I know there's nothing like your first time in bed with a girl who's actually attracted to you, but I really don't think losing your virginity is that big a deal as you're going to be crap at sex anyway, and the girl doesn't know what she's doing either, has her own body hang ups and wants to keep the lights off. There's no shame in losing it to a WG - I wish I did lose it to a WG in fact but we didn't have the internet back then. Putting it off just builds up the pressure, which makes it worse, civvies can smell it on you...
Agree entirely. I was the school fat kid, had terminal acne, and as a result of taking tetracycline based products for years for my acne my teeth became discoloured. I thought I was the ugliest mo-fo out there and had no confidence in myself especially with girls. Chances of me pulling naturally? Nil.
As time moved on exactly as JV says it then becomes a bigger issue, so even once you grow out of puppy fat and pimples you panic at the thought of actually having sex and girls can sense your lack of confidence. It's a real turn-off.
If that is you then you are making a smart choice to get some practise in. That's all it is - practise. I lost my virginity to a WG aged 28, within a year I had dated a bunch of girls, within two or three I found the woman I subsequently married. Wish I'd had the cajones to do it when I was your age mate.
It is a once in a lifetime event though, so if I was going to pop my cherry with a WG I'd go all out with a threesome, sex party or book a porn star, film it, whatever, though. A few more punts and watch a few sex guides should help you know what you're doing, then once you've got the all clear from the GUM clinic, your first time with a civvie would be really memorable.
Disagree mostly. I think there is enough pressure for that first pop without making it too complicated. I was petrified when I did mine, and in those days it was literally pot luck - looking at the confidential ads in the back of the local newspaper and just pick a phone number.
The internet makes this sooo much better, which is why I came straight back to punting after I got separated. However, it's better but not infallible. Take your time to pick a girl who you fancy but won't necessarily be intimidated by - ie don't go straight for someone like Platinum Cindy for example - save her for your second or third punt (but join the queue)
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As has been said you are looking for someone who is reasonably experienced, well rated /reviewed, definitely more a GFE type than PSE.
Most of my punts are still fundamentally a GFE which I see as practise for when I do get back to dating a civvy again - so a GFE type experience will get you used to the whole routine - enjoy the attraction, a bit of seduction, gentle kissing and caressing becoming more passionate and urgent, then seeing where the passion takes you. Relax, enjoy, you'll have a blast, and don't forget to tell us all about it!
