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Author Topic: Can't cum  (Read 2886 times)

Yep I know exactly where you are coming from, pardon the pun. After wanking every day for 33 years I find it difficult to come through sex, especially when wearing a condom. BB with the wife works but that is a bi annual event I'm afraid. Even as a teenager all I used to hear about was premature ejaculation when I was thinking my problem was the exact opposite. I would be interested to know how unique I am in not ever being brought to orgasm with a girls hand or mouth, they usually give up, knackered!

Your circumstances are remarkably similar to my own, Bluefin. So, no, you're definitely not unique.

Like many here said - less porn and less wanking.
Just look at these girls you pass on the street. REAL GIRLS.
I was punting today - last time i had a wank it was 5 days ago. So i shot my load like it was The Guns of Navarone  :wacko: :wacko: :wacko:

Offline fettish008

I had the same problem to start with.i think it was just nerves.i seem to be ok now.

I had this problem too. Quit porn and it solved the problem. Make it a rule to only wank in the shower. If you can cum looking at tiles then you can cum with a woman.

I wonder if part of the problem with porn is it trains you to hold back for the good bit that's just coming up.

I've now got a problem maintaining an erection if I'm not doing the thrusting. Probably psychosomatic. I worry about it and therefore my erection goes.

Offline Bluefin

Your circumstances are remarkably similar to my own, Bluefin. So, no, you're definitely not unique.
Thats good to know Forrest. I'm hoping to get a punt in a couple of weeks so will try and stay off the porn until then if that's possible and see what happens. Also read on this thread to pull foreskin back before you put condom on, I've never done that and as the post says you feel jack shit if you dont.

Offline Sparquin

I find condoms deaden sensation terribly for me and it probably does not help that I am circumcised and so naturally a bit less sensitive. However you might try using a large size condom and adding a bit of lube in the tip in order to get a little movement and friction from within the condom. Make sure the lube does not get onto the base of your shaft as that will risk the condom slipping off.

If you are using cialis or viagra note that the trade off for better hardness is a reduction in sensation and more difficulty in climaxing, at least that is my experience.

Finally, I do not find it essential that I cum as there is lots of fun to be had along the way. If you put less emphasis on climax you might enjoy your sessions a bit more.

Let us know how you get on and what you think did the trick, so to speak.

Offline cueball

Also read on this thread to pull foreskin back before you put condom on

The prossie will put the condom on for you and if she knows what she's doing your foreskin will already be back.

Just to add to a few comments, I'm glad of condoms because I can last longer so get better vfm

Agree with most of the posts and advice such as not wanking for a while before a punt etc but stress and psychology can have a big effect here. If you are going into a punt with it playing on your mind then the problem is probably made worse and you get into a vicious circle, it's then made worse when the girl starts reminding you about the time and that you need to cum soon etc.

Some of the issue could be that you are used to wanking / cumming in a certain way, basically you are in your comfort zone when at home and controlling the situation, going faster / slower as suits you to maximise your feeling and pleasure.
When I punt I like to control the action as I tend to cum too quickly so i start in mish where I can control the pace and once I've overcome the initial urge to come in the first minute I can build up a rhythm.
I then move onto other positions such as doggy and prone bone where i can again control the action, it's rare for me to do cowgirl etc as while it's great when done well most girls don't seem too good at it and just sit on your cock then bounce up and down as hard as they can resulting in me losing my stiffy.
It took me years to cum from oral as again I wasn't in control but this is now my preferred method as I've overcome the psychological issue and OTC gives me an orgasm which is far more intense than through sex.

If lack of sensitivity from using a condom is part of the issue then you could try finishing with an oily tit wank as this gives skin on skin feeling with lots of lube and you can thrust to suit yourself  :thumbsup:     

Quite an interesting one this, as generally I reckon us men spend more time discussing Premature ejaculation, now most of us have  problems the other way! I used to have to sank to ensure I never blew before I even got inside her, now I too have top hold off for a few days to ensure action. Makes me wonder if we are all of an age?? 

However the old condom does act as a dampener on matters for sure. Perhaps Prossies use heavy duty versions?

Offline bunny84

I try not to watch to much porn as it takes excitement out the real thing .

I don't know who people can give up wanking . It would be beyond me . Only a few times in my life have I ever managed to make it to over 24 hours without wanking or sex .

I never used to be able to cum shagging hookers . It was just all in my head . Went from not being able to cum to being able to cum everytime in the space of 1 punt

Offline steve_o

In agreement with most on here; too much wanking and totally desensitised by on-tap porn.

And have never been able to cum wearing a condom...only on a very few occasions.

But I finish nearly all my punts now with wanking and cumming in their mouth. I actually find that much hornier as it's skin to skin, so to speak and my cum actually goes inside her, rather than into a condom. I don't mind if they spit TBH, as after I've cum, the sexual desire immediately leaves me...so them spitting after I've cum is okay.


Offline cueball

In agreement with most on here; too much wanking and totally desensitised by on-tap porn.

And have never been able to cum wearing a condom...only on a very few occasions.

But I finish nearly all my punts now with wanking and cumming in their mouth. I actually find that much hornier as it's skin to skin, so to speak and my cum actually goes inside her, rather than into a condom. I don't mind if they spit TBH, as after I've cum, the sexual desire immediately leaves me...so them spitting after I've cum is okay.

I know what you're saying Steve but that don't stop me punting with prossies that don't do cim, I'll still pop in my bag happily if that's the case.

Offline 306

the blue pill hardens but delays is that correct
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Offline Sonny Crockett

I agree with what others have said in that it's best not to wank for about a few days. Also on the day of the punt you should drink plenty of fluids in order to hydrate yourself.... :hi:
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