How to escalate massage with ‘professional’ masseuse that is attracted to me?

[elitefreak]

So I’ve been seeing this one for a year or so. ATLEAST 10 times now…

They are Eastern European. They make comments on my body saying im so muscular and give me the smile when I see them.  They do make me nervous as im very attracted to them

Im in my 20, decently attractive and muscular

Can someone please give tips on how to escalate Today?


Their English isnt so good and I want to be bold today.

When I get naked they usually leave the room and when they are by my arm they brush my arm on their legs area always… it always turns me on. And I do more and more but not so obviously


Usually they cover my private’s with a towel. Do I say i dont want this?

Im sorry guys I just know I have a chance here and want to try to be bold and hope for the best.

The massage isnt even that good. Her pressure isnt the best but shes hot…

When I see her do I hug her and be closeby to her and ask how her day is etc?

I’d really appreciate any help…

I do have experience a few years ago when a masseuse was massaging me and she got naked and started grinding her soaking wet pussy on my dick and asked me to massage her … but I was tripping on Lucy and said nah and didnt escalate despite her giving me the go ahead for free…

Just trying to figure this out. Obviously if she shuts me down I won’t push the issue, but want to try some physical contact and if they seem ok with it then continue and escalate?

Any ideas?

It will be just me and them, and im the last person theyre seeing today.

Complete privacy.

Worst case scenario I won’t see her again n I’ll be able to get a massage from the Chinese who actually can massage ( im not that attracted to them so not arsed about that)


Best case scenario it ends well

Will really appreciate someone’s input on how to approach this without asking outright and making things awkward…

Thanks and apologies if this is not allowed

[daviemac]

Don't do it, if she covers you with a towel respect her boundaries or you could find yourself being arrested. Sexual harassment is illegal.

[elitefreak]

I understand. If she insists i of course will not push it. I am just aware she is very obviously attracted to me and wondering how to escalate this matter since she’s been cool with everything so far

[Doc Holliday]

I understand. If she insists i of course will not push it. I am just aware she is very obviously attracted to me and wondering how to escalate this matter since she’s been cool with everything so far

Welcome to the forum.

The perception she is attracted to you may not be accurate. If she is attracted to you she will make the first move. As Davie says you could be in trouble if you instigate something first.

[elitefreak]

I understand it may seem like I am being naive. She smiles at me wide eyed, like a shocked smile and when we meet she unpromptedly feels my arms etc… and always comments on how I look good etc

I feel those are enough signs and if I escalate and shes not into it I’ll apologise and won’t push it again and even give extra to say Sorry that it was a misunderstanding

[daviemac]

I understand it may seem like I am being naive. She smiles at me wide eyed, like a shocked smile and when we meet she unpromptedly feels my arms etc… and always comments on how I look good etc

I feel those are enough signs and if I escalate and shes not into it I’ll apologise and won’t push it again and even give extra to say Sorry that it was a misunderstanding

Blurring the lines between a good professional masseuse and client can be a dangerous game and apologies after the fact don't cut it.

Up to you of course but boundary pushing is frowned upon on this site.

[elitefreak]

Blurring the lines between a good professional masseuse and client can be a dangerous game and apologies after the fact don't cut it.

Up to you of course but boundary pushing is frowned upon on this site.

My apologies friend. Can you please delete this post for me?

[myothernameis]

Can someone please give tips on how to escalate Today?

When you had your first appointment, were you required to fill out any questionnaire, which contain info on inappropriate behavior

Questionnaires I have filled out, it was made clear any  inappropriate behavior, massage would end there, and possible police would be called

[Jonestown]

If you have seen her ten times in the last year and she hasn’t made a move and is still covering your genitalia then she is not lusting after you, it’s just professional behaviour, the rest is in your imagination, move on this is not doing you any good.

[RandomGuy99]

Danger!

Don't go there.

[bristolnick]

Have you asked for extras or made general chit chat?

