Would asking for a referral be rude?

[loner]

Hi gents, just wanted to get consensus on whether asking one of your regulars (who goes abroad every now and again) if she knows any reliable colleagues that she can refer me to is potentially rude? I have no intention of moving on from her or whatever but obviously i wanna have s*x whilst shes not available and ofc I will search on my own too but was wondering if asking her was another way of getting reliable leads. Kind of like asking your GP for a specialist referral lol

[RandomGuy99]

I wouldn't.

Many SPs don't know other SPs and they don't want any comeback if they refer someone and then the SS or the other SP have problems.

[loner]

I wouldn't.

How come? You think it may jeopordize my current relationship with said girl?

[loner]

I wouldn't.

Many SPs don't know other SPs and they don't want any comeback if they refer someone and then the SS or the other SP have problems.

Ahh good point.

[RandomGuy99]

Ahh good point.

They also don't want to risk losing a customer to another SP.

Being an SP tends to be a solitary job and they don't want other people to know what they do as it's a secret. The exception would be ones that do MFF work.

[MLawro93]

They also don't want to risk losing a customer to another SP.

Being an SP tends to be a solitary job and they don't want other people to know what they do as it's a secret. The exception would be ones that do MFF work.

I've had plenty of SPs recommend others to me. Just depends on the person and whether they see others as competition.

[loner]

I've had plenty of SPs recommend others to me. Just depends on the person and whether they see others as competition.

Did you ask for the recs? or she just mentioned it. I can understand why she may not want to give out essentially consistent cash flow (me) to another SP and this may canibalise her future earnings i suppose.

[MLawro93]

Did you ask for the recs? or she just mentioned it. I can understand why she may not want to give out essentially consistent cash flow (me) to another SP and this may canibalise her future earnings i suppose.

A mixture of both.

[Strawberry]

I've had plenty of SPs recommend others to me. Just depends on the person and whether they see others as competition.

Can also be situation, location, connection with other SPs. I am in a geographical area in which most SPs keep to themselves for privacy reasons,  and or is frequented by tourers. Also I when I have recommended on the basis of knowing an SP, usually via forums and the occasional social in-person meeting, the SP and punter did not click, the first time this happened I ended up as go-between in the aftermath eg "Why hasn't he left me a report, I know he is a report writer", "Umm didn't go as expected"...was really difficult. Sometimes I am asked for contact details but they are not publically displayed, and  I do not have them anyway.

[puntingking]

Hi gents, just wanted to get consensus on whether asking one of your regulars (who goes abroad every now and again) if she knows any reliable colleagues that she can refer me to is potentially rude? I have no intention of moving on from her or whatever but obviously i wanna have s*x whilst shes not available and ofc I will search on my own too but was wondering if asking her was another way of getting reliable leads. Kind of like asking your GP for a specialist referral lol

Would Mcdonald's advise you to go to Burger King if they happened to be close? 
Would Arsenal football club ask you to go to Totteham football club if arsenal is sold out? 
Would Cadburys Chocolate advise you to buy nestle chocolate for some reason? 

All of these is No.

So why would a sp refer you to one of their competitors 

[Adoniron]

Some SPs undoubtedly know others and I have known those who talk about others in both positive and negative terms.

I wouldn't ask for a recommendation but nor can a regular expect you to abstain if she is away for any length of time. She will expect you to see other girls (whether she is away or not). When I had have had a regular it was never exclusive. She will surely know that you see other women and has no right to expect you not to.

[Jonestown]

On balance I’d say it was always a bad idea to ask your current woman to recommend other women for you to see for sex.

[loner]

Can also be situation, location, connection with other SPs. I am in a geographical area in which most SPs keep to themselves for privacy reasons,  and or is frequented by tourers. Also I when I have recommended on the basis of knowing an SP, usually via forums and the occasional social in-person meeting, the SP and punter did not click, the first time this happened I ended up as go-between in the aftermath eg "Why hasn't he left me a report, I know he is a report writer", "Umm didn't go as expected"...was really difficult. Sometimes I am asked for contact details but they are not publically displayed, and  I do not have them anyway.

