External Link/Members OnlyExternal Link/Members OnlyHi All,
Was looking to arrange an outcall with Brenda recently. She asked for a deposit, and as an inexperienced punter I agreed. Conversation had been pleasant up to that point and a level of trust had been established.
Unfortunately as the time to meet came, she said that she had a "swollen leg", sent some pictures of it and that she couldn't come. I thought fair enough she hasn't blocked me and has been fairly pleasant up to now, I'll give her the benefit of the doubt.
Attempted to arrange a few more times over the next few days but was met with the same excuse. She was apologetic and said that she would refund my deposit if I wanted. At the time I said no it's fine we can rearrange the meet.
I noticed that she was becoming irritable and argumentative over text when I was seeking to arrange to meet, and eventually I just asked if she could return the deposit. This set her off saying that I "didnt understand her situation" and that she had already sent the money to her family etc, and it was rude to ask because she obviously hadn't been able to work due to her leg.
Last night, about 5 days after sending the deposit, I flatly asked for it back and that we could rearrange another time to meet when she was better. She said she didn't want to meet me anymore as I'd asked for the refund and that I'd have to wait another 5 days for the deposit to be returned.
Having been strung out for about 4 days already, I decided to call it quits at this point. Didn't fly off the handle over text or give any specific indication that I wasn't going to pursue it any more, just blocked her and moved on. Strange she didn't just block me and decided to string it out, potentially she was being legit the whole time but I'm not really about chasing someone for money that's being rude and difficult, would rather just move on with my life and take the experience forward into new interactions.
Cautionary tale for the newbie here and have learned my lesson. A £175 lesson, but £175 well spent in my mind to never deal in deposits again.
Will update if I ever receive the money back to my paypal, but not holding out any hope with this one.
I'm sure there's a lot of legitimate WGs out there that deal in deposits, but at least for the time being I'll be avoiding those that request.