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Suppose that she decides that she  also would like sex with someone years younger than herself, and  punts with a young male service provider on AW (paid for out of the housekeeping, of course).  How would you feel then?

I'd ask if I could watch, or join in :lol: :lol: :lol:

tcm

Offline mh

And it's amazing how many of them couldn't give a shit ---you're lucky ..I've had this heart to heart on a number of occasions - and NOTHING has changed . There are lots of postings on the forum about wives attitudes .

Again , consider yourself lucky .. I wonder how many members of the forum would never of started punting -even if they received 'vanilla' sex on a regular basis (once a week ? ). Fortunately most of us love our wives / partners .. BUT , if you asked most blokes what is the ONE bugbear in their relationship it would be SEX !!!

For me, this is spot-on.

All I can say is that most of those who complain about sex with their wives have only themselves to blame for not working harder at it from the start

Sorry, it simply doesn't work like that with all women.

When I first met my OH we had sex at least every other night, shared baths and showers, experimented with sex manuals, watched porn together, read each other porn and in all of it she was an enthusiastic participant. It was all fairly vanilla stuff, no BDSM, toys or anal and she would not shave her pubes, for example. But many positions and frequent sex. She tried swallowing my come but hated it, though gave good oral.

So, after marriage it went slightly down in frequency and a lot down in variation. After kids it went off a cliff in frequency and became a single fixed sequence of actions on the odd occasion (a few times a year).

We've had blazing rows about it and heart-to-hearts about it all to zero effect. Apparently I simply should not want sex as frequently as I do (e.g. 2 or 3 times a month). Apparently her enthusiasm all those years ago was just her doing what she thought she should and she didn't really enjoy it (pull the other one, it's got balls on).

The really annoying thing is that when she does want sex she is almost desperate for it and comes like an express train. I cannot fathom how little interest she has in something she enjoys so much when she "needs" it.

Now that the kids are older, the frequency is variable, could (rarely) be twice in a month but more usually once every other month. And there's no variation at all. My depressing holiday report is here:
https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=35305.msg484087#msg484087

It's really not down to "not working harder at it from the start" for everyone.

Offline potato

The thing is men just want a good fuck now and then whilst women have to attach some sort of emotion into it!  I can quite happily fuck my younger  reg senseless and get up to all sorts of mischief without the least emotional attachment involved whilst a lot of women seem to have to attach labels to everything.  Some women definitely change radically through a long term relationship and some attempt to change their partners as well.

Now I get frowned upon ordering a steak in a restaurant as she turned vegetarian as well - So little chance of getting my meat gobbled either!

In every other way we are the best of friends and at my age, starting again would not be a good option..So I am quite happy the way I am - and there is a cracking place on the way to work that does great bacon sandwiches.. :)

Offline Sparquin

For me, this is spot-on.

Sorry, it simply doesn't work like that with all women.

When I first met my OH we had sex at least every other night, shared baths and showers, experimented with sex manuals, watched porn together, read each other porn and in all of it she was an enthusiastic participant. It was all fairly vanilla stuff, no BDSM, toys or anal and she would not shave her pubes, for example. But many positions and frequent sex. She tried swallowing my come but hated it, though gave good oral.

So, after marriage it went slightly down in frequency and a lot down in variation. After kids it went off a cliff in frequency and became a single fixed sequence of actions on the odd occasion (a few times a year).

We've had blazing rows about it and heart-to-hearts about it all to zero effect. Apparently I simply should not want sex as frequently as I do (e.g. 2 or 3 times a month). Apparently her enthusiasm all those years ago was just her doing what she thought she should and she didn't really enjoy it (pull the other one, it's got balls on).

The really annoying thing is that when she does want sex she is almost desperate for it and comes like an express train. I cannot fathom how little interest she has in something she enjoys so much when she "needs" it.

Now that the kids are older, the frequency is variable, could (rarely) be twice in a month but more usually once every other month. And there's no variation at all. My depressing holiday report is here:
https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=35305.msg484087#msg484087

It's really not down to "not working harder at it from the start" for everyone.

Yup that pretty much describes my situation. Mrs. S almost makes me feel guilty for wanting sex with her (and I still do btw). And it is that lack of variation that sits at the heart of my seeing WGs.

Whilst I draw some comfort from not being alone in this regard I do feel sad that this issue seems to be more widespread than I had thought.

