You may have the wrong idea of what this site is about?
This is an escort review site where people review their experiences with escorts, not arranging to look over someone’s shoulder as they fuck.
You’ve already made a post of this before and I presume it got nowhere so maybe you’ve already got your answer.
Read and understand what the moderator has just told you
Maybe try a punt or two, review and contribute, this way your fellow punters may take you more seriously and the mods may allow you more leeway
In general, you will find most private messages are from genuine like minded people, if unsure, read the posts and reviews from the sender, I would imagine someone with many reviews and posts with time under their belts are likely to be genuine, whereas people could be forgiven for having no trust in a newbie, with no reviews like yourself
You state you are new in the country, maybe say a little about yourself, where you are from, etc etc and maybe some of your fellow countrymen will give you time...just my thoughts