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Offline BoobyNewbie

Honestly not trying to brag. I’m just picking your brains because google isn’t turning up much.

I’m recently single and have decided to turn to Tinder as a quick and easy way to meet people. I find it way easier than the tedious back and forth of POF, etc.

I’ve had some mild success: not stunners, but who am I to judge? I’m in my 50s and good for my age, but still aged. But recently, I’m getting likes from young, hot girls aged 18-24. I’ve been really dubious and haven’t matched with them, thinking they’re going to send me a link to their Onlyfans or something.

Tonight, curiosity got the better of me when a gorgeous 28 yr old blonde liked me. She lived close by, so I thought let’s see what happens.

Swiping right, she immediately starts typing and basically invites me over for some fun. Obviously, I’m flattered and my dick starts twitching, but my Spidey-sense tingled, too. If something seems too good to be true, it probably is, right?

I made an excuse about having had a drink so I couldn’t drive and she unmatched me, to stalk other prey, I suspect. Obviously, I’m partly gutted that I didn’t follow through with it, but I also had visions of getting jumped by four burly blokes or a gang of crackheads and robbed.

I was wondering if anyone had experience with this, as in bad ones? I googled it and it seems vanishingly rare, or rather rarely reported that robberies happen but that could just be the same-factor right?

Please help me convince myself that I was being sensible, and not throwing the chance to bang a woman half my age for free.

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Offline The0neAnd0nly

I match with about 2 or 3 Asian girls a day and its clear from their pictures and poorly written profiles it's a scam. Sometimes if I'm bored at work I send replies clearly showing it's a bot or something as its automated responses based on what you send.

I dont think I've ever matched with a blonde or caucasian profile but guess it depends on where you live etc. Maybe next time suggest  a 30 second video call (do it from a different phone with no personal data or anything so it's not hacked and never click any links or attachments). If shes genuine shes unlikely to say no if shes inviting you around for a shag, if she comes up with some excuse probably your answer.

Offline The0neAnd0nly

Just to add to your specific situation - I'd say there is probably less then a 1% chance she was really the gorgeous 28 year old blonde who's pics you saw. Seems like you did the sensible thing.

If she was a sugar baby she'd play the long game and if she was just a nymphomaniac no offence but she'd pick someone closer to her own age. It's the hope that kills you  :lol:

Offline BoobyNewbie

It's the hope that kills you  :lol:

Haha. Yes.  :lol: :dash: :cry:

 The thing is she invited me over. She commented on my profile saying I was only looking for something casual, she said she was, too and she told me I could come over. So I don’t think it was phishing, but I did think that I could get mugged.

I just wish she hadn’t unmatched me before I could have got screenshots of her for a consolation wank  :sarcastic:

Offline Londonpunter30

There’s load of scams all over tinder and the other apps.  Social media whores who only want to increase their following, advance fee scammers, adverts for other dating sites.  Just use your wits, if it’s too good to be true it usually is

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Haha. Yes.  :lol: :dash: :cry:

 The thing is she invited me over. She commented on my profile saying I was only looking for something casual, she said she was, too and she told me I could come over. So I don’t think it was phishing, but I did think that I could get mugged.

I just wish she hadn’t unmatched me before I could have got screenshots of her for a consolation wank  :sarcastic:

It does happen and some younger women are into older guys, if she invited you to her drum what made you think scam? These things are often spur of the moment, you had little to lose, take nothing of value, drive over, see if it looks plausible and say you are there, if the place was not a crack den take it from there.

Women do get the horn and want fucking too, when you match and contact one of them you have to act if you can, it was the point of you going there in the first place. Sometimes you have to roll the dice, be aware, but roll dice and see where it goes.
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Offline Chorley

It does happen and some younger women are into older guys, if she invited you to her drum what made you think scam? These things are often spur of the moment, you had little to lose, take nothing of value, drive over, see if it looks plausible and say you are there, if the place was not a crack den take it from there.