[elitefreak]

When you had your first appointment, were you required to fill out any questionnaire, which contain info on inappropriate behavior

Questionnaires I have filled out, it was made clear any  inappropriate behavior, massage would end there, and possible police would be called

Nope no questionnaires

They just rent a room in a hair salon upstairs

[elitefreak]

Have you asked for extras or made general chit chat?

Made general chit chat yes but never asked for extras… they appear to be professional but want to try my luck at escalating

[myothernameis]

Made general chit chat yes but never asked for extras… they appear to be professional but want to try my luck at escalating

Think on here on the Glasgow massage thread, someone put this question to the girl, straight and upfront, and the answer was no

So why not straight out, just ask her

[RandomGuy99]

The simplest thing is just ask "Do you do extras?".

She might be shocked and disgusted and kick you out and then you don't go back. Better that than try to touch her which may be unwanted and the police get involved.

You could even do it while you're still dressed or even when you're making the booking via text as she knows your number assuming she does her own bookings.

[Stevelondon]

There is a whole heap of difference between a masseuse who was grinding her pussy on your dick and this lass who covers you with a towel my friend.

As others have said.

Just ask if she is offering extras.
Simple works best.

Of course you could always drop the link on here so we know who she is.

You might just get a lot of “Yes mate she sucks cock like a Dyson hoovers carpets” responses.

It’s a joke by the way. 🤷🏼

[Watts.E.Dunn]

Worse case of MAS this week i reckon;!..

[Fuzzyduck]

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Can someone please give tips on how to escalate Today?
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Given you've done nothing in the 10 previous visits, I'm not sure what the urgency is. Even if she's hot, I can't imagine seeing a masseuse 10 times if she's not that good at massage and there's no relief.

As others have said, you should tread VERY carefully. Given you've made no move so far, she might think you're not interested.

Personally I'd keep it simple. I'd ask if she minds if I didn't use a towel or, if my boner is obvious underneath, I'd ask if there's anything else she can do. If it's a no, then I'd apologise profusely and say something along the lines of "really sorry, I just find you very attractive". Under no circumstances would I look to touch her.

[Doc Holliday]

Given you've done nothing in the 10 previous visits, I'm not sure what the urgency is. Even if she's hot, I can't imagine seeing a masseuse 10 times if she's not that good at massage and there's no relief.

That's a very astute point 

[thundercatcosta]

why don't you ask her out for a drink?? sounds like you like her, probably a much safer bet than broaching the topic of extras at work when it sounds like she's legit.
Soon find out if you've read the situation right!

[shed]

why don't you ask her out for a drink?? sounds like you like her, probably a much safer bet than broaching the topic of extras at work when it sounds like she's legit.
Soon find out if you've read the situation right!

Not a good Idea

[thundercatcosta]

Not a good Idea

Why not? reads like he's a young single bloke, not every women is a professional some you might have to date if you want to get some action.......

[RandomGuy99]

Maybe she thinks he's gay?

Or she tells everyone they have a great body?

[Munter84]

If she was attracted to you, I think there would have been some kind of sign within ten sessions. Like, asking if you were single, or making it clear she's single.

Sorry to be cynical but it sounds like she knows what to say to keep you coming back for more, and that's all there is to it.

If you want to find out one way or the other, I suppose either subtly ask if she does extras, or subtly ask if she'd like to go for a drink - depending on whether you're hoping for a wank or a relationship. Prepare for her to take offence at either, unfortunately.

Just out of interest, does she (or her shop/parlour) have any reviews here, or any form for doing extras? Or does she/they have a reputation for being strictly legit?

[Watts.E.Dunn]

Yes i get this line of questioning, them sussing out your personal status !..

[Iamforreal]

How did it go?

[Thephoenix]

Maybe she thinks he's gay?

Or she tells everyone they have a great body?

Maybe she's gay? 

[Stevelondon]

Oh for fucks sake.
Who the hell is the lass. ?

[Jonestown]

Oh for fucks sake.
Who the hell is the lass. ?

EE masseuse operating from a room above a hairdressers in (probably) Newcastle, how many of those can there be ?

