Seeking.com in the South West

[Cunning Punt]

The chase is certainly addictive but it takes a lot of your time. If you're patient and put the work in you'll have no problem finding SBs. Then one day you'll find a gem that doesn't really want PPM but more enjoys your company/going out for drinks and dinner and still allows you to fire your man muck up her cunt. Just subscribe for a month, collect as many numbers you can and go from there.

There's a lot of truth in that it is a rather oversimplistic take - particularly at the moment, when it certainly isn't 'no problem' finding SBs.

In over 5 years I’ve never met a SB who didn’t want paying… if they do exist they’re as rare as hens teeth …. It’s best to be a tad more realistic 

I've had a couple but one was fat and ugly, while the other had a horrible body, so, yes, certainly rare that one will find a freebie that you'd want to see again. A guy who is good looking and fairly young will obviously stand a better chance but that's just like real life, and even then it won't be easy - the vast majority of girls are on there for some material reason, usually payment.

[southcoastpunter]

In over 5 years I’ve never met a SB who didn’t want paying… if they do exist they’re as rare as hens teeth …. It’s best to be a tad more realistic 

It depends what you mean by "paying". If you mean didn't want a PPM or a monthly allowance" - then i have met 3 in 18 months. Yes they expect be treated well with meals out, pressies from time to time, taken to nice places etc.

But overall, generally most are looking for some financial help via PPM's or monthly allowance.   

[BogBog1]

In over 5 years I’ve never met a SB who didn’t want paying… if they do exist they’re as rare as hens teeth …. It’s best to be a tad more realistic 

I've had 2 freebies. One of them was a girl who I saw regularly for 18 months. The second one started just last week, seen her twice so far and no mention of money. She just likes company, good laughs, and sex. We've both agreed exclusivity so hopefully it'll be a longish-term thing. Both of them were/are smart (have a regular day job), hot, good company, and great in the sack. So the exclusivity is worth it for what you get in return. For me, anyway.

[NightKid]

I've had 2 freebies. One of them was a girl who I saw regularly for 18 months. The second one started just last week, seen her twice so far and no mention of money. She just likes company, good laughs, and sex. We've both agreed exclusivity so hopefully it'll be a longish-term thing. Both of them were/are smart (have a regular day job), hot, good company, and great in the sack. So the exclusivity is worth it for what you get in return. For me, anyway.

You got a girlfriend as opposed to an arrangement so I'm not sure if it counts as such.

[Hantsolo]

Freebies are rare, but not impossible. I’ve met 4 in my 5 or so years on SA so definitely in the minority. The latest wanted a “fuck buddy who’d treat her with respect” rather than a one night stand. However after a couple of meets she became rather clingy and was definitely looking for more commitment than I was willing to give her.

Ultimately SA is like any dating site, lots of people are on their for different reasons, while the majority definitely want money or gifts, some are just on there because they want to date guys who can afford to take them somewhere better than McDonalds or Wetherspoons

[Crackpot11]

I don’t see the point in paying £200/£300 to shag a normal girl. Surely you could just do that through dating? And personally I have no interest in women more than 10 years younger anyway. SA is escorting not dating.

[southcoastpunter]

I don’t see the point in paying £200/£300 to shag a normal girl. Surely you could just do that through dating? And personally I have no interest in women more than 10 years younger anyway. SA is escorting not dating.

No its not.

Sure there are a few WG's on there but most are not and want wooing, and wining and dining a bit - and then the sex is in a different league and its overnights etc - not an hour. If you have never done it you can' really say and if you are just interested in having sex and nothing else then SA is probably not for you .

I don't know what age you are but many guys will disagree with you about having sex with (more than 10 years) younger women  - many of us in our 50's, and 60's are more than happy to be spending time with and having great sex with 19-34 year olds as i have.  We are also under no illusions that we could do this outside of something like SA. And yes, we also sometimes get a freebie although it is rare.

Its horses for courses - whatever floats your personal boat. Me? I am lovin it!!

