Fallen out with a regular of 25 years

[Thephoenix]

So she will have worked out who you are then by reading this and the fact you appear to be a car crash in slow motion 

Slow motion?..... Seems like full throttle to me.

[daviemac]

smells of bull sugar
general question
can you have multiple identities on here
some of the members on here have multiple identities on aw
girls on aw can track them

You can try but if you look through the site you'll find loads of banning reasons as having multiple accounts.
5 Multiple accounts
Creating multiple identities will result in the banning of all accounts.

some of the members on here have multiple identities on aw

How do you know?

[Jujy78]

I don't mind my post being hijacked but damn some people are in worse situation than me 🤣

I somehow feel it's a wind up though. I'm ok though I always knew it was transactional and the service I was getting from my side at least I wouldn't get elsewhere.

I feel a bit hurt as I've known her for 25 years so I think that's a bit normal I ain't in love or losing sleep over it. Just wanted to share it within my secret community.

But to the guy that's head over heels with his SP. If true You do need help mate totally unhealthy if it's affecting your normal and day to day life.

[JustaPunter]

Hey
 I am going to meet her soon so just in a good mood 😊
She likes when I call her that
Its not that deep
But I will take your reasoned advice
And srop commenting

School Holidays are only 6 weeks, have you thought about joining a Club to keep you occupied?

[PilotMan]

School Holidays are only 6 weeks, have you thought about joining a Club to keep you occupied?

He can join the one you're in and you can be besties.

[Doc Holliday]

He can join the one you're in and you can be besties.

 

Accusing a poster of being of school age is an oft used, favourite slur, but is seldom (if ever) the case.

It is most definitely not the case here.

All a bit of fun ... but perhaps no longer wise to make the accusation, given that we are in the era of age verification?

Possible that such accusations may undermine that process? Just a thought?

[Blackpool Rock]

Accusing a poster of being of school age is an oft used, favourite slur, but is seldom (if ever) the case.

It is most definitely not the case here.

All a bit of fun ... but perhaps no longer wise to make the accusation, given that we are in the era of age verification?

Possible that such accusations may undermine that process? Just a thought?

Imagine if someone hacked their Dad's profile  Or their Mum's 

[stevesucks69]

I don't mind my post being hijacked but damn some people are in worse situation than me 🤣

I somehow feel it's a wind up though. I'm ok though I always knew it was transactional and the service I was getting from my side at least I wouldn't get elsewhere.

I feel a bit hurt as I've known her for 25 years so I think that's a bit normal I ain't in love or losing sleep over it. Just wanted to share it within my secret community.

But to the guy that's head over heels with his SP. If true You do need help mate totally unhealthy if it's affecting your normal and day to day life.

Have you named her yet....

[Fuzzyduck]

Have you named her yet....

Why would he do that? Would you?

[pbrown355]

Most of us wouldn't be needing to name someone in this scenario.

[Thehatedone]

Jujy78 sorry for the hijack again mate this in my final message
A little update on my situation for all who have been commenting here
I went to meet her after work
She immediately ambushed me
she found out I have been writing about her
Someone sent her screen shots of some of my messages I guess shes been telling about me to someone and they recognised parts of whatever story she told them
I couldnt lie so told her yes its me
She was scared i exposed her but we went through all my messages about her and showed her I havent name dropped her or made a comment on a discussion about her at all
I have promised her I wont share anything personal but she told me things which make it abundantly clear that I never had a shot
She didnt actually think I was serious about marriage anyway and thought im role playing and she played along
Had no idea I really feel this way
I dont buy this at all but whatever
We mutually agreed it is best it i dont see her for a while she will let me know when its ok
But i can text her if I ever want to talk
I guess cheers to whoever grassed on me you saved me time and money
But fuck you also
And fuck me too for being deceived I dont like to ever shift blame and take accountability for everything
She was just giving a service I decided to see what I wanted to see out of it
I allowed myself to be put into this vulnerable position threw my logic out the window
If this reaches you as promised Ill never name you
But im never seeing u again either
Ill consider this a sunk cost and dive into my work and a whole lot of whores until the feelings get bored pack up their bags and leave me the hell alone !
Cheers

