Forming a relationship with a WG

[finn5555]

Said it in previous threads getting into a relationship with a prossie is, in my opinion, stupid.
Few would be able to accept her fucking every Tom Dick and Abdul 

[Lou2019]

Said it in previous threads getting into a relationship with a prossie is, in my opinion, stupid.
Few would be able to accept her fucking every Tom Dick and Abdul 

finn5555 you are like a broken record jesus 

[Colston36]

This again, why not read the dozes of other threads on the topic. The responses are all the same, some will admoish you for pursuing it and others will make fun of you.

No punter on here is going to whole heatedly tell you its a good idea. However, your life.

For what its worth, not a good idea.

For what it's worth this punter is going to tell him it can be a good idea.

[Colston36]

And what exactly is wrong with shagging an old grandad, pray tell ?

Nothing, says this VERY old grandad, Just use your head,

[Colston36]

Snagging? Makes it sound like you're after grandad's money...........

Just imaging a new novel "The Black Widow Wolf"......

On behalf of the Old Grandad's Beneficial Society I must inform suspicious minds that although I have had a few exchanges with the radiant Wolf she has never shown the least sign of snagging me.

[LLPunting]

Fuck!  Wasting #15k on this thread... 

But it has to be asked:

1)  Are you fucking her bareback? CiP?
2)  Is she insisting on bareback?
3)  Does she "insist" throughout the month?
4)  Do you know for a fact that she's actually taking/using birth control?
5)  Does she already have kids?
6)  Do you want to be a father?

[finn5555]

finn5555 you are like a broken record jesus 

I did wonder when you would pop up and as predictable as the weather here you are 😂

[SeekingSteve]

I knew some smartass was gonna crack this joke lol. I was so close to adding 'and no, she's not one of my two reviews'  . I plead guilty to not reviewing all of my punts, send me to punting prison.

Stick a link up to her profile. We can see how loyal she is for you 

[Lou2019]

I did wonder when you would pop up and as predictable as the weather here you are 😂

So sweet that I was in your thoughts 

[funfungoodguy]

It is interesting to wonder how many WG's are married or in steady relationships, and their OH's know they go to 'work' every day sometimes with a flat or house set up specially for her place of work, and sometimes with the OH  fully aware and involved for example dealing with communications/bookings or whatever just as though she was being a curtain maker or a glazing business. They have all sorts of bluff in place to fool the kids and presumably their social circle that she's off to a normal job when in fact she's got a business set up as a hooker that she goes to.   This must eventually make all sorts of complications. The lies to the kids will get caught out sooner or later as the kids grow up and become more enquiring as well as other things that make living that double life more and more likely to get busted sooner or later.  Having a fling with a WG is one thing but the longer term relationship seems likely to bring complications as long as she continues to do it,

[Lou2019]

It is interesting to wonder how many WG's are married or in steady relationships, and their OH's know they go to 'work' every day sometimes with a flat or house set up specially for her place of work, and sometimes with the OH  fully aware and involved for example dealing with communications/bookings or whatever just as though she was being a curtain maker or a glazing business. They have all sorts of bluff in place to fool the kids and presumably their social circle that she's off to a normal job when in fact she's got a business set up as a hooker that she goes to.   This must eventually make all sorts of complications. The lies to the kids will get caught out sooner or later as the kids grow up and become more enquiring as well as other things that make living that double life more and more likely to get busted sooner or later.  Having a fling with a WG is one thing but the longer term relationship seems likely to bring complications as long as she continues to do it,

This viewpoint is what makes threads on this subject so tedious.
Busted? There’s nothing illegal going on  ? Aren’t SS living a double life to a certain degree

[funfungoodguy]

Ok -  rather than 'Busted' - perhaps 'Revealed' ?.
There was a previous thread about some things being better left unsaid. That was to do with the punting world being discreet and to remain so for the long term. What goes on behind closed doors and all that. So the point is about the complications of that and having a relationship with a WG. It wasn't implied that it isn't allowed, just  reference to the complications of it.

[Colston36]

Why is it interesting? I find it rather depressing.

[LLPunting]

Ok -  rather than 'Busted' - perhaps 'Revealed' ?.
There was a previous thread about some things being better left unsaid. That was to do with the punting world being discreet and to remain so for the long term. What goes on behind closed doors and all that. So the point is about the complications of that and having a relationship with a WG. It wasn't implied that it isn't allowed, just  reference to the complications of it.

