Good review(s) OP. Thanks for sharing.
Seeing as you took the time to mention this in your review:
There seems to have been some hoo ha with her and another Op recently and they've both been booted off.
I feel this is a good opportunity for me to address the UKP community and clear Paloma's name/Rep.
Hi All,
AJ2019/Bonatempora here (if in doubt Head1/Mods can cross-reference devices used, IP, etc with my old account).
I would like to try and make right what I previously did wrong on here:
https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=307543.0 Why and why now?Out of respect, it's the right thing to do and I'm now back to my normal-self.
1) Hannah Deluxe:Paloma never directly accused/labelled Hannah of anything/as anything. Paloma had read the review that I posted of Hannah and mentioned in passing, that a couple of her/Hannah's mutual clients had said things to her, that were similar to my review is all. Chinese whispers basically. Nothing personal.
2) Discussing Clients:When LN got banned Paloma generally said "some users have messaged me to ask if I know anything." Nothing more was said... she never openly discussed anyone. When we briefly talked about one of her reviews on here, she mentioned the reviewer and said "he's a nice guy and a sharp dresser." That's all.
The only other person mentioned was the Infamous James. He came up in relevance to LN (as we all know lol).
She said she may or may not have met him. Also if it was James: Paloma didn't rob him, he had paid, the booking had gone ahead but his hygiene wasn't up to standard. So she refused to carry on although, didn't issue him a refund as they were well-into the booking time and she had an agency to answer to at the time. Which I think is fair IMO.
3) Lilith Noir:Paloma never 'pretended' to be LN's mate... she was genuinely her friend (irrespective of what LN thinks). She had seen me twice before LN called her to say "you shouldn't see him." Paloma, was a tad bit offended because as she said (in my review) "LN isn't my pimp." Basically LN wasn't just "warning" Paloma she was dictating it seemed. Paloma went off her own experience anyhow and had just generally given me a heads up so, I don't mention anything about seeing her on here, as she didn't want LN to get wind of it. She indirectly got stuck between the 2 of us.
When I contacted Paloma to ask if she knew anything (outing business)... She was really apprehensive and only told me (had knowledge) about 1 of LN's other accounts as she genuinely didn't think it was right. Paloma wasn't even 100% about messaging Head1: I convinced her to do so. Alongside, being scared that she would get banned just for helping and if LN
did find out... what LN could do. She only kept in touch with LN up until she was banned because, Paloma was concerned about LN's motives/what more she could do. Paloma blocked/cut off LN as she didn't wanna associate with such a person (principles). Before she blocked her she was genuinely concerned about LN's mental health too. So, she didn't 'laugh' and 'get off' on it.
She had/has no reason to be jealous of LN either. Paloma has her own client base, makes enough money and is quite popular herself. Yes, we had long phone conversations/text exchanges however, this wasn't all just about 'LN.' We spoke about Netflix, gaming, etc. If we did talk about LN it was only to the capacity of: what she was doing, progress on the investigation and a concern for her (really). At no point did Paloma "laugh and admit" to me that she was involved with what LN was doing thereafter. We didn't have a "victory booking/shag"... it was a last minute booking made towards the end of one of our phone calls. Me and Paloma were always vocal during sex and the only thing she said is "I'm a bad bitch!" Something she'd said plenty of times before and what I called her too... way before LN's banning. Not once saying "sneaky or manipulative."
Bottom line if it wasn't for Paloma and her genuine concern: LN would still be here doing God knows what. Paloma, even did her own legwork and found another one of LN's accounts as she knew of certain things written. I vouched for her to Head1 as it was right to do so and Head1 kept her around for good reason too. Paloma didn't deserve to be banned and labelled 'untrustworthy' she is 100% credible, what has happened is really unfair. She even said after LN's banning "I'm only going to comment when I need to for future reference." Which let's be honest she was (her reviews) and using this platform responsibly in general. As SP's can get a bad wrap on here for the smallest of things.
4) My Review(s)/Actions:Putting it simply I shouldn't have posted what I posted. Me and Paloma fell out and that's where it should have stayed (between us). Not EAS, although I caught feelings and didn't really realise/accept it at the time. Much heavier than EAS (IMO). I wasn't in the right "frame-of-mind" when writing/posting. Not looking for empathy/sympathy. At the time of posting it wasn't a malicious move however, I thought I had been treated unfairly and hard done-by so, others would maybe understand. It was a decision fuelled purely by emotion and not rationale. I needed time to work through whatever I was going through and tbh, now that I'm back to normal/logically thinking: I would never have posted it. As the OP of that review I withdraw it myself and if possible would recommend it be deleted.
