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As you read, I've got questions about escorts who require a deposit in order to see her, what is the right way to do it? How do I do it discreetly? I don't feel comfortable with idea, but I've noticed more and more escorts are requiring it. Including one I've seen before. I've never done it, I've no experience with it, but any tips would appreciated please. I can picture a time when all escorts start doing it.

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As you read, I've got questions about escorts who require a deposit in order to see her, what is the right way to do it? How do I do it discreetly? I don't feel comfortable with idea, but I've noticed more and more escorts are requiring it. Including one I've seen before. I've never done it, I've no experience with it, but any tips would appreciated please. I can picture a time when all escorts start doing it.
Best tip is don't pay deposits, there's loads of posts on here where it's gone wrong.

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If you don't feel comfortable doing it, then don't.

Some SPs take deposits via bank transfer but this will reveal your name in most cases.

Some SPs take deposits via gift cards which are much more discreet and you can fill them using cash at a supermarket. You just give them the code for the card via SMS and they can then redeem it. No disclosure of your name occurs.


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My first punt required me to make a deposit since I obviously didn't have any AW feedback. However she was a well reviewed girl, and it only £10 if I remember, so thought it had minimal risk. Plus I could pay by Amazon gift card so no name was revealed, and I used a different email too.

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Now times I charge deposits more often than not.
As somebody already mentioned gift cards are the best way to stay discreet both ways.
What is it You are afraid of? I must admit it bothers me when  people moan about possibility of loosing their deposit if they don’t show up, somehow it doesn’t bother them that I loose money on accommodation if they don’t show up. Very one sided.
With deposit at least I cover some of it so I don’t mind.
Did You discussed with provider what happens if You need to change date etc? Is it refundable? Is it transferable to other day if enough notice given?

Offline Blackhart

Now times I charge deposits more often than not.
As somebody already mentioned gift cards are the best way to stay discreet both ways.
What is it You are afraid of? I must admit it bothers me when  people moan about possibility of loosing their deposit if they don’t show up, somehow it doesn’t bother them that I loose money on accommodation if they don’t show up. Very one sided.
With deposit at least I cover some of it so I don’t mind.
Did You discussed with provider what happens if You need to change date etc? Is it refundable? Is it transferable to other day if enough notice given?
Thanks everyone for the replies I do appreciate it, and saying about the gift card way. I didn't know about that. Sounds much more discreet which is good. Still won't do it, but very nice to know, as I do worry it will be standard for every escort in the future, which hopefully not. Have a look on AW at the amount of escorts recently requiring one.

So responding to Michelle Independent I'm afraid/uncomfortable with the thought of giving an escort a deposit via bank transfer as I really don't want an escort to know my real name (hell no!) makes my skin crawl just thinking about it. One of the best things about punting is, its supposed to be anonymous, no real names, no strings attached, nothing. Just services and then go home, and life continues. Them knowing my (or anyone's) real name is not good at all, would you want a client to know yours? Nope. I remember I commented on a thread about Gia Diaz years ago, and I can't stand the thought of someone like that knowing my real name or having any real details about me. Or that bitch who gave me death threads *shudder* nope doesn't bare thinking about. I know you might say with new clients, it would make sense for them to pay a deposit, but I thought escorts check to see if a new client has good feedback, or sounds legit when contacting you & your gut feeling is good? If they don't have good feedback etc. would you accept a booking from them? Just pointing out with requiring a deposit, you run the risk of losing potential clients. It's an instant turn off for us. Like we don't have any way to truly know if an escort, no matter how much good feedback she may have, is really trustworthy & doesn't have a screw lose, if we haven't booked them, as we're complete strangers. Also I haven't discussed what happens if I need to change the date etc. as I've never paid a deposit.
 
« Last Edit: May 04, 2026, 07:21:24 pm by Blackhart »

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Davie is right and so is Michelle 🤷🏼

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Now times I charge deposits more often than not.
As somebody already mentioned gift cards are the best way to stay discreet both ways.
What is it You are afraid of? I must admit it bothers me when  people moan about possibility of loosing their deposit if they don’t show up, somehow it doesn’t bother them that I loose money on accommodation if they don’t show up. Very one sided.
With deposit at least I cover some of it so I don’t mind.
Did You discussed with provider what happens if You need to change date etc? Is it refundable? Is it transferable to other day if enough notice given?
This is a site for punters, so of course we will moan about the possibility. What do you expect ? Same as we wouldn't be surprised about escorts moaning about about losing money on accommodation on SAFFE !!

