Don't quite understand how the shower "ruins the look" of the OP, unless he goes in caked with cosmetics. As far as I can see, most women who are about to have sex with you (whether for money or not) would much rather know that their partner was nice and clean rather than taking it on trust. If it's sex for money, the woman isn't going to care a toss that your look isn't 100%, and if it's not for money, then she already fancies you enough to want a shag with you. If the problem is the hair, I've never found any difficulty keeping it out of the shower jet. Frankly, the only hair that needs to get wet is your pubes (assuming you have any). And as for the showers being disgusting: so were the ones at my local rugby club. But I still used them.