Women do get the horn and want fucking too, when you match and contact one of them you have to act if you can, it was the point of you going there in the first place. Sometimes you have to roll the dice, be aware, but roll dice and see where it goes.
Little to lose? What about a potential ribbery/ mugging?  :unknown: The whole thing sounds TGTBT.  :unknown:

Offline ik8133

You could have asked her to meet in a public place first, if you were satisfied she was being geniune, then go back to hers.

Offline Mr Sinister



Please help me convince myself that I was being sensible, and not throwing the chance to bang a woman half my age for free.

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How many profile pictures did she have?
Did they look "real", were there any pics that included her friends?
I Have had girls come to my place and the reverse just to fuck from the first interaction on dating apps so maybe this girl could have been genuine and wanted to get piped by a 50yr old.

Not everything is a scam, a girl asking you to come over is not a scam even if she has ulterior motives. Usually people who scam want no IRL interaction with you.

Offline BoobyNewbie

She had about 6. They seemed real enough but she also said she was lesbian on her profile.

No pics of friends on there. They weren’t obvious Instagram model shots.

She could well have been into older men. If ever proof that I’m old was needed, it’s not being used to women being open about what they want.

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She had about 6. They seemed real enough but she also said she was lesbian on her profile.

No pics of friends on there. They weren’t obvious Instagram model shots.

She could well have been into older men. If ever proof that I’m old was needed, it’s not being used to women being open about what they want.


Mate, you signed up to an app, put pictures up and stated you wanted casual sex, you got offered just that, with no obvious demands, no signs of being scammed, no nothing except go to hers, and you could not be bothered to drive a few miles and suss the place out.

As for the cynical saying getting mugged or robbed lol, well stay home and wank, how the fuck are you going to meet for casual sex if you worry about such things without leaving home ? Be alert and go for it. Take nothing with you, Wtf are they going to rob you of, your boots lol? Your car, park it away from the place, hide the keys if you are that paranoid. Ffs . Life is too short.

From experience, women choose older guys for casual and paid sex from other sites because,

You probably are not going to rob or stalk them, you probably have sexual experience and not just want your cock sucked hard and pound her pussy until you shoot your bolt, you are probably happy with casual sex as you stated, there is little chance of EAS given the age difference, you are seen as a reliable and experienced option.

There are real genuine people out there, lots of them, it is very different from pro,s, some people spend too much time on here looking for bad things, used to pros doing as little as possible for the money, scamming deposits, which you can only laugh at, of course there are twats and scammers out there, thieves and muggers too, but if you are going to think that and cannot read the signs between genuine and scam you may as well lock the front door, sell the car and be a hermit.

There is no more risk than an AW woman, probably less, you should always be alert and read between the lines, but if the story adds up as you go along go with it, like I said, it is what you signed up for.  First chance you got, you came here instead.

I am meeting one tonight from CL, if she turns up, spoke on the phone, agreed a price, no idea what she looks like, it is not a lot of money and I have rolled the dice, will she try and rob me? None have before, Will she rush, doubt it, none have before and she took an overnight bag to work this morning, so she says, am I sitting here concerned about anything, only her seeing my ugly mug at the station and turning round, life is too short, had many good punts this way.

You signed up to try something different, give it a chance, at least get out of the door when an offer comes, not go into got to ask UKP mode, Stick to AW if that is how your mind is going to work.
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Offline cotton

Gotta agree with Lily , a gorgeous 28y/o blonde asks you over to have sex and you start thinking this way and that.  Basically your a messer , your giving old guys a bad name , stop fucking about , either do it or stop wasting peoples time  :)  Poor girl waiting for you to turn up and sort her out.

