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Author Topic: Does the wife know you punt?  (Read 4558 times)

l'm not married but after reading these posts l'm surprised. I thought girls sex drive get higher as they get older , no?


Offline Aspen

im 48 wife is a yr older than me and im in the same situation every so often she will say stuff like you must be getting it elsewhere no man can do without etc etc she also said the last time i asked i will tell you when im wanting sex so 2 and a half yrs and counting ...... dont see mant wgs but every other month will arr to meet wg for bj/69
even her friend who was in the house for a few drinks made a comment to my wife who joked "oh we dont have sex anymore" her friends answer was maybe your not having sex but bet he is seeing someone(i was in the kitchen at the time) i have my secret payg phone that i only use at work never brought home

Isn't it odd. They know it, but still they carry on with a sham of a relationship.

You love them, but they don't love you.
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l'm not married but after reading these posts l'm surprised. I thought girls sex drive get higher as they get older , no?

I'm not married either and these posts are quite depressing.  I'm hoping it's a generational thing, I'm in my early thirties and the women I date are usually aged from 21 up to my age.  Hopefully there's a healthier attitude towards sex with those girls and it's not viewed as something that can be used as a weapon later on in life.

However I will say that on a punting site we're probably going to get a disproportionate amount of unhappy, undersexed husbands.  Your average happily married man with a healthy sexual relationship with his mrs is far less likely to punt.  Stating the obvious really. 

Offline webpunter

Can't remember the last time i shagged the OH.  The logic of even indicating to the OH that you'd be getting it elsewhere defies me - paid or otherwise.  What is the upside ?  The square root of fuck-all   What is the downside ?  Massive.   Just look at the contempt on sites like Mnet on blokes who use hookers.  The problems which are likely to result are endless

Offline DG

Can't remember the last time i shagged the OH.  The logic of even indicating to the OH that you'd be getting it elsewhere defies me - paid or otherwise.  What is the upside ?  The square root of fuck-all   What is the downside ?  Massive.   Just look at the contempt on sites like Mnet on blokes who use hookers.  The problems which are likely to result are endless

It all depends on the attitude of your OH. It was not something I just threw in in the heat of the moment. Knowing her as I do, like I said 30 years married this year, I sensed she would actually be quite happy with the situation. When I say happy, I mean it suits her too; bit of dented pride maybe, but her reaction was extremely revealing. Of course I couldn't say how anyone else's wife would react, but it seems to work for us.
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Offline Sparquin

Can't remember the last time i shagged the OH.  The logic of even indicating to the OH that you'd be getting it elsewhere defies me - paid or otherwise.  What is the upside ?  The square root of fuck-all   What is the downside ?  Massive.   Just look at the contempt on sites like Mnet on blokes who use hookers.  The problems which are likely to result are endless

Oh crap. I could have written this myself. I think that women look on our infidelity from a very different perspective than we do and it hurts them a lot, so why hurt them by letting on? I did so years ago and am still paying for it.

Offline webpunter

It all depends on the attitude of your OH. It was not something I just threw in in the heat of the moment. Knowing her as I do, like I said 30 years married this year, I sensed she would actually be quite happy with the situation. When I say happy, I mean it suits her too; bit of dented pride maybe, but her reaction was extremely revealing. Of course I couldn't say how anyone else's wife would react, but it seems to work for us.
Indeed.  The most important thing is that it works for the two of you.  I reckon for every one relationship where it doesn't cause an issue / some benefits, there are 20 or more where it would be a disaster area.  Just sayin'

Offline west8

My wife knew from day one I had an eye for the ladies, but chose to overlook it. That's precisely why I decided she was the perfect woman for me.

Punting in marriage is fine as long as the family home is the family home and the two worlds never meet.

Let's be frank: can ANY of us state unequivocally that monogamy is a wonderful thing?

Offline webpunter

Oh crap. I could have written this myself. I think that women look on our infidelity from a very different perspective than we do and it hurts them a lot, so why hurt them by letting on? I did so years ago and am still paying for it.
Infidelity - i agree.  Women are wired entirely differently to blokes.  Mars & Venus.  Which in my book means blokes like to shoot their load as often as possible & with different women.  Anyway - what's crap - this thread or my post ?

Offline Sparquin

Anyway - what's crap - this thread or my post ?

Nope, just how it makes me feel! Both are cock on.

Offline Aspen

l'm not married but after reading these posts l'm surprised. I thought girls sex drive get higher as they get older , no?

No

They go through a phase usually in their early thirties when they often become keen and adventurous, but that doesn't last more than a few years. For most of them in a relationship it serves more as a bargaining chip than anything else.
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Offline Aspen

Infidelity - i agree.  Women are wired entirely differently to blokes.  Mars & Venus.

What I've learnt over the years (and wish I'd realised it in my twenties) is that most men spend their adult lives looking for sex, and most women spend their adult lives avoiding it. The only time that doesn't hold is when they want either control or kids, and in the case of guys when they get too old or ill.
 
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Offline dawsonuk

No, well I least I don't believe so!

etc etc


What a great post mate. Sums things up for me entirely!

Offline Tommo

Yep mine knows, and helps me choose with who, she fine with it and makes for great sex afterwards, but sadly I only get to do it a few times a year as a result, but it's easier this way.
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Offline DG

Yep mine knows, and helps me choose with who, she fine with it and makes for great sex afterwards, but sadly I only get to do it a few times a year as a result, but it's easier this way.

