Anyone else see older/milf escorts rather than the young girls due to judgement?

[hellohellox123]

This is going to sound sad, well, because it kind of is.

I'm 28 years old, been punting for a bit now, haven't had a girlfriend but mainly due to never really trying (have never asked a girl out before because I'm a pussy). However, when I'm out with the lads on holiday or on a night out I can sometimes pull, but don't have the balls to take it further. Although I'm a little tall, I'm also quite fat and as a result feel quite embarrassed when stripping for a punt (working on this).

Because of all this, I tend to go for more older milfier types of women when I punt and although I think they are attractive, I think its because I'm less likely to get judged and more likely to be accepted. I've been with younger girls or girls my age before and the punts have gone pretty well, but I'll sometimes see a really pretty girl around my age and would not opt to contact her because I think they'd be disgusted by my body. It's a really negative mindset that I want to get out of, does anybody have the same issue or am I just being a weirdo? I know that these girls are working and they are not in it for the pleasure but it would make me feel like shit If I could see the disdain in the girls face in the middle of a meet. The weight issue is something I was working on before the lockdown, was down 50lbs in prep for a holiday and then it all went tits up due to covid. Guess I need to work on it again. But I feel like I'm missing out on some quality punts with hot young girls because I'm stuck in this mental rut.

Sorry for the rambling, felt I needed to get this out.

[JontyR]

Good for you.

Wrong place though mate. As I don’t think this is a punting problem, just a problem you have with punting.

I sort of get your point about older women and them being less challenging. Yep, I can understand that.

But my advice is to stop punting, get on some dating apps and join some clubs and meet some real women. At your age and with your experience this line can lead you to have a very different view of women and one which can be unhealthy if you eventually want to get married and settle down.

I think it’s right you take some advice, but get some proper advice. You can find some nice milfy life coach or counsellor who won’t be judgemental and may help you find the inner confidence that will help you in many other aspects of your life. If you fuck her then please leave a review.

[tynetunnel]

I’m twice your age and probably twice your weight, and I punt at or below your own age. I have no shame whatsoever, since I’m paying 

[hellohellox123]

Good for you.

Wrong place though mate. As I don’t think this is a punting problem, just a problem you have with punting.

I sort of get your point about older women and them being less challenging. Yep, I can understand that.

But my advice is to stop punting, get on some dating apps and join some clubs and meet some real women. At your age and with your experience this line can lead you to have a very different view of women and one which can be unhealthy if you eventually want to get married and settle down.

I think it’s right you take some advice, but get some proper advice. You can find some nice milfy life coach or counsellor who won’t be judgemental and may help you find the inner confidence that will help you in many other aspects of your life. If you fuck her then please leave a review.

Thanks so much for the comment. Yeah I was afraid I was posting this in the wrong section, I've only ever left reviews so not navigated through out the rest of the website.

I agree with everything you've said. I've been angling at trying to quit because it really isn't something I want to continue doing, but at the end of the day I'm a young male with urges and I often just say fuck it one last punt which usually comes with regret after. I feel like it's already jading my opinion on women, the only time I've had any sort of intimacy is in a punt, that can't be healthy. Like I've said, I've often pulled on nights out but and snogged girls faces off on holiday but other than that nothing. I planned to start doing some activities and meeting people after the covid-19 situation ends but your comment has confirmed that I'll defo go through with it.

Let's see what happens.

[Chazz]

Good luck 123! Self confidence/self consciousness can be a right bastard. The knack is getting lost in the moment so that you forget yourself. I know it's hard to believe as us blokes are hardwired to visually appreciate women, but at the end of the day I really believe that women don't really care much about what blokes look like. That goes for civvies as well as SPs!

[hellohellox123]

Good luck 123! Self confidence/self consciousness can be a right bastard. The knack is getting lost in the moment so that you forget yourself. I know it's hard to believe as us blokes are hardwired to visually appreciate women, but at the end of the day I really believe that women don't really care much about what blokes look like. That goes for civvies as well as SPs!

Thanks so much mate.

[lewisjones23]

they only care that what your money looks like

to them sucking a cock is sucking a cock, no matter who is on the end of it

pay your pennies and see whoever takes your fancy

[Home Alone]

Thanks so much for the comment. Yeah I was afraid I was posting this in the wrong section, I've only ever left reviews so not navigated through out the rest of the website.

