I'm giving up punting ?

[mandy18]

I have met a the love of my life, and I am due to get married soon, so I thought no more punting will be required.

Wait stop and think about this, Yes I am madly in love with the new lady, she looks after me in every way, but do we have the best sex ever? After many years of punting the answer is a resounding no.

During my punting years I have had some of the most filthy sex going, as well as some of the most passionate (their are some brilliant actresses in the business). My new lady will not be able to compete against the professionals, So the answer is going to be to continue punting with 3 Regs, but I will be giving up the quest to explore new talent.

So The saying, Once a punter always a punter, defiantly seems to be true

[Vice Admiral]

So The saying, Once a punter always a punter, defiantly seems to be true

Defiance is indubitably the best policy.

[alabama1]

Why don't you do us all a favour OP, and give up starting mindless threads instead. 

[southcoastpunter]

Op - what are you expecting guys to say? so you are giving up - well not quite.

fwiw - if you really love this lady, give up entirely and work hard on making her feel special and moving more towards what you want sexually. many ladies consider their guy paying for sex as worse than having an affair. so there is a hell of a risk if you continue punting and being with her. 

[mandy18]

Op - what are you expecting guys to say? so you are giving up - well not quite.

fwiw - if you really love this lady, give up entirely and work hard on making her feel special and moving more towards what you want sexually. many ladies consider their guy paying for sex as worse than having an affair. so there is a hell of a risk if you continue punting and being with her.

I would love to give up punting, It would save a shed full of cash, but I know punting is addictive. As for trying to get her to move towards, what I want sexually, do most blokes want their wives to offer the same service as their whores?

Yes punting is a risk most of us here is probably taking.

[contentguy]

I would love to give up punting, It would save a shed full of cash, but I know punting is addictive. As for trying to get her to move towards, what I want sexually, do most blokes want their wives to offer the same service as their whores?

Yes punting is a risk most of us here is probably taking.

If you’re going to start a thread about sex with your other half, I suggest you review her 

[shed]

Why don't you do us all a favour OP, and give up starting mindless threads instead. 

 
He's obviously bored shitless 

[Watts.E.Dunn]

I think he's realastic re the nicker elastic so..

Didnt smiths a while ago find the 'err, Lurve of his life, but couldnt keep away from this motley crew ;?..

[myothernameis]

I have met a the love of my life, and I am due to get married soon, so I thought no more punting will be required.

How long will the relationship last, it will last until she finds out your punting with escorts, then she might give you the push 

[funfungoodguy]

How long will the relationship last, it will last until she finds out your punting with escorts, then she might give you the push 

By which time having married the new lover, he will also have to pay her a load of money in a divorce settlement as well as still have to pay to punt.

So it is best if he really loves the new proposed wife (there is still time to not marry her) to pack up punting and as a previous comenter said, focus on getting every need fulfilled with the new wife. Remember the new wife may also be thinking "sex with this new almost husband isn't the best i have had but i hope that since we are commited to each other, and i trust him, i can work with him to get mutual satisfaction for us both, it would be dreadful to think he sees hookers to get his sex elsewhere"  Consider it from her point of view if, as you claim to, to really love her.

[Munter84]

Logically, you either give up punting or you don't.

If you keep punting it's either with the wife's knowledge or without.

If it's with her knowledge, you either have her blessing or else it upsets her. If the latter, I'd say that's a recipe for an expensive disaster.

You can't have your cake an eat it, so ultimately you have to decide where you draw the line to compromise. Is there no chance your missus can be encouraged to come out of her shell in the bedroom and provide the same excitement, or is the appeal of punting the novelty and thrill of the chase?

People often remark that the problem with punting is that you can't put the genie back in the bottle. It's seriously addictive.

[Problem Child]

  do most blokes want their wives to offer the same service as their whores?

FUCK YES!!!!!!!!
That would be a dream come true.

[Hobbit]

FUCK YES!!!!!!!!
That would be a dream come true.

Keep dreaming. Wives never do that and most men are too fragile to even discuss it with their wives. Imagine asking your wife to rim you and swallow your cum. How would you even start that conversation? Over a Sunday roast? 