I wonder whether there's a secret site like AW that only OH's know about and they're busy booking and fucking young guys every week. Maybe they have a punting forum like this where they discuss us and why we don't seem to want sex any more.....

It does make you wonder as it seems the majority of OH's quickly go off sex, or never really get into it in the first place.

Baffling....

tcm

"How do you stop your girlfriend giving you a blowjob?"
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I guess this is the case for many. They did have a good and varied sex life once, but now most of the exciting stuff is no longer on the menu.

I am afraid that I`m never sure whether to be sympathetic or condemnatory when I read postings of this nature, but I must confess that my first inclination is to ask "Just how hard have you actually tried to have a good sexual relation ship in your marriage before you decided it was easier to go out and fuck a prossie?". It`s an odd fact of life, that although very few men want to marry a prossie, most of them nevertheless expect their new wives to come ready equipped with all the sexual knowledge and attributes of a prossie without actually having had any real experience. At the same time the men themselves, although they consider themselves God`s gift to women,  probably have only a very rudimentary knowledge of sex and little of the finer points and only the rutting instinct to guide them. So neither of them starts out equipped for a mutually happy sex life and the problem is that neither of them seems prepared to do anything about it - the wife gets little or no enjoyment, so gets bored and decides it not worth the bother, and the husband takes himself of to a prossie, who shows him what it`s all about.
AND IT`S THEIR OWN FAULT - BOTH OF THEM.

When my wife and I first started courting in our teens (in the 1940s) neither of us had had any sexual experience, but we experimented together - each of us finding out what pleased the other most - we bought sex manuals and read them in bed together, trying out everything we read, and we built up a most satisfactory sex life.  I can truthfully say that in all the years of my marriage I never once felt either the desire or the need to bed any other woman.  We started with sex every night, and even when we reached out 70s it was at least once each week. We knew all the positions we liked best, we both knew how to give the other the greatest pleasure, and we always finished with both of us completely satisfied. She would initiate sex as often as I did, and when her menstrual cycle prevented vaginal intercourse anal was always on offer (and she enjoyed it as much as I did).

When I had got over her death, and started punting none of the girls I saw gave me any better sex than I had had with my wife, and most of them nowhere near as good.

All I can say is that most of those who complain about sex with their wives have only themselves to blame for not working harder at it from the start

I've never read such a load of twaddle..in my opinion ...... I think you are very much in the minority when it comes to marital situations .
When I first came on the forum it shocked me how many men on here had the same attitudes and experiences with their wives as I have .

Every male friend I've got (all over 40) moans about their sex lives . One of these chaps treats his wife like a princess . They are both good looking ..but she'll only do missionary and sex is rare . My other friends wife is stunning ... not interested..and he is one of the nicest blokes you could ever meet !

When this subject comes up on things like the Daily Mail online the women always quote the same thing...' Well he's not the man I married.. He sits watching football , overweight..couch potato...I'm looking after the kids all day .. I'm too tired ...etc etc ...the list / excuses are endless !!

Well Mrs Frenchie retired from part time work at 43, hasn't got any kids , financially stable , put on about another five stone and sits on her arse on the couch all day playing games on her f...ing laptop !!

I think the problem is that many men have tried EVERYTHING ..and eventually give up and start punting.
I've been banging my head against a brick wall for twenty years... Mrs Frenchies 'likes' list was VERY comprehensive when we were younger......but as time goes on things get worse and worse. That's why I started punting 18 months ago .

I will again relay a story which perfectly illustrates what drives me crazy....

When we lived in London my wife had a blonde 'leggy' good looking friend in her middle thirties . Two kids, nice house , really nice bloke for a husband......All of a sudden he pissed off with an old friend who he had met online......
All the girlfriends closed ranks...'What a bastard'...'How could he? '...

It turned out that she had refused sex FOR THREE YEARS !!!!!!!!..and then wonders why he went !

As I previously stated there are lots of men who love and care about their wives but this one factor winds them up SO much that they look for alternative solution ...eg   punting . I don't think any married man enters into punting lightly - but once started it's very hard to stop.

Because communication isn't a problem, after nine months of me not bringing up the subject of sex (in any way ) she broached the subject and I basically and calmly told her what I thought HER outlook was on our sex lives ..at the end of it Mrs Frenchie admitted that I was 99% spot on .......she hasn't got an ounce of sexual desire in her whole body...she can't be bothered....she'd rather go to bed with chocolate and a good book......

