28 with Performance Anxiety, looking for an escort to help me get over it

[Eridanis]

Pretty damn embarassing topic to make, but it has to be done. I just haven't had any experience and the one time I got in bed with someone a couple years ago I got so nervous nothing happened. Honestly just looking for an escort who can help me take it slow, guess someone who is like dominant might work lmao.

I've had a look at AdultWork, which seems to be the recommended one. VivaStreet just gave off dodgy vibes.
Looking for any recommendations in Birmingham City Centre, incall. No one overweight but don't mind some curves, no older than 35.

PS: I'm in decent shape, just awkard.

[RandomGuy99]

Have a look at the recommendations posts.

Maybe someone like External Link/Members Only might work?

I don't think you want anyone dominant. You just want to explain your issue and get the SP to ease you into the booking and not rush you. You'll eventually feel settled and relax into the booking and then'll you be able to perform. You should make this clear in your booking comms. Some SPs may not be interested in such a booking, but I'm sure that there are others that will be. Maybe someone a bit more mature or experienced as an escort? They'll probably have been in this situation before and know what works.

Getting hard is mostly a mental thing, so if you're feeling stressed or nervous then you may not be able to get hard. Over time you'll be able to relax into the booking more quickly.

[GingerNuts]

Maybe someone like External Link/Members Only might work?

External Link/Members Only ???

[JontyR]

Pretty damn embarassing topic to make, but it has to be done. I just haven't had any experience and the one time I got in bed with someone a couple years ago I got so nervous nothing happened. Honestly just looking for an escort who can help me take it slow, guess someone who is like dominant might work lmao.

I've had a look at AdultWork, which seems to be the recommended one. VivaStreet just gave off dodgy vibes.
Looking for any recommendations in Birmingham City Centre, incall. No one overweight but don't mind some curves, no older than 35.

PS: I'm in decent shape, just awkard.

Nothing to be embarrassed about here mate. All anonymous so you can say whatever you like.

One thing I'd question though mate is is this a rabbit hole you really want to go down?

Have you considered popping for a massage? A lot of this is all about not getting stressed, being able to relax and just feeling at ease with yourself and your situation.

With a massage there is no compulsion, no pressure (unless you want deep tissue!!)

Just a different possibility for you to consider.

Good luck and let us know how you get on.

[Colston36]

External Link/Members Only ???

I have never seen her ... but long thought she seems perfect

[mr.bluesky]

I would agree with JontyR's reply. Go for a nice relaxing massage first with a happy ending then a non penetrative body to body massage then a service provider ( probably a more mature  one who will be more understanding of your situation) for sex. Don't go for a young gorgeous  sp where you will feel more pressure to perform. I would avoid a dominatrix at all costs. Try taking a little blue pill too ( viagra or something similar) an hour before you go.
Good luck 

[Roadster]

My 2p worth. 

Start with a half hour massage with an HE. Do that a few times till you're really comfortable with it, then try a B2B. 

When, (and only when), you feel ready move on to a decent massage parlour like the Studio and choose someone with good reviews here.  Maybe just get sucked off on a first go, (or go's), then move on to FS when you're ready.  No rush, take your time, really enjoy the journey.

Try talking to civi girls too.  You don't need to really fancy them, in fact it may be better if you don't.  I then doesn't matter if it doesn't work out, you can just move on to the next one.  The goal is to get yourself where you want to be whan you meet someone you really like.

If the problem is being overly stressed and then failing to perform ... then do whatever you can to take the stress out of the situation.  Consider it training.

An SP is getting paid for her time.  She doesn't mind if it's not a great sexual experience for her.

Just take it easy, you'll be where you want to be in no time.

As I say, just my opinion.  Good luck.

[Andywb]

If I am tired, feeling stressed  and struggling to get fully hard (it can happen to anyone) I tend to cum quickly.  Often too quick. If I am feeling really horny and rock hard I can keep going for 30 min of full on pumping (or edging if its a massage). So being relaxed is important.  As someone else said try experiment with a blue pill so that you get used to the experience of being hard and in control. But at your age don't get reliant on popping a pill though. 

Also as suggested above, start with a massage and explain you want to be edged. Practice edging yourself at home so you get used to the experience and can tell when you are getting close. A good thai lady with a lot of experience will be able to spot when you  are near the edge. Or maybe Vicky Toria in Birmingham? She gets naked and does b2b plus easy to talk to

[Eridanis]

I have never seen her ... but long thought she seems perfect

That's a great suggestion, I may have jumped the gun and emailed someone on AW yesterday who replied: https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=377434.0. Good reviews here even though I'm not a fan of implants. Mentioned my issue and she said it was ok, will call today to arrange. If it doesn't work out I will follow suggestions and get a massage with a handy and then try the above recc.

I also ordered some pills but I don't think they will arrive in time for current booking, for what its worth I'd like to try without anyways. Thanks for the advice guys.

[scutty brown]

And just remember, performance anxiety is a feedback loop

Most have problems because they're worried about being worried, not because they're worried about failing.
And failing doesn't matter. The girls are not judging or scoring you.

[JontyR]

I also ordered some pills but I don't think they will arrive in time for current booking, for what its worth I'd like to try without anyways. Thanks for the advice guys.

I think that's sound, if you can without then why wouldn't you?

One last hint I'd suggest is to try and make sure whoever you pick you are able to communicate with. If you do decide that you want to explain why you are there or any concerns you may have then it would be nice that that eases any concerns and not add to the stress when she can't understand you. So maybe a call rather than an email?

[jc1971]

East Midlands based but regularly tours: External Link/Members Only
A very personable, intelligent SP who is very good at her job and specialises in a relaxing GFE. I reviewed her in 2019 and have seen her several times since. The very high standard of service has been maintained.

[RandomGuy99]

In my very first booking the SP told me to just relax into the booking, which is easier said than done especially when you're shy like me. I find arriving in the area early is good, otherwise you end up stressed about not being late and that can make it hard to relax.

If I manage to relax with an SP, then I usually see them again as it's easier than going through the stress again with a new SP.

Don't be hard on yourself. The SP's job is to make sure you enjoy yourself. Don't feel pressured to do what you read in reviews on here (it's not always true anyway) or deliver 15 orgasms or have 3 rounds in 15 minutes. 

Do what you enjoy.  If you just want a handjob and to cum once then ask for that.

I suggest you find an experienced SP who has good feedback and tell her what you'd like and that you're a bit nervous and she'll ease you into it.

[Dark Vader]

Op can you post some AW links of some girls you find tasty so we can best point you in the right direction?