Author Topic: Loss of sex drive and happy (Read 1237 times)

Metalgear2018 · « **on:** March 20, 2021, 09:22:29 am »

Let me start this off. I'm in my early 30s, I exercise 3 times a week, don't smoke or drink. I have a secure career. I'm happy in myself. No depression or mental illness.

Recently, i have lost my sex drive. I have available female options to me and when I do have sex with them I'm not turned on. I have to use a blue pill (viagra) to have sex. Once I cum once. I think to myself this was a waste of my time. I don't mind female company and kissing but sex is just annoying.

I have had sex with lots of women, different locations, sexual positions, toys, etc etc. I'm just bored with sex. If I get hard its usually in the morning I just have a wank. Its better then stress and drama of having physical sex.

If I don't have sex for the next 10 years I don't care.

garfield · « **Reply #1 on:** March 20, 2021, 09:49:54 am »

You might want to mention that to a doctor, also bit of an odd place to be posting this

Newnottsguy · « **Reply #2 on:** March 20, 2021, 10:04:17 am »

That’s a loss of libido, I wish I was in that position, constantly thinking about sex and searching in AW and VS and in this forum is painstaking, a headache. If you completely take sex out the picture you could focus on other happier things in life! I don’t think it’s too bad! It’s probably why you’re mentally stable!

Newnottsguy · « **Reply #3 on:** March 20, 2021, 10:05:32 am »

Mentally stable in the sense that stable in not thinking of sex all the time! If that is the case

Billy no mates · « **Reply #4 on:** March 20, 2021, 10:10:05 am »

Quote from: Metalgear2018 on March 20, 2021, 09:22:29 am

If I don't have sex for the next 10 years I don't care.

I wouldn’t jump to conclusions, you can’t be sure how you will feel in the future.

I’m mid 50’s and have had periods of lower and higher sex drive.

If you’re happy with your lifestyle then be happy, no need to analyse, maybe your desire will come back, maybe not, do what makes you happy.

garfield · « **Reply #5 on:** March 20, 2021, 10:10:13 am »

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Metalgear2018 · « **Reply #6 on:** March 20, 2021, 10:13:26 am »

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I don't need to mention this to a doctor when I'm happy with myself

Metalgear2018 · « **Reply #7 on:** March 20, 2021, 10:14:23 am »

Quote from: Billy no mates on March 20, 2021, 10:10:05 am

I wouldn’t jump to conclusions, you can’t be sure how you will feel in the future.

I’m mid 50’s and have had periods of lower and higher sex drive.

If you’re happy with your lifestyle then be happy, no need to analyse, maybe your desire will come back, maybe not, do what makes you happy.

Don't you get to a point where you would rather just watch TV and have a takeaway instead of having a woman pestering you.

Newnottsguy · « **Reply #8 on:** March 20, 2021, 10:15:45 am »

I did some research and most of your experiences are negative, perhaps that’s what had led you to conclude that fuck it all your happy.

garfield · « **Reply #9 on:** March 20, 2021, 10:20:15 am »

Quote from: Metalgear2018 on March 20, 2021, 10:13:26 am

I don't need to mention this to a doctor when I'm happy with myself

Was thinking incase it was something more serious.

cotton · « **Reply #10 on:** March 20, 2021, 10:34:50 am »

Like people say listen to your body , same goes for listening to yourself psycologically , if what you feel like is just watching tv and having a takeaway do that. And i suspect in time you will recover your passion for women , everyones interest goes thru highs and lows as Billy no mates said

Strawberry · « **Reply #11 on:** March 20, 2021, 10:38:26 am »

Have you lost any weight or reduced food intake (cals or carbs)?

Chorley · « **Reply #12 on:** March 20, 2021, 10:45:45 am »

Isn't this just natural?

Libido ebbs and flows and I do believe the proliferation of online porn has skewed the mindset of many men who now believe that if they're not perpetually horny and shagging every 5 minutes they're a bit odd. I'm pretty sure the pandemic has had an impact on this as well

Thephoenix · « **Reply #13 on:** March 20, 2021, 10:47:54 am »

I think we all go through different stages of our lives.

If you're happy, that's great.
So maybe no need to overthink it, or listen to others.

Like everything in life, you can have too much of a good thing and the novelty can wear off, but after a break you may find your libido returns

Just to add another thought, by asking are you still attracted to women?
Have you considered you may be bisexual or gay....no offence!
If so, maybe there's more excitement to be found there.