[MissWolf]

Keep dreaming. Wives never do that and most men are too fragile to even discuss it with their wives. Imagine asking your wife to rim you and swallow your cum. How would you even start that conversation? Over a Sunday roast? 

The problem I had with my ex husband is he wouldn't let me stick my tongue up his arse and wasn't keen on BJ's

No bloody wonder he's my ex 

[Southernbloke]

The problem I had with my ex husband is he wouldn't let me stick my tongue up his arse and wasn't keen on BJ's

No bloody wonder he's my ex 

Words almost fail me. Why any man would turn that down is beyond me !!!!!!

[mr.bluesky]

Logically, you either give up punting or you don't.

If you keep punting it's either with the wife's knowledge or without.

If it's with her knowledge, you either have her blessing or else it upsets her. If the latter, I'd say that's a recipe for an expensive disaster.

You can't have your cake an eat it, so ultimately you have to decide where you draw the line to compromise. Is there no chance your missus can be encouraged to come out of her shell in the bedroom and provide the same excitement, or is the appeal of punting the novelty and thrill of the chase?

People often remark that the problem with punting is that you can't put the genie back in the bottle. It's seriously addictive.

I gave up punting once. It was the longest hour of my life. 

[Hanna Lorde (Service Provider)]

If she is already not enough for you sexually then it’s unfair to marry her.  Unless of course, you discuss it with her beforehand, which I doubt you are prepared to do. 

I understand why men in sexless marriages turn to escorts especially when everything else in the relationship works, but to marry her knowing she isn’t enough is wrong imo.  She doesn’t deserve that, no doubt she feels she is everything you want

[Geko12]

Looks like he wants to give up but cant

Sorry to say, give it another 10 years, your sex with the mrs will dry up and you will be out here looking for a hot 20s something to plow.

[willie loman]

Keep dreaming. Wives never do that and most men are too fragile to even discuss it with their wives. Imagine asking your wife to rim you and swallow your cum. How would you even start that conversation? Over a Sunday roast? 

i hate to break the news, but most civvies actually swallow, not that it bothers me one way or another, you dont have to start a rimming conversation, just rim her,

[RandomGuy99]

I'd work on improving the sex with your new love.

Perhaps explain what you like and get her to explain what she likes.

I think it's a bad idea to start a new relationship while you're still seeing escorts.

[Nagilum]

Yeah... You will be back at it in a few months. It starts with a curious visit to the site, to just see what old friends on the forum are up to. Suddenly you find yourself reading reviews and the demon resurfaces.

[Problem Child]

Wives never do that and most men are too fragile to even discuss it with their wives. Imagine asking your wife to rim you and swallow your cum. How would you even start that conversation? Over a Sunday roast? 

Holy generalisation Batman!
Never had to ask my wife to rim me or swallow, she just did..unfortunately though she hasn’t  for a very long time..hopefully she’s doing it with someone else, would help ease the old conscience somewhat. 

[Cheltclient]

I would love to meet someone in real life. If I did, I would give up punting. I’ve not had a serious relationship in a long time and I’ve felt recently that my punting sex has somewhat messed up my view of civvy sex. Like, I am used to the routine and it all being about my pleasure. Start with kissing, start with oral, into sex - all very routine - not like when you go to be with a civvy woman and things just go with the flow and are far more natural.

I suppose it’s each to their own but if I had someone in real life, I would have a different kind of sex to the punting world (she’d want to be there, unprotected, she might actually fancy me) and suspect I’d be satisfied and not need escorts (although I think we are all a bit addicted in out own way). As I think sexual compatibility is important in a relationship, if it wasn’t there it prob wouldn’t get serious anyway.

I often wonder, guys in relationships who still punt, how you’d feel if your partner was fucking lots of guys in secret. Fair play though if you can do it - I think the guilt would cripple me!

[Doc Holliday]

If she is already not enough for you sexually then it’s unfair to marry her.  Unless of course, you discuss it with her beforehand, which I doubt you are prepared to do. 