[BogBog1]

You got a girlfriend as opposed to an arrangement so I'm not sure if it counts as such.

Yeah I guess this is true....

[Crackpot11]

No its not.

Sure there are a few WG's on there but most are not and want wooing, and wining and dining a bit - and then the sex is in a different league and its overnights etc - not an hour. If you have never done it you can' really say and if you are just interested in having sex and nothing else then SA is probably not for you .

I don't know what age you are but many guys will disagree with you about having sex with (more than 10 years) younger women  - many of us in our 50's, and 60's are more than happy to be spending time with and having great sex with 19-34 year olds as i have.  We are also under no illusions that we could do this outside of something like SA. And yes, we also sometimes get a freebie although it is rare.

Its horses for courses - whatever floats your personal boat. Me? I am lovin it!!

It’s just another form of escorting, like fab swingers, there’s always a payment involved. Any transaction for sex is escorting in all but name. Otherwise just do Tinder etc.

[Prifessionallondinguy]

It’s just another form of escorting, like fab swingers, there’s always a payment involved. Any transaction for sex is escorting in all but name. Otherwise just do Tinder etc.

I agree ☝️ others don’t always though.  My regular always involves heading out for a film or theatre show first then back  to the hotel for some rumpus …. Payment in the morning in an envelope.  Exactly like escorting but drawn out over 14 hours.

[Cunning Punt]

It’s just another form of escorting, like fab swingers, there’s always a payment involved. Any transaction for sex is escorting in all but name. Otherwise just do Tinder etc.

Indeed. One could argue it could be classed as escorting even if sex wasn't involved; the fact is they provide their company and payment is made so it's not dating or a straightforward hook-up. SCP and anyone else who thinks it's not a form of escorting is deluding themselves.

[Maverick090]

I’ve just joined SA I’m suprised at the response my inbox is full of messages, in the first night I’ve got  3 dates lined up, let’s see how it goes.

[southcoastpunter]

Indeed. One could argue it could be classed as escorting even if sex wasn't involved; the fact is they provide their company and payment is made so it's not dating or a straightforward hook-up. SCP and anyone else who thinks it's not a form of escorting is deluding themselves.

thats your opinion, ,mine is different. why is it that i am deluded?

what i will agree is that in many cases (but not all) it is escorting in the original sense of the word - ie payment for company rather than payment for sex. However, nowdays and on here, we generally take escorting to mean the provision of paid for sex and/or prostitution.

[Cunning Punt]

thats your opinion, ,mine is different. why is it that i am deluded?

we generally take escorting to mean the provision of paid for sex and/or prostitution.

That is essentially what happens with arrangements, and they wouldn't be shagging us if we weren't giving them cash. Virtually everyone on here would see it for what is, a form of escorting. Odd you don't but there you go..

[londonroad]

That is essentially what happens with arrangements, and they wouldn't be shagging us if we weren't giving them cash. Virtually everyone on here would see it for what is, a form of escorting. Odd you don't but there you go..

In my experience many (most?) SPs don’t see themselves as escorts. They sign up for Seeking expecting to be treated differently than if they signed up for the straight escorting sites where punters pay by the hour.
The seeking pool of SBs would be much larger if guys on SA realised that they need to treat the potential SBs better. Many girls sign up to SA but then disappear within a couple of weeks because of the volume of smutty initial messages from guys.
As I say, they will be a far bigger pool of SBs for us to all enjoy if we did not scare them off by treating them like escorts.
I have enjoyed myself enormously on SA over four years by adopting this approach and have been very ‘successful’.

[BogBog1]

In my experience many (most?) SPs don’t see themselves as escorts. They sign up for Seeking expecting to be treated differently than if they signed up for the straight escorting sites where punters pay by the hour.
The seeking pool of SBs would be much larger if guys on SA realised that they need to treat the potential SBs better. Many girls sign up to SA but then disappear within a couple of weeks because of the volume of smutty initial messages from guys.
As I say, they will be a far bigger pool of SBs for us to all enjoy if we did not scare them off by treating them like escorts.
I have enjoyed myself enormously on SA over four years by adopting this approach and have been very ‘successful’.

