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Offline sacredrealm

Does anyone here turn to escorts if and when feeling depressed and or lonley? And does it help you through this to any extent? Even if just temporary release.

Although I consider doing it, alot, as I sometimes feel its the only way, when feeling especially this way, and feeling like my personality, being shy, just in't what attracts and therfore feeling unwanted in this way, (although I know its only because to get there you have to have the personality to take chances with civilian girls) (and I accept as part of me, and I don't want to change me) I consider it even more.
« Last Edit: June 23, 2011, 11:54:49 PM by sacredrealm »

Offline Matium

In your state, always stick to half hour punts and never pay more than £70.00.

The advantage of that is that every time you feel lonely or depressed because you don't have a girlfriend then you can go and see a prostitute, she'll take your mind off your loneliness and make you feel good about yourself. At £70 a go, you'll be able to see a different girl each week, and believe me, you'll soon forget about civvy girls, and start looking forward to your weekly prostitute trip.

That will cheer you up no end.

Offline smiths

Does anyone here turn to escorts if and when feeling depressed and or lonley? And does it help you through this to any extent? Even if just temporary release.

Although I consider doing it, alot, as I sometimes feel its the only way, when feeling especially this way, and feeling like my personality, being shy, just in't what attracts and therfore feeling unwanted in this way, (although I know its only because to get there you have to have the personality to take chances with civilian girls) (and I accept as part of me, and I don't want to change me) I consider it even more.


Offline sacredrealm

Thankyou for the replies both.

Yes that would be good. And thanks for the advice about time. I had recently been thinking half an hour might best whereas before I had thought an hout would be.

Silly as it sounds, I have no desire to get to the root of the feelings. Things like councellin in this way, where you have to go throughyour past and things, I have done before, and it isn't for me. I accept my faults such as these feelings, as just part of me.

I also have no deire to get more confidence exactly out of it. I associate that with over confident guys that I don't like. I don' want to be like them.

Offline Shade

I also have no deire to get more confidence exactly out of it. I associate that with over confident guys that I don't like. I don' want to be like them.

I know what you mean, I guess it's all about finding the middle ground. I've had times of both over-confidence (work going well, hot girlfriend, having money, etc) to being really low (single, unemployed, broke) and neither's a good place to be.

Anyhow, yeah, I see working girls out of loneliness sometimes (and never punt when in a realtionship), and find that it sometimes helps, and sometimes makes the situation worse, as with a really great punt it can make you remember just what you're missing out on in a regular relationship. That said, I'd rather be single than just hook up with anyone (annoyingly, but I just can't fake relationships and don't think it's fair to the other person) and that's why I punt during such times. That's not to say it's not sometimes a hell of a lot of fun too, it all depends on the situation really. Right now I'd like to be in a relationship again so it can frustrate, but two years ago when I was fresh out of one, working girls were the ideal solution.

Offline sacredrealm

Yeah! Thanks.
If anything I'd rather stay in low confidence as opposed to over, if  had to choose. But yes I do have times of midleground. I don't think I'd ever let myself get overconfident though anyway.

So you think that with the right hired girl the experience can make the experience in relationships, or just casuaul with civilians seem not as good?
if so, I can think of good and bad things about that for me haha. One is that I could in a way laugh at the fact I'd be getting such a good experience for a little bit of money that those idiot guys going through the things to get there arn't even getting, when they think they are haha.
But then it might mean I become fully dependant on hiring girls. Which I guess doesn't have to be bad depnding on how you look at it.
Would you say that the majority of civiliant females even if they dress sexyily or whatever are wanting men who can take control and everything, and let them do the work. Whereas with a WG they are more understanding of the punter wanting it to be the other way round, and things?
Sorry I just don't know much about the workings of whats thought of as the "real" world and people hahah.

Because Ive also wonered weather the experience wouldn't be as good as with civilians, because of it being something they do all time, for money, but I don't know, it seems it is not that, if with the right WG.

But god that you enjoy doing it at those times.

Offline James999

If you're lonely or depressed then the Samaritans or the YMCA are likely to be a much better alternative than a pro$$ie, not just because it won't cost you anything but also because you will meet more genuine people, and for a longer time and more meaningful relationships.

Remember pro$$ies just pretend to like you for half an hour or an hour, thats fine if you want to have sex, anything else can be found elsewhere at a better level, remember many pro$$ies are themselves "damaged goods" and have issues / problems and are not suited to helping you with your problems. 