I understand why men in sexless marriages turn to escorts especially when everything else in the relationship works, but to marry her knowing she isn’t enough is wrong imo.  She doesn’t deserve that, no doubt she feels she is everything you want

This ^

[Doc Holliday]

The problem I had with my ex husband is he wouldn't let me stick my tongue up his arse and wasn't keen on BJ's

No bloody wonder he's my ex 

  Its that audience bias again. The assumption that all women lose interest in sex and that men don't.

[Colston36]

Defiance is indubitably the best policy.

Definitely!

[big-al93]

i hate to break the news, but most civvies actually swallow, not that it bothers me one way or another, you dont have to start a rimming conversation, just rim her,

I'm not sure that most civvies swallow, although I'd agree that possibly most civvies that let you cum in their mouths swallow. Mind you maybe I've just been unlucky.

But OP, you should listen to Hanna. Sounds like great advice to me.

[Thephoenix]

Holy generalisation Batman!
Never had to ask my wife to rim me or swallow, she just did..unfortunately though she hasn’t  for a very long time..hopefully she’s doing it with someone else, would help ease the old conscience somewhat.

I don't like to see anyone suffer with a guilty conscience, so as long as you don't get angry I'll admit that she's a regular swallower and rimmer with us all here at the bowling club.
She's particularly good with us older members and is very careful to avoid any painful haemorrhoids
So you can punt away guilt free!

[s0whatsnew?]

I have met a the love of my life, and I am due to get married soon, so I thought no more punting will be required.

Wait stop and think about this, Yes I am madly in love with the new lady,

Whoa... OP, you say  'madly in love..'    Are you sure you don't mean infatuated?   Believe me, I've been there myself and found out the hard way that what I thought was love was just lust.   To begin with the relationship and sex was great.  But gradually it all became ho-hum.   No arguments on the surface, nothing to get a handle on but we just slowly fizzled out and parted without even trying to talk it through.  Ok, this is all slightly different to what you're describing.  But what I want to say is that if the two of you cannot talk about absolutely everything, then the relationship is doomed to failure.  Maybe not quickly and maybe not due to any obvious reason but doomed nevertheless.  Believe me ....

[Dylanbob]

I get the idea most married people here develop a need for punting, not have one and decide whether they need to give up.

Honestly mate, If you like or love her as much as you say I would just let her go. Its one thing to get into this hobby after the taps been turned off. Its another to start with the intention of punting IMO

[Dylanbob]

Please ignore

[Clitheroelad]

If you’re going to start a thread about sex with your other half, I suggest you review her 

I wouldnt bother, shes a negative from my experience 

[ulstersubbie]

I wouldnt bother, shes a negative from my experience 

Ouch!   

[datwabbit]

I think it's best to say that you're pausing punting. Can be for many reasons. Gives you wiggle room for when/if you return.

But not sure why you want to share here.

Better off informing all your local sp's so they know to drown their sorrows.

[webpunter]

Defiance is indubitably the best policy.

Quality observation

[webpunter]

do most blokes want their wives to offer the same service as their whores?

Obvs
However it won't replace the magic door moment & the excitement of what beckons on the other side

For the UKP edging enthusiasts try asking the OH to do this skillfully for 45-50 mins
An hour session minus a few mins either end getting clobber off & clobber back on
And a brief warm up with CCs & RUs
See how far you get 

I've nearly been caught out with a civvy when (stupidly] suggesting a few changes of activities i was asked something along the lines of: 'do you think there is a menu ?'
That took a bit of effort to dig myself out of 

[Fuzzyduck]

I have met a the love of my life, and I am due to get married soon, so I thought no more punting will be required.

Wait stop and think about this, Yes I am madly in love with the new lady, she looks after me in every way, but do we have the best sex ever? After many years of punting the answer is a resounding no.

During my punting years I have had some of the most filthy sex going, as well as some of the most passionate (their are some brilliant actresses in the business). My new lady will not be able to compete against the professionals, So the answer is going to be to continue punting with 3 Regs, but I will be giving up the quest to explore new talent.

So The saying, Once a punter always a punter, defiantly seems to be true

You are incredibly selfish and self-centred. In fact, you sound like a real prick. Even with this post, it's all about me, me, me. Your poor wife-to-be.

[Stevelondon]

What Hanna Lorde said 👍🏻

If you’re already bored of the sex with this so called love of your life…….why marry her already knowing your going to cheat on her.

