Newbie: what am I doing wrong?

[EdskiV]

Hi All,

I joined last week after discovering the site and browsing, loving the reviews but being limited to 5 page views a day. Took about 3 days for the Bitcoin payment to go through and cost £32 not £25 but I'm here and ready to roll.

So after reading a few of my favourite reviews, I reached out to four different girls through adult works or sms messages. I did what one of the WG's had requested on her contact info to send a nice message describing myself and what I wanted etc.


First problem: I think I described myself too much '44yo White British Male, first time, Dad of two, vanilla sexlife etc

Big mistake, AW send me an email about child exploitation because I mentioned I was a Dad, they blocked me and I have to undergo verification (which their site won't let me as it crashes asking for nationality field)

Second issue, of the four girls I messaged, one got back in touch with what looked like a bot message as she sent the same one a few hours later completely unrelated to my response to the first reply I sent her. The other three haven't read the SMS or not replied to the emails. Is this common?
 

[NickyBobby]

“44yo White British Male, first time” is all you needed to share. I’ve only supplied that information if explicitly asked for it, normally I just ask for a date and time and length of booking.

It is common for SPs to have an auto reply on their AW messages, it usually means they don’t correspond on there and prefer an alternative method.

[scutty brown]

My view is that using Adultworks messaging service is a total waste of time. You're better off using phone or text. If there's no phone number listed, move on to the next girl.
The other point is don't give too much about yourself away. No girl needs to know you're a father, or married. It's none of her business, all you're doing is opening up a possible vulnerability if she decides to go scatty and try blackmail.
All a girl needs to know is where, when, and how long for. Asian girls usually want to know if you're white or not. A few want to know your age. But generally all that matters is that you have the cash to pay. And don't give away your real name.
Just send a text on the lines of "are you free for xx minutes at 00:00? whats your address?"
If she replies saying yes and giving an address, then that's the time to ask re special services in just one followup question (not more). If she just says "yes" without an address, then move on: a pimp is answering the texts, not the girl

Going back to AW and the non-replies, that's not unusual. A lot of girls on there who are too precious to reply: they're often only there to sell videos or webcam sessions. Or in some cases too busy to be bothered with replying

[gbyld87]

If they have a number up, text them.  Bear in mind they might get a lot of bullshit enquiries and dead-end messages so best to get to the point straight away... If you're after a booking, say so and suggest a date/time (or at least a day if it's into the future).  Don't bother with the demographics unless they ask you... At most they'll ask your nationality in my experience, and usually nothing at all.

[Captainhowdy666]

Forget pissing about with messages that may go unread.
If you have a day off and ready to punt just look at who’s available and send a text asking for a time and place.
The rest will sort itself out

[MajorPayne]

Forget pissing about with messages that may go unread.
If you have a day off and ready to punt just look at who’s available and send a text asking for a time and place.
The rest will sort itself out

Yes it's usual to send out several messages and get no replies, just find another SP.

A general rule is avoid SPs who ask for a deposit.

Have a degree of cynicism when reading AW reviews.  Always check here if at all possible, you are more likely to see honest reviews here.

[chunky monkey]

Search on here to see which girls provide the services in the area you want with positive reviews. Those are the tried and tested ones who are more likely to respond to your message and will hopefully deliver the service you're after

And then don't forget to leave a (hopefully positive) review of your own when the deed is done, without too much personal information because we don't need to know you're a '44 yo White British Male, first time, Dad of two, vanilla sex life etc' either

[NervousJ]

usually a what time are you free is all you need. fuck giving chapter and verse. i've never had that... maybe il put in the initial message what i'm after  but that's it.

good luck next time...

[Newtothisstuff]

Before you send any texts, are you using a punting phone? If not, get a PAYG card and put it in an old handset if you have one. You can't know if you're texting a genuine girl, or a pimp. The last thing you want is a girl texting or calling you out of the blue when you're with family asking if you'd like a booking. It's rare, but it does happen.
Worse, your number may be linked to a WhatsApp account or other online profile.... and suddenly, a potential blackmailer knows your real name, location and maybe your employer.
Use a punting phone. When you text, either ask if the girl is available at a certain time or when she's free next? State if you want GFE or PSE, OWO or OW etc. Then forget about her. If she texts back, great. Some girls get lots of texts so only reply to a few. Think up a fake name and stick to it. Girls may ask about your private life, but they really don't need to know. The more you tell them about yourself, the greater the risk you run of it being used against you by a scammer. The girls would be pissed off if you started asking about their price life. So, why is yours any less private?

[JD1]

I never tell SPs anything about me when trying to arrange a booking, unless they ask.

I just send an SMS asking them if they are free at X time for a Y length booking and if they can send me the location details.

Oversharing may look like you want to message back and forth and they may see you as a timewaster, especially if you are telling them you are a first timer as well.

