Do we have a psychiatrist on here who will tell me why and question whether i was bottle fed or not?
Not a psychiatrist but a bit mental!
At least, I've been to a sex therapist recently and this was a subject that came up. Not sure why.
Firstly there's still debate about whether sex addiction is a real thing or not. The definition seems to be - if it's out of control or causing you a problem in your day-to-day affairs then you may have an addiction. E.g. causing you to lie, cheat, steal, or otherwise misbehave, risking your relationships / job, causing you financial problems etc.
Hmmmmm.....
So whether it be drink, drugs, food, gambling or sex all addictions have the same root. Firstly it's all related to dopamine production which is part of your brains reward system. It's an evolutionary trait designed to ensure we do things that improve our chances of survival. So food stimulates our brain's reward centre making us want to eat as it keeps us alive. Sex is essential for reproduction and likewise stimulates dopamine production.
Alcohol and many drugs unfortunately also stimulate the same areas, as does that rush when you win while gambling.
None of that in and of itself causes addiction though - many people of course eat food without becoming addicted, or have a few drinks, or put a few quid on the greyhounds. Addictive behaviours tend to affect people who have difficulties with stress or uncomfortable emotions. So when stressed some people instead of dealing with the stress go and hide behind some pleasurable behaviour as a kind of "self-soothing" mechanism. It's the ultimate "bury your head in the sand" response to life and it works very well for a while, but of course once you "come down" from whatever it was you are usually left with the same uncomfortable feelings and so the cycle starts again.
Only the problem is that dopamine production is not unlimited so after a while you find the same stimulation / behaviour does not bring the same pleasure so you have to do it more, or do something more intense.
If that sounds like you - it might be worth investing in some therapy. It might be cheaper than the punting habit!
Frankly I can't say it helped me very much.