[LLPunting]

I'm going to bet this is a troll thread.

OP has been a punter for at least a decade and despite being muscular and handsome with a spinal issue he can't break the ice with a beauty who has been dry humping his arms in a massage situation (ok not dry humping but doing that thing certain girls do in massage situations when they, you know!)

[LLPunting]

Oh for fucks sake.
Who the hell is the lass. ?

Concur, OP should provide link to this girl's ad and let someone else tell or go suss her out. This is a punting forum after all.

[DastardlyDick]

I'll agree with #14
Ask her if extras are available - I think the answer will be no, but the worst that can happen is you get chucked out and banned.

[Fuzzyduck]

Oh for fucks sake.
Who the hell is the lass. ?

I doubt very much we'll learn this, particularly if he got anywhere. However, I hope he appreciates the expectation of some sort of response regarding the outcome. Otherwise he will be labelled a time waster and/or a troll.

[chuck_88]

No point beating around the bush, as others have said just come out and ask her rather than leaving yourself open to a sexual harassment charge.  For what it's worth she's not into you, she's doing her job and being pleasant and friendly, there's nothing more to it.  IMO 

[RandomGuy99]

No point beating around the bush, as others have said just come out and ask her rather than leaving yourself open to a sexual harassment charge.  For what it's worth she's not into you, she's doing her job and being pleasant and friendly, there's nothing more to it.  IMO 

I'm sure you won't be the first person who has asked her if she does extras. She can just say yes or no and then there's no awkwardness. If you've been turned on in previous bookings does she not spot the massive tent pole under the towel and make a comment that it's knocking the light on the ceiling or offer a blanket to cover it?

[Thephoenix]

Oh for fucks sake.
Who the hell is the lass. ?

If I knew I'd go and fuckin ask her for him. 

[RandomGuy99]

If I knew I'd go and fuckin ask her for him. 

Just send her a text message enquiry and see what she says. She might be offended or say "You have seen me for 12 months and I didn't think you were interested and you never had a tent pole, so I thought you were gay"

[Stevelondon]

EE masseuse operating from a room above a hairdressers in (probably) Newcastle, how many of those can there be ?

The reason I was asking is because the OP starts off by saying ‘They’.      Then later on it’s ‘Her’


As for guessing how many hair salons there are in The Toon.
Your definteiy asking the wrong bloke here 

[Fuzzyduck]

The reason I was asking is because the OP starts off by saying ‘They’.      Then later on it’s ‘Her’


As for guessing how many hair salons there are in The Toon.
Your definteiy asking the wrong bloke here 

I don't think he's in the Toon anyway, he seemed to be checking out after weekend there. My bet would be Manchester area.

[Massage Bloke]

My 2p:

She's EE, and according to OP, not great at massage. She makes nice comments about his body, brushes his arm and leg, and hugs him when they meet.
She might be "at it"...but waits for the client to ask for extras, rather than suggest them herself. Perhaps that's just her style. Or it might be that she is just being careful, as her upstairs gaff is above a legit trimmers, perhaps she rents from them.

Suggested course of action: ask if she does extras. My bet is she will reel off a list of prices. If not, OP should just say sorry, and that he did not mean to offend.

[RandomGuy99]

My 2p:

She's EE, and according to OP, not great at massage. She makes nice comments about his body, brushes his arm and leg, and hugs him when they meet.
She is clearly "at it"...but waits for the client to ask for extras, rather than suggest them herself. Perhaps that's just her style. Or it might be that she is just being careful, as her upstairs gaff is above a legit trimmers, perhaps she rents from them.

Suggested course of action: ask if she does extras. My bet is she will reel off a list of prices. If not, OP should just say sorry, and that he did not mean to offend.

or say "Sorry, I meant hot stones or thai massage not blowjobs and handjobs"

[Massage Bloke]

There is a SE Asian massage burd (reviewed on here) that operates out of a basement below a legit hairdressers in London, in the British Museum area. She does all the leg and arm brushes and compliments blokes about their bodies, but declines to do extras when asked.

