't agree with that opinion.  :unknown: I am single but if I were in a dead bedroom situation, I wouldn't prefer cheating and just leave the relationship behind and go punting without worries. But then again since I am single I would not understand other married punters' concern for divorce that goes beyond the bedroom.

Offline spkmstr48

Each to their own. Married punters can justify punting however they like, but I am sure in reality the wife won't agree with that opinion.  :unknown: I am single but if I were in a dead bedroom situation, I wouldn't prefer cheating and just leave the relationship behind and go punting without worries. But then again since I am single I would not understand other married punters' concern for divorce that goes beyond the bedroom.

I'm sure when I was single I would have said the same. However, divorce/leaving is not a simple thing, considerations like children and the ridiculous amount of money that you've invested in paying off your mortgage come into play. Not sure I want to start again or would still be able to afford to punt if I did.

I'd even have to iron my own shirts  :scare: :scare: :scare:
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Offline Gordo987

Come on, it's only fucking after all. Under the circumstances, I would not be surprised if the OP's wife would giver her blessing to him having a regular punt.  :hi:
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I'd even have to iron my own shirts  :scare: :scare: :scare:

The priority concern :lol: :lol: :lol:

Honestly, it is this type of things (not ironing shirts, I meant the dead bedroom and the kids/money baggage) that has made me think twice about getting married in the first place. Growing up, all the parents/family/teachers/friends/fucking media, they all tell you to get married, find the right person, happily forever after. Nobody tells you about the ugly side. :diablo:

Offline spkmstr48

Come on, it's only fucking after all. Under the circumstances, I would not be surprised if the OP's wife would giver her blessing to him having a regular punt.  :hi:

To us yes, it's meaningless.

To them....

Confused at how they can care so much and so little about sex at the same time.

I suppose it's not the sex they see, it's the assumed affection as that's how they look at it even though to a well adjusted punter there is no affection, not directly related to the sex anyway.
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Why would it been seen as cheating to see a prostitute for sex if your not getting at home? To me cheating is when the love, care and affection is given away to others. If someone still loves and cares for thier spouse that is where thier heart stays regardles of where they get sexual gratification from. Especially if it's because of medical or psychological reasons. If you just plain don't like your wife and have stopped loving her, leave and punt without qualms.

I agree with you Carmel. My love, affection and care is definitely here at home with my wife. I haven't stopped loving her and leaving is not an option due to the many reasons other married punters have stated i.e. kids, finances, etc. Plus I could never find what I have and have gone through with my wife with anyone else. Punting is/will just be physical sex and zero else so maybe I can do it guilt free, only time will tell. I thought I could live without the exciting sex and put up with what many others do but the more time goes on the more I think about punting.

Offline Gordo987

I punted once while I was married, and I have to admit I felt like shit afterwards. After I got divorced I had full-on sexual relationships with several women friends who I knew were fucking other men as well. At that time my whole attitude to sex changed and I stopped regarding sex as the most important aspect of my relationship with a woman. I would not, for example, consider adultery to be grounds for divorce, but then again I'm still not married. How would married punters react if they discovered that their wives were seeing male prostitutes or seeing other men for occasional, casual sex?  :hi:
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Offline DG

To us yes, it's meaningless.

To them....

Confused at how they can care so much and so little about sex at the same time.

I suppose it's not the sex they see, it's the assumed affection as that's how they look at it even though to a well adjusted punter there is no affection, not directly related to the sex anyway.

My missus doesn't have a medical condition that we know about, she just isn't interested and no amount of effort on my part can get her in the mood. I'm actually looking the best I have in about 15 years as I lost a lot of weight due to illness. She has actually commented on how good I look but still no sexual desire, even to the point she said I wouldn't have any problem getting a girlfriend.

I've put it to her that if sex has no meaning for her why should she care if I got it elsewhere? Unsurprisingly she couldn't explain why. So I carry on punting guilt free and whether she suspects or not, it seems to be working for both of us as I'm not bothering her for sex for her only to reject me again.
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Offline dc0582

I'm married, kids, decent house, lifestyle etc. Love my wife, she's very attractive and we have reasonably active sex life. And yet.... If I had it all over again, I wouldn't get married. I started punting 18 months or so ago during a dry spell at home. That was the reason I started, and I haven't yet found one to stop. In fact, I've also met someone amazing through work and find this hobby to be the only thing keeping me from a full blown affair and the inevitable messy and expensive divorce. Punting is discrete, with no emotion involved just good honest sex with someone hot. It just about keeps me on the straight and narrow with the other person.

Fuck, that's a confession and a half. To conclude, Punting saves marriages, but don't get married  and you haven't got any issues in the first place!

Offline Gordo987

I'm married, kids, decent house, lifestyle etc. Love my wife, she's very attractive and we have reasonably active sex life. And yet.... If I had it all over again, I wouldn't get married. I started punting 18 months or so ago during a dry spell at home. That was the reason I started, and I haven't yet found one to stop. In fact, I've also met someone amazing through work and find this hobby to be the only thing keeping me from a full blown affair and the inevitable messy and expensive divorce. Punting is discrete, with no emotion involved just good honest sex with someone hot. It just about keeps me on the straight and narrow with the other person.

Fuck, that's a confession and a half. To conclude, Punting saves marriages, but don't get married  and you haven't got any issues in the first place!

That reminded me of a couple of things. My ex wife would do mish (of course) and a fairly tame version of spoons, but no doggie or cowgirl and the suggestion of oral of any kind was taboo (although she did suck me for a while once when she was pissed up). I had one long-term girlfriend who was always up for CIM and fucking in any position other than doggie or cowgirl. WGs will do pretty much anything you ask and that, along with the certainty that they WILL fuck, is the appeal of punting.  :thumbsup:
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Offline spkmstr48

Even though I used to have good sex with my wife including OWO and RO, today I had a typical punting experience that I would suggest almost never happens in civvy sex/relationships. Not in the first hour or two anyway.

Arrived at flat, girl I've never met before opens door, snogs my face off immediately, inside 5 minutes I'm fucking her face, inside 15 I've cum in her mouth. Then she says, "nice to meet you".

That's why we do it!

As for guilt, not for me, just a big grin.
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