NIK, the problem is that many punters do what they are told, you only have to look at all this nonsense with punter feedback on Adultwork ------------------- I am the buyer, I don't need feedback.
I'm going to disagree here, and almost certainly mark myself down as a bit of a fluffy, but I wonder how many people might agree with me. I am not looking for a mechanical transaction - if that were the case, I might as well stay at home and have a wank. For sure, I am the client, and I expect that everything will be geared towards that, of course I do. But I guess eBay use feedback for a reason - you go into the transaction with a bit less of the unknown, and therefore a bit more comfortable. I punt (or rather I punted) to meet nice girls, have fun, and have great sex, and that's generally what happened.
But like with any other transaction (I work in sales), it's going to go a lot better if you are more at ease with each other. It's a position for the girl of "I know nothing about this guy" versus "I've never met him, but from his feedback he seems OK".
There's a psychological model, a very simple one called Betari's box, that my
attitude affects my
behaviour, which in turn will affect your
attitude, which will affect your
behaviour. Don't get me wrong, I've seen lots of girls where I haven't used the AW booking system, and therefore feedback was not an issue, but even there, they've tended to be phone bookings, where at least you've had a chance to speak to them, and again, it's the beginning of that process of thinking "they seem alright" or "eek, I'll give it half an hour, then send a text to cancel"
So I've no problem whatsoever with the AW feedback system, as flawed as it is with false feedbacks, etc (which are easy enough to discern anyway).