How to escalate massage with ‘professional’ masseuse that is attracted to me?

[Massage Bloke]

"you're the nicest massage burd I've seen in a long time, don't be surprised  if I have a tent pole.

[advent2016]

A “legit” provider is never going to say yes to any extras over text because brings her legal issues

She might offer them in the room but you’re missing out if you keep shooting yourself in the foot with this approach 🤷‍♂️ Not sure why you thought they would say anything other than this?

Katie
I sometimes  visit a legit massage if I want a good massage.
If I can't tell from the advert if it is in the escort section on say VS ,I use my standard exploratory message what I am looking for a sexual service.
I find like with Sasha if they are just massage and when I visit I make no mention of a sexual aspect. If they raise it then I'll respond or not as I choose.
I hope that clarifies it.
That's why I like AW as it has selectable catagories so long as the SP has listed the correct ones.

[KatieEdinburgh]

Katie
I sometimes  visit a legit massage if I want a good massage.
If I can't tell from the advert if it is in the escort section on say VS ,I use my standard exploratory message what I am looking for a sexual service.
I find like with Sasha if they are just massage and when I visit I make no mention of a sexual aspect. If they raise it then I'll respond or not as I choose.
I hope that clarifies it.
That's why I like AW as it has selectable catagories so long as the SP has listed the correct ones.

That’s fine just you might find yourself better serviced by WSWS massage providers if you don’t start off with a message like that. They assume you could be police

[advent2016]

That’s fine just you might find yourself better serviced by WSWS massage providers if you don’t start off with a message like that. They assume you could be police

As I said - sometimes I choose only legit practitioners only for a rehab type of massage, often through personal recommendation as a first step before I see a qualified physio  or chiropractor

It's that mysterious middle ground. I'm not really a fan of WSWS, If I want a sexual encounter I'll look inthe right place as I want a definite outcome.

As for the police (and I'm no expert here), I hope they can use their time better than trying to find out if legitimate masseurs are actually prostitutes, and wouldn't, they have to send someone and record them offering services in person for it to hold up in court, otherwise the SP could say it was a misunderstanding on the phone / txt? (assuming they haven't a large collection from the same SP)

[Jonestown]

As for the police (and I'm no expert here), I hope they can use their time better than trying to find out if legitimate masseurs are actually prostitutes, and wouldn't, they have to send someone and record them offering services in person for it to hold up in court, otherwise the SP could say it was a misunderstanding on the phone / txt? (assuming they haven't a large collection from the same SP)

It’s not just the police, Local Councils licence massage outlets on an annual basis and take a much more keen interest in what goes on in their areas. Sending people in, canvassing for complaints, and phoning up making enquiries is well within their remit and has been documented in some instances.

[RandomGuy99]

As I said - sometimes I choose only legit practitioners only for a rehab type of massage, often through personal recommendation as a first step before I see a qualified physio  or chiropractor

It's that mysterious middle ground. I'm not really a fan of WSWS, If I want a sexual encounter I'll look inthe right place as I want a definite outcome.

As for the police (and I'm no expert here), I hope they can use their time better than trying to find out if legitimate masseurs are actually prostitutes, and wouldn't, they have to send someone and record them offering services in person for it to hold up in court, otherwise the SP could say it was a misunderstanding on the phone / txt? (assuming they haven't a large collection from the same SP)

The police might receive complaints from the public or malicious twats of something happening at the premises and then the police might try to find out what is happening there by texting or making a booking. The police aren't stupid and they know what happens in these places. They turn a blind eye as long as nothing bad is happening and I am sure these types of business get random visit from immigration officials checking on the employees immigration status. 

[tp69]

Would you like to go for a drink sometime? Simple, and so what if she says no.

Trying to ask for extras would be insulting to her if she does actually like you.

Use words. Making a physical move on a professional without consent is creepy as hell.

[Cambridgy]

Pay her a compliment back - "You're so pretty. I bet loads of guys ask you for extras? I'd be v tempted - as you as so hot"

Exactly this - just use a bit of nuance.

If you say something like this in a fun way, you'll get things understood without damaging the relationship or embarrassing her or yourself....

The averages are around a third of blokes who call for first appointment will ask her upfront - so she won't be shocked by the question.
She may say "they are all dirty perverts" or some-such but that's not you!

On many occasions over the years I've had dinner with a legit therapist I've got to know.
I don't understand the aversion to that idea higher up the thread.

[Cambridgy]

Would you like to go for a drink sometime? Simple, and so what if she says no.

Trying to ask for extras would be insulting to her if she does actually like you.

Use words. Making a physical move on a professional without consent is creepy as hell.

100%

[Jonestown]

She’s probably a health freak, so better make it a juice that’s on offer, booze might offend, or you’ll get a lecture.

[Fuzzyduck]

Would you like to go for a drink sometime? Simple, and so what if she says no.

Trying to ask for extras would be insulting to her if she does actually like you.

Use words. Making a physical move on a professional without consent is creepy as hell.

He didn't ask for advice on social skills and going on a date. He asked how he could broach the subject of getting some action.

[Fuzzyduck]

Exactly this - just use a bit of nuance.

If you say something like this in a fun way, you'll get things understood without damaging the relationship or embarrassing her or yourself....

The averages are around a third of blokes who call for first appointment will ask her upfront - so she won't be shocked by the question.
She may say "they are all dirty perverts" or some-such but that's not you!

On many occasions over the years I've had dinner with a legit therapist I've got to know.
I don't understand the aversion to that idea higher up the thread.

I disagree. It's a corny line. She's EE with poor English so nuance might be missed on her.
How do you know around a third of blokes will ask upfront? Would love to see the survey data on that.

[tp69]

He didn't ask for advice on social skills and going on a date. He asked how he could broach the subject of getting some action.

To be honest, his intention is pretty unclear in that case. He finds her very attractive, enough to see her 10 times for a crap massage, so it's probably more than wanting extras. She's also legit, so after 10 visits he should've already figured out if extras are on the cards.

Asking someone tends to yield the desired result, it's not that complicated.

[RandomGuy99]

Or he could try to ask if she's been busy and that might lead to a conversation on the people she gets calling and then she might say these people are annoying because they ask for handjobs and blowjobs and sex and I don't do those things and how it's disgusting.  That answers your question without you having to ask it.