Do you ever feel too shy/awkward to ask for services?

[tallguy74]

Like usually I will just say I'm into everything to the girl and let her take control of the situation. But I would like to try certain things but always feel me biting me tongue

[itk]

Used to when I first started punting, but nowadays I ask for everything I want. After all I'm the one paying for services

[Greedo]

Like usually I will just say I'm into everything to the girl and let her take control of the situation. But I would like to try certain things but always feel me biting me tongue

+1,  usually feel too awkward to go in demanding specific services so tend to just go with the flow more..... definitely on first meet anyway whereas 2nd meet can start to feel more relaxed and discuss positions etc a bit more

[Type_O_Negative]

Yes, I feel a bit shy and embarrassed - I remember when i asked her first time if she could swallow my load. I was so embarrassed to ask...
But with my regulars it's not a problem - they know what I want.

[tallguy74]

It keeps happening to me whenever I leave a punt, I'm thinking, I should have done this and that, feeling unsatisfied

[Tony Montana]

It keeps happening to me whenever I leave a punt, I'm thinking, I should have done this and that, feeling unsatisfied

You will probably find that the wg was wishing you would tell her what you like, what to do etc, at the same time you were biting your tongue.

Good sex is about communication as everyone is different

[Punting Valley]

I would always tell the girl about what I would like to do or my requirements, but I also leave them a lot of room to do what they are good at. 

[ForrestGump]

Like usually I will just say I'm into everything to the girl and let her take control of the situation. But I would like to try certain things but always feel me biting me tongue

As Lex has already said it's better for both you and the wg if you're up-front about what services are important to you. By doing that you'll also suss out the girls who say they offer certain services but, in reality, don't. Like you I initially found it hard to confirm services but have become used to it so it's much easier to do now I'm a bit further down the punting road. 

[Stiltskin]

It actually turns me off if I have to talk about what I want. I prefer just to go with the flow and check a girl's boundaries as things progress. This mostly works for me, but I'm a vanilla GFE guy most days.

[threechilliman]

Only at the start of my punting. Now agree list, running order and if on role play, the scenario. Experienced wgs will give you what you want.

tcm

[fredpunter]

You could always try an rb, may find it easier to write down what you want to do and (in an ideal world) those bidding should be willing to do it.

[bobajob]

I used to find it difficult but having found UK Punting I have been much more assertive in what I am looking for. UKP has made me realise that I am paying for the experience and I should walk away feeling that I have got everything that I wanted from the punt.

[jcdmj12]

No, but sometimes I am forgetful and leave out the bit about the goat.

[Siadwel]

No, but sometimes I am forgetful and leave out the bit about the goat.

 

[Siadwel]

I establish from the off that OWO and CIM is on the menu, for the price and leave it at that.

One girl asked me what I like to do. I said, 'I like to fuck sexy little hookers half my age'. 'Ok', she said, 'I'll go and get my mum'.

[ForrestGump]

I said, 'I like to fuck sexy little hookers half my age'. 'Ok', she said, 'I'll go and get my mum'.

 

[smiths]

Like usually I will just say I'm into everything to the girl and let her take control of the situation. But I would like to try certain things but always feel me biting me tongue

Certainly not, I know EXACTLY what I require and so does the WG from my phone enquiry to her. If I don't get it its always because the WG is a liar.

My advice is specify what you want and always remember its you paying.

[spkmstr48]

I establish from the off that OWO and CIM is on the menu, for the price and leave it at that.

One girl asked me what I like to do. I said, 'I like to fuck sexy little hookers half my age'. 'Ok', she said, 'I'll go and get my mum'.

 

It depends if I just want a fuck, or the girl doesn't speak English, I'll go with the flow.

If I want to train a filthy submissive slut, it's lots of written communication to explain exactly what will be required of her. And of course to agree the "consequences" for bad behaviour.

The more elaborate the scenario, the more comms needed, a quick f*** needs none.

[RimJobBob]

In the past I didn't like it as Im partial to being rimmed. I didn't like asking somebody I didn't know to lick my arse! Now I don't care so much its a simple yes or no!

[brightperv]

Never had that problem, I find it a turn on discussing services on the phone / email before hand.

You've booked a prostitute to have sex with, most people would find that really embarrassing. It should not be a big deal to go the little extra inch and ask for everything you want. Really surprised that most people in this thread say they trouble asking for what they want.

