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Online fraserlad

I think you can be friends.  Well at least I think I can.  Each to their own and all that, but there are a couple of WGs I regularly see to fuck, on a paid-for basis, who I also see without fucking and when no money exchanges hands (apart from me paying for the odd cup of coffee or lunch).  We get on, we chat about our respective lives, we have a laugh; all the things I do with friends who I don't also pay to have sex with.

Granted, they're unlikely friendships - I'm older and don't on the face of it have much in common with women in their mid- to late 20s, but if they didn't get anything out of it why are they choosing to spend time with me?  To an extent they're ensuring my repeat business, but they'd get that without hanging out with me.  I also go back to other WGs who I don't hang out with.

So yes, friendship is possible, and very nice it is too.

S

Of course it's an unlikely friendship, it's a friendship because you still pay them for sex. Try knocking that activity on the head and see how often they want to go out for lunch, coffee etc? As you say it's about ensuring future business.

It's not real friendship, it's just part and parcel of you paying to fuck them.

Offline Sparquin

I think you can be friends.  Well at least I think I can.  Each to their own and all that, but there are a couple of WGs I regularly see to fuck, on a paid-for basis, who I also see without fucking and when no money exchanges hands (apart from me paying for the odd cup of coffee or lunch).  We get on, we chat about our respective lives, we have a laugh; all the things I do with friends who I don't also pay to have sex with.

Granted, they're unlikely friendships - I'm older and don't on the face of it have much in common with women in their mid- to late 20s, but if they didn't get anything out of it why are they choosing to spend time with me?  To an extent they're ensuring my repeat business, but they'd get that without hanging out with me.  I also go back to other WGs who I don't hang out with.

So yes, friendship is possible, and very nice it is too.



S

I totally agree with this. Blurring the lines does happen but provided you and the girl both understand that, there are very pleasant times to be had.

Offline Cupcake X

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No I am not saying that and I didn't infer it either. Obviously platonic friendships work, I said when fucking is involved. You may think you've become friends with a WG you might even go out for meals, drinks etc and she may even pay, but stop seeing her for paid sex and you'll become a nuisance to her. Yes yes I know there are exceptions and in that case it is true friendship (no fucking involved) but this would be a rarity.


I generally agree that genuine friendships are going to be the exception rather than the rule. It is not a black and white issue and depends on the individuals concerned.

Offline Cupcake X

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How would you know? Did you pay said male friends to fuck you in the past? if not then you are coming from a different angle.
Now if the question was can you be friends with a punter that would be a different question on a different forum.
It may seem harsh but it does make me smile when a prossie thinks she can think like a punter  :dash:
 

Hi Yorkshire123, the reason I know is because I have had genuine friendships with punters in the past that have continued after the 'business' relationship has finished.  Yes I think like a woman- and how do you know I have never been a punter..... ?  :dancegirl: :)

Offline yorkshire123

Hi Yorkshire123, the reason I know is because I have had genuine friendships with punters in the past that have continued after the 'business' relationship has finished.  Yes I think like a woman- and how do you know I have never been a punter..... ?  :dancegirl: :)

I don't that's why I asked the question  :hi:
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Offline willmo1

No. Theyll say anything to get your money but say fuck all when it dries up.

It a job and most of them see us as sad low lifes.
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Offline MrFluffy

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Yes they can, but not long term very often. I lived opposite the home of a WG who married one of her punters and had kids with him. I have heard of a couple of other, similar outcomes.

I agree with UncleSweetHeart that the friendliness of escorts varies. IMO there is a lot of benefit in being mutually friendly on meets.

Business retention techniques/ being generous such as buying a client a drink or going over time make great sense for the escort and are more pleasant if you happen to get on.

In my experience, there is a minority of escorts who enjoy spending time with certain clients (as Dani mentioned) and are happy to chat off the 'meter' about real life/exchange real names and enjoy some free time in much the same way you would with an unpaid friend, albeit the circumstance is different.
The more the latter applies, the more careful you need to be in agreeing and observing mutual boundaries. That's why, almost all of the time EAS can't be a factor - if it is, then it's likely doomed to failure before you begin. It's simply not what 99.9% of escorts want.  :rolleyes:



No. Theyll say anything to get your money but say fuck all when it dries up.

It a job and most of them see us as sad low lifes.

I'd have to agree with that. At the end of the day every punter is seen as a pile of notes with the queens head on.

Offline alenski

i think i would have to agree with mrfluffy in that you can be friends with anybody i mean its not just about the money if a girl asks if we could still be friends even if i stop seeing her as a client.thats the sign of a  sincere friendship surely.

Offline EnjoyEmily

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Not sure 'friends' in the true sense of the word could or even should be readily applied  but nothing wrong with having a good working relationship that extends to chewing the fat, having a laugh but when they/you leave that is where it should stop, anything more than that and post the booking and you're on dodgy territory.  Their is a saying for best mates,  BFF = Best Friends Forver,  but when it's WG/Punter it's Book Fuck Forget  on both sides. (sorry if that sounds brutal)

Fucking And Friendship do not mix  :scare:
lust lusting and sex last for a while  :timeout:

100% correct!