[Cheltclient]

Jujy78 sorry for the hijack again mate this in my final message
A little update on my situation for all who have been commenting here
I went to meet her after work
She immediately ambushed me
she found out I have been writing about her
Someone sent her screen shots of some of my messages I guess shes been telling about me to someone and they recognised parts of whatever story she told them
I couldnt lie so told her yes its me
She was scared i exposed her but we went through all my messages about her and showed her I havent name dropped her or made a comment on a discussion about her at all
I have promised her I wont share anything personal but she told me things which make it abundantly clear that I never had a shot
She didnt actually think I was serious about marriage anyway and thought im role playing and she played along
Had no idea I really feel this way
I dont buy this at all but whatever
We mutually agreed it is best it i dont see her for a while she will let me know when its ok
But i can text her if I ever want to talk
I guess cheers to whoever grassed on me you saved me time and money
But fuck you also
And fuck me too for being deceived I dont like to ever shift blame and take accountability for everything
She was just giving a service I decided to see what I wanted to see out of it
I allowed myself to be put into this vulnerable position threw my logic out the window
If this reaches you as promised Ill never name you
But im never seeing u again either
Ill consider this a sunk cost and dive into my work and a whole lot of whores until the feelings get bored pack up their bags and leave me the hell alone !
Cheers

Good lord. Doesn’t get any better does it.

I think I’ve come to the conclusion this is all a fantasy and some trolling. There might be some truth to some bits but I suspect most is just make believe. And I’m 99% sure this won’t be his last post. I’ve no idea who the SP is or whether she’s a nightmare too but regardless, could you imagine (if any of it is true) having to deal with a guy like this. Dodgy stuff.

[MLawro93]

Good lord. Doesn’t get any better does it.

I think I’ve come to the conclusion this is all a fantasy and some trolling. There might be some truth to some bits but I suspect most is just make believe. And I’m 99% sure this won’t be his last post. I’ve no idea who the SP is or whether she’s a nightmare too but regardless, could you imagine (if any of it is true) having to deal with a guy like this. Dodgy stuff.

Yep. Genuinely believe this to be some fantasy. No one can accurately identify who the girl is, unless it was them reading it. Makes no sense.  I mean the whole thing doesn't. Perhaps some parts have some truth, but I genuinely think most of it is in OP's head.

Makes no sense why the SP wouldn't want to be named as well. Done nothing wrong. Just genuinely bizarre. Man needs a good timeout and to take a break.

[JontyR]

I dont like to ever shift blame and take accountability for everything

Think you posted this on the wrong thread. Try this one https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=276717.0

[Blackpool Rock]

Good lord. Doesn’t get any better does it.

I think I’ve come to the conclusion this is all a fantasy and some trolling. There might be some truth to some bits but I suspect most is just make believe. And I’m 99% sure this won’t be his last post. I’ve no idea who the SP is or whether she’s a nightmare too but regardless, could you imagine (if any of it is true) having to deal with a guy like this. Dodgy stuff.

Yeah I came to the same conclusion a while back, hopefully it will be his last post fullstop and that clock will run down to zero 

[dub6747]

It's pure 🦬 💩 ... can he not be fucked off admin 🙈🙉🙊

[Blackpool Rock]

It's pure 🦬 💩 ... can he not be fucked off admin 🙈🙉🙊

These things have a habit of coming to a natural conclusion in time   

[dub6747]

Yeah suppose so BR. Boring af though isn't it 😴

[Cheltclient]

Yeah I came to the same conclusion a while back, hopefully it will be his last post fullstop and that clock will run down to zero 

I’m a bit slower on the uptake. Got there in the end though. 

