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Offline SirFrank

About 10 years ago me and two mates visited a knocking shop in Swansea after a night out. One of the girls who my mate punted with asked him to hold her arms down forcefully. He obliged and then things got all weird. She started acting a bit weird and accused him of trying to control her. Believe me he really isn't the type. He said but you asked me etc etc. it eventually resulted in her crying at which point he got the fuck out of dodge. We were sat in the waiting area and he looked at us like wtf.

The old boiler on the front door went bonkers but not with my mate. It eventually resulted in her shouting at the girl I've had enough of this shit now get dressed and get out. My mate had a freebie with another girl. Turns out she often flipped out on punters.

I would feel deeply uncomfortable with the role play discussed in OP
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I'm still not happy with having this emotive word at the top of the board. Meat and drink  to those who would wish to discredit the site. However I will await Adam's judgement on this.

I felt the same as you when I first saw this thread, the anti-prostitution brigade will also love it. But I'll let it stand so they can see I don't give a shit what they think. I refuse to let them think they have a victory in being able to influence in what can be discussed on UKP.

Rape roleplay doesn't really appeal to me, but it's like BDSM, watersports and other kinky things, as long as two consenting adults are wanting to do it behind closed doors, then nothing for others or politicians to get involved in.

Offline Matium

As long as there's a safe word which both the guy and the girl agree upon and stop as soon as it's uttered then it will be like any other BDSM roleplay.

The danger, of course, is that one side (usually the guy) gets so excited about the power he has over the girl that he forgets himself, ignores the safe word and the rape role play turns into actual rape.

Offline itk

Many years ago got to know a couple through a swinging/ dogging website. Had a couple of meets where she was tied to a tree and myself and two mates were told to go in the wood and do what we wanted. Only time I've ever been with a girl where all three holes were filled at the same time. Her fantasy was for her to be standing on a street where we were to drive up in a van, snatch her and then rape her. It never happened, as none of us had enough trust with the couple, had visions of us carrying it out and then being nicked by the cops

It seems no one kicks up a fuss about a woman tying up a man and physically beating him or shoving large objects up his arse and leaving big welts on his back, legs, arse as she whips him or breaks his skin with a pinwheel just because it is fantasy yet when the roles are reversed and a woman wants to relinquish al control it becomes taboo and not to be talked about.  People need to remember it is role play as in not real. 

BDSM is willingly surrending your physical and sexual control to another (either gender) and it is in the realms of a sexual fetish. Rape isn't bdsm. I strongly suggest you learn the difference between the two before continuing to band around this headcase term 'rape play'.


Offline fredpunter

BDSM is willingly surrending your physical and sexual control to another (either gender) and it is in the realms of a sexual fetish. Rape isn't bdsm. I strongly suggest you learn the difference between the two before continuing to band around this headcase term 'rape play'.

The difference between role play and the actual act is the former is 90% imagination. I clearly remember the next time I met up with the lass I referred to earlier she said "i loved it when you forced me to suck your cock, I get horny thinking about it" ...... which is all well and good except I never actually forced her to suck my cock! And I never would, I was a bit shocked at the suggestion as I had no recollection of any time when we did anything like that, but if it made her happy to imagine I did  .......
« Last Edit: July 04, 2014, 12:09:39 AM by fredpunter »

Offline dandaley

BDSM is willingly surrending your physical and sexual control to another (either gender) and it is in the realms of a sexual fetish. Rape isn't bdsm. I strongly suggest you learn the difference between the two before continuing to band around this headcase term 'rape play'.

yes i agree, personally i think we are talking about voluntary rough sex, as that is what infact it is.

Can you name the prossies? If not, I believe you're just using it as a pretence to raise the subject... :hi:


A couple of years ago, on AW if you searched for the term Rape, there were some escorts offering this service, and tI think there was a escort in paisley, who allowed you to do anything to her, including beating her up, but you weren't allowed to hit her on the face

Offline pleasure

BDSM is willingly surrending your physical and sexual control to another (either gender) and it is in the realms of a sexual fetish. Rape isn't bdsm. I strongly suggest you learn the difference between the two before continuing to band around this headcase term 'rape play'.