Offline Chorley

Get all the keyboard alpha males on here.  :rolleyes: What then Op does and how he perceives risk has precisely  fuck all to do with anyone else. The fact that people are mocking him and others for being cautious about something that sounds TGTBT is pretty naive, sad and childish. :thumbsdown:

Offline The0neAnd0nly

Get all the keyboard alpha males on here.  :rolleyes: What then Op does and how he perceives risk has precisely  fuck all to do with anyone else. The fact that people are mocking him and others for being cautious about something that sounds TGTBT is pretty naive, sad and childish. :thumbsdown:

+1 - the last few posts have been unnecessarily harsh to the OP IMO. We get some people are more confident using dating sites for hookups but the OP posted a genuine question as opposed to the usual trolls on here. It's good for him to have a rounded view but making it out like hes committed a major sin not chancing it, isnt going to help lol

Good luck to you with your meet tonight from CL Lily  :thumbsup:

Offline Londonpunter30

So I matched with a girl and she moved to Snapchat.  Says she does meet, 4hours for 85 but wants 40 deposit.

Surely this is genuine  :D

Offline Chorley

So I matched with a girl and she moved to Snapchat.  Says she does meet, 4hours for 85 but wants 40 deposit.

Surely this is genuine  :D
Go for it! What could possibly go wrong?  :crazy:

Offline The0neAnd0nly

So I matched with a girl and she moved to Snapchat.  Says she does meet, 4hours for 85 but wants 40 deposit.

Surely this is genuine  :D

Lol if it was 4 hours at 85p/h that would seem more genuine and likely pricing  :D

Offline BoobyNewbie

Gotta agree with Lily , a gorgeous 28y/o blonde asks you over to have sex and you start thinking this way and that.  Basically your a messer , your giving old guys a bad name , stop fucking about , either do it or stop wasting peoples time  :)  Poor girl waiting for you to turn up and sort her out.

Haha. I know. I’ll probably get a bad review on DILFS.com now.

Offline BoobyNewbie

+1 - the last few posts have been unnecessarily harsh to the OP IMO. We get some people are more confident using dating sites for hookups but the OP posted a genuine question as opposed to the usual trolls on here. It's good for him to have a rounded view but making it out like hes committed a major sin not chancing it, isnt going to help lol

Good luck to you with your meet tonight from CL Lily  :thumbsup:

Nah, I posted it partly in jest. I can take the criticism. I probably should have taken precautions and chanced it but I’m quite risk-averse.

I was just interested if there had been instances of honey-traps using Tinder.

I’m enjoying the differing views. Also, good luck tonight Lily  :thumbsup:

Offline Hotpocket

My workmates son got robbed and the shit kicked out of him when he went to meet a "woman" he matched with, but he still uses it and has had lot of successful matches apparently.

Offline BoobyNewbie

Thanks. This is what I was wondering. It really did seem too good to be true.

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Nah, I posted it partly in jest. I can take the criticism. I probably should have taken precautions and chanced it but I’m quite risk-averse.

I was just interested if there had been instances of honey-traps using Tinder.

I’m enjoying the differing views. Also, good luck tonight Lily  :thumbsup:

If you are risk adverse, punting at all may not be for you, every punt from ever option carries some risk, why is it called punting?

Thank you those that wished good luck, guess I should tell you how it went and what met me at the station totally blind apart from age and race either way.

I met a very pretty, curvy 14, very dark skinned mixed race 21 year old, who took one look at me and..........................................................................................

was absolutely delighted I was taller than her Axxxxxxian 6 feet, was delightful company, played it by the book, let a friend know she was safe, refused a drink, apologized for leaving after almost 3 hours to meet her friends for a Friday night drink, saying next time she will have no other arrangements made and if I do not mind being seen out with a young bird, we can go to the pub and come home and fuck.

This is why I prefer this way, a first meet can be tentative, but that can be the same if you are with a full time escort, but the conversation went on into the night after the thank you message she sent from the pub while with her friends and plans being made to meet again.

The whole experience is completely different from AW, fair enough, few would go blind but I enjoy the gamble, sharing pics though works both ways, it can put her off too, there is a whole long thread in London looking for girls like her lol, she would be all over it and somewhere around the 200/250 an hour mark, my gamble paid off handsomely and looks like it will continue to do so.  :yahoo:
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Offline Mr Sinister

Get all the keyboard alpha males on here.  :rolleyes: What then Op does and how he perceives risk has precisely  fuck all to do with anyone else. The fact that people are mocking him and others for being cautious about something that sounds TGTBT is pretty naive, sad and childish. :thumbsdown:

I'm coming from a place of experience I've taken some big risks most abroad especially leaving the city I'm staying in to go out to the sticks for casual sex with unknown civvy women. I took small precautions incase something didn't feel right and I needed to make a swift exit.

