losing a regular

[FlaccidChimp]

So recently I saw my go to working girl and enjoyed the session. Just before I was leaving she told me it's her last day today. She isn't going to be doing this job anymore. I was not happy but just left as if it was okay. Basically she is attractive to me, like an 8/10 and I bang her and get massages, prostate stuff but no FK or OWO for £120. I am not happy because I have no replacement for her that looks as good, at that price point who is local to me.  She wasn't a unicorn but was good nearly all around. 

How have you felt when your regular has stopped? What did you do about it?

[Foxtail17]

Had a few regs retire over the years. Just moved on and sampled other sweeties from the shop.

[Jonestown]

Hope you wished her all the best for the future and didn't let your unhappiness overule your good sense.

Ive had regulars breeze off and not say a word at what they must have known was destined to be our last meet, so at least she told you.

Now its onwards and upwards, don't waste time moping.

[hendrix]

I like punting with a few regulars, and occasional newbie (to me) and as one reg inevitably stops, I try and fill the gap with a newbie that I think might be suitable as a reg.

Going back some years however, it was very easy to have around 10/12 regs whilst nowadays it's more like 3/5.

[willie loman]

its one of the worst aspects of punting, sometimes they semi retire and keep on a few that they find ok, , make sure you are one the few, other than that, always have girls on the bench as it were, of course girls often reappear.

[pythondan]

I have had a couple of regulars who I have been very fond of retire. One was very much an unashamed "whore" and our sessions were more PSE than GFE. When she decided to move abroad I was gutted from the point of losing a terrific shag and someone I liked talking to but happy for her as she needed change in her life.

The other girl gave a very convincing GFE experience and seemed to really enjoy the meetings - it was so convincing that I developed quite an advanced case of EAS for her and when she retired it was similar to a bereavement in that I had a real sense of loss but just had to accept it and go through the emotions with no hope of the reconciliation that might be possible in a real relationship.

I have had regulars since those two but none that have got under my skin as much as they did. To be honest I am happy with that as what started as a way to cope with a lack of sex at home was getting out of control.

I have found that as one regular retires generally a new girl tends to come along - OP you might miss your regular but view it as an opportunity to meet more new girls.

[big-al93]

A good reason to not only see 1 SP.

I would look it as an opportunity to broaden my horizons and try out new (to me at least) escorts. Maybe see a new one eachweek until you have 3 or 4 who you would like to return to.

[Al R]

Nothing lasts forever, had the same thing happen to me a few times - a reg I used to see told me she was returning to Poland next day and wouldn’t be back, others I knew a bit in advance

All you can do is find the next one

[v54]

How have you felt when your regular has stopped? What did you do about it?

I joined seeking.com and don't think I will ever go back to adultwork. Yes it is more expensive, and you have to be prepared to spend time to build their confidence in you, but there really is no clock ticking if you choose well.  There are women on there who want sex and money is the icing on the cake. See the seeking threads in the regional forums and there's one in the ukpunting forum too.

[finn5555]

So recently I saw my go to working girl and enjoyed the session. Just before I was leaving she told me it's her last day today. She isn't going to be doing this job anymore. I was not happy but just left as if it was okay. Basically she is attractive to me, like an 8/10 and I bang her and get massages, prostate stuff but no FK or OWO for £120. I am not happy because I have no replacement for her that looks as good, at that price point who is local to me.  She wasn't a unicorn but was good nearly all around. 

How have you felt when your regular has stopped? What did you do about it?

Just move on 

[pbrown355]

Had a few leave over the years. Generally happy for them if they are taking a new step in their lives. Some have just disappeared so no feelings either way. Regardless, I've just looked for the next one. Because I punt a lot less these days I don't even have a regular atm. Would quite like to have one though.

[Coriniumstud]

Had a Polish regular who left my area about a month before the pandemic started.She was still on my AW HL and I was planning on going to see her, but then Covid struck and her profile disappeared and has never returned 

[Shadow314]

The other girl gave a very convincing GFE experience and seemed to really enjoy the meetings - it was so convincing that I developed quite an advanced case of EAS for her and when she retired it was similar to a bereavement in that I had a real sense of loss but just had to accept it and go through the emotions with no hope of the reconciliation that might be possible in a real relationship.

+1 - can identify with this.

2022 seemed to be a particular bad year with the few regulars I had all disappearing for a variety of reasons.  Means I'm seeing more newbies now, and rather missing the ability to have a sure thing booking.

[Itsnotshy]

Had a regular sit me down in 2018 and gently break the news she was leaving.
We parted on good terms with a hug.
I was gutted, left, walked into town and got soaked in a sudden downpour. Seemed appropriate.
Next week she was still there, changed her mind.
Still see her regularly.
One day she'll leave though...just hope I have an umbrella with me that day.

