Apparently I offended an SP but wonder your experiences with ‘play talk’

[jaydefo24]

Tried a new SP a couple of days ago, and it was the first time in my career that I’ve been ‘told off’—

Basically it was going quite well, she was a pretty lovely and unlikely SP type looking woman who when I asked why she does this, she said she enjoyed the ‘hustle’ and does it four days a week so takes a lot of different dicks… and I said “so you’re a bit of a slut… “ with a knowingly playful smile whilst we are f*cking and she then completely changed her tune and requested a position change and only 10 mins in to the 30 min apt said “have you cum yet?”…

Then with her on top got really assertively no when I just tried to pull her in a bit.

Afterward the vibe was icy and when I asked if I’d done something to upset her she said … “no”… “well, you are too pully ( you don’t ask before pulling me in like I’m an object)… oh and you called me “slut” like I’m some kind of object.

I explain that slut is meant to be a playful way of saying a woman who enjoys sex a lot and isn’t meant to be insulting.

And pulling in is just what happens when people have sex, but clearly wanted me to ask before every manoeuvre or statement.

It left me feeling bad about myself and her.

What are your experiences with name-calling in a playful way?

[Blackpool Rock]

I do enjoy name calling but only if it's the right girl and I think she's up for it however I do tend to ask if the girl is OK with it and if there's anything she doesn't like.
One girl did say she objected to being called a slut "as she wasn't" so I avoided that name while thinking surely anyone including the girl herself would define taking money from strangers in exchange for sex as slutty behaviour 

I'm not degrading anyone here and in fact for this line of work I see the slut badge / tag as being a recognition of doing a good job but then again we're all different I guess and get triggered by different things.
I remember another popular parlour girl from 10-12 years ago who on my 1st meeting with her after she'd instigated some rough stuff by grabbing my hand and putting it on her throat while I fucked her in mish turned over into doggy and said (demanded) "Now treat me like a slut" 
On subsequent visits while on her knees sucking my cock I asked her if she had her hand on her pussy / clit and she replied "Yeah I just love sucking cock as it makes me feel like a proper slut and I like that"

In my experience always best to ask 

[The0neAnd0nly]

Horses for courses... some SP dont mind being called a slut and some would hate it (whether you meant it playful or not).

Just as some punters wouldnt like being called a creepy perv by a SP even said in a playful way.

Dont lose any sleep over it. You could have said "hahaha you love the cock" based on her statement and she could have reacted the same

[PilotMan]

Is this a woman you're referring too 

Nothing will be as you expect it to be. They change with the wind.

I had a Brazilian SP repeatedly calling me "safado".

I looked it up, it means pervert, rascal or dirty minded. Now I refer to myself as "Safado" 

The female equivalent is Safada - I haven't used it yet.

[RandomGuy99]

You live and learn.

[Doc Holliday]

Basically it was going quite well, she was a pretty lovely and unlikely SP type looking woman who when I asked why she does this ...

Interesting. I would never dream of asking such a question during a booking  .... or indeed at all, with someone you are meeting for the first time?

Is that just me?

[timsussex]

some ladies are chatty others stick strictly to the job in hand - applies to just about everyone you meet and of course you need to learn the signs and feel your way when meeting someone for the first time

I know that some SPs are very chatty and because of intimacy of a meet its easy to say something you would never say (even as a joke) to someone in normal life you had only met 10 minutes ago 

[PilotMan]

Basically it was going quite well, she was a pretty lovely and unlikely SP type looking woman who when I asked why she does this

The question itself comes across as much a statement as a question - i.e.

what your doing isn't a good thing or what a normal person would do, so why do you do it.

[Stevelondon]

Interesting. I would never dream of asking such a question during a booking  .... or indeed at all, with someone you are meeting for the first time?

Is that just me?

Nope…… it’s definitely not just you Doc 👍🏻

I also know I wouldn’t be calling a SP a slut. 🤷🏼

[Doc Holliday]

The question itself comes across as much a statement as a question - i.e.

what your doing isn't a good thing or what a normal person would do, so why do you do it.

"What's a nice girl like you doing in a job like this?"

Slut is also a very problematic word. Context is everything.

[Thephoenix]

Has a WG ever asked why you're a punter and can't get a proper girlfriend?

Have you ever been told you're a dirty old pervert saddo, as part of a GFE?

Maybe not quite the same, but possibly food for thought.

I've recently had one of my best fbsm with a gorgeous Thai woman, far younger than my grandchildren.
A bit of friendly small talk seemed appropriate, but asking her why she wanted  to rub her gorgeous young body up and down my wrinkly old frame, definitely wasn't.

Even AI has it covered:
Don't comment on life choices or give unsolicited advice.
Avoid derogatory or demeaning remarks.
Avoid personal questions.
Avoid tired clichés or pick-up lines.
Respect boundaries and safety limits.
 

[RyanM92]

I always let the SP lead with any forms of dirty/play talk just incase of what happened to you OP.

For example - I saw one WG whilst she was giving me a blowjob randomly said “you like sluts sucking your cock?” and I was taken aback as leading up to this there was literally zero dirty talk. I kind of nervously said “yeah….” and she just continued whilst adding in a few bits more. So taking this onboard whilst I had her in missionary I spread her legs eagle whilst inside her and said “I love it when sluts open their legs for me whenever I want!” and she seemed really into it. She then got into doggy and told me to “use her” at this point I didn’t carry on with the dirty/play talk and just stayed quiet.