I'm not going to repeat other peoples postings on the subject..but I think my experiences are more 'the norm' than yours .

In the past I have been quite chuffed to get very positive responses to my postings on this subject ..I hope this one again finds
agreement .

Gentlemen, Both Frenchie and MH have in various ways described the malaise that sets in once married life has taken its toll.

The French have a very good approach to Married life. Mistresses are the order of play. French women are more than happy to let their men seek the services of other women so long as they fulfill the Marital commitment to them, the family and the home. Let some other bimbo sort out his urges and I'll get on with the business of running the family. Occasionally she may require the services of her husband /partner. In that case it's a double whammy for him. And as long as he comes up trumps she is satisfied.
French women also take much better care of themselves and enjoy being sexually attractive. Less so some of our British domestic godesses.
It is sometimes the case that they too may enjoy the attentions of a consort. A much broader approach to a healthy sex life.
The French also appreciate that this is essential for a healthy stress free life.
We can bang on about it as long as we like; but until we adopt the French approach to the real meaning of life-love-fidelity and what is really important for the whole family; we havent a hope in hell of resolving the problem.

Now I fully appreciate that this forum is open and mild xenophobia occurs from time to time. Occasionally other nationalities might have long hit upon a better way of doing "it".
But just in case we worry that we hadn't thought of it at the beginning let us take a good look at the way the Victorians approached meeting their needs. They were at it like Rabbits the lot of 'em. Or are we going to live in denial?
We really should grow up
PP


Offline Sparquin

Gentlemen, Both Frenchie and MH have in various ways described the malaise that sets in once married life has taken its toll.

The French have a very good approach to Married life. Mistresses are the order of play. French women are more than happy to let their men seek the services of other women so long as they fulfill the Marital commitment to them, the family and the home. Let some other bimbo sort out his urges and I'll get on with the business of running the family. Occasionally she may require the services of her husband /partner. In that case it's a double whammy for him. And as long as he comes up trumps she is satisfied.
French women also take much better care of themselves and enjoy being sexually attractive. Less so some of our British domestic godesses.
It is sometimes the case that they too may enjoy the attentions of a consort. A much broader approach to a healthy sex life.
The French also appreciate that this is essential for a healthy stress free life.
We can bang on about it as long as we like; but until we adopt the French approach to the real meaning of life-love-fidelity and what is really important for the whole family; we havent a hope in hell of resolving the problem.

Now I fully appreciate that this forum is open and mild xenophobia occurs from time to time. Occasionally other nationalities might have long hit upon a better way of doing "it".
But just in case we worry that we hadn't thought of it at the beginning let us take a good look at the way the Victorians approached meeting their needs. They were at it like Rabbits the lot of 'em. Or are we going to live in denial?
We really should grow up
PP

So I am very grateful that my favorite provider who is French and epitomizes the values described is arriving in town tomorrow.
« Last Edit: August 11, 2014, 03:07:11 AM by Sparquin »

Offline JV547845

It turned out that she had refused sex FOR THREE YEARS !!!!!!!!..and then wonders why he went !

Ha ha ha!

Offline CBPaul

I am afraid that I`m never sure whether to be sympathetic or condemnatory when I read postings of this nature, but I must confess that my first inclination is to ask "Just how hard have you actually tried to have a good sexual relation ship in your marriage before you decided it was easier to go out and fuck a prossie?". It`s an odd fact of life, that although very few men want to marry a prossie, most of them nevertheless expect their new wives to come ready equipped with all the sexual knowledge and attributes of a prossie without actually having had any real experience. At the same time the men themselves, although they consider themselves God`s gift to women,  probably have only a very rudimentary knowledge of sex and little of the finer points and only the rutting instinct to guide them. So neither of them starts out equipped for a mutually happy sex life and the problem is that neither of them seems prepared to do anything about it - the wife gets little or no enjoyment, so gets bored and decides it not worth the bother, and the husband takes himself of to a prossie, who shows him what it`s all about.
AND IT`S THEIR OWN FAULT - BOTH OF THEM.

