A prossie or a bit on the side !!

[Dodo]

Just a personal observation/experience but:-

I find sex with a 'bit on the side' in general, to be more satisfying than a good session with a prossie (leaving possible 'mistress' baggage aside).
For me to shag the girl behind the bar, the secretary at work, the neighbours misses, etc. gives me a better all round experience. To go down the pub and see the girl I am going to give a good seeing to at the weekend  being flirted with by the regulars just gives the whole thing something extra ( as well as probably being riskier).

A shag with a prossie is just that, a shag.

Am I alone ??

[SirFrank]

I've tried it all over the years and while I personally find sex with someone you know can be more natural and satisfying, it comes with too many complications; notably emotions. I've also tried swinging and ditto there. Met a few people several times and it started to get too complicated. I'm now well choosy but would rather punt with a girl who provides a 5* service than end up in a complicated emotional mind fuck with someone who inevitably ends up wanting more than just sex.

[tomato sauce and waffles]

Both would be good.

[Trevor12]

If only I could find a bit on the side. I'd save a fortune.

[Old monk]

I've tried it all over the years and while I personally find sex with someone you know can be more natural and satisfying, it comes with too many complications; notably emotions. I've also tried swinging and ditto there. Met a few people several times and it started to get too complicated. I'm now well choosy but would rather punt with a girl who provides a 5* service than end up in a complicated emotional mind fuck with someone who inevitably ends up wanting more than just sex.

I couldnt agree with this more, whilst I understand the fascination of the flirting, the stealthy meet ups, the discreet texting, touching and kissing. Indeed I love all of these things but in reality Im perfectly happy with my wife and home, most would think me beyond lucky with how my cards have been dealt and so I couldn't deal with the emotional clusterfuck my life would become if I actually fell for someone else.
Yes, I pay for the attention, the pretence, the GFE as it were and I don't mind because at the end of the day all I want is a simple transaction based on cash!!
Actually being involved emotionally with some one would cause me to 

[carlisle78]

I've tried it all over the years and while I personally find sex with someone you know can be more natural and satisfying, it comes with too many complications; notably emotions. I've also tried swinging and ditto there. Met a few people several times and it started to get too complicated. I'm now well choosy but would rather punt with a girl who provides a 5* service than end up in a complicated emotional mind fuck with someone who inevitably ends up wanting more than just sex.

+1

When you pay for it - you not only pay for the sex but the ability to walk away after with no complications (in most cases).

Couldn't be arsed with the emotional issues and that come with pulling civvies.

[Jimmyredcab]

If only I could find a bit on the side. I'd save a fortune.

Not always.
A civvy girl could prove an expensive option.   

With pro$$ies you pay as you go.     

[Dodo]

I've tried it all over the years and while I personally find sex with someone you know can be more natural and satisfying, it comes with too many complications; notably emotions. I've also tried swinging and ditto there. Met a few people several times and it started to get too complicated. I'm now well choosy but would rather punt with a girl who provides a 5* service than end up in a complicated emotional mind fuck with someone who inevitably ends up wanting more than just sex.

I know what you mean.......our problem is 'wandering dick syndrome'      Wish there was a fuckin pill for it .

[Aspen]

Wish there was a fuckin pill for it .

Chemical castration.

Go out and commit a serious sex offence and you'll eventually be offered it for free.

Not recommended by any measure.

[Aspen]

If only I could find a bit on the side. I'd save a fortune.

Those are the thoughts of a lot of guys.

If all you want is an intense sexual experience, a really good prostitute is hard to beat though. That's why they are sought after. Not many 'bits on the side' have the experience or the skills. Unfortunately there aren't many prossies around that are that good.

[cueball]

Not always.
A civvy girl could prove an expensive option.   

With pro$$ies you pay as you go.     

Yeah, they're like mobile phones, prossies are pay-as-you-go and the civvies are contract, some contracts have severe penalties if you to leave early

[Jimmyredcab]

Yeah, they're like mobile phones, prossies are pay-as-you-go and the civvies are contract, some contracts have severe penalties if you to leave early

Indeed, ask Paul McCartney.       