You could always write to AnthG, as a penpal he would keep you very busy  :cool:

Offline Jimmyredcab

If you're lonely or depressed then the Samaritans or the YMCA are likely to be a much better alternative than a pro$$ie, not just because it won't cost you anything but also because you will meet more genuine people, and for a longer time and more meaningful relationships.


Spot on yet again.
I see hookers for sex, not for their company --------- I can talk to women in my cab, and they pay me.  ;)

Offline Mr XL

Similar views to JRC and J999 although I'd word it differently.

If you are as lonely as you seem then seeing WGs is the last thing to do. A visit to one is a flight of fancy and a trip into an unreal world of shadows and mirrors where things are not really what they seem. I suspect it would only confuse and worsen things for anyone who is vulnerable.

It's a business transaction for sex not an emotional comfort club.

If I were single and lonely I'd explore all those dating sites.

Offline Jimmyredcab

Similar views to JRC and J999 although I'd word it differently.

Diplomacy is not our strong point.    :D :lol:

Offline Mr XL

Diplomacy is not our strong point.    :D :lol:

I never would have guessed  :P

Offline Sailormack

A 2 week trip to Thailand will cure most depression.

Just don't fall in love or what you're experiencing now will seem like a state of joy.



Offline sacredrealm

Haha true sailmorack.

BTW I have actually been to Thailand twice. And absolutley loved it!
However I was only 10, and then 11 or 12. With some family.

However I was still touched by one of the girls in a town haha. But I guess that was in a "cute kid" way, (as I was small), way, or something. One of them ran and picked me up while walking through haha. But that stuck in my my head haha.

Thinking about it. I wouldn't do it to help me. More really just to temporarily staisfy a need. So the fact its, in a way fantasy I guess wouldn't matter as I woldnt expect to leave feeling differet, other than having enjoyed the experince (hopefully).
Abit like if I feelthe feelings I metnioned in the first post, I might eat something I like. That wouldnt stop whatever feelings or get to the root, but it is like temporary satisfaction, and also fulfilling the need to eat haha. But of course this is a less exciting example.

At least because of this you could say it wuldnt involve other more complicated feelings like in a normal relationship involving commitment in all ways.

Also I'm on 2 dating sites. And haven't got what I'd like out of them.
I do have 1 or 2 good online friends. In different countries.
« Last Edit: June 24, 2011, 04:14:54 PM by sacredrealm »

Offline ollie1960

JimmyRedCab      spot on, Only see working girls as a  service your buying anything else and your heading for trouble ,you use them as they use you ,

I can agree.

If you see a wg when you are depressed or lonely, then the depression may only get worse afterwards when you realise it was an empty encounter without the connection needed to pull you out of the funk.

I've been through this and do not recommend it. I think many of us have been damaged goods at one time or another and I am better now. At least I no longer punt because I am depressed. I buy expensive electronic toys instead. Much longer entertainment time, so VFM.  :D

Offline GlasgowGirl

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Sacred Realm, you sound like a really nice, genuine, self-aware person. I can understand when you say you are happy with yourself and your faults and don't have much desire to 'psychoanalyse' them. I think a 'shy,  but self-assured' personality is exactly what a lot of women go for.   :)

I actually agree with Jimmy though (shock horror!  :scare:) in that seeing Sex Workers should be about fun and sexuality only, not emotions. Although WGs are people too obviously and I have some clients I would loosely regard as 'friends' and would probably miss them a little (not JUST the money before anyone starts).

I think it would be a good idea to ask yourself what it is you really want. If it's fun no-strings attached sex then you would maybe be content with seeing WGs for the moment. If it's a relationship then I'd say you would be better putting your energy into seeking out women to date, and put your energy into that, and just save punting for times you are really sexually frustrated!

And no, I don't think sex in punting is anywhere near as good as sex in a relationship. The WG may be more sexually experienced and talented and of course you can pretty much choose your specifications "to order", but it could never be properly reciprocal as it is a transaction and of course sex in a relationship can be bareback, which feels much better generally.

I think it's a bad idea for yourself to seek out sex workers for an emotional solace, same as it would be a bad idea to cross professional boundaries and seek out an emotional solace from your doctor or other service provider.