[Cheltclient]

Yeah suppose so BR. Boring af though isn't it 😴

I can take some blame. Probably should have just ignored all the nonsense and not humoured him. But couldn’t help commenting. Based upon how the posts just got worse, was probably just helping him with the fantasy by commenting.

[Thehatedone]

Hey guys I didn't lie about anything or even say anything outrageous or unbelievable?
My tone was just not in keeping with this forum which edges more jaded and cynical
Im not there yet
still in my apprenticeship phase
I know its a mistake to be candid as I was here
but Im a more emotional type I develop feelings easily
Dont act like youre above emotions just because youve numbed yourself with enough soulless punts to forget what they look like

Anyway let's put this show to bed..

[scutty brown]

We need to define a new syndrome for this thread.
Not EAS but............AAS.   Asinine Attachment Syndrome  (or should it be Arsole Attachment Syndrome) ?

[Thehatedone]

Lol Fair enough scutty
I get how I would come across to you
I’ll hold back from further commentary for now
at least until Ive contributed something more substantial
namely more reviews and fewer tantrums

[LLPunting]

Hey guys I didn't lie about anything or even say anything outrageous or unbelievable?
My tone was just not in keeping with this forum which edges more jaded and cynical
Im not there yet
still in my apprenticeship phase
I know its a mistake to be candid as I was here
but Im a more emotional type I develop feelings easily
Dont act like youre above emotions just because youve numbed yourself with enough soulless punts to forget what they look like

Anyway let's put this show to bed..

You made a number of misjudgements:
1)  Over-sharing on a punting forum information you should really be talking to your therapist about.
2)  Knowing full well that you are over-attached to a lass who is just trying to make a living, you came here to sound off about your feelings of being slighted.  If your feelings of involvement were sincere and full formed then you'd have considered her concerns and right to privacy and not said anything.
3)  Knowing yourself (or claiming to) and your propensity to get attached you continued to see an SP enough to feed your fantasy but not to actually engage with her in something you might both discuss and agree was anything more than a friendly SP seeing an infrequent client.
4)  Returning here after you understandably took some unsympathetic commentary and advice to further act out, throw shade and blame some of us for your hurt feelings.
5)  The person you claim grassed this thread out to her was showing her more respect than you did because you conceitedly thought you were keeping her identity a secret to feed your self image as a stand up guy and yet you failed.
6)  A number of your actions here show that you are avoiding your true responsibility in this situation and looking to blame others for what you did to yourself.
7). You may indeed be more emotionally open than others who have responded here but you have zero clue about the emotional capacities of any of these respondents.  Just because someone is harsh to you (an emotional response) doesn't me they are less emotional, empathetic or sympathetic than you.

Best piece of advice...  Stop punting and get some good counselling to deal with your actual issue(s), you will be richer and better off in mind and spirit probably sooner, after which you can prosper romantically in civvieland or return to enjoy punting with a healthy and resilient emotional state.

NOTE:  much of what has been said to you comes from prior experience and reflection by those who have gone before you and paid more heed at the time or in regret or foolishness.  So whether you liked the tone or note it was all helpful if you chose to pay heed.

[Fuzzyduck]

Lol Fair enough scutty
I get how I would come across to you
I’ll hold back from further commentary for now
at least until Ive contributed something more substantial
namely more reviews and fewer tantrums

FFS don't you ever keep your word? You've said this half a dozen times already. I can't help but think of that turd that just won't flush.

[ForkEscort]

she told me things which make it abundantly clear that I never had a shot

she's done you a favour mate.  take it to heart and move on.

I guess cheers to whoever grassed on me you saved me time and money

they've also done you a favour.

If this reaches you as promised Ill never name you
But im never seeing u again either

for both of your sakes, i hope you stick to this.  if you don't then i won't be surprised to read some kind of headline along the lines of "deranged stalker <violent criminal action> sex worker in <hotel chain name>" in a few years time.

considering your comments regarding work and whores at the end of that post you are likely of an obsessive nature.  find some professional help.

