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I guess it would be fair if they both packed in those activities but equally fair if they both carried on.
Being much the same as other couples isn't necessarily a good thyng.

Indeed, I completely agree with this and your other comments, I am not now, have never been, and hope never to be the same as everyone else, I do not go out of my way not to conform, I just seem to have different viewpoints and attitudes to most people, in almost every aspect of life. I like this forum as I can freely discuss one aspect of my non-conformity, society frowns upon prostitution, I can not for the life of me figure out why this is so.

My two pennies worth for what it is should be for you to ask why you see a WG -  I would imagine for most it is the level of intimacy without any real concerns about moral issues because some of the things you enjoy; you would not consider doing at home with the wife / girlfriend. It is  maybe a more comforting thought that you can get real dirty with a WG but you perhaps wouldn't want your partner to participate in quite the same way.  So if you actually got involved with a WG would it then transform the relationship in so far as you would be uncomfortable with what you know she is doing with punters - it is a dilemma that comes down to how you feel about the whole issue

Offline nova painted floozie

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But would you be uncomfortable or would you just get on with it and say 'that's her job - she does that for money, but what I have with her is a different thyng.'  :unknown:
Not everyone can do this, but some can.

Offline sam55


I have a great relationship with a reg, we always have a long chat and a good laugh as well as the sex. If she doesn't have another booking she always says that I don't have to rush off.  BUT unless and until she says that I don't have to pay, it's a business deal pure and simple, albeit with some pleasantries thrown in.

After all, I always have a chat and a laugh with the checkout girls in ASDA, but I won't be getting my shopping free!

simple...dont do it!

as much as therye our secret fantasies and respect is usually shown on both sides id imagine in most cases if you cut off the money theyll cut you off.ive tried to strike up a couple of friendships with girls that i genuinly liked and even tried to help them out at times but its not worked for me cos if you dont pay therye not interested.i could certainly never date a girl who sells herself for money and yes its double standards and hypocritical.im sure its nothing personal to me that they dont want to get too friendly with a punter.they sell therye bodies...we buy then we both move on.

ps..never ever loan a WG money as youll never get it back in cash and probably not in kind either.i found that one out from experience too!!

Offline Barry Shipton

But would you be uncomfortable or would you just get on with it and say 'that's her job - she does that for money, but what I have with her is a different thyng.'  :unknown:
Not everyone can do this, but some can.
Before I punted I could never have understood this - and just read a thread on Saafe about escorts balancing work and relationships, and the bad reactions from some boyfriends.
Now I can understand it - in fact I think only another escort or a punter can really understand what an escort's job is like. Which is why we call those outside the business civvies.
Which means in theory punters would make the ideal partners for escorts - but I suppose the irony is the minute you step over the line and become a punter then you also become the least trustworthy potential partner.

Offline Barry Shipton

I would imagine for most it is the level of intimacy without any real concerns about moral issues because some of the things you enjoy; you would not consider doing at home with the wife / girlfriend. It is  maybe a more comforting thought that you can get real dirty with a WG but you perhaps wouldn't want your partner to participate in quite the same way.
Now for me it's no different - but then I am more a vanilla GFE type and not into any fetishes - except that any chance to get down and dirty at home dried up years ago.

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Before I punted I could never have understood this - and just read a thread on Saafe about escorts balancing work and relationships, and the bad reactions from some boyfriends.
Now I can understand it - in fact I think only another escort or a punter can really understand what an escort's job is like. Which is why we call those outside the business civvies.
Which means in theory punters would make the ideal partners for escorts - but I suppose the irony is the minute you step over the line and become a punter then you also become the least trustworthy potential partner.

I can see the logic of a WG dating a punter (whether still actively punting or not) in that he is more likely to understand that world.
Why would you be the least trustworthy partner though? If everythyng is out in the open, surely there would be more trust.

Offline Barry Shipton

Least trustworthy because for me I overstepped a moral line when I punted and you can't ever go back. It's something I thought I would never do (although I don't regret it).
I meant least trustworthy probably in the eyes of civvies - who would view escorts and punters as somehow morally bankrupt.
But I suppose the problem with a WG and a punter is that you both know how easy it is - quick text, call or email and a spare half hour is all it needs. Because of that you would both really need to trust each other.
« Last Edit: September 09, 2014, 10:58:56 PM by Barry Shipton »

Offline sam55

I've met the partners of several WG's and I'm always amazed at how matter-of-fact they are about the world of punting. You sit having a beer and a chat about the weather, then take their Mrs upstairs and fuck the daylights out of her. I think that a lot of the time the couple have been swingers and it's escalated from there. I suppose if you don't mind if you're partner gets fucked by someone else, then why not get paid for it.
i wouldn't be able to cope with that for sure.
« Last Edit: September 09, 2014, 10:58:10 PM by sam55 »

I think daftlad summed it up as it is effectively a simple business transaction between 2 people - someone provides a service and the other party pays for it. No doubt there will be the odd exception for whatever reason one takes a genuine shine to the other but  there is also the fact that some people take advantage of others and some girls are clever enough to identify weaknesses with some punters and use this to benefit financially from them - as with most things in life money talks

I've met the partners of several WG's and I'm always amazed at how matter-of-fact they are about the world of punting. You sit having a beer and a chat about the weather, then take their Mrs upstairs and fuck the daylights out of her. I think that a lot of the time the couple have been swingers and it's escalated from there. I suppose if you don't mind if you're partner gets fucked by someone else, then why not get paid for it.
i wouldn't be able to cope with that for sure.
This is a subject that comes up time and time again. I'm not sure it is for everyone, but I know of WG's in Manchester who have long term partners, or even who have been married for years, and for them at least, it seems to work. Does the same apply to porn actors / actresses who have partners?