[SUMO61]

I've done both and i'd never have an affair again.

Woman at work, single parent, gagging for me. I got lots of hints from her and eventually a sex text from her. Never had one before, it was pure porn what she wanted to do with me.

So, we had a chat. She said it was total ' no strings ' just fun, dirty shagging...

So, off to hers at lunchtime and on the job.We had several sessions, over a week or two..

Then, the emotional shit started eg ' that's it, you've had your way, go and see wifey..' etc.

Total nightmare. Had to really talk her down slowly and I went away on a fishing trip for a week. I texted her to say we had to stop and didn't sleep a wink all night.

Text came back ' i've met somebody else, so don't bother...'  Phew, what a relief..

It's over ten years ago now and I think it's buried now, thank goodness.

NEVER NEVER believe in a no strings shag/affair. Punting is the only way to go.....

[Dodo]

Yeah, they're like mobile phones, prossies are pay-as-you-go and the civvies are contract, some contracts have severe penalties if you to leave early

Great analogy

[Aspen]

Yeah, they're like mobile phones, prossies are pay-as-you-go and the civvies are contract, some contracts have severe penalties if you to leave early

Whereas with PAYG they quite like it if you use your credit up quickly.

[smiths]

Just a personal observation/experience but:-

I find sex with a 'bit on the side' in general, to be more satisfying than a good session with a prossie (leaving possible 'mistress' baggage aside).
For me to shag the girl behind the bar, the secretary at work, the neighbours misses, etc. gives me a better all round experience. To go down the pub and see the girl I am going to give a good seeing to at the weekend  being flirted with by the regulars just gives the whole thing something extra ( as well as probably being riskier).

A shag with a prossie is just that, a shag.

Am I alone ??

Having an affair nearly blew my life apart as the woman turned out to be a classic bunny boiler so punting is less risky and avoids emotions like love coming into play. Just fucking a non-WG now and again with no relationship on the cards is nice though, only problem with that is even though they have agreed its no strings and just fucking some get all clingy.

[Dodo]

Have to agree wth most of the above lads as far as risk issues are concerned but question was 'do you get more from an 'acquaintance shag'. It's that knowing them that does it for me.

Meeting a prossie  for a coffee before a punt with her in her civvies might get a bit towards that 'knowing' her feeling but price of coffee plus extra half hour would hit the wallet. But that walk to her apartment in the knowledge you are going to fuck the arse off her might just tip the balance.

[tbrad]

sounds like you need a girlfriend and are craving the emotions a relationship brings,

[Dodo]

sounds like you need a girlfriend and are craving the emotions a relationship brings,

Err, no, it sounds like I just have a slight preference for shaggin someone I know over a prossie.......nothing more nothing less.  Why do so many on here have to set themselves up as fucking amateur psychologists. ...... If your up for that there are plenty of forums out there.

As it happens I have a great partner in every sense but I also have a dick that likes to travel about a bit as yours probably does.

[GreyDave]

Yeah, they're like mobile phones, prossies are pay-as-you-go and the civvies are contract, some contracts have severe penalties if you to leave early

+1 and SirFrank is right on to.

Have seen some in past who gave a frequent fuckers card bit like the Orange Wednesday thing so the phone link is best comp..

[tbrad]

Err, no, it sounds like I just have a slight preference for shaggin someone I know over a prossie.......nothing more nothing less.  Why do so many on here have to set themselves up as fucking amateur psychologists. ...... If your up for that there are plenty of forums out there.

As it happens I have a great partner in every sense but I also have a dick that likes to travel about a bit as yours probably does.

well you are the guy (on a punting forum) talking about how you like shagging civvys,
thats great and everything, but maybe you should try your luck on a dating site like match or e harmony rather than punting?
 
because what you are looking generally isnt a part of the punting process, 

[LL]

I'd rather stick with prossies as that way I can keep the risks lower. For example I don't risk RO nor OWO with anyone apart from my partner. If I were to have an affair my lover might find me too selfish and too vanilla. With a prossie, since I'm paying I don't have to be concerned about satisfying her sexually - it's just about me and what I want.