[MajorPayne]

Before you send any texts, are you using a punting phone? If not, get a PAYG card and put it in an old handset if you have one. You can't know if you're texting a genuine girl, or a pimp. The last thing you want is a girl texting or calling you out of the blue when you're with family asking if you'd like a booking. It's rare, but it does happen.
Worse, your number may be linked to a WhatsApp account or other online profile.... and suddenly, a potential blackmailer knows your real name, location and maybe your employer.
Use a punting phone. When you text, either ask if the girl is available at a certain time or when she's free next? State if you want GFE or PSE, OWO or OW etc. Then forget about her. If she texts back, great. Some girls get lots of texts so only reply to a few. Think up a fake name and stick to it. Girls may ask about your private life, but they really don't need to know. The more you tell them about yourself, the greater the risk you run of it being used against you by a scammer. The girls would be pissed off if you started asking about their price life. So, why is yours any less private?

Possible problem with a second, punting phone is your partner finding it.

I've heard of one example of wife finding second phone and end result was divorce.

[Newtothisstuff]

Possible problem with a second, punting phone is your partner finding it.

I've heard of one example of wife finding second phone and end result was divorce.

Good point. But, a second phone number - at a push - could just be a second SIM card. Swap them and use a different number. A punting phone is a lot lower risk than letting a WG have your real number to research, call or pass on to others.

[JontyR]

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^^^All you need is here. ^^^

But some extra advice to add to the others here...yeah no need for a full  autobiography. if you want to add a description of yourself "clean, presentable and polite" is the thing. If you do have a disability or something unusual about you, you may want to ask about that in advance.

But unless the profile is asking for info, something polite and to the point is probably best.  Make it easy for the SP to respond quickly and in kind.

If they have listed a phonenumber...use it.

Welcome to the board.

[MajorPayne]

One SP wanted the following

Date/time
Duration
Services requested

She wasn't interested in anything else.  But definitely a good idea to highlight any disability imho

[MajorPayne]

Good point. But, a second phone number - at a push - could just be a second SIM card. Swap them and use a different number. A punting phone is a lot lower risk than letting a WG have your real number to research, call or pass on to others.

I do like this idea.

[scutty brown]

I do like this idea.

not really a good idea
swapping the sim card doesn't swap out call history or contacts

[Newtothisstuff]

I do like this idea.

Exactly. A SIM can be tiny. When a mates gambling got out of hand, we hid his SIM to stop him phoning in his bets. If we'd taken it out of the house, that would have been theft. When someone can't afford to pay their gambling debts, they're not likely to spend money getting their boiler serviced. So we hid it inside the boiler service manual. He never found it - and he turned the place upside down looking for it.
There's always somewhere to hide a SIM. It's all down to risk. The risk of a partner finding it vs the risk of calls from hookers, pimps and the potential of being blackmailed.

[Newtothisstuff]

not really a good idea
swapping the sim card doesn't swap out call history or contacts

I didn't say it was perfect. But call logs can be deleted. Contacts saved to the SIM instead of the phone. It's better than using your own number.

[Lou2019]

OP advice from the other side of the fence, make sure you read AW profiles in full taking particular notice about anything on the profile about making a booking/comms.

Your personal situation really doesn’t need to be disclosed, this is of no interest to us to be honest with you. If you feel it necessary to mention, it’s your first time, then that’s fair enough, as you might be a bit nervous when visiting.

The only information I tend to ask for is data/time, duration and enjoys. In addition I will ask age, just to make sure you are above my minimum threshold and that you don’t smoke.

[EdskiV]

Exactly. A SIM can be tiny. When a mates gambling got out of hand, we hid his SIM to stop him phoning in his bets. If we'd taken it out of the house, that would have been theft. When someone can't afford to pay their gambling debts, they're not likely to spend money getting their boiler serviced. So we hid it inside the boiler service manual. He never found it - and he turned the place upside down looking for it.
There's always somewhere to hide a SIM. It's all down to risk. The risk of a partner finding it vs the risk of calls from hookers, pimps and the potential of being blackmailed.

Wish I'd done that with mine before spunking over £200k on gambling 😔

[NickyBobby]

If you have an addictive personality then I would suggest you don’t get involved with punting, unless you have more money than sense

[Eugene29]

If you have an addictive personality then I would suggest you don’t get involved with punting, unless you have more money than sense

In my case, about six quid.......

[Jamesbattersea]

Which bit of the east midlands are you based dude? Maybe we can give some recomendations for girls that will reply.

By the way the joining process to get on here nower days sound complicated. Bitcoins!!!! as a technophobe that fills me anexity!!!

[Jamesbattersea]

Good point. But, a second phone number - at a push - could just be a second SIM card. Swap them and use a different number. A punting phone is a lot lower risk than letting a WG have your real number to research, call or pass on to others.

I hide my punting phone in my work van she never goes in there. If you don't have a van or work vechice do you have a phone that takes 2 SIMs? Do you have a work phone that ypu could change for a 2 SIM fone. Do you have a brief case fir work that she has no business going in? Hide a SIM in there. Can you hide your fone at work instead of home.

I've had WGs ring me back or texting at weird times touting for business that's the time you're Punting fone is invaluble.

[Snagbadjer]

Just make a shortlist of ones that take your fancy. Check they have feedback on here. If not, avoid until you're better at spotting the fakes and scammers. I just message them and say "are you free at 12:00 for a 30 mins meet?" If they say yes I then ask if they do x, y and z and then just turn up. Try and get the address after the first text as that allows you to plan. If it's a shit area, avoid.