[Stevelondon]

Had a regular pre Covid.
Post Covid she had disappeared and I thought she had probably returned to her native country.

Saw a SP (I’ve reviewed her) and over a bit of a chat (She had asked me about other girls I had seen) found out this SP and my ex regular know each other.

Turns out she did not go back home and is still here. Not in the industry anymore but has set up a small business of her own.
I remember her talking about it when we used to see each other.

I’m happy for her, hope it works out, a smashing lass.

Just wish I’d got one in before she retired so to speak. 😂

[JontyR]

Alwyas keep auditioning for your next regular even whilst your original is still there.

[Dylanbob]

Unless you live in like a hamlet in the middle of nowhere id say you get over it pretty quickly.

There are tranches of pretty young things to voluptuous milfs that will have their first clients this year. One may even be better.

[Crockers]

Always have a few regulars.

[Atrueyorkie]

Hope you wished her all the best for the future and didn't let your unhappiness overule your good sense.

Ive had regulars breeze off and not say a word at what they must have known was destined to be our last meet, so at least she told you.

Now its onwards and upwards, don't waste time moping.

I agree with this statement, there was one stellar regular, and then woosh gone.

Hopefully onto something they wanted to do in life career wise so best of luck to them.

Just get a new one 

[Watts.E.Dunn]

We've only got One girl who is a reg here in bloody cambridge!!!

[Sperminator22]

I've "lost" a few regulars over the years. Some return, most don't.
Always felt a sense of bereavement (on the punting point of view), missing their incredible performances on bed and the sexual chemistry I had with them.
Thankfully I found the right balance between returning to my favourites and meeting new SP, so replacement can always be found, new generations are ready to step up.

[Munter84]

It happens mate. You feel a pang of regret ("if only I'd known, I'd have seen her more often...") but there really are more fish in the sea.

Also, without wanting to be cynical, a lot of girls plan to retire and end up back in the game in a matter of years, months, or even less. Their civvy job fell through, or they miss the money, or whatever, and suddenly they're back on your AW search results. That's not guaranteed of course, sometimes the end really is the end, and I suppose the lesson there is to live for the day and take nothing for granted - in punting, and indeed in life.

[alabama1]

It happens mate. You feel a pang of regret ("if only I'd known, I'd have seen her more often...") but there really are more fish in the sea.

Also, without wanting to be cynical, a lot of girls plan to retire and end up back in the game in a matter of years, months, or even less. Their civvy job fell through, or they miss the money, or whatever, and suddenly they're back on your AW search results. That's not guaranteed of course, sometimes the end really is the end, and I suppose the lesson there is to live for the day and take nothing for granted - in punting, and indeed in life.

Wise words 

[Anadin]

Losing a regular you've seen for years sucks but I also hate seeing a new escort but having to get in as many appointments as you can before they go back to their home country which is a regular occurrence with Brazilian WGs. You see them so often for months, maybe a year, long enough to convince yourself they must have a life here then boom one day they're gone.

[Atrueyorkie]

It happens mate. You feel a pang of regret ("if only I'd known, I'd have seen her more often...") but there really are more fish in the sea.

Also, without wanting to be cynical, a lot of girls plan to retire and end up back in the game in a matter of years, months, or even less. Their civvy job fell through, or they miss the money, or whatever, and suddenly they're back on your AW search results. That's not guaranteed of course, sometimes the end really is the end, and I suppose the lesson there is to live for the day and take nothing for granted - in punting, and indeed in life.

[FlaccidChimp]

It happens mate. You feel a pang of regret ("if only I'd known, I'd have seen her more often...") but there really are more fish in the sea.

Also, without wanting to be cynical, a lot of girls plan to retire and end up back in the game in a matter of years, months, or even less. Their civvy job fell through, or they miss the money, or whatever, and suddenly they're back on your AW search results. That's not guaranteed of course, sometimes the end really is the end, and I suppose the lesson there is to live for the day and take nothing for granted - in punting, and indeed in life.

I will fuck like it's my last time on earth from now on.

[S.X. MacHine]

I’m into girls who are bdsm submissives and like a spanking or, indeed, a caning. Now, such WG’s are as rare as unicorns. At least, they are in Edinburgh.
So, when a regular spankee/sub retires, it is a major undertaking finding, let alone training, a substitute. I’ve had three such lovelies retire on me over the last ten years but, as fortune would have it, I currently have a pool of three submissive WG’s.
And yet, I do still miss the ones of yore….

[Blackhart]

Hope you wished her all the best for the future and didn't let your unhappiness overule your good sense.

Ive had regulars breeze off and not say a word at what they must have known was destined to be our last meet, so at least she told you.

Now its onwards and upwards, don't waste time moping.

Agreed 100% Just find another.