[mandy18]

What Hanna Lorde said 👍🏻

If you’re already bored of the sex with this so called love of your life…….why marry her already knowing your going to cheat on her.

I am not bored with sex with my girlfriend, just that it is the normal kind of sex between partners. the point I was trying to get across, is that after seeing the really filthy Ladies, and enjoying what they offer, How do I ask my Partner to piss all over me and  lick my arsehole, Just not going to happen. 

I know this site is not for giving advice for personal sexual problems, but quite a few people have been telling me what I should do , so this is my response to them

I think our relationship will be a lot more than just sexual, we are very compatible, I wouldn't be surprised of I would get approval from her, to have sex with other partners, But I cant see this will be a topic I could ever talk about. My partner has been in many abusive relationships, and at the age of 58 has been left with fuck all and virtually homeless and I don't think sex is at all important to her, I think she has sex just to try and please me. I think she is more looking for a stable relationship and some one to look after and care for her, which I do.

I have taken onboard all the comments about giving up punting, and working on the marriage, so I have a lot of serious thinking to do.

[The_Don]

smiths

https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=333400.0;all

[alibirmingham]

I wouldnt bother, shes a negative from my experience 

I would add that’s a bit below the belt but isn’t that the point lol

[JontyR]

How do I ask my Partner to piss all over me and  lick my arsehole,

Well I suggest you ask after you have done the washing up and taken the bins out. You may get a better reaction.

[big-al93]

I am not bored with sex with my girlfriend, just that it is the normal kind of sex between partners. the point I was trying to get across, is that after seeing the really filthy Ladies, and enjoying what they offer, How do I ask my Partner to piss all over me and  lick my arsehole, Just not going to happen. 

I know this site is not for giving advice for personal sexual problems, but quite a few people have been telling me what I should do , so this is my response to them

I think our relationship will be a lot more than just sexual, we are very compatible, I wouldn't be surprised of I would get approval from her, to have sex with other partners, But I cant see this will be a topic I could ever talk about. My partner has been in many abusive relationships, and at the age of 58 has been left with fuck all and virtually homeless and I don't think sex is at all important to her, I think she has sex just to try and please me. I think she is more looking for a stable relationship and some one to look after and care for her, which I do.

I have taken onboard all the comments about giving up punting, and working on the marriage, so I have a lot of serious thinking to do.

Have you considered that maybe sex isn't important to your bride to be, because she has only ever had unsatisfactory sex in her life. Maybe introducing her to some kink would be a sexual awakening for her. And if not it might open a conversation about what you require sexually, so that you can both go into the marriage with your eyes open.

[Doc Holliday]

.... and at the age of 58

I am assuming you are a similar age to your future wife? I had thought from your OP you were younger, although there is nothing to support that perception in what you had written.

So you have met the love of your life, someone you describe as very compatible. You have also found a woman who you have enjoyable sex with and has not lost her libido despite the menopause and a history of abuse.
You could be loving, supportive partners best friends even for the rest of your lives and avoiding the loneliness of old age and yet you are considering jeopardising that just because you like watersports etc.

Life's too short.

[pythondan]

Given the age of the lady in question (58) I can see why a seasoned punter might still want to see girls in their 20s and 30s as our society values youth and beauty above most things.

I would certainly find it difficult to give up punting in similar circumstances and my tastes are pretty vanilla - I am happy with good quality oral and vagina sex - my forays into anal, water sports, threesomes etc. have been fun but not something that I would miss if not available.

I have only had one civvy relationship where the sex stayed at a level where I would not be tempted to stray but the other aspects of the relationship were not a patch on my current one where the non-bedroom stuff is great.

I think it is maybe unrealistic to expect one woman to be a perfect wife, mother, bedmate etc. and if I had to pick one area for my partner to fall short it would be in the sack as that is something that can be addressed outside the relationship without any emotional commitment to another person.

My advice would be do not get married but it would seem you could have a loving, supportive relationship with this woman but make sure you use protection for all punter stuff and make sure your security stuff is as good as you can make it. Your libido may fade over the next few years so the issue may resolve itself in time.