Reading above OP lacks experience and isn't quite aware of how women have become so open to hooking up due to the explosion of online dating apps. Once you've slept with a few you should have your wits about you.

If you want to play it real cautious call the girl up do a video call so you can see she's real beforehand.

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Get all the keyboard alpha males on here.  :rolleyes: What then Op does and how he perceives risk has precisely  fuck all to do with anyone else. The fact that people are mocking him and others for being cautious about something that sounds TGTBT is pretty naive, sad and childish. :thumbsdown:


Lol, without a keyboard and the will to post this would be a very boring forum, and the Op has made it public and you would assume expected replies to his post or no point posting.
The OP has taken everything in his stride and quite sure he is quite able to be a keyboard warrior and rebuke anything he does not like. He really does not need your miserable, negative, and paranoid view, to protect him, that is your trademark on many a thread, lighten up, there is still some good in the human race.
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I'm coming from a place of experience I've taken some big risks most abroad especially leaving the city I'm staying in to go out to the sticks for casual sex with unknown civvy women. I took small precautions incase something didn't feel right and I needed to make a swift exit.

Reading above OP lacks experience and isn't quite aware of how women have become so open to hooking up due to the explosion of online dating apps. Once you've slept with a few you should have your wits about you.

If you want to play it real cautious call the girl up do a video call so you can see she's real beforehand.

Exactly, use your head, if it does not feel right it may not be, walk away or proceed with extra caution, but this absolute paranoia that every hook up is out to rob or scam is madness, It happens, it happens with Aw, keep your wits about you and have some fun, or stay at home and think nah, I might lose a few quid, never happened to me in 45 years of playing all sorts, only Sp,s robbing me with poor service both pre and post internet, in fact probably more since the internet.
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Offline Mr Sinister

Exactly, use your head, if it does not feel right it may not be, walk away or proceed with extra caution, but this absolute paranoia that every hook up is out to rob or scam is madness, It happens, it happens with Aw, keep your wits about you and have some fun, or stay at home and think nah, I might lose a few quid, never happened to me in 45 years of playing all sorts, only Sp,s robbing me with poor service both pre and post internet, in fact probably more since the internet.

Something else is that we forget women are human too, sometimes a single, bored lonely woman will be horny one night just wanting to be piped for a few hours by a lucky guy and then never see that guy again after that.

It just so happens you are 1 out of 4 guys who has gotten a direct message, whoever answers back first and sets up gets the pussy, if a girl messages me late at night near midnight/after I know she is just looking for a fuck. At which point I tell her to come over or I'm jumping in a cab, I don't waste time small talking trying to allude to such things be direct.

Offline BoobyNewbie

If you are risk adverse, punting at all may not be for you, every punt from ever option carries some risk, why is it called punting?

Agreed. There a risk but I minimise it as much as I can, doing research and generally sticking to well reviewed girls. I’m new to the wild world of hook-ups and I admit I’m green.

Having said that, I started talking to a woman 12 years my junior yesterday, and she was telling me she doesn’t do ONS. By today, she’s changing her mind and inviting me over tomorrow night with a promised breakfast Wednesday morning  :yahoo:

Look out for me in the papers on Thursday  :scare:

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Agreed. There a risk but I minimise it as much as I can, doing research and generally sticking to well reviewed girls. I’m new to the wild world of hook-ups and I admit I’m green.