Offline lewisjones23

Happy to leave a deposit on their face or in their throat

Other than that, its a hard pass from me

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SPs often ask for deposits from SSs if they're relatively new at this game or they're new to the SP as they may bottle it on the way to the booking, so the SP ends up twiddling their thumbs instead of making money. The amount of the deposit doesn't fully compensate the SP for the late cancellation/no show on the booking, but it does provide an incentive for the SS as they may not be happy to lose the deposit. Given the number of late cancellations/no shows SPs sometimes experience you can understand why SPs introduce a deposit policy. The deposit amount does provide compensation for the time the SP takes in the booking process and then ultimately not making money from a booking.

I think provided the SP has a decent reputation on here and the deposit is via anonymous gift card and the amount is low like £20 then I'd pay the deposit. It wouldn't do me any harm as I know I'm going to turn up.
« Last Edit: May 04, 2026, 08:39:13 pm by RandomGuy99 »

Offline alabama1

SPs often ask for deposits from SSs if they're relatively new at this game or they're new to the SP as they may bottle it on the way to the booking, so the SP ends up twiddling their thumbs instead of making money. The amount of the deposit doesn't fully compensate the SP for the late cancellation/no show on the booking, but it does provide an incentive for the SS as they may not be happy to lose the deposit. Given the number of late cancellations/no shows SPs sometimes experience you can understand why SPs introduce a deposit policy. The deposit amount does provide compensation for the time the SP takes in the booking process and then ultimately not making money from a booking.

I think provided the SP has a decent reputation on here and the deposit is via anonymous gift card and the amount is low like £20 then I'd pay the deposit. It wouldn't do me any harm as I know I'm going to turn up.
But you don't actually 100% know that. Shit happens  :unknown:

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I do feel like it does get underestimated how many clients do actually pay a deposit. Yes, we've all heard stories when it goes wrong but I do believe that chance is low as long as you do you're due diligence on the SP. I think there is a stigma over those who do which is why many people probably won't admit that they will/have paid one.


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But you don't actually 100% know that. Shit happens  :unknown:
True, but I always try my best. If I go down sick days in advance then I will let the SP know ASAP so that they have time to get someone else booked in my slot. Most SPs are appreciative of the advance notice and not turning up sick which might infect them and cause them to take time off sick. It's the last minute cancellation or no show that really annoys them as they often can't fill the booking slot and they've lost money. IIf my plans change days in advance then I'll let the SP know and see if I can reschedule.  Most reasonable SPs will let me and not just take the deposit and deny a future booking. It's all about how you communicate with the SP and how much notice you give them. Their time is valuable and they have bills to pay and have to make money just like you, so don't mess them around. It's a business transaction. It seems reasonable to me.
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Just services and then go home, and life continues. Them knowing my (or anyone's) real name is not good at all, would you want a client to know yours? Nope.

Personally, I wouldn’t be bothered because it’s *just* a name. Lots of guys know mine.
You get to know my name when you send a deposit onto my bank account, and I will have yours on my statement somewhere, yes. But unless you hurt me, I won’t even look at it properly. 

If someone doesn’t trust me, I don’t trust them either.
I get deposits every day and so far I have managed to resist ruining anyone’s life :thumbsup:

It makes me feel safer. Even when you send me an amazon voucher, you still leave a trace. It’s not just about time wasters.

« Last Edit: May 04, 2026, 09:36:10 pm by Fitsarahgfe »

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When sending a bank transfer the name attached to the senders account will always be revealed to the recipient but I don't think the recipient needs to give her real name. An SP told me that when I send a deposit to her I'll get a message from my banking app saying that the name she'd given me doesn't match the account number and sort code but the payment will still go through. She was right. So she now knows my real name but I don't know hers. Maybe I'm too trusting but it hasn't bitten me in the bum yet.
Gift card option seems safer.

Offline Punting2022

Deposits are risky. What if you have a genuine reason to cancel. Illness death in family. Family emergancy etc.
The prosse isnt going to believe you.
Possible no reshedule and also she would have taken it.