Metalgear2018 · « **Reply #14 on:** March 20, 2021, 11:33:59 am »

Quote from: Strawberry on March 20, 2021, 10:38:26 am

Have you lost any weight or reduced food intake (cals or carbs)?

No. I exercise regularly so I maintain a healthy weight. I eat lots of chicken and rice and junk food like chocolate, biscuits and crips

Jonestown · « **Reply #15 on:** March 20, 2021, 12:20:52 pm »

Quote from: Metalgear2018 on March 20, 2021, 09:22:29 am

Let me start this off. I'm in my early 30s, ..............................I have to use a blue pill (viagra) to have sex.

Might be worth your while looking into why at your age you need a blue pill, might be something more than indifference to sex going on.

JontyR · « **Reply #16 on:** March 20, 2021, 12:34:33 pm »

Quote from: Metalgear2018 on March 20, 2021, 09:22:29 am

No depression or mental illness.

Don't mean to be rude, but how do you know this? This would suggest you have been for a diagnosis. Depression isn't all about moping about.

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I have to use a blue pill (viagra) to have sex.

A blue pill doesn't give you libido, it only works when there is arousal or stimulus. The blue pill is for when you are aroused but there isn't the physical manifestation of arousal. This would suggest to me that the effect actually is psychological rather than physical.

If you are happy with your lot, then don't go and see anyone. I would suggest that there is the potential for seeing a doctor for 10 minutes and vastly increasing your quality of life for 50 years. Not just on sex but on the outlook and enjoyment of life as whole.

Or you may just be in a rut and in need of a proper holiday.

Billy no mates · « **Reply #17 on:** March 20, 2021, 01:10:36 pm »

I think about my first trip to Amsterdam, or when my wife discovered women.

When I first went for like three nights, the first night I must have visited three or four girls, by the third day I wasn’t interested.

When we started seeing escorts as a couple, over maybe two years we got through maybe twenty girls, now my wife is happy to fantasise, and we almost never visit escorts together.

My point is, don’t over think it, just do what’s right for you, maybe you’ll get the urge again, maybe you won’t, but you’ll be doing what you want.

Ghost89 · « **Reply #18 on:** March 20, 2021, 04:14:27 pm »

Quote from: Billy no mates on March 20, 2021, 01:10:36 pm

I think about my first trip to Amsterdam, or when my wife discovered women.

When I first went for like three nights, the first night I must have visited three or four girls, by the third day I wasn’t interested.

When we started seeing escorts as a couple, over maybe two years we got through maybe twenty girls, now my wife is happy to fantasise, and we almost never visit escorts together.

My point is, don’t over think it, just do what’s right for you, maybe you’ll get the urge again, maybe you won’t, but you’ll be doing what you want.

Lucky sod! Wish my other half would! We could split the bill then!

BobAJobMan · « **Reply #19 on:** March 21, 2021, 04:01:18 am »

If you're sure you're not depressed in any way, as said it's probably just the natural ebb and flow, plus I think lockdown has played havoc with a lot of people's mood, including libido. Also, it sounds like your not in lurve... perhaps were that to happen your juices would start flowing again?

Bikerman · « **Reply #20 on:** March 21, 2021, 07:07:23 am »

My sex drive has been low this ladt 12 month...but i work 12 hour shifts and i crave a good sleep more than anything at moment.. but if i wKe up horny i just crack one off as wife just isnt interested much..if i go for a punt i need to wank day before otherwise illl cum early ...like a massage i went for started CC swipes and i shot my load but she was good enough to wipe me down then hand job after
We all go through phases of no interest in sex ..with lockdown everyone is suffering some way.. but like i said i want a good nights sleep and im ok with that

yonimax · « **Reply #21 on:** March 21, 2021, 07:55:57 am »

I think sometimes it is just that we have had our share of women and fantasies and there is nothing more to explore... the boyish curiosity is gone... having said that I always feel low in late winter but come late spring/ summer as I get sunshine on my skin I will be perky again...

Bonker · « **Reply #22 on:** March 21, 2021, 08:08:45 am »

If you're happy with your situation, what are you looking for on here? Corroboration? Kudos?

If he's happy with his situation, why are guys trying to persuade him he's not?

Doc Holliday · « **Reply #23 on:** March 21, 2021, 08:36:38 am »

Quote from: Bonker on March 21, 2021, 08:08:45 am

If you're happy with your situation, what are you looking for on here? Corroboration? Kudos?

If he's happy with his situation, why are guys trying to persuade him he's not?

Best post in the thread

garfield · « **Reply #24 on:** March 21, 2021, 08:51:30 am »

Quote from: Bonker on March 21, 2021, 08:08:45 am

If you're happy with your situation, what are you looking for on here? Corroboration? Kudos?