I don't have any female friends, especially the ones I want to fuck.

A friend is someone with common non-sexual interest. Like playing a game of pool, golf, any shared hobby and maybe having a chat over a few pints in the pub.

Prossies as friends? You must be joking! Talk about making life complicated. How can you be friends with someone, that drains your bank account?! :lol:

Like 306 said "Fucking and friendship do not mix" - Keep them separate for your own sanity.

I think you've probably crossed a line in the sand here. I don't know the girls so I can't really say but it seems you are to these girls what me and my dog are to my vets - a cash cow. I don't text my vet though because he's a boring cunt who wears a Barbour jackets and hunters.

Don't blur the boundaries. I suspect that you are simply a client to them

You need to change vets! My vet is fucking hot and I want to bend her over the examination bench (even if it meant crush in the cat)! I am friendly to the vet (even when I see her in tesco), but we don't cross the boundary of being friends. I think you can appreciate and be friendly with a wg as you would any person, but you wouldn't  necessarily be true friends. I imagine there could be exceptions though, so like all these things you need to be careful!

Offline MrBridger

Can you be friendly with a WG? Absolutely, some kind of connection is vital for me.
Can a WG have friends? Absolutely, proves she is a people person which again bodes well for how she interacts with you.
Can you be friends with a woman you fancy? Absolutely, if you can be certain in your own mind you're never going to make a twat of yourself by suddenly lunging at her.
Can you be friends with a WG (while still paying her for sex)? Absolutely not.
« Last Edit: May 04, 2015, 12:07:14 am by MrBridger »
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Offline Casio69

I have been following this thread for a while now and feel I should offer my opinion and experiences. To answer the original question; Yes, it is possible to have a relationship with a w/g. In fact I am in a relationship with a w/g and have been for over a year now.

I did book her for a 2 hour out call. Saw her profile on AW and on the evening of the meeting we hit it off like a house on fire! The first 2 hour out call turned into an overnight with her cancelling her next client, which did not go down well here. My apologies to the chap - we were having too much fun!

After this first meet the text messages carried on between us which was fun. Even a few late night calls from her to me. A few weeks later I booked her for a proper overnight based on the fun we had the first time round. This second booking started on the Saturday night and ended on the Monday morning when I needed to go to work. Again cancelling her client on the Sunday. Apologies again.

A few weeks later, I thought, go on - push your luck again and booked for another over night that again ended 2 days later! However on this overnight she said to me that I cannot book her again! My heart sank! But, on this occasion, she gave my money back and said to me "I like you" and stayed for the weekend.

And our relationship continues today.

There have been comments that w/g cannot have proper relationships because of what they do. Well, I beg to differ, its just a job. Just like when you and I go to work. We are not our jobs and have relationships. W/g are real people with real needs and wants and relationships outside of work just like the rest of us and are capable of real relationships.

We are now in the type of relationship where she will pop round to me at all hours and climb into bed. I go to her when she is not working, we help each other out, we go for dinner, she cooks for me and so on just like a real relationship. We go away for weekends. I have met her friends, normal and working friends.

The interesting part of this relationship is that I get to hear all about you fuckers! I get to hear about the ones that just want to chat, the ones that cum in seconds and say - "ah, was it good for you too baby" and there are some really perverted fuckers out there! Yes, I get to hear it all!

And, I have not paid for sex since :)

Working girls are just doing there job just like us!

Offline dezzatheblue2

To everyone saying you can't,
What a load of bollocks......of course you can be friends with a wg, why not?
Before someone says "ask for a freebie", why should she........
You can be friends with a builder, but he won't build you an extension for free,
Just because she is a wg why can't she be friends with who she wants punter or not,

Too many people seem to have the attitude that these girls are bits of meat, there is a thread about how many punters a wg likes.....if punters turn up with a shit and unfriendly attitude,then she probably won't like you,,  it's human nature,

There is a thread on saafe "how do we win?",
The op is spot on in what she says. :hi:
« Last Edit: May 06, 2015, 09:23:26 pm by dezzatheblue2 »
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Offline Quesadilla

Generalising like this is just pointless.

Personally I have a few escorts I'm very good friends with - some I still pay to punt with, others not, but they still stay in touch and we regularly chat because we genuinely get on as people.  So yes, those that I don't pay for sex anymore have genuinely nothing in it for them.  In some cases I've even met an escorts families and friends - it's really no different to any friendship apart from how we met. 

So to answer the OP absolutely 100% yes of course you can be friends with a WG - of course as in any area of life you are not going to make friends with every escort you meet. It's just down to individual circumstances and chemistry. 