I totally agree with this. It seems to me that for every girl on SA who is either (1) an escort pretending not to be (and let's be honest, there are a LOT), or (2) a deluded princess type who thinks they deserve to be showered with money and Chanel handbags in exchange for a purely platonic 'friendship', there is a guy whose first message to every girl is something along the lines of "can I buy you a drink and fuck you for £200?". So many of the SA girls I've met have said that the reason my opening message stood out is because I'm polite, chatty, non-sexual... "normal", basically. Which gives me the definite sense of just how many messages these girls receive from us guys that are none of those things. I'm not surprised they are put off - I would be too.

[BogBog1]

And we can argue all day about whether "every girl on SA is actually escorting, because it's a sex for money transaction". I get that totally. But the point is that the girls themselves don't see it that way, and if we want to have any success with those girls, we have to see it their way too.

[Crackpot11]

And we can argue all day about whether "every girl on SA is actually escorting, because it's a sex for money transaction". I get that totally. But the point is that the girls themselves don't see it that way, and if we want to have any success with those girls, we have to see it their way too.

The ‘girls’ don’t think they are whoring but by seeking payment and offering their ‘time’ they surely are. Personally I don’t see the point, it seems it creates an illusion for some that it is a date or something more but it really isn’t. I’d much prefer a wham bam thank you mam with an escort without any faffing about.

[southcoastpunter]

The ‘girls’ don’t think they are whoring but by seeking payment and offering their ‘time’ they surely are. Personally I don’t see the point, it seems it creates an illusion for some that it is a date or something more but it really isn’t. I’d much prefer a wham bam thank you mam with an escort without any faffing about.

well, with respect, its an easy decision for you - don't join SA!

Not all ladies on SA are offering sex. Not all guys on SA are after sex or rather JUST sex. Whilst I have never paid a lady just for her "time" i have had a number of meets where i take them out to dinner or whatever and no money exchanges hands. I have two students on the go at the moment - neither are either PPM's or on a monthly allowances. I just treat them well, take them to nice places and sometimes have sex but not always and its not expected nor do they feel obliged. It really is more of a "relationship" but not a real life one! I do sometimes help them with a bill (car service etc) or similar but they don't ask, i offer because I want to help them and yes of course i want to keep them thinking they have a good thing going with SCP!

Which ever way you look at it, these are not escorts - modern or traditional meaning! And they are not the only ones and i am not the only guy doing and getting that!

But as Zakkmorrisson says we can argue all day about this - there are many different ladies looking for many different things (including what we would agree was escorting) as indeed there are many guys looking for different things.

[BogBog1]

well, with respect, its an easy decision for you - don't join SA!

Not all ladies on SA are offering sex. Not all guys on SA are after sex or rather JUST sex. Whilst I have never paid a lady just for her "time" i have had a number of meets where i take them out to dinner or whatever and no money exchanges hands. I have two students on the go at the moment - neither are either PPM's or on a monthly allowances. I just treat them well, take them to nice places and sometimes have sex but not always and its not expected nor do they feel obliged. It really is more of a "relationship" but not a real life one! I do sometimes help them with a bill (car service etc) or similar but they don't ask, i offer because I want to help them and yes of course i want to keep them thinking they have a good thing going with SCP!

Which ever way you look at it, these are not escorts - modern or traditional meaning! And they are not the only ones and i am not the only guy doing and getting that!

But as Zakkmorrisson says we can argue all day about this - there are many different ladies looking for many different things (including what we would agree was escorting) as indeed there are many guys looking for different things.

This, exactly. Am I looking for a platonic meet? Not a chance. But am I JUST looking for sex? No I'm not. I'm looking to spend a few hours (possibly overnight, and possibly more than once) with a hot, friendly girl I actually get on with. The illusion goes both ways, right? Sometimes a wham bam thank you ma'am is just the ticket, and sometimes I am in the mood for a very specific thing (like, "I really want watersports", or "I really want guaranteed anal". For those times, I use AW. But more commonly these days, I prefer the longer, more 'meaningful dates. And for that, it's SA every time. 

