Yeh i know you explained your situation.
What i was curious about tho was this knack that JerkChicken speaks of on page 2 : "Some guys have a knack of making WGs feel good about themselves in the murky world of cock
and paid pussy. This can lead to being attracted to the punter so an excellent punt follows unscripted no acting involved."
If I may, maybe I can try to perhaps put this in better words. Not rocket science and not everyone will appreciate it. (And it is not required, any more than you have to smile at the fucking bank teller.)
Charisma is something that can be learnt. It's more than being freshly showered and not having spinach between your teeth. It is kind of easy to forget unless you are a high level professional sales person. But it's not hard. You can practice on civvies, e.g. the check-out girl, just make someone smile today with your warmth, then walk away. Think "This is an interesting person" – not because you are going to ask them dumb questions but simply to heighten your own awareness of her and practice being who you want to be. Be relaxed, make casual eye contact (not head on), smile from inside (smiles start from the eyes),
listen to the person, and not just with your ears and head but with your whole body. Mirror their body movements/language, time and speed of voice. Respect their body space and be aware of when you enter it using a gesture that you judge will be welcomed. Feel good about yourself and (mentally) extend that feeling to the other person. Notice something (pleasant) that is individual about them.
The whole of this takes no more than 15 seconds and can become semi-automatic.If you are reasonably adept at this, you either get a slightly softened and warmer response or else she is in robot-mode. If the latter, you just have to make the best of it. Carry on feeling good about yourself and
orchestrate the punt.The point is, that a
good p4p will have the same charm and charisma or at least know how to respond to yours. If she gives zero eye-contact (other than a stare) and starts to give instructions, just say, "Hold on a minute... let's start with..."
There's also p4ps who can be charming for the intros but who switch off either when the money has changed hands, or when the penetrative sex starts, or won't take direction. If you orchestrate the punt though she may at least put you down as a slightly less worse fucker but she isn't likely to change much in my experience.
It isn't about going gooey, giving tips, talking shite, or thinking that the interaction 'means' something beyond the period of the punt. Call it heightened courtesy if you like, but remember she is doing a job and you are doing purchase. That's all.
I'd put good p4ps who follow through with good attitude (as if they care about the customer) at about 1 in 8. I expect to come out of the punt feeling fantastic rather than just about all right. The big middle are just tolerable and the worst are badly programmed robotic cash collectors.
A word to any p4ps reading: we have a lot of experience of a wide range, many p4ps. You don't. So we are entitled to make generalisations. We experience the best and the worst, and it won't always match what they say to their mates on saffy or whatever!
Enjoy