Plenty more in the sea of aw and other websites to choose from that dont take deposits.
Reading this though. Paypal in a fake name and revolout card will be discrete, or the gift card route. Although how does a gift card benift. Have to spend in a shop. Cant be exchanged for cash. So if 300 booking. 100 gift card.
Lady only gets 200 and has to buy spend the gift card on other things rather then cash in hand

Offline ZeroCount

Although how does a gift card benift. Have to spend in a shop. Cant be exchanged for cash. So if 300 booking. 100 gift card.
Lady only gets 200 and has to buy spend the gift card on other things rather then cash in hand

Not a terrible inconvenience these days is it? Many people buy pretty much everything through Amazon anyway.

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Nobody on this thread so far seems to be taking note of the fact that there's a heck of a difference between paying a deposit to a girl who is well known by reputation and / or posts on here, and paying to an unknown random scamstress from Vivastreet or one of the other unqualified ephemeral listings sites.
Most of the problems we see are with the latter and I think that probably reflects the fact that most of our members are probably looking at getting sex from the foreign cheaper end of the market where options for scamming are rife rather than using established known professional women.

Offline alabama1

I never pay my barber, mechanic, masseur a deposit  :unknown:

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Anyone who asks for 50% or more of the total cost of the booking upfront I'd be wary of unless they check out on here. I wouldn't be paying a deposit to anyone on VS unless they checked out on here first.

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Deposits are risky. What if you have a genuine reason to cancel. Illness death in family. Family emergancy etc.
The prosse isnt going to believe you.
Possible no reshedule and also she would have taken it.

I would believe you. If you let me know early enough for me to arrange someone else in your slot, and you have a genuine reason to cancel, the deposit wouldn’t be lost.

If you cancel last minute it’s only fair that I keep the deposit, as I shouldn’t be inconvenienced. But in my case we are talking about £10, that’s roughly the cost of an hour in the hotel room I book to meet you. So that’s fair.

So in short- it’s about using a bit of common sense so neither side is inconvenienced.

Offline berksboy

Never payed a deposit and never will. Most of us have got to a meeting only to be ghosted by the SP.

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I''ve paid a deposit 3 times and not any issues. They were all with well known and well reviewed SPs from here. I didn't pay via bank transfer though.

Offline Stevelondon

Never payed a deposit and never will. Most of us have got to a meeting only to be ghosted by the SP.

I’m not sure that’s true. As scutty and random state.
Use a bit of intelligence and do your homework regarding the lass that’s asking for a deposit.
It’s not something I’ve done many times but I certainly have for a particular SP I’ve been wanting to see. One with a good rep.


There is always going to be this argument.
If you never would pay a deposit……. Then you will never lose it will you. 🤷🏼

Punters still get ghosted without paying a deposit. 🤷🏼


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I never pay my barber, mechanic, masseur a deposit  :unknown:
Well that’s bollocks. Times changed since Covid and most services require deposits and online booking now days.
Good restaurant? A deposit. Good massage place? Deposit. Nails? Deposit. Literally most services require a deposit of some kind.
Even many barbers if they any good. Although probably not in Midlands  :cool:

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Well that’s bollocks. Times changed since Covid and most services require deposits and online booking now days.
Good restaurant? A deposit. Good massage place? Deposit. Nails? Deposit. Literally most services require a deposit of some kind.
Even many barbers if they any good. Although probably not in Midlands  :cool:
Are the ones you mention here all working from established premises with established trade names, a place you can return to if anything goes wrong? or are they operating from a hotel room, short term rented flat, or Airbnb under an assumed name that's impossible to trace like SPs?

Paying a deposit to anyone comes with a risk, it's just the risk is higher with sex workers.

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Are the ones you mention here all working from established premises with established trade names, a place you can return to if anything goes wrong? or are they operating from a hotel room, short term rented flat, or Airbnb under an assumed name that's impossible to trace like SPs?

Paying a deposit to anyone comes with a risk, it's just the risk is higher with sex workers.
You will be fine as long as You choose wisely which I understand can be problematic if thinking last minute with other head :)

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Is the risk really higher with sex workers?

If you do your research on the SP then you should be fine. If you don't and decide to see an unknown on VS who has links to her OF on her ad or asks for 50% of the fee in advance then you're setting yourself up for being ripped off.