That makes sense, I did not think of the possibility of a potential issue afterwards since I would never complain to my regular even if her rec was bad but yes I see the problem.

[loner]

Would Mcdonald's advise you to go to Burger King if they happened to be close? 
Would Arsenal football club ask you to go to Totteham football club if arsenal is sold out? 
Would Cadburys Chocolate advise you to buy nestle chocolate for some reason? 

All of these is No.

So why would a sp refer you to one of their competitors 

No but I saw it more as a case of a GP referring me to another DR who might be able to assist, or a solicitor helping me out referring me to another who may be more experienced in another area im having issues with etcetc

[loner]

Some SPs undoubtedly know others and I have known those who talk about others in both positive and negative terms.

I wouldn't ask for a recommendation but nor can a regular expect you to abstain if she is away for any length of time. She will expect you to see other girls (whether she is away or not). When I had have had a regular it was never exclusive. She will surely know that you see other women and has no right to expect you not to.

Ofc, she is my regular but she has loads of other regulars, and doubt she gives a toss who I shag, though she did mention in passing that she does speak to some girls in the same profession and I thought (maybe mistakenly) that if shes reliable, so there may be a higher chance of her "colleagues" being reliable as well.

[loner]

Thanks all for your replies. Ive decided not to bring it up!

[Mr Garmin]

I've had an SP say to me "you'd love x, she's really nice"  This was from a popular well regarded girl who has no shortage of clients.

So some are quite happy to share*

*either that or she was trying to get rid of me 

[Strawberry]

I've had an SP say to me "you'd love x, she's really nice"  This was from a popular well regarded girl who has no shortage of clients.

So some are quite happy to share*

*either that or she was trying to get rid of me 

Several times I have thought it could be beneficial for some punters to book other SPs, to gain experience, and or someone who would suit them better, some to realise they were taking liberties/that I had been very forgivving and patient.  I also remember recommending a client see an SP who offered a service he was constantly badgering me for. He did but she too found him difficult. Did find it funny once when an occasional client asked would I provide a reference if he booked someone else who required a reference or feedback? Up until that point he had been a 'delete all trace of me' after every booking' client' which did sometimes make it difficult to recognise him, and remember anything about him.

[MissWolf]

Can also be situation, location, connection with other SPs. I am in a geographical area in which most SPs keep to themselves for privacy reasons,  and or is frequented by tourers. Also I when I have recommended on the basis of knowing an SP, usually via forums and the occasional social in-person meeting, the SP and punter did not click, the first time this happened I ended up as go-between in the aftermath eg "Why hasn't he left me a report, I know he is a report writer", "Umm didn't go as expected"...was really difficult. Sometimes I am asked for contact details but they are not publically displayed, and  I do not have them anyway.

Total agreement here

Also like Strawberry I'm in an out of the way area, in my county there are probably 30 regular SPs, so it's unlikely that I could recommend someone that my client had not already checked out on aw and decided against for various reasons.

I don't see those SPs as rivals as they are all different to me but a also don't recommend any of them because I  have no idea what their services are like.

I've had guys contact me telling me so and so recommended me and one guy who said he had been discussing me with another local escort and she had said he should try me, I refused the booking for discretionary reasons,  he couldn't understand why.

[puntingking]

No but I saw it more as a case of a GP referring me to another DR who might be able to assist, or a solicitor helping me out referring me to another who may be more experienced in another area im having issues with etcetc

ok 

[puntingking]

Thanks all for your replies. Ive decided not to bring it up!

 

[MaxVerstappen]

Hi gents, just wanted to get consensus on whether asking one of your regulars (who goes abroad every now and again) if she knows any reliable colleagues that she can refer me to is potentially rude? I have no intention of moving on from her or whatever but obviously i wanna have s*x whilst shes not available and ofc I will search on my own too but was wondering if asking her was another way of getting reliable leads. Kind of like asking your GP for a specialist referral lol

You know what they say> there is no such thing as a stupid question, only a stupid answer.