I'm being as honest as I can be and I'm certainly not trying to be anything but that. Just to clarify, Holly never asked me for a gift, it was my choice. On one occasion, for instance, a 1 hour meeting lasted over 3 hours as I recall. A small gift to say thank you to me is simply that. I'm showing appreciation, because she gave me much more of her time than she needed to and I think we genuinely got on whenever we met. I didn't see the relationship as anything beyond a punter/client, it never could be and Holly knew I was married, I just enjoyed spending time with her. You go out for a meal with someone and chat and buy drinks and spend money, I saw it as something like that. Just a nice time spent chatting and having fun. I must admit that I definitely hoped Holly would keep seeing me and see me regularly so I get your point about ingratiating yourself. She did also once say to me that she had seen ex-punters socially and so yes I wondered if that might happen over time, but maybe I misinterpreted what she meant by her comment.
The ultimate outcome has made me think about things more though, as has your email because you've given a rationale response. Ultimately though, I still see it simply as a case of me being frustrated and then sending an ill-thought email which upset Holly. There's other things I could mention that add to the overall picture but they are between me and Holly and don't change the overall context. I was an idiot, Holly in my eyes did nothing wrong and just because she is the sort of girl who puts the effort in with punters I don't think its fair to suggest she is the cause of what has happened, not in my experience at least. I accept the blame and have to move on. Surely we can't have it both ways, if a girl kicks you out bang on time but just before your finest moment, we'd complain. I genuinely don't know if there is any other punter involved who her blog is aimed at, but if its me then she's entitled to say what she has said and its fair to say that every grumble she has could be about me. I don't agree with her final analysis of what happened between us, hence my comment about having no right of reply, but reading my email could easily have lead her to those thoughts.
I suppose my final point is, if its aimed just at me and she has decided to make her blog sound more generic, then there's hope for everyone else out there, as its unlikely you'll do what I did and in my view I can't see that there's another girl out there who will give you a better meeting.