Use your brain. If something doesn't feel right then be very wary and be prepared to say no and just say your money until you can see someone you actually want to see.  If you turn up and they don't match their photos or look like someone you want to pay to have sex with you then kust politely say you're leaving and walk.
« Last Edit: May 05, 2026, 10:54:19 am by RandomGuy99 »

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You will be fine as long as You choose wisely which I understand can be problematic if thinking last minute with other head :)
You are coming across to me as a tad disrespectful.  :thumbsdown:

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You are coming across to me as a tad disrespectful.  :thumbsdown:
I see You still salty about me outing Your obsessiveness  over private messages to admin last year.
Let’s not derail a very helpful thread. I have moved on and so should You.
« Last Edit: May 05, 2026, 10:59:08 am by Michelle Independent »

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I see You still salty about me outing Your harassment’s over private messages to admin last year.
Let’s not derail a very helpful thread. I have moved on and so should You.
I am contributing to this thread in a true and honest manner. Stop trying to make out that members here have hidden agendas, and are not sincere in their comments. I am all for prostitutes contributing here, but you should not question members integrity. Maybe you should join the other site if you want to slag us off. At least you lot are tolerated here, unlike us who are barred from joining the majority of sex worker sites. Oh, and daviemac's last comment was spot on by the way !
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I am contributing to this thread in a true and honest manner. Stop trying to make out that members here have hidden agendas, and are not sincere in their comments. I am all for prostitutes contributing here, but you should not question members integrity. Maybe you should join the other site if you want to slag us off. At least you lot are tolerated here, unlike us who are barred from joining the majority of sex worker sites. Oh, and daviemac's last comment was spot on by the way !
Who is trying to make that people have hidden agendas and are not sincere? And why would I want to be slagging anybody off?I am contributing to the thread same as anybody else.  Please do move on from me, it really can’t be healthy.

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The main thing I want to contribute as an SP is the best way is the way that suits both you and the SP,  this may be finding an SP who does not require a deposit, or offers a method suitable for you.

What can be annoying is when I have said 'this method only' (I added only to try prevent the numerous 'will you accept this that and the other' requests when I only said 'this method'). I am still however asked if I can meet in the street to make the deposit in cash, accept cash sent by post, paypal, various now defunct in the UK payment apps or deposit into bank account. As recently as last week I explained to someone new, UK banks no longer allow cash deposits by a third party. I have tried several options, alternatives were abused and or problematic or no longer viable in the UK. When I have occasionally made exceptions or accepted an alternative, more often than not the punter has been very difficult either or both setting up the alternative, and or in the booking.

Sometimes even when using the method I accept, I have punters explaining to me/telling me about that method as if I am new, even though I have been accepting payments , as well as making payments that way fairly regularly for 11 years.

But going back to the above points, I mention the deposit in most of my adverts, and check most are aware of this at point of enquiry, explaining I am aware this may not be suitable for some so he has a choice as to whether to go any further. Some still try and think I will make an exception.
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Most reputable SPs will ask for £10 or £20 as a deposit. It's not a lot and it does give them more confidence in you as a SS.  If you argue or get annoyed about the deposit then it makes the SP uncomfortable that you may be problematic on the booking.  My suggestion is go with an anonymous payment method if possible. If you have confidence that the SP is reliable and not going to cause you trouble then pay via bank transfer (I never would, but it's a personal choice).

Most professional SPs have better things to be doing with their time (enjoying life, running a household, looking after family, etc.) than causing their customers drama by using your name as it appears on their bank statement. Generally, if you don't cause an SP problems then they won't cause you problems either.

If paying an SP a deposit doesn't work for you then just find another SP who doesn't ask for a deposit.  It's pretty straightforward. It's not mandatory to see a particular SP.
« Last Edit: May 05, 2026, 11:35:57 am by RandomGuy99 »

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Who is trying to make that people have hidden agendas and are not sincere? And why would I want to be slagging anybody off?I am contributing to the thread same as anybody else. Please do move on from me, it really can’t be healthy.
Don't flatter yourself  :rolleyes: It's you that's digging up the past FFS!  :crazy:

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I have no problem with paying deposits to well established and reputable escorts. However "well established and reputable" depends entirely on the amount of research you do, and what your personal definition of what those terms are. if you're not inclined to do the research, then don't pay deposits as you're likely to be stung.

