I can unfortunately confirm that all that was wrong then is just as wrong now, avoid like the plague guys.
Add to the list the following - turned up without any condoms and said '... I don't normally do this ...' and offered bareback at no extra.
Our meeting was cut short very quickly!!!!!!
My real mongering days were about 15 years ago when I was living in Poland, now that was a good scene, then.
The simple lesson appears to be, one bad sign should be enough to say Hell No!!!! Lesson learnt.