Do you openly discuss your sex life with your children, parents, friends, work colleagues, strangers on a train?  Do you enquire after theirs?
A private sex life is just that, regardless of whether your partners are doing it for "love" or money.

[CityTillIDie]

There's definitely plenty of the 'social contact' you've described. I know a lot of the punters here are gonna have a good laugh at this but for what it's worth, she says she has very deep feelings for me and I believe her. As I've tried to explain, I'm yet to be exploited in any way so I have no reason to doubt what she says and the way she acts around me. It seems the majority of commenters here believe it's only a matter of time before she smothers me in my sleep and assumes my identity though and I'm not going to pretend that the scepticism of everyone here hasn't made me more think a little more about everything.

I had a long relationship with an SP I met in York in perhaps 2002.
I met her on a Sunday afternoon when my gf was working abroad. I didn’t cheat often with escorts but that day I did.
Something just clicked, we really hit it off. We met again that same week and spent two amazing hours in bed. She refused my money when I proferred it.
Anyway, we met often for several years. We went to bed at least twice weekly.

We stopped seeing each other after a few years. She had two kids, I was engaged. I wasn’t sure about changing my life totally for her. Not her, not anyone. But wow it was amazing and the emotion was intense. Sometimes you just hit it off with someone. She was still working. She never asked me for money. Not for sex. Not in general.

There is an astonishing number of cynics on here, hundreds of jealous keyboard warriors. Trust your gut.

You only live once. If I could rewind, I would have stopped my relationship and gone to her.

CTID

[Watts.E.Dunn]

Yes but that can happend to alll or anyone of us, theres that girl out there who ticks all the boxes and you only find her years later..

And you just wish you had a time machine...........

[Colston36]

I had a long relationship with an SP I met in York in perhaps 2002.
I met her on a Sunday afternoon when my gf was working abroad. I didn’t cheat often with escorts but that day I did.
Something just clicked, we really hit it off. We met again that same week and spent two amazing hours in bed. She refused my money when I proferred it.
Anyway, we met often for several years. We went to bed at least twice weekly.

We stopped seeing each other after a few years. She had two kids, I was engaged. I wasn’t sure about changing my life totally for her. Not her, not anyone. But wow it was amazing and the emotion was intense. Sometimes you just hit it off with someone. She was still working. She never asked me for money. Not for sex. Not in general.

There is an astonishing number of cynics on here, hundreds of jealous keyboard warriors. Trust your gut.

You only live once. If I could rewind, I would have stopped my relationship and gone to her.

CTID

I think one's attitudes change radically with age. When young I think I was wildly jealous. With age I became more intrigued by the various possibilities.
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[JustaPunter]

It is interesting to wonder how many WG's are married or in steady relationships, and their OH's know they go to 'work' every day sometimes with a flat or house set up specially for her place of work, and sometimes with the OH  fully aware and involved for example dealing with communications/bookings or whatever just as though she was being a curtain maker or a glazing business. They have all sorts of bluff in place to fool the kids and presumably their social circle that she's off to a normal job when in fact she's got a business set up as a hooker that she goes to.   This must eventually make all sorts of complications. The lies to the kids will get caught out sooner or later as the kids grow up and become more enquiring as well as other things that make living that double life more and more likely to get busted sooner or later.  Having a fling with a WG is one thing but the longer term relationship seems likely to bring complications as long as she continues to do it,

Have you ever thought that to actually love somebody means accepting them for who they are?

Nobody has a choice who they develop feelings for at the end of the day.

Ask yourself this, what’s more toxic?

Rejection or regret?

The chances of a SW feeling the same way about a client as the client does about a SW (if a client develops genuine feelings not simple infatuation) are pretty remote anyway.

But if it does happen why hold back and regret what might have been?

Best to just say what you feel and then you have the answer, rejection is probably easier to deal with in the longer term.

If the SW accepts how you feel and makes sure you know it’s a one way street you then the SW has the option to allow you to see her, or more likely she will be able to slowly distance herself to lessen any hurt feelings.

Anyway, I have digressed a little from the thread.