[Dodo]

well you are the guy (on a punting forum) talking about how you like shagging civvys,
thats great and everything, but maybe you should try your luck on a dating site like match or e harmony rather than punting?
 
because what you are looking generally isnt a part of the punting process,

Fuck me, all I made was an observation....either agree with it or not but don't try and read to much into it......as I said to many amateur psychologists. 
Yes, I like fucking civvies and don't need a dating site to do that. I also like fuckin prossie's and fuck me, I also like having a Thai massage followed by a hand job.
My post was just about stating a preference.

[myothernameis]

Where I work, supermarket, there always a chance to get a bit on the side, especially at the xmas night out, if hosted in a hotel, which we do every 5 years, and were due one next year

You would expect the girls I work with to be proper and nice, not sluts, give them a few drinks, and they change

Last month, seems someone had been to see the still game, and they liked boaby, well one of the girls said, she likes to suck cock   

That got the attention of some of the guys, and I asked would you suck my cock, she replied yes in jest.  A lot of the time in work, discussion about sex comes up about sex, and in detail as well

My best bit on the side, was back in 2009, xmas dinner and dance, and I had a room booked, I had a crush on one of the managers, and there were rumours about her being a right slut, once she has a few drinks

On the night, she was seated next to me, and she kept on grabbing my leg, she knew I had a room, and there was drink in the room, me and some of the guys had our own we party, before dinner

So me and the manager, go to my room, now we get in the room, and before I can speak, she has pushed me onto the bed, and were now kissing, doesn't take long for us to get naked

45 mins later we return to the dinning room, it has been noticed were been gone for 45 mins, but no ones know what we were up to, but the manager told some of  the girls, so next day in work, everyone knew, I didn't care, as I had just fucked a hot manager, and it seems other colleagues have tried aswell

[ManInBlack]

Some of these points may have been covered by others, but my view....

I punt for the variety it offers me, something I didn't get in my early twenties when I should've been out shagging all sorts.

I'm attached so it's convenient, as long as I take all the necessary precautions.

I wouldn't say no to a bit on the side, but I reckon they could be more trouble than they're worth.  Also I don't really have the time, and possibly the confidence, to actively seek one.

Another plus side is I can punt to suit my needs, a bit on the side would require a bit more give and take I suspect.

[Jumping Jack Flash]

A WG for me.

I had an affair about 7 years ago and she became so possessive, a real bunny boiler. After I dropped her She'd turn up where I work and sit outside for a few hours. She'd then follow me and threatened to tell my missus. I had never told her my address so she thought she just had to follow me home and confront my missus. I don't know how I managed it but every time I managed to lose her, either at a traffic light or a busy junction. She was a cautious driver which helps you lose someone! It was so stressful and she was a crap shag!

So I got my fingers burnt and even now if I drive through the area where she lives I shudder to think of what happened and what could have happened if she had met my missus.

So it's a nice cash transaction with no strings for me please!

[Quesadilla]

Personally couldn't live a lie and deal with the guilt either with an affair or punting - the fact that I wanted to look elsewhere confirmed I really was unhappy in my marriage and could see no good reason not to end my marriage and have the best sex of my life utterly free of guilt and consequences!   
Just to present a third alternative which, like it or not, has it's merits.

[justfornow]

sounds like you need a girlfriend and are craving the emotions a relationship brings,

My mate that knows i'm punting has same opinion as OP.
It has nothing to do with emotions in a relationships its about the thrill of the hunt.
Personally i don't care about that thrill:D punting is fucking great for so many reasons
at times i think the whole dating thing caters more to women than men.
In the end it's like with everything else...each to their own.

[herelonely]

sounds like you need a girlfriend and are craving the emotions a relationship brings,

Couple of months ago I'd have said disagreed with this, I'd never had an affair and just 'plodded on' at home, putting occasionally when finances allowed. However, I then met someone through work and we fell into an affair - seems the above comment may have applied to me without me knowing it!

I wander how many of us would question our punting lives if, despite being married, we 'met someone'. The guys saying about complicated with emotions etc are bang on!