[Punterperson1971]

I’m lucky I’ve known my regular for close on 20 years lost touch years ago and then reconnected 5 years ago and we have loads of fun,I know it’s going to end sooner or later but I’m making most of it now and see her at least once a month maybe twice and every time is different,she was the one who suggested fucking her arse a few times and even filming it.
Be a sad day when it comes to an end😢😢😢

[petermisc]

A good reason to not only see 1 SP.

Exactly this.  Becoming reliant on just one SP means you will have no fallback option.

[Blackpool Rock]

Exactly this.  Becoming reliant on just one SP means you will have no fallback option.

Yeah, i've just posted this on a NW regional thread

I seem to like variety or rather i'm quite picky so I don't tend to see a girl more than once, even if I do return then I don't often see them more than 3 times while i'm still deciding if I want them as a regular.

You need to be careful relying on a limited number of regulars in case they both move on or retire at the same time, I always wanted 4 or 5 regulars then to throw in a new punt every 3 or 4 punts for variety and to try and find another regular.
The reality was that I only ever had 2 regulars and they would sometimes take a break, both were at SS so when that went tits up I was fucked (or not as the case may be)

[JustaPunter]

Every week that passes I realise my regular can’t be replaced, I definitely had EAS to an extent, but I realised yesterday that what I miss most is the conversations and banter.

But the realisation that I was just a piece of shit on her shoe after two years is probably the hardest thing to accept

But accept it you have to or you are going to go down a slippery slope from which there is no recovery

[alabama1]

Every week that passes I realise my regular can’t be replaced, I definitely had EAS to an extent, but I realised yesterday that what I miss most is the conversations and banter.

But the realisation that I was just a piece of shit on her shoe after two years is probably the hardest thing to accept

But accept it you have to or you are going to go down a slippery slope from which there is no recovery

Yet another idiotic comment by you 

[JustaPunter]

Yet another idiotic comment by you 

Sorry, didn’t realise the owner of the internet and forum was on here.

But thanks for yet another pointless post

[alabama1]

Sorry, didn’t realise the owner of the internet and forum was on here.

But thanks for yet another pointless post

The way you come across on here, i suspect that you were the only client treated like a turd by her 

[finn5555]

Every week that passes I realise my regular can’t be replaced, I definitely had EAS to an extent, but I realised yesterday that what I miss most is the conversations and banter.

But the realisation that I was just a piece of shit on her shoe after two years is probably the hardest thing to accept

But accept it you have to or you are going to go down a slippery slope from which there is no recovery

She fucked you for money mate I doubt she would have given you a second glance otherwise.

You need to get over it and understand what it’s all about

[Silversurfer]

Every week that passes I realise my regular can’t be replaced, I definitely had EAS to an extent, but I realised yesterday that what I miss most is the conversations and banter.

But the realisation that I was just a piece of shit on her shoe after two years is probably the hardest thing to accept

But accept it you have to or you are going to go down a slippery slope from which there is no recovery

I'll be honest mate it's a bit concerning for a punter to refer to himself as a piece of shit on a wgs shoe. EAS happens but at the end of the day it's just a job for them. Wgs retire or move location all the time it's not personal. Be happy you found a great reg for a while, now look for another and preferably have more than 1. I understand feeling bummed but it's nothing to self deprecate over.

[Atrueyorkie]

Every week that passes I realise my regular can’t be replaced, I definitely had EAS to an extent, but I realised yesterday that what I miss most is the conversations and banter.

But the realisation that I was just a piece of shit on her shoe after two years is probably the hardest thing to accept

But accept it you have to or you are going to go down a slippery slope from which there is no recovery

Everyone can be replaced.

And it’s a bit worrying how lonely you sound, to an extent cos you’re still a stranger to me.

I’d get that in check, if that’s ongoing still. You sound borderline reliant on this and people can smell that.

Why were you looking for acceptance or approval from a WG? The way that I think I genuinely don’t get that

[Nagilum]

Regulars are good, but you will always find another.

Don't let it get you down.

[Jonestown]

Regulars are good, but you will always find another.

Don't let it get you down.

Yes, be grateful for the time you had together, and move on, the next one will be so much better, or if not, the one after that. The antidote to EAS is to write 500 lines of “how did I ever think I had a chance with her”, repeat daily for ten days.