[hermanmunster]

I have had many requests for dates or similar with WGs. Only once have i succumbed, bad move. From my experience they are generally detached from the real world and struggle to rationlise relationship type scenarios. Having said that i am considering a trip to see a WG (one of the more expensive Diva ladies who has gone home). I have met her for a dinner date before outside of her work.  Absolutely no payment required, she would only expect me to pay for our weeks stay in a hotel, but i would do that anyway. 

[arrow0404]

I think I stopped paying her from the end of march so I guess that's when it started. I get your point about jealousy, I like to think i've matured in the time but you might be right. Only time will tell I suppose.

Mate you can’t love Her that much - stopped paying her end of March - but your last review for another SP is in April makes no sense

[KiloRomeo]

I had a long relationship with an SP I met in York in perhaps 2002.
I met her on a Sunday afternoon when my gf was working abroad. I didn’t cheat often with escorts but that day I did.
Something just clicked, we really hit it off. We met again that same week and spent two amazing hours in bed. She refused my money when I proferred it.
Anyway, we met often for several years. We went to bed at least twice weekly.

We stopped seeing each other after a few years. She had two kids, I was engaged. I wasn’t sure about changing my life totally for her. Not her, not anyone. But wow it was amazing and the emotion was intense. Sometimes you just hit it off with someone. She was still working. She never asked me for money. Not for sex. Not in general.

There is an astonishing number of cynics on here, hundreds of jealous keyboard warriors. Trust your gut.

You only live once. If I could rewind, I would have stopped my relationship and gone to her.

CTID

I'm inclined to think you're right about the situation I'm in. Before I created this thread I might have taken her out to get some food every now and then, and maybe paid for the Uber to go here and there. I've spent the last two days with her and I've been a lot more reserved with my spending because of the massive amounts of scepticism I received here. Yesterday evening she took me to a restaurant, paid for all of the food (which there was a lot of), paid for the Uber there and back. On top of that she made me a massive breakfast this morning. I literally put nothing forward and thinking back on it now I feel pretty shitty about it. When I initially wrote the thread I just wanted some insight on how people who had been in the same situation as me felt about being with someone who had sex with so many guys but it's quickly turned in to people doubting the authenticity of the girl. My gut says to follow this thing to wherever it leads so I think that's what I'll do.

[Watts.E.Dunn]

Theres a very good escort posts occasionally here has a lot of custmers who spoil her silly, take her abroad for a week  several grand she gets but all the same shes happliedy married and for them it works just fine so she told me last:)

[KiloRomeo]

Mate you can’t love Her that much - stopped paying her end of March - but your last review for another SP is in April makes no sense

I'm probably going to get a lot of backlash for this but I miswrote March for May; it's only been a couple of months.

[harharhar]

I'm inclined to think you're right about the situation I'm in. Before I created this thread I might have taken her out to get some food every now and then, and maybe paid for the Uber to go here and there. I've spent the last two days with her and I've been a lot more reserved with my spending because of the massive amounts of scepticism I received here. Yesterday evening she took me to a restaurant, paid for all of the food (which there was a lot of), paid for the Uber there and back. On top of that she made me a massive breakfast this morning. I literally put nothing forward and thinking back on it now I feel pretty shitty about it. When I initially wrote the thread I just wanted some insight on how people who had been in the same situation as me felt about being with someone who had sex with so many guys but it's quickly turned in to people doubting the authenticity of the girl. My gut says to follow this thing to wherever it leads so I think that's what I'll do.

Hey man, trust your instincts. I was very happy to see a few fellow punters be positive about your situation, and I'd like to do the same. I've been in a similar situation in the past.

I think what you're questioning right now is whether or not you should be separating the intimacy from the sex. You're not crazy to not be jealous of her clients, because I'd imagine she is only providing sex to them rather than intimacy. If she is providing intimacy to her clients, it's likely not the same kind that she provides to you. If you feel like she's giving you more of herself emotionally - that's great. Nurture that and show her the same.