The teasing is just to keep clients coming back for more, in the hope that next time they will get HE, but they never will.

But you have to enquire about extras first. And then, when you know the score, it's the bloke's choice to come back or not.

[Jonestown]

There is a SE Asian massage burd (reviewed on here) that operates out of a basement below a legit hairdressers in London, in the British Museum area. She does all the leg and arm brushes and compliments blokes about their bodies, but declines to do extras when asked.

The teasing is just to keep clients coming back for more, in the hope that next time they will get HE, but they never will.

But you have to enquire about extras first. And then, when you know the score, it's the bloke's choice to come back or not.

Yes I’ve seen her, she does a good massage, but the rest is just leading you on.

The OP has posters remorse, he doesn’t want to play anymore, was logged on in the early hours, but made no further comment, in fact has made no comment since he asked for thread to be deleted yesterday afternoon. Thread is more than likely kaput now.

[Massage Bloke]

Yes I’ve seen her, she does a good massage, but the rest is just leading you on.

The OP has posters remorse, he doesn’t want to play anymore, was logged on in the early hours, but made no further comment, in fact has made no comment since he asked for thread to be deleted yesterday afternoon. Thread is more than likely kaput now.

Yep,  the gaff comes back to me now. It's in Great Ormond Street.

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[advent2016]

I wouldn't generally do it as few women civvy or SP are attracted to me, only my wallet.

I sometimes do TXT a WSWS legit provider to check.

e.g.
//
Mr. Punter:Hello Sasha
I found your number in a search. I'm looking for a 30min massage and BJ
Can you give me a price and availability and any other services?
Thanks in advance
I'm free most afternoons except Friday

SP:Hi Mr. Punter, unfortunately I offer only professional massage, nothing else.

Mr. Punter:Sorry if I offended you. If I need a legit sports massage I may try you again.

SP:No worries at all. I specialise in professional Swedish relaxation massage, helping clients reduce tension, relax, and improve overall wellbeing.  You're welcome to get in touch if you'd like to book in the future.
//

I wouldn't try again. There are plenty of SPs out there.

[Thephoenix]

or say "Sorry, I meant hot stones or thai massage not blowjobs and handjobs"

Or perms????

[KatieEdinburgh]

I wouldn't generally do it as few women civvy or SP are attracted to me, only my wallet.

I sometimes do TXT a WSWS legit provider to check.

e.g.
//
Mr. Punter:Hello Sasha
I found your number in a search. I'm looking for a 30min massage and BJ
Can you give me a price and availability and any other services?
Thanks in advance
I'm free most afternoons except Friday

SP:Hi Mr. Punter, unfortunately I offer only professional massage, nothing else.

Mr. Punter:Sorry if I offended you. If I need a legit sports massage I may try you again.

SP:No worries at all. I specialise in professional Swedish relaxation massage, helping clients reduce tension, relax, and improve overall wellbeing.  You're welcome to get in touch if you'd like to book in the future.
//

I wouldn't try again. There are plenty of SPs out there.

A “legit” provider is never going to say yes to any extras over text because brings her legal issues

She might offer them in the room but you’re missing out if you keep shooting yourself in the foot with this approach 🤷‍♂️ Not sure why you thought they would say anything other than this?

[RandomGuy99]

A “legit” provider is never going to say yes to any extras over text because brings her legal issues

She might offer them in the room but you’re missing out if you keep shooting yourself in the foot with this approach 🤷‍♂️ Not sure why you thought they would say anything other than this?

This is true you don't get any mention of extras in texts from SPs working in massage shops.  They know the police might be on the other end of the message and that would get them into trouble.

I know a legit massage provider who has told me she's constantly getting asked if she does extras and the answer she always gives them is no and she does not do extra but she does a decent massage.

[Norwichwood]

Pay her a compliment back - "You're so pretty. I bet loads of guys ask you for extras? I'd be v tempted - as you as so hot"

[RandomGuy99]

She might just say no and smack your arse for being cheeky.