Thanks Vorian, I did see the review reference Madlin and emailed her about another detail, her response though quick was very mechanical, a bit like reading an instruction manual. This led me to believe that the poster may well have been correct!
I have looked a Dees profile and she does have a following but what puts me off about her is the fact that she leads with all she won't do, its almost "guys don't do this, don't do that, anal not included, I don't see, I don't do....
Its a bloody minefield, theres more about no no's than yes please!!! She may well be wonderful but this negative slant puts me ill at ease.
I guess I'm a bit Fluffy.