[PilotMan]

I do appreciate the OP at least responding to the comments but...

@Fuzzyduck - I was thinking exactly the same. Why make a proclamation that you're going to leave it be, then keep on chirping up 

@LLPunting - What you have said is a brilliant summation of the situation IMO.

[Fuzzyduck]

....
@Fuzzyduck - I was thinking exactly the same. Why make a proclamation that you're going to leave it be, then keep on chirping up 
....

Because he has an addiction and can't help himself. Assuming you entertain the idea that there is some truth to all this (I'm on the fence), then he is unable to act rationally. The claim that he won't see her ever again just made me roll my eyes.

[Doc Holliday]

Are you guys aware of the new thread he started last night? As I posted in it this morning, everyone needs to stop feeding him.

[Fuzzyduck]

Are you guys aware of the new thread he started last night? As I posted in it this morning, everyone needs to stop feeding him.

Ah no. I saw the one on drooling and just concluded he was a twat with some serious issues. I've now fallen off the fence on the fantasist troll side.

[Coriniumstud]

This is turning into an Eastenders Storyline where it drags on and on

[Doc Holliday]

Ah no. I saw the one on drooling and just concluded he was a twat with some serious issues. I've now fallen off the fence on the fantasist troll side.

I actually missed the drooling one  Now 100% troll IMO.

[Blackpool Rock]

Are you guys aware of the new thread he started last night? As I posted in it this morning, everyone needs to stop feeding him.

Yeah, I decided not to post on it as it will just keep popping back up when there are new unread replies plus as you say it just provides more oxygen

And I thought Gurds started some unusual threads but he's gone quiet recently 

[Blackpool Rock]

I actually missed the drooling one  Now 100% troll IMO.

Doc it gets even better he's done another review, obviously he's played it safe though as -

She's a Romanian Barebacker
He found the profile on a Bareback avoidance thread
He then references that PumpDump was due to see this girl

 

[flod]

Been on this site for a year without saying anything, but this thread has tempted me out of my intention of not posting anything.

OP, yes punts are transactional. But as a regular of 25 years 🤯, she's definitely going to have a soft spot for you. It's human nature, when you are around someone for such a long time and see eachother grow over time. You probably have had a big impact on her actually.

Yet she's still going to charge you for the punts. And even cancellation fees.

This doesn't take away from the very real emotional connection you have when you're with her though.

From her perspective, she expects you to understand that she needs money and that this is her job. From her POV, she might be thinking like what we have this connection so now he treats me worse than a regular punter by not paying a cancellation fee? Imagine for instance if by being a regular, it meant that the escort decides to no longer have sex with you. Imagine thinking "She doesn't need to, you're a regular!" Kind of the same thing with the money transaction right. She has needs.

You have needs. From an alternative perspective, if anything, the connection you have should make this understanding stronger rather than weaker.

And think of actual relationships. The man is the provider, it's an expectation. Like going to dinner with your wife and you always pay, and then once you like don't pay or something. She's going to be confused and possibly angry. Yet the connection remains.

Regarding everyone's opinion on this forum. Understand that punters need to have a self-defense mechanism to avoid falling in love with escorts, and so they have to repeat the important mantra "it's only transactional". This is because men fall in love very easily, so your average Joe needs to repeat this to avoid mugging themselves.

But there's nuance, and nuance is lost on the vast majority of people.

[daviemac]

Been on this site for a year without saying anything, but this thread has tempted me out of my intention of not posting anything.

This is not the way the site works mate, we are a sharing community and we encourage all members to share their reviews to help others and keep the community thriving.

Not contributing could lead to you being flagged as such and once flagged the 30 day ban timer begins, posting a review within that time will maintain your membership.

[JustaPunter]

Accusing a poster of being of school age is an oft used, favourite slur, but is seldom (if ever) the case.