I think you're getting mixed up between "rape play" and "rape". The former is a role play between two consenting adults, while the second is a vile act of abuse and a criminal offence. Mixing up the two doesn't help anybody.

Sure, it's an emotive subject that is going to get some people worked up, but as adults we should be able to discuss the subject without confusing what we're talking about.

Offline CBPaul

BDSM is willingly surrending your physical and sexual control to another (either gender) and it is in the realms of a sexual fetish. Rape isn't bdsm. I strongly suggest you learn the difference between the two before continuing to band around this headcase term 'rape play'.

I agree.
I'm not into BDSM but to my rather limited understanding there is a world of difference between BDSM and rape fantasy.

Essentially rape is unconsensual and therefore, must involve an element of force. Again there is a difference between forceful sex and rape. The idea of having safety words is all well and good but to my mind it also requires a strong element of trust and familiarity. The idea of prossies offering rape fantasy / rape play, call it what you like, leaves me uneasy to say the least. Offering it to some punter she hardly knows means she's either completely stupid or not right in the head.

Like others I was concerned that the anti-UKP brigade would use this thread against us - still am to a certain extent - but it is reassuring that nobody has so far advocated it.

Offline NIK

I think you're getting mixed up between "rape play" and "rape". The former is a role play between two consenting adults, while the second is a vile act of abuse and a criminal offence. Mixing up the two doesn't help anybody.

Sure, it's an emotive subject that is going to get some people worked up, but as adults we should be able to discuss the subject without confusing what we're talking about.

That's as may be but many people see the word and that's enough to set the alarm bells ringing. It's on their agenda against UKP not to discriminate between the two.

Offline sarahjayneleeds

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Two WGs have recently asked me if I would do rape role play with them. Isn't that a bit wierd? I enjoy forceful, hard sex if you know the girl and you know she likes it that way, but to me rape is going one step (several steps TBH) too far. Any thoughts?

Throw in the word "rape" and everyone gets their knickers in a twist. The WG's asked you ( as highlighted above) therefore it is not rape.

Rape is un-consensual sex and being forced against your will. Since they asked you to do this, and given that you will stop when asked to do so,  it is role play.

Offline rolf32313

Be careful with this sort of thing, their have been a few cases in the paper where a lady has requested a guy knocks on her door she will pretend to not know anything and he rapes her to fulfil her wildest fantasy... It wasn't the woman who was to be raped who was posting and talking to the guy... was her "friend" getting revenge for some trivial girlie shite...

On a more general note, When did we as punters pay the prossies to fulfil their fantasies? It's suppose to the other other way round unless it's a freebee but then see warning above!

Offline cunnyhunt

Be careful with this sort of thing, their have been a few cases in the paper where a lady has requested a guy knocks on her door she will pretend to not know anything and he rapes her to fulfil her wildest fantasy... It wasn't the woman who was to be raped who was posting and talking to the guy... was her "friend" getting revenge for some trivial girlie shite...

Can you provide a link please.


Offline vorian

Can you provide a link please.

Sounds like an urban myth to me.
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Offline Xerxes

Rape is un-consensual sex and being forced against your will.
Force is not a relevant issue. The only relevant issue is consent; rape is sex without consent and without reasonable belief that consent has been given.

And reasonable means what a jury thinks it means.

Offline CatBBW

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I felt the same as you when I first saw this thread, the anti-prostitution brigade will also love it. But I'll let it stand so they can see I don't give a shit what they think. I refuse to let them think they have a victory in being able to influence in what can be discussed on UKP.

Rape roleplay doesn't really appeal to me, but it's like BDSM, watersports and other kinky things, as long as two consenting adults are wanting to do it behind closed doors, then nothing for others or politicians to get involved in.

I'm glad you let this stay. An adult discussion about an act between two consenting adults shouldn't be swept under the carpet like it never happens.

As many people have said, rape play is JUST role play. It's totally consensual. I enjoy a bit of "forced" sex play in my private life, it doesn't mean I would want a total stranger on the street to jump me, nor a casual aquaintance or family friend to do it. And I agree what the other ladies have said about BDSM ('forced' acts) on a man being seen as different to BDSM ('forced' acts) on a woman.