Sounds perfect. What does your wife get out of helping you choose? Has she ever expressed an interesting in joining you on a punt?
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Offline webpunter

They go through a phase usually in their early thirties when they often become keen and adventurous, but that doesn't last more than a few years. For most of them in a relationship it serves more as a bargaining chip than anything else.
Aspen, can't be arsed to do double quote.  Have done it but i'm not very good at this.  I agree with both posts.  My take on things is that the more attractive the woman the more they want sex.  They feel confident about the way they look - and can pull good looking geezers [or rich].  And want to make the most of it.  In their 20's / 30's before kids come along.  Then a pause with kids.  A good percentage lose the desire.  But some remain.  Some of the milfie civvies i've shagged have been dirty as fuck.  CIM & swallow is considered an absolute minimum.  Then licking their lips, smiling & saying 'yum yum - can i have some more ?'.  And up the bum & no-harm-done on 2nd date  :D  Contrast this with dull women who never get many blokes before they have kids.  They become a baby factory & looks descend.  Lack of confidence leads to less sex.  Then they join MNet.  Blokes on the other hand think fuck it - i want as much as possible.  Paid or otherwise.  And as us blokes get older the paid option becomes ever more attractive - for just so many reasons.  Just sayin'

Offline Tommo

Sounds perfect. What does your wife get out of helping you choose? Has she ever expressed an interesting in joining you on a punt?

Yes we've done it a couple of times together with one escort, which is fantastic, but she also get's off on hearing all about it when I've been on my own.  She likes girls too so she like to help me choose, I am not going to grumble.
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Offline Sparquin

Yep mine knows, and helps me choose with who, she fine with it and makes for great sex afterwards, but sadly I only get to do it a few times a year as a result, but it's easier this way.

How the fuck did you talk her into it?

Offline Tommo

How the fuck did you talk her into it?

First escort we saw was together so no talking her into it, after that she's been a changed woman.  I guess I am a lucky fucker, but I'd still like to do it more.   
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Offline webpunter

I guess I am a lucky fucker, but I'd still like to do it more.
Most times i'd say go for more.  But think you have things nicely sorted.  One position springs to mind.  You banging one of them from behind.  The other below doing some clit & knob sucking.  Then get them to swap.  Not so much lucky fucker - more lucky c**t.  Think you deserve a mention on SirF's thread  :lol:

Very interesting stories and thank you all for sharing. I'm not married so i have nothing similar to tell. It does seem a little weird to be with someone and to share the same bed with someone and not have a physical relationship for 5/10/15..however many years...

Has anyone ever got their female partner to explain why they no longer make themselves available? Is it that they genuinely dont want it? Are they exercising some form of control ? Are they secretly wishing you would reach out, undress them and make love like you used to do?

Some of them at least must surely still have physical sexual desires that are not fulfilled by a secret lover? Maybe they are just content to masturbate when your out at work?

Offline jjpsweet

No idea. We sleep in separate rooms anyway and she point blank refuses to discuss it

Offline Sylvester

My OH and I have no sex life to speak of, and haven't for many years.  I tolerated it for years, until I very recently decided that there was no way I could cope with the idea of never having sex again.

I do find myself wondering if she found out whether she would understand, given that her libido flatlined after a short course of anti-depressants (major cautionary tale there), and she knows it still really matters to me.

I doubt it however, so the best I can hope for is that she doesn't find out, but that I feel strongly that I can justify my behaviour if she does.  Won't stop me getting castrated in my sleep mind...
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Several things going on here in this thread I can relate to, and comment on.
1. Younger women are more open minded and less likely to turn he tap odd later in life.

Don't bank on it, several guys on here have skas what their missus got up to in earlier times, mine was the same, but time changes them as it does all of us, and modern society or not, that fact won't change.

Cock isn't as important to them as fanny is to us, in later life, its a natural fact.

Sex is usually a pointer to the health of a relationship, so if other things are not in equilibrium, then sex will be off of the menu.
So in my case married 30 years + haven't boned the OH for several years, I got used tot he idea, and watched porn and wanked a lot.

Found AW last autumn, and saw some terrific WG's that will do virtually anything near by, so thought fuck it, why not, and now I am  a much more contented person, and probably better to be around!?

But there is no way I will tell the OH, only make the job even worse.

And for you young guys, there is a lot to be said for marriage and a stable relationship, especially if you have family, and divorce / separation/ re marrying etc, from what I can see from mates  who have gone through it, certainly isn't the end of the rainbow!

But IMHO punting gets you pretty damn close! :)

Offline IT861

Got sidetracked into this topic after reading comments in another thread.

https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=48881.0

After several discussions with my missus about lack of sex at home, I put to her that if things didn't change I would get it elsewhere.

All talk at the beginning but tried a swingers site and hooked up with a less than perfect match for me, probably just to prove a point to myself. Discovered punting when I came home off nightshift, horny as hell and Googled local escorts, ended up with a punt within 90 mins less than 3 miles from home.

Had so much fun that I've been punting for the last 7 months, found a smashing regular, also local to me. I don't feel any guilt other than I try to keep a lid on the spending, although the family want for nothing. Reason I don't feel guilt towards my wife is;

1. I told her how I felt about lack of sex
2. Told her I would go elsewhere
3. I don't have a girlfriend or have affairs
4. It suits her too

I don't flaunt it and only meet girls when she's working or out for a while. She spends plenty every month on diets, hair dos, clothes etc, so I probably shouldn't feel guilty about the money. To repeat my comments in the other thread, we discussed it this afternoon, and other than a flippant comment about it 'not being very nice', she was neither up nor down about it. When she asked what I did I told her it was none of her business, she doesn't know I punt.

How do other guys deal with the guilt, secrecy or otherwise?

In short no my wife didn't know I did and my present girlfriend doesn't know I do it and actually my girlfriend is actually hotter than some girls I've seen which has left me in a bit of a conundrum as to why I do it. I guess whilst I still get that pre punt buzz and excitement then long may it continue


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