I am afraid that I`m never sure whether to be sympathetic or condemnatory when I read postings of this nature, but I must confess that my first inclination is to ask "Just how hard have you actually tried to have a good sexual relation ship in your marriage before you decided it was easier to go out and fuck a prossie?". It`s an odd fact of life, that although very few men want to marry a prossie, most of them nevertheless expect their new wives to come ready equipped with all the sexual knowledge and attributes of a prossie without actually having had any real experience. At the same time the men themselves, although they consider themselves God`s gift to women, probably have only a very rudimentary knowledge of sex and little of the finer points and only the rutting instinct to guide them. So neither of them starts out equipped for a mutually happy sex life and the problem is that neither of them seems prepared to do anything about it - the wife gets little or no enjoyment, so gets bored and decides it not worth the bother, and the husband takes himself of to a prossie, who shows him what it`s all about.
AND IT`S THEIR OWN FAULT - BOTH OF THEM.
When my wife and I first started courting in our teens (in the 1940s) neither of us had had any sexual experience, but we experimented together - each of us finding out what pleased the other most - we bought sex manuals and read them in bed together, trying out everything we read, and we built up a most satisfactory sex life. I can truthfully say that in all the years of my marriage I never once felt either the desire or the need to bed any other woman. We started with sex every night, and even when we reached out 70s it was at least once each week. We knew all the positions we liked best, we both knew how to give the other the greatest pleasure, and we always finished with both of us completely satisfied. She would initiate sex as often as I did, and when her menstrual cycle prevented vaginal intercourse anal was always on offer (and she enjoyed it as much as I did).
When I had got over her death, and started punting none of the girls I saw gave me any better sex than I had had with my wife, and most of them nowhere near as good.
All I can say is that most of those who complain about sex with their wives have only themselves to blame for not working harder at it from the start
I've never read such a load of twaddle..in my opinion ...... I think you are very much in the minority when it comes to marital situations .
When I first came on the forum it shocked me how many men on here had the same attitudes and experiences with their wives as I have .
Every male friend I've got (all over 40) moans about their sex lives . One of these chaps treats his wife like a princess . They are both good looking ..but she'll only do missionary and sex is rare . My other friends wife is stunning ... not interested..and he is one of the nicest blokes you could ever meet !
When this subject comes up on things like the Daily Mail online the women always quote the same thing...' Well he's not the man I married.. He sits watching football , overweight..couch potato...I'm looking after the kids all day .. I'm too tired ...etc etc ...the list / excuses are endless !!
Well Mrs Frenchie retired from part time work at 43, hasn't got any kids , financially stable , put on about another five stone and sits on her arse on the couch all day playing games on her f...ing laptop !!
I think the problem is that many men have tried EVERYTHING ..and eventually give up and start punting.
I've been banging my head against a brick wall for twenty years... Mrs Frenchies 'likes' list was VERY comprehensive when we were younger......but as time goes on things get worse and worse. That's why I started punting 18 months ago .
I will again relay a story which perfectly illustrates what drives me crazy....
When we lived in London my wife had a blonde 'leggy' good looking friend in her middle thirties . Two kids, nice house , really nice bloke for a husband......All of a sudden he pissed off with an old friend who he had met online......
All the girlfriends closed ranks...'What a bastard'...'How could he? '...
It turned out that she had refused sex FOR THREE YEARS !!!!!!!!..and then wonders why he went !
As I previously stated there are lots of men who love and care about their wives but this one factor winds them up SO much that they look for alternative solution ...eg punting . I don't think any married man enters into punting lightly - but once started it's very hard to stop.
Because communication isn't a problem, after nine months of me not bringing up the subject of sex (in any way ) she broached the subject and I basically and calmly told her what I thought HER outlook was on our sex lives ..at the end of it Mrs Frenchie admitted that I was 99% spot on .......she hasn't got an ounce of sexual desire in her whole body...she can't be bothered....she'd rather go to bed with chocolate and a good book......
I'm not going to repeat other peoples postings on the subject..but I think my experiences are more 'the norm' than yours .
In the past I have been quite chuffed to get very positive responses to my postings on this subject ..I hope this one again finds