If I can give you any bits of advice (and honestly this isn't going to sound any different than your typical "relationship" advice):

• Communicate like your life depends on it. If you ever begin to get a tinge of jealously, you have to tell her. Don't let it fester, that'll just lead to very fast and deep resentment. People's perspectives and feelings change over time. You shouldn't expect to feel the way you do forever. You both have to be open with your feelings. This is obviously generally harder for men than women, but hey, that's the work you'll have to put in for any relationship to succeed
• Don't revolve your relationship around money. If you're worried about her taking advantage of you and milking you for everything you have, voice that worry to her. Again, communicate and listen to what she has to say. Trust your gut on whether she's being truthful.
• You cannot ever throw the fact that she's a WG in her face. Once it comes up in an argument, I guarantee things are over.

I'm not as old as some of the other guys around here, but I think I can say one thing safely: There are probably only a handful of people that you'll ever encounter in life that you will truly click with. It'll be a person where spending time with them is just "easy," where you feel like you can be with them for hours, days, months and years on end and never be bored. These people don't enter into our lives often. When they do, you better be ready to take a risk, because it's always better to take a risk than to regret. If the relationship ends, it's not a failure. The true failure would be you not trying.

I'm truly happy for you and best of luck!

[KiloRomeo]

Hey man, trust your instincts. I was very happy to see a few fellow punters be positive about your situation, and I'd like to do the same. I've been in a similar situation in the past.

I think what you're questioning right now is whether or not you should be separating the intimacy from the sex. You're not crazy to not be jealous of her clients, because I'd imagine she is only providing sex to them rather than intimacy. If she is providing intimacy to her clients, it's likely not the same kind that she provides to you. If you feel like she's giving you more of herself emotionally - that's great. Nurture that and show her the same.

If I can give you any bits of advice (and honestly this isn't going to sound any different than your typical "relationship" advice):

• Communicate like your life depends on it. If you ever begin to get a tinge of jealously, you have to tell her. Don't let it fester, that'll just lead to very fast and deep resentment. People's perspectives and feelings change over time. You shouldn't expect to feel the way you do forever. You both have to be open with your feelings. This is obviously generally harder for men than women, but hey, that's the work you'll have to put in for any relationship to succeed
• Don't revolve your relationship around money. If you're worried about her taking advantage of you and milking you for everything you have, voice that worry to her. Again, communicate and listen to what she has to say. Trust your gut on whether she's being truthful.
• You cannot ever throw the fact that she's a WG in her face. Once it comes up in an argument, I guarantee things are over.

I'm not as old as some of the other guys around here, but I think I can say one thing safely: There are probably only a handful of people that you'll ever encounter in life that you will truly click with. It'll be a person where spending time with them is just "easy," where you feel like you can be with them for hours, days, months and years on end and never be bored. These people don't enter into our lives often. When they do, you better be ready to take a risk, because it's always better to take a risk than to regret. If the relationship ends, it's not a failure. The true failure would be you not trying.

I'm truly happy for you and best of luck!

Thanks for taking the time to write all of this. Should jealousy creep in at some point I will definitely have to bring it up with her. We communicate pretty well with everything else but admittedly not with regards to her 'work' for obvious reasons. Sound advice, thanks again.

[tynetunnel]

See where it takes you and good luck. Life isn’t a dress rehearsal and there are few genuine moments in life where you’ll meet someone like this. It might work out, it might not. Better to find out and give it your best shot, than a lifetime of ‘what if ?’

[Jonestown]

I find it quite amusing that the authenticity of modern relationships is judged by who pays for the uber.

[KiloRomeo]

See where it takes you and good luck. Life isn’t a dress rehearsal and there are few genuine moments in life where you’ll meet someone like this. It might work out, it might not. Better to find out and give it your best shot, than a lifetime of ‘what if ?’

My thoughts exactly

[Colston36]

My thoughts exactly

By and large I regret the things I didn't do as much as the ones I did. And no pro could have cleaned me out financially as thoroughly my last wife, bless her. She had good reason, too.

[LincsLad12]

Amazed how many seem to believe that every SP is single.

I'd bet my left nut at least half of them are married or otherwise involved with someone, even as good as some of them can be at making you believe otherwise.

[Lastfour1479]

My thoughts exactly

I'm a year ahead of you, been living with her for 6 months, it takes alot of emotional strength on both your sides to make it work. Jealous does creep in, with both of you. If it's real you can compartmentalise these emotions. It's not easy, but you can make it work.