I know reviews aren't deleted but, I'm sure under extenuating circumstances it's possible. It wasn't written as a review is intended, I can only imagine how Paloma must've suffered psychologically and it impacts her business/status too. At the time I didn't consider that punters may not want to see her if I posted it, that's not what I'm about as a person. If it is allowed to remain on the site then it should be taken "with a pinch of salt." Besides I only made myself look attached/bitter when posting it and was crucified too (which was well-deserved). It was a dick move and if someone else did it... I'd call them a "twat" too.
Through points 1 - 3 mentioned these are all things I lied about on the thread. At the time I knew once Paloma shared the email (I sent)... I was fucked. So I needed something to combat it/make her look bad. It was petty/childish to do so. But, in my "hurt" mindset (pathetic I know lol) it was all I could think of doing. I knew I'd be banned and taking her down with me seemed right at the time, based on how I felt I was treated by her. This is not normally who/how I am and I'm very surprised I behaved in such an appalling manner. I'm sure even Paloma can vouch for that.
On the 05/04/21 the booking was more or less done and when I made my 'comment,' that's when it struck me or started to that I see her more than a WG. It went 0 - 100mph in a split second basically. The comment was emotion led and again not by my rationale. Despite Paloma sharing parts of her personal life with me... it's not as though she asked for my "take" on things. Now I can understand/see why she was upset. If I was in her position I'd probably have reacted somewhat the same. Truly, after the 05/04/21 we both should've just mutually called it a day. She gave me the benefit of the doubt and my feelings/attachment towards her led to another booking.
On the 16/04/21 (no offence to Paloma) but, as a few of you said "I should have just walked," in my current mindset I really would have. Because it just wasn't gonna work (bad atmosphere). In the 30 mins I was in there (give or take, not 40, remembering back correctly): there was no need to entertain a long, awkward, sit-down conversation. Which ended up in me being handed my money back and then in the few minutes left a full-blown argument ensuing just before leaving. If I really wanted to stay as many of you said: "pay, fuck, leave." No need to try and reassure her that I was gonna be a 'model punter' again.
5) The Threats:The threats were shocking and I'm very surprised (even now) that Paloma sanctioned them. However, I've now forgiven them and moved on. In truth, I was quite upset by them but ultimately knew they were just "hot air" and would blow over. If I was that bothered by them I should've gone to the police really. I don't think they were done in the 'punting arena' as I was no longer her client and she wasn't escorting at the time (on a break). If it was a typical client/escort situation I'm sure she'd handle it differently. Yes, she had become a bit of a 'Karen' (not taking the piss) in her email response lol although, I think her patience had worn thin is all. Alongside, my email response wasn't exactly "polite" either.
That shouldn't have impacted her banning reason IMO as like I said it was out of the SS/SP grounds. Plus, I don't think she genuinely intended it to go down that way.
My Apology to - The UKP Community, Head1/Mods & of course Paloma:I am genuinely sorry to all of you for what I did/my actions. You don't have to believe me but, as I said it really was out of my normal character/in a bad place. I know my apology doesn't make things right, no doubt I'm gonna be banned again too although, I hope it rights some of the wrong done at least.
The site should never be used for what I used it for and I deserved to be labelled an 'undesirable' and banned. Although, despite it being a short while I'd highly recommend Head1/Mods look at overturning Paloma's banning. She didn't deserve it. Additionally, I'm sure after reading this UKP members will agree/advocate also. I'm really glad Paloma was around in March and supported me how she did.
Paloma has worked really hard to get where she is, I know full-well she's dealt with some pretty shit people/punters along the way. To be quite frank I don't wanna be one of them and wish her continued success.
On a Closing Note:I had a good thing going with Paloma. I was getting laid/she was getting paid lol! I booked at my convenience she never pushed for it. Always went above and beyond as an SP/adhered to all my requests. It's a shame that things had to end how they did however, lesson learned (first time for everything), and for what it's worth I made the most of her services when I did. She does have a gym toned body and her ass isn't flabby. Paloma even did the splits whilst riding me... says it all!
Well worth a visit! I'd recommend: makeup (pretty without also), pink lingerie set with stockings and suspenders. Very classy look. The garter belt is fun to pull on lol!
Also, Head1/Mods I really hope you don't mind that I've commented on this review like this. I know it's not the norm but, it has been done with good intention(s) and if anything corroborated the OP's positive. As well as, clearing an excellent SP's name/rep.
Happy Punting!
P.S. I've never looked at a Dairy Milk the same way again!
(come on even I can joke about it now haha!)