[madeinwales56]

Never had that problem, I find it a turn on discussing services on the phone / email before hand.

You've booked a prostitute to have sex with, most people would find that really embarrassing. It should not be a big deal to go the little extra inch and ask for everything you want. Really surprised that most people in this thread say they trouble asking for what they want.

I agree brightperv. I like to get things agreed before the meet which is a good gauge of not only the prossie's attitude but also how willing she is to get down and dirty. If she won't talk about the details of the punt or agree to deliver some services then I move on. The meeting, after all, is about sex in all its glory.

[spkmstr48]

Never had that problem, I find it a turn on discussing services on the phone / email before hand.

You've booked a prostitute to have sex with, most people would find that really embarrassing. It should not be a big deal to go the little extra inch and ask for everything you want. Really surprised that most people in this thread say they trouble asking for what they want.

Treat the communication beforehand as free foreplay, leaving you free to get the best possible use out of the paid time, not difficult or unreasonable. Also the more you're paying, the more important this is.

[Dani]

You will probably find that the wg was wishing you would tell her what you like, what to do etc, at the same time you were biting your tongue.

Good sex is about communication as everyone is different

This is so true. We are not mind readers but are paid to give a good time. It's not easy to do if you have no idea what the client wants. At the beginning of the punt before handing over the cash just say during the booking you would like X Y and Z to happen. Most girls will work it into the punt so it feels smooth and glowing which is better than stopping every five minutes to say ok can we do this  now. However if she forgets or doesn't di what you want just remind her.  you pay for you to have fun so don't be shy about letting a girl know what makes it fun for you. She is likely to prefer that rather than having to try and guess what you want and just hoping she gets it right. She wont be offended as its what she is paid for.
 

[herelonely]

It keeps happening to me whenever I leave a punt, I'm thinking, I should have done this and that, feeling unsatisfied

Same here, each time I think 'today I'm going to be clear what I want so that I get it' but I get in and go with flow and end up kicking myself

[Warwick Hunt]

If your not naturally assertive it difficult ask a for a particular kind of service.
This is where the top girls come into play, there instinctive, they bring it out for you, they know how to get the job done.
But yes, we should ask without fear, but its not easy.

[Quesadilla]

I agree with Dani, and it is pretty obvious - any decent WG will appreciate some direction.

Most of my punts start with some emails through AW and I am crystal clear from the outset exactly what I am looking for in terms of services, favourite positions, as well as the type of punt (vanilla, PSE, roleplay, kinky/BDSM etc). 

Rarely have I ever had a situation where the WG has not delivered as requested and as Dani said it generally feels very smooth and seamless resulting in a better punt in my view.

[charger70]

I am not surprised about this OP, for me the more specialised service is why I punt, vanilla is for me so yesterday.

I have spent years wishing for some weird stuff, and have now found out it can be achieved.

However , I find it easier to ask for the less regular stuff, once I have got to know the WG, and built up a rapport, another benefit of a regular IMO.

After all, its an interesting  situation, where you a re basically telling a near stranger the deepest corners of  your inner being, its a form to therapy I reckon !
I certainly feel much better now I have shared these thoughts and acted on them

So my recommendation is to bite the  bullit and ask away,  its very spooky when you have been tied up in knots thinking about  what you want, and the WG is not at all phased by it, and  gets into it as well, go for it my man!

[Malvolio]

I certainly did when I first started - but if you're after services that she's put up on her likes list there's no reason not to ask for them.  She will certainly have had worse / weirder requests.

[cueball]

I don't feel awkward at all asking for any services that are on her like list, if it's on her list and I want it then I just politely request it as the punt goes through.

[KingAlpha]

I've asked for or about roleplay half a dozen times and only once got a good result. For the rest the WG was either half-hearted or didn't have a clue. One cancelled the booking when I asked. Another seemed to interpret it as mild domination (by her), although it was a good punt anyway for other reasons. Not sure I'd bother again. I was left with the vague impression I was somehow presenting as a weirdo, rather than someone blessed with a bit of imagination. So mostly I choose carefully and go with the flow.

[Sonny Crockett]

I always state what certain services I want when texting or e-mailing the lady about her availability, so that she knows what I want in advance!!

Then once I meet the girl, I then just go with the flow as the meet progresses!!!!

[DeWallenFan]

Some girls I feel shy to ask things to try, and others not shy at all   

Sluttier girls I have no problem asking things to.

"GFE" type girls I tend to hold things back.

Baffling!