Good Luck x

Sacred Realm, you sound like a really nice, genuine, self-aware person. I can understand when you say you are happy with yourself and your faults and don't have much desire to 'psychoanalyse' them. I think a 'shy,  but self-assured' personality is exactly what a lot of women go for.   :)

I actually agree with Jimmy though (shock horror!  :scare:) in that seeing Sex Workers should be about fun and sexuality only, not emotions. Although WGs are people too obviously and I have some clients I would loosely regard as 'friends' and would probably miss them a little (not JUST the money before anyone starts).

I think it would be a good idea to ask yourself what it is you really want. If it's fun no-strings attached sex then you would maybe be content with seeing WGs for the moment. If it's a relationship then I'd say you would be better putting your energy into seeking out women to date, and put your energy into that, and just save punting for times you are really sexually frustrated!

And no, I don't think sex in punting is anywhere near as good as sex in a relationship. The WG may be more sexually experienced and talented and of course you can pretty much choose your specifications "to order", but it could never be properly reciprocal as it is a transaction and of course sex in a relationship can be bareback, which feels much better generally.

I think it's a bad idea for yourself to seek out sex workers for an emotional solace, same as it would be a bad idea to cross professional boundaries and seek out an emotional solace from your doctor or other service provider.

Good Luck x


been there got the t shirt and its not really the cure . we were mates and fuckbuddies for a while then it fell apart  :(
we both had problems at the time and hopefully booth helped each other through them  but sadly (maybe just as well) it didnt (couldnt) last.

Offline AnthG

You could always write to AnthG, as a penpal he would keep you very busy  :cool:

I haven't read through the whole thread but I have to say I literally loved that line ^

I am a seriously shy person so this generally goes with the territory of being a bit depressed, and thus also a tad lonely person and I see Escorts to overcome this.

Its one of the reasons I love feisty hyper chatty girls as they make you feel good about yourself in the appointment.

A girl lying there like a slab of meat is not fun.

But at the OP the only thing to suggest is you can join forums to chat with people. This one is very nice. And there are forums on the net for pretty much every interest under the sun.

Offline sacredrealm

Thanks GlasgowGirl!

The thing is, weather some females do actually like that/those qualities, it doesn't seem to matter because no women know me haha. Apart from 1 girl through college, who has a boyfriend haha. And I'm uncomfortable with putting myself in acceptable placesfor that to happen, and initiating things. So it feels like whatever qualities I might have that do like are kind of wasted or wll never be known, because the way it work in society you, or I anyway, don't seem to get random women just coming to you haha. Maybe since its jut expected for the "man" to do that. which I don't haha).

I'm not completley against psychoanalizing for me in the way of thinking about whats different or "wrong" with me in some areas haha. Its quite interesting to me. But just just not in the way that some councellors do. Asin, I don't want to change or attemp to put anything right by looking at whats "normal" and trying to match that.

AND an important point to me Ive just thought of is that going to some councellors, and doctors for emotional support, the relationship there, is still very "proffessional". To me there wouldn't be much difference between talking to an understanding escort about some things, and telling a councellor or doctor, as silly as that might sound haha. I did enjoy talkin to an assesment councellor, who was fairly understanding. But that was just to asses weather I should go to their propper councellor. Going to the propper councellor, fet alot more business like. And her type of councelling was what I mentioned I didn't want.

But yes, most times when I consider using a girls service its when I feel like I'd just like NSA sex.

I don't wan't a relationship, really. Because I don't feel fit to deal with everything with it in a way. I have me to deal with haha. Plus I prefer the idea of being free to experience intimacy with different girls if I wanted. Not that I'd have chance outside seeing an escort haha.

Yes a connection without a relationship would be very nice, in a different way. But again it just depends on that person(s) and being in the right place at the right time.

I have a good connection sometimes (at least I think) with an online female friend. But shes in a different country. And sometmes thats OK for me. Like its enough to have somewhat of a connection, online, although I don't get the physical part of that. (which to me would be cuddling and things. Sounds strange, but sometimes, I prefer the idea of that in the context of a connection, than actual sex. With sex seeming to be something I could seperate from that in my mind).