If he's happy with his situation, why are guys trying to persuade him he's not?

Im not trying to persuade him he’s not happy, i just said he should be mentioning it to a doctor, he’s gone through quite a big physical change at a fairly young age, better to be safe than sorry

king tarzan · « **Reply #25 on:** March 21, 2021, 12:35:25 pm »

One of my humble and Simpletto glory moments is
Having two snicker bars with a large cold glass of milk in complete silence 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🤜🤛🤜🤛👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👋👋👋👋👍👍👍👍

garfield · « **Reply #26 on:** March 21, 2021, 01:08:59 pm »

Quote from: king tarzan on March 21, 2021, 12:35:25 pm

One of my humble and Simpletto glory moments is
Having two snicker bars with a large cold glass of milk in complete silence 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🤜🤛🤜🤛👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👋👋👋👋👍👍👍👍

You lost me there

Chorley · « **Reply #27 on:** March 21, 2021, 02:09:18 pm »

Quote from: king tarzan on March 21, 2021, 12:35:25 pm

One of my humble and Simpletto glory moments is
Having two snicker bars with a large cold glass of milk in complete silence 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🤜🤛🤜🤛👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👋👋👋👋👍👍👍👍

Whatever floats your boat

CheeseBoard · « **Reply #28 on:** March 21, 2021, 02:30:53 pm »

Quote from: Strawberry on March 20, 2021, 10:38:26 am

Have you lost any weight or reduced food intake (cals or carbs)?

I've done the above. I thought this would do the reverse?

Would be interesting to know why it would have the opposite effect (to what i assumed).

Metalcrue · « **Reply #29 on:** March 21, 2021, 02:50:32 pm »

Go to the doctors and get them to do blood tests to check your testosterone levels. It could be low test.

With the blue pill do you get inconsistency will maintaining a hard-on?

JontyR · « **Reply #30 on:** March 21, 2021, 05:28:37 pm »

Quote from: Bonker on March 21, 2021, 08:08:45 am

If he's happy with his situation, why are guys trying to persuade him he's not?

Because the going rate for someone just saying what you want is about £150 an hour.

Using UKP as an echo chamber...lolz.

Chorley · « **Reply #31 on:** March 21, 2021, 05:35:55 pm »

Quote from: JontyR on March 21, 2021, 05:28:37 pm

Because the going rate for someone just saying what you want is about £150 an hour.

Using UKP as an echo chamber...lolz.

My thoughts exactly. On reflection it's quite a strange and somewhat pointless post by the OP

willie loman · « **Reply #32 on:** March 21, 2021, 05:42:02 pm »

if you have no sex drive, why are you having a wank?

Doc Holliday · « **Reply #33 on:** March 21, 2021, 05:43:52 pm »

Quote from: Chorley on March 21, 2021, 05:35:55 pm

My thoughts exactly. On reflection it's quite a strange and somewhat pointless post by the OP

He does have history of starting such threads

Metalgear2018 · « **Reply #34 on:** March 22, 2021, 07:11:52 am »

Quote from: willie loman on March 21, 2021, 05:42:02 pm

if you have no sex drive, why are you having a wank?

Because I don't want to be nagged by a female after sex

Ali Katt · « **Reply #35 on:** March 22, 2021, 07:27:05 am »

Just a quick post: IMO people rarely talk about how happy they are.

Secondly all experiences are different, but I didn't use Viagra in my early 30s. Still don't, hopefully it will stay that way.

A lot of your reviews seem to focus on you as much as the girl. I know i do the same thing. I think you are holding a lot of resentment and overthinking it.

JontyR · « **Reply #36 on:** March 22, 2021, 09:36:44 am »

Quote from: Metalgear2018 on March 22, 2021, 07:11:52 am

Because I don't want to be nagged by a female after sex

So you don't mean you don't want to have any kind of sexual activity, you just don't want to have sex with the people you can have sex with?

That's not having no sex drive. That's being bored with your available options. You are quite advanced, normally you have to be in a relatively long term relationship to get to this level of ennui.

Chorley · « **Reply #37 on:** March 22, 2021, 09:53:39 am »

To be perfectly blunt OP, the more I read your post, the more I think you come across as a whiny, attention seeker looking for validation.

Metalgear2018 · « **Reply #38 on:** March 22, 2021, 01:00:47 pm »

Quote from: Ali Katt on March 22, 2021, 07:27:05 am

Just a quick post: IMO people rarely talk about how happy they are.