It is most definitely not the case here.

All a bit of fun ... but perhaps no longer wise to make the accusation, given that we are in the era of age verification?

Possible that such accusations may undermine that process? Just a thought?

Except I was right as he has been banned for trolling the forum…

[JustaPunter]

He can join the one you're in and you can be besties.

You get that the person I implied was a troll has been banned for being a troll ?

You just hate being wrong all the time.

[PilotMan]

You get that the person I implied was a troll has been banned for being a troll ?

You just hate being wrong all the time.

You're taking the piss out of another member inferring that he's a child.

My intention toward you is because you haven't posted a review in coming up for two years.

The irony is that you are trolling others for not making worthy contributions, but are failing to make worthy contributions yourself.

[Doc Holliday]

Except I was right as he has been banned for trolling the forum…

I suggest you read the thread(s) again. You were not right. I have accused him of being a troll ... you twice accused him of being a schoolboy. He is clearly not of school age which was the point of my post that you have quoted.

[PilotMan]

I suggest you read the thread(s) again. You were not right. I have accused him of being a troll ... you twice accused him of being a schoolboy. He is clearly not of school age which was the point of my post that you have quoted.

+1 Clearly unable to understand, or is confused over what he thinks he was right about.

JustaPunter is not punting (no reviews since 2023) so maybe he should change his name to JustaTroll 

[flod]

This is not the way the site works mate, we are a sharing community and we encourage all members to share their reviews to help others and keep the community thriving.

Not contributing could lead to you being flagged as such and once flagged the 30 day ban timer begins, posting a review within that time will maintain your membership.

Oh damn, I mean paid my £30. You'd ban me if I don't do enough punts to share reviews?

How many reviews have we got to do in how much amount of time. Didn't know about this.

[daviemac]

Oh damn, I mean paid my £30. You'd ban me if I don't do enough punts to share reviews?

How many reviews have we got to do in how much amount of time. Didn't know about this.

You have openly stated you had no intention of contributing, if that is the case why did you join an escort ans massage review site?

Do you think it's fair for members to go to the trouble of posting reviews but not to get any information in return?

How long will the site last if everybody had your attitude of only taking and not giving anything back? Reviews are the life blood of the forum.

Perhaps reread the rules you scrolled though and agreed to when you signed up, there's a link at the bottom of every page.

[JustaPunter]

+1 Clearly unable to understand, or is confused over what he thinks he was right about.

JustaPunter is not punting (no reviews since 2023) so maybe he should change his name to JustaTroll 

If you want to know what a Troll looks like it’s the bloke who was banned for being a troll

You on the other hand are just you, and nobody else is to blame for that but you.

I also don’t see different SPs to those I have already reviewed and multiple reviews of the same SP could be considered touting.

Would you prefer I used words with less syllables ?

There are more ways to contribute than just reviews, such as when I recommended a Forum Member consider overlooking wanting CIM and Facials and to go a see Ivy Bunny.

That’s called contributing, you on the other hand seem to want to defend people trolling the forum, even after the troll is banned…

[JustaPunter]

You're taking the piss out of another member inferring that he's a child.

My intention toward you is because you haven't posted a review in coming up for two years.

The irony is that you are trolling others for not making worthy contributions, but are failing to make worthy contributions yourself.

I suggest seeing somebody, or maybe a medication review

If you can’t see I was implying the person was a troll you really can’t be helped.

Why not go for a Cycle with your club?

[mr.bluesky]

I suggest seeing somebody, or maybe a medication review

If you can’t see I was implying the person was a troll you really can’t be helped.

Why not go for a Cycle with your club?

That'll be the only ride he'll get 

[Pleiades]

25 years on, she must at least be in her mid forties ? Why don't you replace her with a younger regular 

Sounds to me like op has feelings for her, not judging, I've been there myself before but recognise the signs. Most don't travel those sorts of distances unless it's more than just sex.