[Cunning Punt]

In my experience many (most?) SPs don’t see themselves as escorts. They sign up for Seeking expecting to be treated differently than if they signed up for the straight escorting sites where punters pay by the hour.
 
As I say, they will be a far bigger pool of SBs for us to all enjoy if we did not scare them off by treating them like escorts.

True they don't see it that way and indeed some SDs on here don't see it as a form of punting - but perception is not always reality. Many of us, in the cold light of day, would still describe the actions as thus, while still being capable of taking a different approach with SBs ie not asking about 'services', hours etc, treating them like a girl next door not a SP and showing interest in them as a person etc.

You're absolutely right in that this different approach is needed because of the perception, and that a lot of guys fail to do this.

However, I don't know whether this means there is necessarily a reduced pool of SBs for us to choose from. From personal experience, I found that the fact there were so many dickheads on SA actually helped me because in comparison I came across as a real gent when I am not really. This meant, pre-pandemic, I had a lot of success on SA despite being an ugly middle-aged guy with an average budget.

[BogBog1]

From personal experience, I found that the fact there were so many dickheads on SA actually helped me because in comparison I came across as a real gent when I am not really. This meant, pre-pandemic, I had a lot of success on SA despite being an ugly middle-aged guy with an average budget.

100% true. I'm clinging onto the last of the looks I had as a younger guy, but as I said, I'm no Brad Pitt. I'm certain I've had plenty of success on SA because of my attitude towards the girls, not because of my stunning good looks or my massive bank balance.

[Danj89]

 Alot of seeking girls do end up on aw over time. But would i call them escorts - not really/not yet. But they are on that path.

Aw is like getting your fruit and veg from a supermarket, pick up, pay, get the fuck outta there.

Seeking is like growing your own fruit and veg, takes time and effort, works out alot cheaper and is alot more satisfying.

 I would say if you propositioned a random girl on SA (especially someone new to it) with a chunky amount of money to rim you, you wouldnt get very far. But you could drop that on a aw reverse bid and get alot of responses.

The girls that get creeped out by these messages are the types i used to get into arrangements with. Being younger, more on their level and up for showing them a good time meant i used to get into really fun regular meets, more importantly alot more bang (literally) for my bucks.

[dog999]

Cheaper?, not really. Hotel (not travel lodge), theatre, meal, drinks. Think this cost much more for the end result, but much more satisfying if you have the time.

[BogBog1]

Cheaper?, not really. Hotel (not travel lodge), theatre, meal, drinks. Think this cost much more for the end result, but much more satisfying if you have the time.

Exactly this - not cheaper, but miles better if you put the legwork in and find the gems.

[Prifessionallondinguy]

Cheaper?, not really. Hotel (not travel lodge), theatre, meal, drinks. Think this cost much more for the end result, but much more satisfying if you have the time.

I agree too…. I always entertained my regular in very nice hotels and had theatre or cinema evenings too first. It added to the experience and was different to punting escorts. All adds up though.

[mikeg1600]

I had some good success with SA with woman aged between 25 - 45, some wanted more than just a PPM, some didn't.  It's harder and more expensive if you or they cannot accomadate but it is more relaxed and less mechanical than seeing a WG. The only thing that worried me and not sure if this is something others have experienced was the number that were willing to do BB when we got down to the sex as i was the 'only one' they were going to see, made excuses with one and one i risked as she was so nice but after the first experience i made sure i had my own protection.
I am still seeing one lady now and then but i have not been on SA since COVID as woman were saying no meets so may rejoin if its back to normal (whatever that is) again.

[Danj89]

I agree too…. I always entertained my regular in very nice hotels and had theatre or cinema evenings too first. It added to the experience and was different to punting escorts. All adds up though.

I agree it adds up the way i look at it is, i can go 2, sometimes 3 rounds for an hour booking on aw.