Having said that, I started talking to a woman 12 years my junior yesterday, and she was telling me she doesn’t do ONS. By today, she’s changing her mind and inviting me over tomorrow night with a promised breakfast Wednesday morning  :yahoo:

Look out for me in the papers on Thursday  :scare:

Seems like you are a lucky lad, I assume you have a pic up on your profile? Maybe you are better looking than you thought, the cynics here will tell you younger women can only fuck older men for money, some do, but having a 21 year old cum several times on your face and shouting " that is why I like older guys" will never happen from AW. She has nearly 40 years on me, 12 years and you are marriage material  :lol:
Stick to your guns though, she may and change your mind about ONS, tell her you will stay for two.  :D

You will be fine, just be alert first time and before meeting, you will not make the papers, crimes of passion rarely do  :lol:
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Offline BoobyNewbie

Seems like you are a lucky lad, I assume you have a pic up on your profile? Maybe you are better looking than you thought, the cynics here will tell you younger women can only fuck older men for money, some do, but having a 21 year old cum several times on your face and shouting " that is why I like older guys" will never happen from AW. She has nearly 40 years on me, 12 years and you are marriage material  :lol:
Stick to your guns though, she may and change your mind about ONS, tell her you will stay for two.  :D

You will be fine, just be alert first time and before meeting, you will not make the papers, crimes of passion rarely do  :lol:

I’ll be wary. But I’m telling my mate the address just in case. If I do go, I’ll go happy.  :thumbsup:

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I’ll be wary. But I’m telling my mate the address just in case. If I do go, I’ll go happy.  :thumbsup:

It will be fine, women are human and some like sex too,  :D
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Offline Chorley

I’ll be wary. But I’m telling my mate the address just in case. If I do go, I’ll go happy.  :thumbsup:
I'd things are going well invite him over. I'm sure she wouldn't say no to a nice spitroast  :crazy:

Offline BoobyNewbie

I'd things are going well invite him over. I'm sure she wouldn't say no to a nice spitroast  :crazy:

He’s already suggested it  :lol:

Offline blend57

My two penny worth:

1. Once you have an address you can use google maps and street view to see which area of the city or town it is in and whether or not it is a safe neighbourhood.
2. As has been mentioned, you can drive over and see what the vibe of the place is like.
3. Most women, even ones looking for sex, would want to meet in a public place with plenty of people in order to assess the kind of person you are. And to be honest, most men should do this as well.

All that being said, we are punters and we often rock up to strange neighbourhoods and knock on random doors to meet with strange women for a sexual encounter. Strange - when we are paying for it we will do one thing and if not we will do another.


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My two penny worth:

1. Once you have an address you can use google maps and street view to see which area of the city or town it is in and whether or not it is a safe neighbourhood.
2. As has been mentioned, you can drive over and see what the vibe of the place is like.
3. Most women, even ones looking for sex, would want to meet in a public place with plenty of people in order to assess the kind of person you are. And to be honest, most men should do this as well.

All that being said, we are punters and we often rock up to strange neighbourhoods and knock on random doors to meet with strange women for a sexual encounter. Strange - when we are paying for it we will do one thing and if not we will do another.

Exactly, quite happy to rock up to an address, on the basis of a call or text exchange and seeing a few shopped pictures with cash on the hip not knowing if you are going to be robbed at the door or before you get to it, which does happen. To meet a professional money taker.

Arrange to meet from a dating site, or an amateur trying to top up a low income and all of a sudden the mind goes to super cautious mode, meet in a public place, check out the drum, paranoia sets in.

They can only work the same scams as there are on AW, any savvy guy will pick up on warning signs, never pay a deposit, meet on neutral ground if you feel that way, I never have, seems like time wasting to me, I can get a feel for a person in email exchanges and phone calls, something you rarely get on an aw booking, trust my gut feeling.

You can believe this or not, I was contacted by three 20 somethings I have met before yesterday, I enjoy the chat with them, saying they have some free time and could I meet, all paid meets, but they all stay for hours, actually enjoy the sex, only one asked for 3 figures, though with her build, age, size and looks she could command and has been paid much more. These 3 are not the only ones I see or chat with, there are several others who time has not been favorable for yet, mainly because these 3 are right up my street and great company to boot. AW simply cannot compare if you know how to communicate through the other platforms.

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