[LLPunting]

I'm a year ahead of you, been living with her for 6 months, it takes alot of emotional strength on both your sides to make it work. Jealous does creep in, with both of you. If it's real you can compartmentalise these emotions. It's not easy, but you can make it work.

Good luck to both you and OP. 

If the ladies are earning more than you are you 50:50 on all shared expenses or splitting according to earnings as a proportion of the "household" income?

[Lastfour1479]

I have a well paid job, but everything is 50/50....even the wet wipes and baby oil

[Punterperson1971]

Amazed how many seem to believe that every SP is single.

I'd bet my left nut at least half of them are married or otherwise involved with someone, even as good as some of them can be at making you believe otherwise.

Some are I agree but my regular is/was and I’ve met him a few times as I was actually balls deep in his wife and he wanted to have a wank while he watched.

[unclepokey]

It's ok forming a relationship with a working girl. But the relationship is still in the the nature of a commercial one.. It's one of no contractual enforcement. Rather it's one of establish respect, friendship, and mutual expressions of desires to be fulfilled when circumstances so allow.
As so long as both parties agree agree the rules, all is well. In fact it's the same as punting without the wedding ring.

[hairdownthere]

I had a visit to my regular this morning and asked her if she'd ever been in a relationship with a client, she said "No, how could I have a relationship with someone who uses prostitutes"!!!

[JustaPunter]

I had a visit to my regular this morning and asked her if she'd ever been in a relationship with a client, she said "No, how could I have a relationship with someone who uses prostitutes"!!!

But she potentially has no problem being in a relationship with somebody who is happy to live off her earnings ?

That seems a little bit hypocritical.

[KiloRomeo]

I'm a year ahead of you, been living with her for 6 months, it takes alot of emotional strength on both your sides to make it work. Jealous does creep in, with both of you. If it's real you can compartmentalise these emotions. It's not easy, but you can make it work.

It's funny you mention this. I couldn't quite believe it when she actually got jealous of me being in close contact with an ex. I let her go on my phone and she spent a good 20 minutes going through my conversation with her (which I didn't mind because I had nothing to hide). She welcomed me to her phone in the meantime but the catalogue of unopened +44's was a tad overwhelming so I left it.

[PilotMan]

Hey man, trust your instincts. I was very happy to see a few fellow punters be positive about your situation, and I'd like to do the same. I've been in a similar situation in the past.

I think what you're questioning right now is whether or not you should be separating the intimacy from the sex. You're not crazy to not be jealous of her clients, because I'd imagine she is only providing sex to them rather than intimacy. If she is providing intimacy to her clients, it's likely not the same kind that she provides to you. If you feel like she's giving you more of herself emotionally - that's great. Nurture that and show her the same.

If I can give you any bits of advice (and honestly this isn't going to sound any different than your typical "relationship" advice):

• Communicate like your life depends on it. If you ever begin to get a tinge of jealously, you have to tell her. Don't let it fester, that'll just lead to very fast and deep resentment. People's perspectives and feelings change over time. You shouldn't expect to feel the way you do forever. You both have to be open with your feelings. This is obviously generally harder for men than women, but hey, that's the work you'll have to put in for any relationship to succeed
• Don't revolve your relationship around money. If you're worried about her taking advantage of you and milking you for everything you have, voice that worry to her. Again, communicate and listen to what she has to say. Trust your gut on whether she's being truthful.
• You cannot ever throw the fact that she's a WG in her face. Once it comes up in an argument, I guarantee things are over.

I'm not as old as some of the other guys around here, but I think I can say one thing safely: There are probably only a handful of people that you'll ever encounter in life that you will truly click with. It'll be a person where spending time with them is just "easy," where you feel like you can be with them for hours, days, months and years on end and never be bored. These people don't enter into our lives often. When they do, you better be ready to take a risk, because it's always better to take a risk than to regret. If the relationship ends, it's not a failure. The true failure would be you not trying.

I'm truly happy for you and best of luck!

Great advice and words of wisdom.

 

[Lastfour1479]

It's funny you mention this. I couldn't quite believe it when she actually got jealous of me being in close contact with an ex. I let her go on my phone and she spent a good 20 minutes going through my conversation with her (which I didn't mind because I had nothing to hide). She welcomed me to her phone in the meantime but the catalogue of unopened +44's was a tad overwhelming so I left it.