Price per round on seeking deffo works out cheaper, and price works out cheaper based on time u spent together. Whilst the total will almost always be more than a 1hr aw booking, you get so much more for your money. I never did the hotel thing when i did seeking as could always accomodate at my own flat.

[BogBog1]

Almost all my Seeking dates were when I needed the hotel anyway for work - staying overnight in London, or on business trips to various cities. Very rare that I've booked a hotel specifically for the purpose of taking a girl back there, although I have sometimes used Dayuse for that - there are some great deals to be had on there.

[Maverick090]

I’ve recently joined SA I’m surprised how easy it was to get dates, but negotiations on fees and ppm are tricky to the ridiculous. I was very surprised my first date wanted to do BB without any questions asked?. I would agree tho the sex is a whole lot better, I found it a real GFE and better VFM than escorting, thought the effort is at consuming of your time

[hamchang]

I’ve recently joined SA I’m surprised how easy it was to get dates, but negotiations on fees and ppm are tricky to the ridiculous. I was very surprised my first date wanted to do BB without any questions asked?. I would agree tho the sex is a whole lot better, I found it a real GFE and better VFM than escorting, thought the effort is at consuming of your time

Its certainly addictive. I think SA can be a bit like house hunting. You can spend days and days flicking through the pictures to try and find the gem.

[Prifessionallondinguy]

Tell me about it … I spent 6 days negotiating with a lovely Asian student only to receive this wonderful message at the end …..

Oh ye just want to honest I have put on a bit of weight so might look a little bit different from photos 😅😵‍💫

[BogBog1]

Tell me about it … I spent 6 days negotiating with a lovely Asian student only to receive this wonderful message at the end …..

Ha! Well on the bright side, at least she was honest with you before you'd forked out any money for hotels etc.... one of the first SA girls I ever met (3 years ago now) was so much older and larger than her pics that I didn't recognise her when she walked into the bar. We got on really well on a personal level but there was no way in hell I was going to give her any cash for anything physical. She knew it too....

[Jake_sully]

Another time waster to add to the list: foxyBabe Wiltshire.

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Was chatting away and then said she wanted money before meeting, I said quiet politely that I wouldn’t be doing that but would be happy to meet in a public place if she had concerns of me being genuine or safety etc etc, and she then blocked me instantly...
So yeh, not worth the time to message it would appear.

[Danj89]

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Discreetbaby 27 - swindon.

Said her minimum ppm for a few hours meet for a first meet is 600.

[Prifessionallondinguy]

Ha! Well on the bright side, at least she was honest with you before you'd forked out any money for hotels etc.... one of the first SA girls I ever met (3 years ago now) was so much older and larger than her pics that I didn't recognise her when she walked into the bar. We got on really well on a personal level but there was no way in hell I was going to give her any cash for anything physical. She knew it too....

   It took SIX DAYS … didn’t God create everything in just 7?

[BogBog1]

  It took SIX DAYS … didn’t God create everything in just 7?

Haha, I missed that part.... at least you saved your cash, and I hope you found someone better!

[Danj89]

Yeh thats true, before when i had my flat available there was no risk. Nowdays i only book the hotel when leaving the bar after checking the girl is happy with me and agreed allowance.

[Lush1pot]

Those of you who host in your own place. Do you not worry about having things stolen? I would be worried about that for sure.

[Danj89]

I didnt as i brought the flat to save the long commute to swindon it literally had the bare basics, bed, sofa, coffe table, tv stand and tv which wasnt worth much. But yes if it was my main residence i would be worried.

[123Mel456]

£100 a month with vat . I'll stick to escorts

+1

[southcoastpunter]

Good. More SA girls for guys like me!!

SA is not a cheap alternative to AW. It is completely different. But many of us find it is a much better alternative. Yes its involves some hard work as well as more expense but when you find a gem, the whole experience and the sex is at a completely different level. As always, its horses for courses, personal preferences as well as individual cirumstances!

Sure it has cost me a fair amount of money but I am loving it and having the best sex of my life!