Offline Blackhart

Well that’s bollocks. Times changed since Covid and most services require deposits and online booking now days.
Good restaurant? A deposit. Good massage place? Deposit. Nails? Deposit. Literally most services require a deposit of some kind.
Even many barbers if they any good. Although probably not in Midlands  :cool:
Sorry to sound rude, but to quote you "Well that's bollocks" no restaurant I've ever been too has required a paid deposit before I arrived, even after covid, the only money I've paid is for the meal/drinks. I eat out a lot and every online booking has been free, and never once charged me. Yes restaurant may prefer an online booking, but that's still free to do, you can still just turn up, with every one I've been too since covid. No barber I've used has ever required a deposit, post covid, and they are all good. No in my personal experience the only people post covid requiring a paid deposit in advance, is some escorts.
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I have to pay a deposit whenever I get my bollocks waxed, so maybe it's just lady barbers / fannywaxers who require it?

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Sorry to sound rude, but to quote you "Well that's bollocks" no restaurant I've ever been too has required a paid deposit before I arrived, even after covid, the only money I've paid is for the meal/drinks. I eat out a lot and every online booking has been free, and never once charged me. Yes restaurant may prefer an online booking, but that's still free to do, you can still just turn up, with every one I've been too since covid. No barber I've used has ever required a deposit, post covid, and they are all good. No in my personal experience the only people post covid requiring a paid deposit in advance, is some escorts.

To be fair I have eaten in restaurants who do require credit card details in advance and know of professionals who require payment in full no later than 24 hours prior.

But individual businesses vary.

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To be fair I have eaten in restaurants who do require credit card details in advance and know of professionals who require payment in full no later than 24 hours prior.

But individual businesses vary.

This isnt a food booking business. its a prosse booking. Meant to be easy, so text, book, turn up pay in person. I get some may want deposits to filter through. But plenty more fish in the sea. A punter dont like deposits, we move on to a lady who doesnt do them. .

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OP, there is no calibre of pussy that is worth paying a deposit.

Trust your gut. You don’t want to pay a deposit, you’re hesitant on paying a deposit.

Don’t do it.

This is about You. You should know that as a punter that if you send a deposit, expect to lose it.

This is about your choices, your preference. If you don’t want to, move onto someone who doesn’t require a deposit.

Very valid points raised earlier, punting goes hand in hand with anonymity. Putting a deposit down in some ways depending how you pay that said deposit, erodes your anonymity, your name at the very least.

It’s then all in their hands how they use your data. Maliciously or not.

Control what you can control, go to ones that don’t, there’s a load that don’t. Probably better quality. Don’t compromise on what you value.

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To be fair I have eaten in restaurants who do require credit card details in advance and know of professionals who require payment in full no later than 24 hours prior.

But individual businesses vary.


Restaurants also have to have a hygiene rating in the window!

The most I've seen in the window of London SPs is a red shoe!  I'm going back decades, perhaps that isn't the done thing anymore.

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You are coming across to me as a tad disrespectful.  :thumbsdown:

 :lol: :lol:

Since when have you turned into a snowflake?!

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The most I've seen in the window of London SPs is a red shoe!  I'm going back decades, perhaps that isn't the done thing anymore.

The red shoe pimp went to jail I believe, was an old EE lady.


It’s quite common in London for restaurants to require credit card details before accepting a booking, if you don’t turn up they dock your card X amount.

I personally wouldn’t pay a deposit, but I grub around at the lower end of the market and see regulars. If I was seeing some of these high end indies it would probably be another matter. It’s down to individual choice but you do have to take a reasonable & practical view.

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This isnt a food booking business. its a prosse booking. Meant to be easy, so text, book, turn up pay in person. I get some may want deposits to filter through. But plenty more fish in the sea. A punter dont like deposits, we move on to a lady who doesnt do them. .

If you are to continue being a fucking twat, posting endless crap, could you please at least learn to spell prossie correctly?

P R O S S I E

I've spelt it for you. Now you try. It's ever so easy.

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If you are to continue being a fucking twat, posting endless crap, could you please at least learn to spell prossie correctly?

P R O S S I E

I've spelt it for you. Now you try. It's ever so easy.

Give him some slack mate. English isn’t his first language  :hi:

Offline alabama1

:lol: :lol:

Since when have you turned into a snowflake?!
I was speaking on behalf of snowflakes  :lol: :lol: :drinks:
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I was speaking on behalf of snowflakes  :lol: :lol: :drinks:

 :lol: Well thank fuck for that. I was getting worried  :D :drinks:

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If you are to continue being a fucking twat, posting endless crap, could you please at least learn to spell prossie correctly?

P R O S S I E

I've spelt it for you. Now you try. It's ever so easy.
Kept the spelling like that as i know my fav banking group hates the word