There unopened for a reason, she has absolutely no interest in the content. I know the password to my girls phones(work and personal )and before you would always be giving it a sly check. When the trust strengthens you never give them a second look

[Stevelondon]

I had a visit to my regular this morning and asked her if she'd ever been in a relationship with a client, she said "No, how could I have a relationship with someone who uses prostitutes"!!!

She obviously thinks very little of herself. !!!

[JustaPunter]

There unopened for a reason, she has absolutely no interest in the content. I know the password to my girls phones(work and personal )and before you would always be giving it a sly check. When the trust strengthens you never give them a second look

So you are basing a relationship on your repeatedly betraying her trust?

But it’s ok because tou don’t do it any more?

[Roman77]

I had a visit to my regular this morning and asked her if she'd ever been in a relationship with a client, she said "No, how could I have a relationship with someone who uses prostitutes"!!!

Maybe this SP should take a look at herself and her relationship. How could she have a relationship with someone who uses prostiitutes?  If she's in a relationship outside of work then consider her partner who's sleeping with a prostitute at home every night.

[hairdownthere]

Maybe this SP should take a look at herself and her relationship. How could she have a relationship with someone who uses prostiitutes?  If she's in a relationship outside of work then consider her partner who's sleeping with a prostitute at home every night.

I have no idea about, and no interest, in her personal life, nor does she have any interest in mine.

[Thepunteruk]

Fuck!  Wasting #15k on this thread... 

But it has to be asked:

1)  Are you fucking her bareback? CiP?
2)  Is she insisting on bareback?
3)  Does she "insist" throughout the month?
4)  Do you know for a fact that she's actually taking/using birth control?
5)  Does she already have kids?
6)  Do you want to be a father?

You've forgot to reply to this excellent post OP.

[KiloRomeo]

Fuck!  Wasting #15k on this thread... 

But it has to be asked:

1)  Are you fucking her bareback? CiP?
2)  Is she insisting on bareback?
3)  Does she "insist" throughout the month?
4)  Do you know for a fact that she's actually taking/using birth control?
5)  Does she already have kids?
6)  Do you want to be a father?

1. CIP happened once but we went to the pharmacy together the next day
2. Yes but I'm now insisting we always use protection. We haven't done bb since that one night
3. Yes but it's not happening
4. Just the morning after pill on that one night
5. No
6. No and she doesn't want to be a mother either

[stonebow1]

Sometimes you click with SP's because at the end of the day it is still a man/woman interaction even if payment is involved. But you'd have to be insane to let feelings come into it.

Plenty of research shows that the higher the body count the weaker the ability of that person to pair bond. When things no longer feel exciting and you enter the phase of the relationship which requires work, someone who can't strongly pair bond will be able to cut you off like it's nothing and move on to the next.

She is around men everyday and getting intimate with all of them. What's to say another client won't come along who she finds more attractive than you?

Don't make a ho a housewife. 

[Lastfour1479]

What's to say another client won't come along who she finds more attractive than you?

LOL, have you seen the state of the average punter, they're no Jason Mamoa that's for sure

[daviemac]

LOL, have you seen the state of the average punter, they're no Jason Mamoa that's for sure

How many have you seen??   

Edit

Nearly forgot LOL

[nightbot]

Sometimes you click with SP's because at the end of the day it is still a man/woman interaction even if payment is involved. But you'd have to be insane to let feelings come into it.

Plenty of research shows that the higher the body count the weaker the ability of that person to pair bond. When things no longer feel exciting and you enter the phase of the relationship which requires work, someone who can't strongly pair bond will be able to cut you off like it's nothing and move on to the next.

She is around men everyday and getting intimate with all of them. What's to say another client won't come along who she finds more attractive than you?

Don't make a ho a housewife.

This is some insecure bs.
How many of the WGs you've seen, you've fallen in love with?

It takes an awful lot for that transition to happen, like the two people have to really like each other to even consider it, let alone give it a shot. And to suggest that because it happened once with someone it's going to happen left and right is silly, as if the girls don't have a brain of their own and don't view relationships like normal human beings, and would jump from men to men like kids go through toys.

If anything, the right way to look at it is that despite seeing several men and having so many options, she chooses to go home to one person.