« Last Edit: July 04, 2014, 12:31:35 PM by Catherine The Great »

OP - run a mile or at least politely decline if you want to maintain contact.  If your immediate reaction or gut feeling was 'no way, not doing that' then remember it no matter what pressure you are put under. Even if you begin to understand the psychology of it, it's still a firm 'No Thank You!'.

Offline akauya

I've been thinking whether or not post about this but anyway.

I have done this, not with prossies but with civvies and I found out that it does nothing for me. Moreover it turns me off.

The eagled eyed amongst you may have noticed I posted before that I used to hunt for lovers (usually bored married women) in between punting and swinging, etc. So I met this pretty, petite, sweet looking, woman around my age, etc. After the obligatory dinner, drinks, etc. We got to fuck, the first time was OK, a pretty vanilla affair. It must have been good for her so we decided to meet again but this time she asks me to be rough, OK I don't mind a bit of rough sex so that was good too.

We had a few fucks like that until one day she says she wants it really, really rough and asks me to slap her while she is kneeling in front of me and me forcing her to suck me. OK I say let's go along with that. The idea seemed fun to me at first. So off we go and then I slap her (a bit gently) and then she asks me to do it harder and harder. The problem is the more she asks me to slap her harder the more I keep losing wood and feeling uncomfortable. We did finish having a bit of rough sex (I had to do a bit of DIY to get wood again) later on she said she enjoyed that. I asked did you really want me to slap you harder because I was feeling a bit uncomfortable with that. She said what we did was fine but I could sense she didn't get what she was expecting. Anyway, we never saw each other again after that.

Second time, a few years later, this time with a long term lover. We had been going out for some time and were experimenting with different fantasies, etc. We had been swinging, done group sex, etc. Next she says it was rape role play she wanted to try. And guess what was her fantasy, she is a prostitute that comes to my room (in a hotel) gets my money then refuses to fuck me so I then have to "force" her to deliver the goods.

We had a safe word for this because by this time I was more clued up (and so was she). Anyway she changed into some "hooker" clothes, goes out the room and a few minutes later knocks on the door. Initially it all goes as planned, I give her the money, then she changes her mind and tries to get away from the room. I grab her, we struggle and by fuck, she puts up a really fierce fight. Up to this time I was taking the whole thing mockingly but she was really into the role. So I then have to force her to the bed and start ripping her clothes off as agreed (thus her changing into her hooker clothes) she then starts swearing at me and I swear at her back and it goes on for a bit. I managed to rip all her clothes off and stretch her legs open but no point, as my cock remains as limp as a wet rag.

Fuck I thought, why can't she just say the safe word, FFS so we can fuck normally! Anyway she continues to struggle and swear at me then she lets me keep her legs open, I knew she was expecting me to fuck her by now, but no chance with my limp dick so I decided to fist her. The look of surprise on her face was priceless, I reminded her of the safe word and she nodded but no safe word uttered, oh bloody hell by this time I was knackered and sweaty but enjoying the fisting. I managed to get my whole fist inside of her and it felt weird and good at the same time. She stopped struggling and we did manage to have a good fuck. I had to go up her arse (after a bit of DIY to get wood again) as her pussy was sore (and loose probably).  During our post coital chat she said she really enjoyed that I told her I enjoyed it too but it's really not my thing. We never did that again once she ticked it off her list.

After those two experiences I don't think I will try them again, it's not for me and it just turns me off and it's embarrassing losing wood but I suppose it was another thing to tick off one's list.

Offline fredpunter

The common theme here appears to be that where rape roleplay, and I emphasise roleplay, is concerned, it seems to be the women rather than the blokes who want to do it.

Offline CBPaul

I've been thinking whether or not post about this but anyway.



I've had rough sex with civvies and one prossie in particular but that's always been with the encouragement of being rougher, so the opposite of rape role play really.

So having never done this sort of role play I appreciate you posting akauya, makes for interesting reading, especially the detrimental effect it had on you.



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