[Maverick090]

I’m interested in sharing via pm as yes a lot of girls are unhappy being treated as a WG , but it’s the nature of the beast. It’s also important to have information on scammers because the sophistication of these are remarkable and people needs to be on the look out of these individuals.

[BogBog1]

Good. More SA girls for guys like me!!

SA is not a cheap alternative to AW. It is completely different. But many of us find it is a much better alternative. Yes its involves some hard work as well as more expense but when you find a gem, the whole experience and the sex is at a completely different level. As always, its horses for courses, personal preferences as well as individual cirumstances!

Sure it has cost me a fair amount of money but I am loving it and having the best sex of my life!

THIS. This is it in a nutshell. Is it easier than AW? No. Less time-consuming? No. Cheaper? Definitely no. Better in every respect that counts for me? Absolutely. Nicer girls, better vibe, great anticipation, and WAY better sex with the exception of a very small handful of the outstanding AW girls (for example see my review of my threesome booking with Lily (CumFukMyAss) and Sussy last year).

[inalco]

This is the latest Seeking discount code, posted on the London thread, worked for me.

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I intend to stay for a month only, just accumulate the details of the few that interest me, and hopefully find one regular arrangement.

[METEOR]

This is the latest Seeking discount code, posted on the London thread, worked for me.

Just followed the link and says invalid?

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I intend to stay for a month only, just accumulate the details of the few that interest me, and hopefully find one regular arrangement.

[Hantsolo]

Good. More SA girls for guys like me!!

SA is not a cheap alternative to AW. It is completely different. But many of us find it is a much better alternative. Yes its involves some hard work as well as more expense but when you find a gem, the whole experience and the sex is at a completely different level. As always, its horses for courses, personal preferences as well as individual cirumstances!

Sure it has cost me a fair amount of money but I am loving it and having the best sex of my life!

100% agree. I’ve had plenty of bad punts and average sex over the years, but I have only had a couple of average meets from SA, the rest have all been far better than a punt.

Yes, it can be hard work and time consuming, but it’s very rewarding and I don’t find it expensive as value for money the meets are better than punts.

Just make sure you stick to your budget as it can be tempting….

[mikeg1600]

Agree, the SA meets i have had have been better than a paid punt mostly. It is a more expensive way to punt but worth it in my opinion. More difficult and expensive if you have a OH than if your single and have your own place to go to but still worthwhile the effort.

Joined again a month ago to see how it goes and have had about a number of good leads from the bournemouth, southampton and salisbury areas and plan to meet a couple of them in the next week or so. One just for lunch to see if we like each other and one who's saying it would be good to get a hotel room!

A couple of things i don't like about SA is that i have had a few woman who have said BB is ok, but not for me im afraid and the number who have given me a story and asked for some 'help' prior to meeting, maybe genuine but im sure some are scams which means i wouldn't  for anyone. 

[Hantsolo]

Agree, the SA meets i have had have been better than a paid punt mostly. It is a more expensive way to punt but worth it in my opinion. More difficult and expensive if you have a OH than if your single and have your own place to go to but still worthwhile the effort.

Joined again a month ago to see how it goes and have had about a number of good leads from the bournemouth, southampton and salisbury areas and plan to meet a couple of them in the next week or so. One just for lunch to see if we like each other and one who's saying it would be good to get a hotel room!

A couple of things i don't like about SA is that i have had a few woman who have said BB is ok, but not for me im afraid and the number who have given me a story and asked for some 'help' prior to meeting, maybe genuine but im sure some are scams which means i wouldn't  for anyone.

Good luck and as many have said before, never ever give money up front for anything, no matter how desperate pr convincing the reason is.

Hope you have fun!

[Landlubber]

Well, well. Browsing, as you do, through SA this evening I was surprised to find a very well known Bristol SP on there.  Looking at her AW available dates, I'm surprised she has time for any other outlets.  Not, I think, OK to make the overt link, but let's just say when on here she used to strongly divide opinion and a SA search of Bristol SBs age 30-40 gets you there.