Secondly all experiences are different, but I didn't use Viagra in my early 30s. Still don't, hopefully it will stay that way.

A lot of your reviews seem to focus on you as much as the girl. I know i do the same thing. I think you are holding a lot of resentment and overthinking it.

I think I get a lot of post nut clarity which plays on my mind. Now beginning to weigh up my options such as 1) waste my time with a girl I am bored with or (2) enjoy time with myself doing stuff I enjoy.

Metalgear2018 · « **Reply #39 on:** March 22, 2021, 01:01:52 pm »

Quote from: Chorley on March 22, 2021, 09:53:39 am

To be perfectly blunt OP, the more I read your post, the more I think you come across as a whiny, attention seeker looking for validation.

I'm sorry if my post come across like that.

Ali Katt · « **Reply #40 on:** March 22, 2021, 01:21:26 pm »

Quote from: Metalgear2018 on March 22, 2021, 01:00:47 pm

I think I get a lot of post nut clarity which plays on my mind. Now beginning to weigh up my options such as 1) waste my time with a girl I am bored with or (2) enjoy time with myself doing stuff I enjoy.

Or a third option have a great time with a girl and do all the private getting stuff done in your spare time.

Payyourwaymate · « **Reply #41 on:** March 22, 2021, 07:40:54 pm »

Is it that you have lost the drive to have sex or the everything else that comes with the sex?

If you fully lost the drive for sexual activity you would not rather wank. As in you would not wank or have sex. I think that It seems it has become more convenient for you to wank than deal with the added variables of having sex with women and the potential stress it brings. I have no words of advice to be honest, I understand....slightly concerned but understand lol.

Jonestown · « **Reply #42 on:** March 22, 2021, 09:35:14 pm »

Quote from: Payyourwaymate on March 22, 2021, 07:40:54 pm

It seems it has become more convenient for you to wank than deal with the added variables of having sex with women and the potential stress it brings.

Isn't that what WGs are for, stress free sex ?

Payyourwaymate · « **Reply #43 on:** March 23, 2021, 02:08:20 pm »

Quote from: Jonestown on March 22, 2021, 09:35:14 pm

Isn't that what WGs are for, stress free sex ?

He has previously said he feels pressure with WGs to perform, which was linked with his money spent to get his monies worth, so for him punting is not stress free.

cotton · « **Reply #44 on:** March 24, 2021, 02:13:07 am »

Quote from: Payyourwaymate on March 23, 2021, 02:08:20 pm

He has previously said he feels pressure with WGs to perform, which was linked with his money spent to get his monies worth, so for him punting is not stress free.

Good point , the money aspect can be stressful.
Maybe Metalgear should go back to street hookers , cheap and exciting, he seemed to enjoy it before

pewpewpew · « **Reply #45 on:** March 25, 2021, 01:21:36 pm »

My sex drive is still there but I've lost the need to punt. I just can't be bothered at the moment. I had a test punt a few weeks ago with a girl I've seen before and it was ok but I just found that I couldn't be bothered and would rather be doing something else.

I think life in general has got us all down. Maybe in the summer when I see the girls in little skirts and low cut tops I'll have no choice

hendrix · « **Reply #46 on:** March 25, 2021, 08:45:54 pm »

Kind of odd/worrying that you need Viagra in your 30's. If you're serious about your health, get that checked out at least. You're clearly not as fit and well as you think you are.

Metalgear2018 · « **Reply #47 on:** March 26, 2021, 02:51:12 pm »

Quote from: pewpewpew on March 25, 2021, 01:21:36 pm

My sex drive is still there but I've lost the need to punt. I just can't be bothered at the moment. I had a test punt a few weeks ago with a girl I've seen before and it was ok but I just found that I couldn't be bothered and would rather be doing something else.

I think life in general has got us all down. Maybe in the summer when I see the girls in little skirts and low cut tops I'll have no choice

Exactly, with rona and the miserable weather playing a part i might be low in mood.

Summer time will definitely get my blood flowing the thr right areas.

Dman88 · « **Reply #48 on:** March 27, 2021, 10:09:46 am »

Quote from: Metalgear2018 on March 22, 2021, 07:11:52 am

Because I don't want to be nagged by a female after sex

Sounds like you have attachment issues (fear of) possibly from some kind of trauma or emotional neglect as a child.

HighlyMotivated · « **Reply #49 on:** March 27, 2021, 01:39:53 pm »

I was beginning to have the same problem at a similar age to uou. Then I moved to a hot country and boom - my sex drive was back. The power of the sun

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