When my wife and I first started courting in our teens (in the 1940s) neither of us had had any sexual experience, but we experimented together - each of us finding out what pleased the other most - we bought sex manuals and read them in bed together, trying out everything we read, and we built up a most satisfactory sex life.  I can truthfully say that in all the years of my marriage I never once felt either the desire or the need to bed any other woman.  We started with sex every night, and even when we reached out 70s it was at least once each week. We knew all the positions we liked best, we both knew how to give the other the greatest pleasure, and we always finished with both of us completely satisfied. She would initiate sex as often as I did, and when her menstrual cycle prevented vaginal intercourse anal was always on offer (and she enjoyed it as much as I did).

When I had got over her death, and started punting none of the girls I saw gave me any better sex than I had had with my wife, and most of them nowhere near as good.

All I can say is that most of those who complain about sex with their wives have only themselves to blame for not working harder at it from the start

From a sex point of view it sounds like you had an amazing marriage and very lucky but I'm guessing in all those years you didn't punt, or moreover have affairs. It may have given you many years experience with one partner but no experience of variety and were very much in the minority with regards to your wife and sexual relationship. That would explain why your 'working harder from the start' bit is such rubbish.

Of all the punters on here who lament a fading sex life at home I doubt that many started out so poor and haven't worked at it. I would also worry if I had an hour with a prossie at it beat the early years with the wife in terms of the sexual high it gave.


As I previously stated there are lots of men who love and care about their wives but this one factor winds them up SO much that they look for alternative solution ...eg   punting . I don't think any married man enters into punting lightly - but once started it's very hard to stop.


Brilliant  :thumbsup:

Offline sam55

As I previously stated there are lots of men who love and care about their wives but this one factor winds them up SO much that they look for alternative solution ...eg   punting . I don't think any married man enters into punting lightly - but once started it's very hard to stop.

Mrs Sam has no desire or interest in sex anymore, due to age, hormones, hysterectomy problems etc a situation that I totally accept without question as I love her and we have a great time together.
It's the intimacy with another person that I miss terribly and so that's when the punting began. I really dislike the lying that is a necessary part of it and I'm sure a lot of women would call me a cheating 2 faced bastard. the fact that I choose fit nubile 20 year olds instead of someone my wives age is a bit of a perk I suppose.

LycraAl

Sadly, the domestic action here has been pretty dull and rare throughout a 30 year marriage. Not without hints and suggestions from me throughout, mind.

Dressing up in anything sexy? No. Sex toys? No. Blow jobs? No.  Good job we love each other loads in every other way...

So, given that, why do I punt? I'd explode if I didn't!

Looks like I hit the nail on the head again !!!!

Offline pierrot

I am afraid that I`m never sure whether to be sympathetic or condemnatory when I read postings of this nature, but I must confess that my first inclination is to ask "Just how hard have you actually tried to have a good sexual relation ship in your marriage before you decided it was easier to go out and fuck a prossie?". It`s an odd fact of life, that although very few men want to marry a prossie, most of them nevertheless expect their new wives to come ready equipped with all the sexual knowledge and attributes of a prossie without actually having had any real experience. At the same time the men themselves, although they consider themselves God`s gift to women,  probably have only a very rudimentary knowledge of sex and little of the finer points and only the rutting instinct to guide them. So neither of them starts out equipped for a mutually happy sex life and the problem is that neither of them seems prepared to do anything about it - the wife gets little or no enjoyment, so gets bored and decides it not worth the bother, and the husband takes himself of to a prossie, who shows him what it`s all about.
AND IT`S THEIR OWN FAULT - BOTH OF THEM.

When my wife and I first started courting in our teens (in the 1940s) neither of us had had any sexual experience, but we experimented together - each of us finding out what pleased the other most - we bought sex manuals and read them in bed together, trying out everything we read, and we built up a most satisfactory sex life.  I can truthfully say that in all the years of my marriage I never once felt either the desire or the need to bed any other woman.  We started with sex every night, and even when we reached out 70s it was at least once each week. We knew all the positions we liked best, we both knew how to give the other the greatest pleasure, and we always finished with both of us completely satisfied. She would initiate sex as often as I did, and when her menstrual cycle prevented vaginal intercourse anal was always on offer (and she enjoyed it as much as I did).

When I had got over her death, and started punting none of the girls I saw gave me any better sex than I had had with my wife, and most of them nowhere near as good.

All I can say is that most of those who complain about sex with their wives have only themselves to blame for not working harder at it from the start


Arent you the lucky cunt.


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