Even when it’s listed, I think WGs will often take their lead from you. I wasn’t seeking it today, and even when I am I usually wait to see if it’s offered.
I’m also under no illusions that as one gets to the wrong side of forty (lol), they just might not fancy snogging you. Some guys ‘demand’ value from a punt, I’m pretty chilled and tend to read the room and make sure the WG is comfortable. It’s worked for me so far..