First off, I'm sorry about the reception you've got on here Kitty, but alas it's normal for women to be treated like that on here if you disagree with some of the men. It shouldn't be like this, but it is. The best way is to ignore their views / reply in a tongue in cheek way, and don't let it get to you.
For the record, I do disagree with you - if a girl doesn't show her face clearly in photos than the punter has every right to walk away - but if, like you, she does, and is the person in the photos, then I feel at least some remuneration is fair. But not the whole amount, perhaps 10% or so for the time lost...but then again that's something that can't ever be legally enforced so it's not going to ever happen...
As for Lou4Fun, I can't remember the exact details, but she basically outed a punter to his workplace / partner - and had no reason to do so. She's banned from most forums, and is considered to be...well, volatile at the very least...