Offline Marmite

Does the same apply to porn actors / actresses who have partners?

I've known a few people in the porn world and the only ones that appear to have had a successful long term relationship are those that have met on set.

Offline Marmite

I can see the logic of a WG dating a punter (whether still actively punting or not) in that he is more likely to understand that world.


I can understand how some people can be in an open relationship with a WG where both have sex with many partners without emotional commitment.

Personally I could not date a WG if she was still working, it is not the sex that is the problem but my concern of her being attacked and my subsequent reaction.

Offline JV547845

Why would you be the least trustworthy partner though?

Least trustworthy because for me I overstepped a moral line when I punted and you can't ever go back.

I don't think punting's immoral or would make me less trustworthy but then I'm single.

Offline nutley

I have recently developed a strong relationship with a young WG who I have been seeing regularly. Twice a week. We text each other a lot but I'm married and I feel I should stop seeing her. I fancy her too much and the sex is unbelievable. She tells me the sex is amazing for her too. She's dropped hints that I could help her with her flat etc.. I'm on the brink if stopping seeing her because for one thing it's costing me a fortune and also I just like her too much. I also think she's naive and slightly vulnerable.

Offline Barry Shipton

I don't think punting's immoral or would make me less trustworthy but then I'm single.
Funnily enough I don't think my Mrs would agree with you on that!

I have recently developed a strong relationship with a young WG who I have been seeing regularly. Twice a week. We text each other a lot but I'm married and I feel I should stop seeing her. I fancy her too much and the sex is unbelievable. She tells me the sex is amazing for her too. She's dropped hints that I could help her with her flat etc.. I'm on the brink if stopping seeing her because for one thing it's costing me a fortune and also I just like her too much. I also think she's naive and slightly vulnerable.

Think you both need to be very straight with each other - if she's doing her job right then she should be telling you the sex is amazing, making you feel great and keeping you as a regular. Then you just have the problem of keeping solvent!

But if it means more than just a bit of paid fun for either of you then you have to ask is it worth your marriage and half your house for something that might not work out? I ask myself that about any woman I see - and it suddenly makes it a very, very short list. But only you really know the answer to this and by what I am picking up it sounds like you already know you need to end it.

Offline JV547845

Funnily enough I don't think my Mrs would agree with you on that!

Yeah well she (and any other civvy ignoramus) will never know.  Does she go on Mumsnet with all the other bitchy women?

Offline nova painted floozie

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I can understand how some people can be in an open relationship with a WG where both have sex with many partners without emotional commitment.

Personally I could not date a WG if she was still working, it is not the sex that is the problem but my concern of her being attacked and my subsequent reaction.

Why would there need to be no emotional commitment? Or did you mean that outside the relationship there would be no commitment?
If you can say 'we both have sex for fun with other people but we don't date them or have an emotional attachment to them, that bit is specific to us.' Still not for everyone but some people definitely make it work.  :cool:
Also, I'm not sure if you overestimate how likely it is for a WG to be attacked. I have worked for 2 and a half years and never encountered any violence or aggression of any kind in person. (But I might not be representative.)

nutley - Is she naive and vulnerable or clever and manipulative :diablo:

Offline sam55

I have recently developed a strong relationship with a young WG who I have been seeing regularly. Twice a week. We text each other a lot but I'm married and I feel I should stop seeing her. I fancy her too much and the sex is unbelievable. She tells me the sex is amazing for her too. She's dropped hints that I could help her with her flat etc.. I'm on the brink if stopping seeing her because for one thing it's costing me a fortune and also I just like her too much. I also think she's naive and slightly vulnerable.

Without wishing to be rude, I can't help wondering how amazing the sex would be for her if you turned up without your wallet.

I heard alarm bells too at the helping with the flat bit.

Call me a cynical old bastard if you like.  :)

Offline sentinel

Nutley,

I would stop seeing her before she cleans you out.

Bet she wouldn't let you have sex if you weren't paying her, ask her for a freebie and see what happens then.
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Plenty said already:
 
FWIW,  I think you need to be a certain type to hold down a relationship with a WG. Open and able to control all emotions, even actively encourage/support her in what she does. If you ask her to stop and change, that could easily alter the dynamics between you.

I find it hard to believe the stories of WG boyfriends/partners "putting up" on sufferance while she goes off and gets shagged senseless by Tom and Abduls Dick.   :hi:

When would it cross over to being like a pimp? I suppose if you benefited from the money she was making in some form, then that would do it!

 

Offline sam55


I think a tendency to EAS is one of the occupational hazards of punting.

As Nova said, if a WG is doing her job well, you should feel special, just as you would want to in a hotel or restaurant.

There are two scenarios:
1 She is good at her job. Excellent, no problem, enjoy it.

2 She really fancies you and wants to have a relationship. You then have to decide whether to reciprocate - for me that would be the time to bale out.

Offline nutley

Yep I agree with all those comments re my situation.. I'm not stupid enough to know what it's all about.. I haven't got the time to help her out with her flat anyway.. My family and job take up most of my time.. Stopping seeing her is hard tho as she's ticking every box and then some..




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