What gets to me when a lady takes off the condom is just when I have had a great time and post-coital bliss is descending on me, she takes it off roughly and catches my pubic hairs in it and tugs them out. Ouch.
And gives me a tissue or two which is not enough, I prefer some wipes first, for both mouth and mister happy, and then a tissue.
The kind ones do the clean up for me very gently and even with sponge and warm water - that used to happen in Shepherd Market, Mayfair London walk-ups several decades ago. Of course many ladies leave gents to get on with it and hurtle off to the bathroom.