After the deed, we just talked normally and everything was very cordial - I think some SPs think that more vocal/dirty talk is what most men want whilst in the moment and others go down the standard route of simple moans etc.

Again, I just follow the SPs lead as always.

[Mr Garmin]

I love a bit of dirty talk while fucking, from both parties.  In the main I find that civies and SB's love it even if it's rare'ish for them to reciprocate IME.

With escorts I don't do it unless I get a green light first and in the main I limit my vocals to complimenting them on their body.  But as it's their job they will have heard it all before.

[jaydefo24]

I always let the SP lead with any forms of dirty/play talk just incase of what happened to you OP.

For example - I saw one WG whilst she was giving me a blowjob randomly said “you like sluts sucking your cock?” and I was taken aback as leading up to this there was literally zero dirty talk. I kind of nervously said “yeah….” and she just continued whilst adding in a few bits more. So taking this onboard whilst I had her in missionary I spread her legs eagle whilst inside her and said “I love it when sluts open their legs for me whenever I want!” and she seemed really into it. She then got into doggy and told me to “use her” at this point I didn’t carry on with the dirty/play talk and just stayed quiet.

After the deed, we just talked normally and everything was very cordial - I think some SPs think that more vocal/dirty talk is what most men want whilst in the moment and others go down the standard route of simple moans etc.

Again, I just follow the SPs lead as always.

Hahaha… “yeah”


Thanks for your replies. On reflection I think you’ve uncovered something I hadn’t really considered… that asking “what’s a girl like you doing this for ?” Is a perhaps more offensive than the curious inquisition I’d intended. I often ask SPs this as a thinly bailed compliment. Like saying, you look so nice and seem so normal. And I have had girls in the past say “what’s a young handsome man like you doing this for? You could just go to a club and pickup a girl.” But it doesn’t happened anymore now I’m old

[RyanM92]

Hahaha… “yeah”

I actually thought about that after the session that I’ve never had been asked a question whilst being blown and what would have happened if I said “no..” Would she have just jumped off me and ended the punt? 

[Vice Admiral]

All of us would sometimes benefit from a cleaned-up / sub-titled version of our more impulsive utterances – just as, in a news report last night, the sub-titles rendered "He called me a whore" as "He called me a horse". 

[RandomGuy99]

In the heat of the moment and with porn having influenced my behaviour, I once said to an SP that she was a "dirty bitch".  That really didn't go down well.  You could see it on her face that she didn't like it, so I didn't say it again on that booking. I saw the same SP another time and she made a point of pointing out that particular thing that I'd done and I apologised as I had noticed at the time that she didn't like it.  We continued the booking but it wasn't the same. At the time I had thought it was a bit of an encouraging thing to say as she seemed to getting into it. I learned from my experience that that kind of language was unacceptable on a booking and I haven't said it again on a booking. What you see in porn isn't the same thing as what is acceptable on a booking.  You do live and learn.

[jaydefo24]

In the heat of the moment and with porn having influenced my behaviour, I once said to an SP that she was a "dirty bitch".  That really didn't go down well.  You could see it on her face that she didn't like it, so I didn't say it again on that booking. I saw the same SP another time and she made a point of pointing out that particular thing that I'd done and I apologised as I had noticed at the time that she didn't like it.  We continued the booking but it wasn't the same. At the time I had thought it was a bit of an encouraging thing to say as she seemed to getting into it. I learned from my experience that that kind of language was unacceptable on a booking and I haven't said it again on a booking. What you see in porn isn't the same thing as what is acceptable on a booking.  You do live and learn.

I find this quite comic I must say

[GreyDave]

Has a WG ever asked why you're a punter and can't get a proper girlfriend?

Have you ever been told you're a dirty old pervert saddo, as part of a GFE?

Maybe not quite the same, but possibly food for thought.

I've recently had one of my best fbsm with a gorgeous Thai woman, far younger than my grandchildren.
A bit of friendly small talk seemed appropriate, but asking her why she wanted  to rub her gorgeous young body up and down my wrinkly old frame, definitely wasn't.

Even AI has it covered:
Don't comment on life choices or give unsolicited advice.
Avoid derogatory or demeaning remarks.
Avoid personal questions.
Avoid tired clichés or pick-up lines.
Respect boundaries and safety limits.
 

Yep almost every British WG Ive punted the past few years as ive got older has asked this and been condersending the only Brit ones that have been fun have been the swinger MMF meets ive done.
On the other hand Ive seen loads of Chinese WGs mostly in their 20-30s and Ive had the opposite question Do you want wife /cook/cleaner ? you hansome big man 
I remember saying no Thanks Babe to a Brit girl when she offer me perfumed wet wipe * Ill wash in sink" she lost her shit with me 

[Nomerzypuntr]

Crazy isn’t it ?? Women are unpredictable…
It’s better not to offend them by our funny talks. They don’t complaint if we go hard on sex or anything physical like kissing, pressing, licking, spanking but sometimes easily offended by words we use