I'd be curious to know of those that answered in the negative here how many of you are married? I think it much more unlikely that a married punter will be friends with escorts - as has been said firstly you're no doubt using a cover story so can't even be honest which is not conducive to friendship, but then also it increases the risks of getting caught, and the potential for getting EAS etc which are not such a concern for single punters.
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Offline Zeusthedoc

I've met WGs outside of their work, we've gone for drinks like i have done with many friends and we've just talked.  I bought her a few drinks, she returned the favour.

I've been introduced to WGs other friends - some of whom are also WGs, others not...I wouldn't say I'm best friends with any, but I've been asked for advice and have asked for advice.

As long as you know your limits / boundaries, you can be friends with anyone.

Offline sticko

I'd be curious to know of those that answered in the negative here how many of you are married? I think it much more unlikely that a married punter will be friends with escorts - as has been said firstly you're no doubt using a cover story so can't even be honest which is not conducive to friendship, but then also it increases the risks of getting caught, and the potential for getting EAS etc which are not such a concern for single punters.

Quesadilla - interesting point and I see where you're coming from.  I'm married and I think I can be friends with WGs, but based on your analysis I'm a risk-taker.  This sounds about right.  The two women I'm thinking about know my real name, my family situation, a lot about me.  I wouldn't want to lie as, you're right, it's not conducive to friendship. 

The EAS question is interesting.  If I'm entirely honest I can see there's a risk of EAS with one of these women, but luckily there's enough that's irritating about her to stall the development of full-blown EAS.  The other?  No issue at all.  We talk a lot about punting and I'm genuinely interested in her experiences.  No jealousy, just curiosity and inspiration for other meetings with other WGs.  So as with any relationships, it's impossible to generalise.  You have to figure out a suitable modus operandi in each case and as long as it works for both people, with minimal risk along the way, you're good to go.

As with any friendship I look forward to hearing from them, and as I've said before I enjoy spending time off the clock with no sex involved.  It's worth the cost of the odd coffee or lunch (which we typically take it in turns to pay), and for me at least it makes the paid sex better.

S

I have been following this thread for a while now and feel I should offer my opinion and experiences. To answer the original question; Yes, it is possible to have a relationship with a w/g. In fact I am in a relationship with a w/g and have been for over a year now.


A link to her AW profile and a review would be useful.
Do you still punt?

Offline Ben4454


I never mix my personal life with my punting life.

It is just asking for trouble.
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There was a time i did believe my regular WG was my friend. It was illusion...

Agree whole heartedly with this comment !! Been in this situation with a regular when I contact her to arrange a booking usually weeks in advance as she's very popular, we end up texting like we are best mates from that point, she sends me pictures of herself to my phone of herself in various outfits or naked  :yahoo: but once the booking has taken place nothing no contact from her at all !!! She doesn't even bother to see if I got home safely and I drive stupid miles to see her and she know's it ! She know's I fancy her like crazy plus I made the school boy error of telling her I have a soft spot for her so it's clear she's manipulating me to keep me coming back, we get on very well but I get on really well with my dentist but only on a professional level the rest is meaningless !!

Offline 306

you said it

but once the booking has taken place nothing no contact from her at all !!! She doesn't even bother to see if I got home safely and I drive stupid miles to see her and she know's it
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Offline dezzatheblue2

Agree whole heartedly with this comment !! Been in this situation with a regular when I contact her to arrange a booking usually weeks in advance as she's very popular, we end up texting like we are best mates from that point, she sends me pictures of herself to my phone of herself in various outfits or naked  :yahoo: but once the booking has taken place nothing no contact from her at all !!! She doesn't even bother to see if I got home safely and I drive stupid miles to see her and she know's it ! She know's I fancy her like crazy plus I made the school boy error of telling her I have a soft spot for her so it's clear she's manipulating me to keep me coming back, we get on very well but I get on really well with my dentist but only on a professional level the rest is meaningless !!

Then there are the girls that will be friends and text like friends, show concern, make sure you got home safe.....
Meet out of hours on a friendly basis,
Like I say SOME, not all and you have to build up a trusting friendship, it's life nothing to do with her job.
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Then there are the girls that will be friends and text like friends, show concern, make sure you got home safe.....
Meet out of hours on a friendly basis,
Like I say SOME, not all and you have to build up a trusting friendship, it's life nothing to do with her job.

I get what your saying and for a while at least I thought this was the case, I suppose the only way you could know for sure if your proper friends is if she gives you her real name, personal phone number, introduce you to her other friends etc as if she doesn't do any of those things then what your describing could all be based on a lie especially if your still paying her ? if of course you aren't then it probably is true friendship. Thing is aren't we all just denying the basic truth that we fancy these girls don't we really mean reading between the lines that your hoping eventually that it will lead on to something more ?! Then the cold hard truth hits home  :dash:  would you really want a relationship with a girl who spends all her life fucking strangers. I don't think so !!


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