[dub6747]

Went to see my regular this weekend on a day I don't normally do ... anyway to cut a long story short it didn't happen due to unusual circumstances but I was offered a quickie or come back another time...chose not to go with the quickie option but this has left me feeling out of sorts...didn't think I had this EAS spoken about on here but this experience has left me thinking that maybe I do ... went for a punt earlier today with someone who was recommended on the NW section and she was butt ugly in comparison to the reg and the only way I got to cum was by thinking of the reg .... think I need to get my head round the reg leaving the profession...it's been 13 years so far but this weekend has certainly got me thinking of life without her

[unclepokey]

The first sex worker I saw was 21 years ago and she became my favourite/regular until she retired 4 years later. To this day I remember her with great affection. Diane of Bushey will be remembered by many I imagine.
The longest relationship (commercial) I've had is with Holly4Massage (Was Tiny of Watford) and I count her as a real friend. 21 years.
So who is my present regular? Well its a secret. But in 10 years I've spent £20k+ mostly more recently.

This will end one way or another.
- I will die
- Ms ? will become bored awaiting the decease of my spouse
- Ms ? will be swept of her feet by a suiter of superior wealth or superior genitalia (or both)

Just possibly I become free to shock the family and marry a prostitute, a beautiful, hard working woman full of wisdom the like of which is very rare to find.

[Thephoenix]

So who is my present regular? Well its a secret. But in 10 years I've spent £20k+ mostly more recently.

This will end one way or another.
- I will die
- Ms ? will become bored awaiting the decease of my spouse
- Ms ? will be swept of her feet by a suiter of superior wealth or superior genitalia (or both)

Just possibly I become free to shock the family and marry a prostitute, a beautiful, hard working woman full of wisdom the like of which is very rare to find.

Ah Pokey!

That almost brought a tear to my eye.

[petermisc]

Just possibly I become free to shock the family and marry a prostitute, a beautiful, hard working woman full of wisdom the like of which is very rare to find.

And how do you think she would feel about you broadcasting it about that she was a prostitute?

I suspect that when most WGs finish working, they want to close the door firmly on that part of their life, and move on.  Which marrying a punter is going to make difficult - always worrying that their partner accidentally (or deliberately) brings it up at an embarrassing moment.

[VladtheImpaleHer]

I only see girls a few times. I never have regulars so i don't get too emotionally attached. I never want to have too much of a good thing.

Have fun with a girl you like. Enjoy a few times. Keep them as lovely memories. Then move onto the next!

[petermisc]

I only see girls a few times. I never have regulars so i don't get too emotionally attached. I never want to have too much of a good thing.

Evidently, as only about half your reviews are positives.

This kind of tactic may work if you punt in an area with a plentiful supply of new WGs.  However, if you are onto a good thing, I really don't understand why you wouldn't want to repeat.  Why deliberately pass over a strong positive in favour of someone with a high probability of not being a positive at all?  Each to their own, but it sounds madness to me.

Sometimes, the experience gets better the more you know each other, but once you get to a point where it has become stale, then it is time to move on.

[Blackpool Rock]

Evidently, as only about half your reviews are positives.

This kind of tactic may work if you punt in an area with a plentiful supply of new WGs.  However, if you are onto a good thing, I really don't understand why you wouldn't want to repeat.  Why deliberately pass over a strong positive in favour of someone with a high probability of not being a positive at all?  Each to their own, but it sounds madness to me.

Sometimes, the experience gets better the more you know each other, but once you get to a point where it has become stale, then it is time to move on.

As I previously posted i've only ever had 2 girls who i'd class as proper regulars, the problem is (for me and I suspect others too) is that i'm looking for a few regulars and based on the 1st fantastic punt with a girl start thinking "Hmmm may have a new regular here".

If the 2nd punt is also good then i'll return for a 3rd but this is normally where that Wow factor has evaporated, perhaps the girl thinks she has me hooked and doesn't put in as much effort or perhaps that initial punt was exceptional and i'd never get that service level again, perhaps i'm now lacking that dopamine hit or whatever the drug is of added anticipation seeing a new girl 

The long and short is that I seem to get bored of girls quite quickly and feel the need to move on in a vain attempt to find a hidden gem

[Jonestown]

The long and short is that I seem to get bored of girls quite quickly and feel the need to move on.......

This is the Leonardo DiCaprio syndrome that most punters suffer from, a regular is only a regular until it becomes predictable, why would anyone want it any other way, if someone wants a mate for life, get a wife.

[Fuzzyduck]

Evidently, as only about half your reviews are positives.

This kind of tactic may work if you punt in an area with a plentiful supply of new WGs.  However, if you are onto a good thing, I really don't understand why you wouldn't want to repeat.  Why deliberately pass over a strong positive in favour of someone with a high probability of not being a positive at all?  Each to their own, but it sounds madness to me.

Sometimes, the experience gets better the more you know each other, but once you get to a point where it has become stale, then it is time to move on.

Same as you. Go figure.

[Blackpool Rock]

This is the Leonardo DiCaprio syndrome that most punters suffer from, a regular is only a regular until it becomes predictable, why would anyone want it any other way, if someone wants a mate for life, get a wife.

If I wanted companionship i'd get a dog