I agree with everything you've said. I've been angling at trying to quit because it really isn't something I want to continue doing, but at the end of the day I'm a young male with urges and I often just say fuck it one last punt which usually comes with regret after. I feel like it's already jading my opinion on women, the only time I've had any sort of intimacy is in a punt, that can't be healthy. Like I've said, I've often pulled on nights out but and snogged girls faces off on holiday but other than that nothing. I planned to start doing some activities and meeting people after the covid-19 situation ends but your comment has confirmed that I'll defo go through with it.

Let's see what happens.

Glad to read that, hellohellox.

I'm between twice and three times your age and when I was your age, I had problems with self-confidence due to my appearance, thinking that no woman would ever fancy me. Eventually, in my late-thirties, I married a woman I met through work.

It was only when, shortly after that marriage went belly-up, I went through some therapy and realised that physical attraction is only part of the attraction. A couple of years after that, I started punting and - don't get me wrong; I've thoroughly enjoyed myself as a punter for the last fifteen year and still do - that helped confirm my realization.

So yes; I'd agree that there are better alternatives for a young lad like you. Come back to punting if - not necessarily, when - in about twenty years' time, your marriage/relationship has foundered.

[hellohellox123]

Glad to read that, hellohellox.

I'm between twice and three times your age and when I was your age, I had problems with self-confidence due to my appearance, thinking that no woman would ever fancy me. Eventually, in my late-thirties, I married a woman I met through work.

It was only when, shortly after that marriage went belly-up, I went through some therapy and realised that physical attraction is only part of the attraction. A couple of years after that, I started punting and - don't get me wrong; I've thoroughly enjoyed myself as a punter for the last fifteen year and still do - that helped confirm my realization.

So yes; I'd agree that there are better alternatives for a young lad like you. Come back to punting if - not necessarily, when - in about twenty years' time, your marriage/relationship has foundered.

Thanks so much mate, really appreciate it.

[cunningman]

But my advice is to stop punting, get on some dating apps and join some clubs and meet some real women.

I would agree generally, but I think it is easier to get better at dating if you are not desperate to get sex, and just concentrate on social.  Weird stuff like actually listen to them and watch their body language.  From that point of view, punting the day before a date might help.

Just let them know that they are lovely - oh and sexy - without being a jerk and pushy.

[Yorkshirefatrascal]

Personally I found that punting (with mainly milfs and gilfs) has given me more confidence. They aren't sizing you up as a possible partner, quite the opposite, they are the ones trying to engage you, make you feel more relaxed so you can enjoy yourself ( and hopefully come back another time)

For me, the more times I see these ladies, the easier it becomes. This has helped me in civvy street to be more relaxed in he company of women.

When I make contact with an Sp I usually try to pick one who will accept texts. This way I can let them know in advance that I'm older than most. This gives them forewarning and wont be surprised when they see you ( I neglected to do this once and she visibly flinched when she opened the door)

Once all is done and you're getting dressed, chat to them like you would an ordinary mate. Get used to doing that and seeing a civvy girl will become easier. It will also give you chance to hone your bed sprung technique for that special time when you wont have to pay 

In a nutshell; prewarn them, learn to relax and use your new found skills elsewhere

[The Owl]

I have a certain age I prefer escorts to be for a punt but I have booked women younger and enjoyed fucking them. As long as the escort is freely able to give 100% consent to fucking me for payment I'm not too worried about the age difference anymore, although I still seem to find women of 30+ working age more appealing.

[king tarzan]

when paying.. pay for a fresh yummy hottie...(20yr to 26yr yummy student types) that is my motto..

[Bonker]

For your young age, 28, I would advise getting to a level of weight and fitness that you are comfortable with. Then build up self esteem and confidence. Be brave, ask girls out, shrug off failures as learning opportunities.

Get out of punting and find a loving relationship.

Otherwise you may end up like the sad, bitter, old men on here (me).

[king tarzan]

For your young age, 28, I would advise getting to a level of weight and fitness that you are comfortable with. Then build up self esteem and confidence. Be brave, ask girls out, shrug off failures as learning opportunities.

Get out of punting and find a loving relationship.

