Hi folks, I was wondering if anyone had any advice for me on this.
Firstly, I have only had sex once in the past 14 months and that was last October, with the wife
Previous to that, I was having unprotected sex with a girl I met on an internet site and that was back in November 2013 and that was oral, straight and anal.
This morning I noticed a red circular spot, a bit like a birthmark on the top of my knob and when I wiped it with tissue it was bleeding a bit.
Would an std take a year to surface or have I just been over enthusiastic with the wanking? I have a slight stinging sensation.
I have been on diazepam for two weeks due to a trapped nerve in my neck, other than that I haven't done anything Elson out of the ordinary.
Same situation for me with the missus, hence a cycle of punting, std anxieties, gum clinic, punt again...
Long story short, I stopped being a victim to this witholding of sex, except on birthdays etc. I just decided not to bother asking for it anymore and now I feign tiredness, which is easy, as we are in seperate beds anyway.
Two years into this now, haven't shagged her and she has never raised the subject. If she does, i'm just going to say i'm off sex, must be my age...
Advantages for me:
1. Much less STD anxieties, if I don't shag the missus, she won't catch anything
2. I get quality sex through punting. She had turned into a crap shag anyway, over the years
3. I quite enjoy taking back control of my needs and deciding I don't really want sex with her anyway
You might wonder why I don't just get divorced, but no way i'm doing that. We get on ok otherwise, dual income, no kids and no mortgage. So i'm not going to set up on my own in a flat, with less disposable income.
So, why not tell her to fuck off with her birthday shag and don't be a victim to her control - because that's the game women play and sex is a weapon they use..