So yes I would accept seeing escorts as just the NSA, which with actual sex, is what I'd like most. But I still feel it might be nice to talk to her about things, such as my situation with gils and things (not in an asking for help way), if it fet right at the time, even if really she didn't care haha, and to get a physical side to that which councellors or whatever wouldnt do. I know thats not the reason I'd be going, and I'd seperate the actual sex from that. But you know, just to actually physically touch a woman would be something to me, in this way haha. But yes that would be more fora sexual feeling. Like just being able to explore a womans body haha.
ButI would try to make sure I was alot more in the sexual side of it mode asin feeling very horny, when booking one, rather than more on the needing support side haha. That doesn't mean at a time when I wouldn't appreciate support. But when the horniness takes over haha.
« Last Edit: June 24, 2011, 10:19:03 PM by sacredrealm »

Offline GlasgowGirl

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It can be difficult to be in places to meet like-minded people. I always thought that most people met at work, and therefore that ruled out a big part of my chances,but I have had 3 relationships and met 1 at work (civilian job!), one because he lived in the same street, and one on a night out with friends.

Maybe it is friendship you would like then? and WG's for sex  :)

Offline sacredrealm

Ah yeah!

Yes, I think thats what I want.

The one girl I could say is closest to a friend that I see in real life has a boyfriend, so that rules out the physical side of a connection I'd like and our only connection really has been through what we had to do anyway and not outside of that. I'm not included in the friends she would do things with outside that.

I would say the internet one in a different country usualy is a good friend.

But of course without the physical connection I still feel abit cut off.

But oh well, yeah, I look forward to atleast enjoying a temproary SEXUAL release experience with a real female, when I do book one.

Offline GlasgowGirl

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Perhaps work on developing real-life friendships. Not online, although those are nice too. I mean real physical social interaction.

And see some WGs for some fun sex!  ;)

I'm friendly and warm, but I find it hard to maintain friendships as I don't find I have that much in common with most people (although you can always find commonalities) and I'm a bit too comfy in my own company and a bit anxious in other peoples company, unless I know them well. I don't like to be 'pushy' and ask them if they want to meet up or swap numbers etc, but I find I have to force myself to or I would be a hermit all the time!

Perhaps try striking up a conversation with someone at work, or join a class at college or gym etc. Don't go there with the intention of "must make friends" , pick something you enjoy, and if you feel awkward to be on your own, just go for it anyway!

Try to develop a healthy disregard for what people may think of you! "Devil may care" attitude. Unless it's constructive advice and not just insults.

Offline sacredrealm

Yeah, thanks for your thoughts again.

I would, its just I don't know how to go about that. I don't work, as of yet, college just finished yesterday, in which I don't know I how I would tak to anyone other than on my course, with iteven being tough with most of them haha. And that wasn't a big selection. And the only thing I'm interested in doing activity wise is music.
Anything else I do are only other little things. I like going for walks too. But again thats a lonely thing haha.

Yeah, that sounds very similar to me.

Going to gym I have no intention to do really because I excersie at home and I'dfind that setting more uncomfortable.

I guess I sort of do have that attitude in a way! But because of that I keep these qualities or faults as some might say and don't do anything about it to to be more like others or something.
 

Offline SteveNova

GG has shared some excellent suggestions, sacredrealm.  I would add that if you do start seeing an escort, be wary of projecting your feelings on to the girl.  As many have said in this thread there is no future in hoping for an emotional relationship with a WG and there is the possibility you could get hurt or led on.  It will be an outlet for natural physical needs and may well boost your confidence in a way that can help you in other social settings.

Offline sacredrealm

GG has shared some excellent suggestions, sacredrealm.  I would add that if you do start seeing an escort, be wary of projecting your feelings on to the girl.  As many have said in this thread there is no future in hoping for an emotional relationship with a WG and there is the possibility you could get hurt or led on.  It will be an outlet for natural physical needs and may well boost your confidence in a way that can help you in other social settings.

I know! And I apprecite them! But my answer is why its diffucult to. Or for some of them wh I don't want to.

Yeah, I wouldn't plan on doing really. Only perhaps explaining my situation as if I'm asked anything about myself if they do that, thats a pretty big part haha. But I wouldn't do it in an asking for help way or a way that might make me dependant on that particula one as aresult or something.

Yep fine!
Although I wouldn't do it for the purpoe of boosting confidence. I don't want more confidence. I'm fine with my level of confence even if its low. As I said I see confident jerks and don't like them/want to be like that haha.
But anyway I'm not sure it would especially since I know I'm paying for it haha.


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