Otherwise you may end up like the sad, bitter, old men on here (me).

fair play advice 

[hellohellox123]

For your young age, 28, I would advise getting to a level of weight and fitness that you are comfortable with. Then build up self esteem and confidence. Be brave, ask girls out, shrug off failures as learning opportunities.

Get out of punting and find a loving relationship.

Otherwise you may end up like the sad, bitter, old men on here (me).

Thats the plan, but its easier said than done. I always get half way then just sort of implode. I need to get stuck in my head that its necessary and I've gotta succeed in doing it.

[myothernameis]

How times change, so when I was around 20 yrs old, most of the escort I would see, would be in there mid 40's.  One of the street girls, was in her 50's, and for a street girls she was really nice, not even taking drugs

As I got into my mid 20's. began to see one escort, who was more my age, and this went on for 5 years.  As my years went on, and I got older, the age of the escort wasn't any issue, would pick them for there appearance.  In my 30's met a escort called Kelly who at this time was around 20 years, and some consider here a nympho.  Would see her for a good ten years, before she retired, and massage parlours were beginning to close in Glasgow

Now a days, like today, if an escort provides a good service, age dosnt come into it, but also might go looking for the young ones, 20+ old, as long as they have the looks

[The Vicar of Dibley]

You're looking at yourself in a glass half empty sort of way. Try looking at it in a glass half full....

You can't lack confidence totally as you are confident enough to search, book and actually go through with a punt. That in itself takes a degree of confidence. How many times have we all read about escorts moaning about time wasters and no shows. These are probably the guys who lack confidence, book a punt and bottle it. Plus you admit you have pulled on nights out, so you cant be totally unattractive.

Women aren't as fixated with 'good looks' as us guys. Plenty of girls / ladies like their men to look like men. With a bit of meat on the bone and a masculine physical presence.

If you can just smile, appear interested in what they are talking about, smell nice, look clean and have fresh breath your half way there.

Or that's what Dear Deidre in The Sun told me...

[Fuzzyduck]

Thats the plan, but its easier said than done. I always get half way then just sort of implode. I need to get stuck in my head that its necessary and I've gotta succeed in doing it.

Body image/confidence issues can be a bitch and asking for help is a challenge in itself, so well done for being brave enough to do so. You've received much good advice (which by the sounds of it you seem to know anyway) but are missing the secret sauce to make it all happen. Might this be professional help, or at least someone experienced in helping people address this? It's easy to say "go out and meet people" but so much harder to do. For me, it's all about confidence so a series of managed steps to improve that will help immensely.

In terms of punting younger girls, I agree they may be more judgemental generally but not all of them. Find the ones who will put you at ease AND give you a good fuck. I consider myself a relatively fit, good looking bastid but I wouldn't touch one of those insta-babe narcissist SPs with a bargepole. People who are far more interested in what they look like are not your friends. As someone has suggested, perhaps let SPs know in advance you're a bigger bloke to check they are fine about it. The quality of their response (i.e. reassurance and non-judgemental) is a indicator whether you should go ahead. This might take some of the stress out of the situation. Good luck.

[hellohellox123]

Body image/confidence issues can be a bitch and asking for help is a challenge in itself, so well done for being brave enough to do so. You've received much good advice (which by the sounds of it you seem to know anyway) but are missing the secret sauce to make it all happen. Might this be professional help, or at least someone experienced in helping people address this? It's easy to say "go out and meet people" but so much harder to do. For me, it's all about confidence so a series of managed steps to improve that will help immensely.

In terms of punting younger girls, I agree they may be more judgemental generally but not all of them. Find the ones who will put you at ease AND give you a good fuck. I consider myself a relatively fit, good looking bastid but I wouldn't touch one of those insta-babe narcissist SPs with a bargepole. People who are far more interested in what they look like are not your friends. As someone has suggested, perhaps let SPs know in advance you're a bigger bloke to check they are fine about it. The quality of their response (i.e. reassurance and non-judgemental) is a indicator whether you should go ahead. This might take some of the stress out of the situation. Good luck.

Thanks mate really appreciate it. Prof help is something I'm thinking about.

[Home Alone]

You're looking at yourself in a glass half empty sort of way. Try looking at it in a glass half full....

And, if you can, from a woman's point of view.

It was only 30+ years later when discussing it with one of my female friends, that I realised that what the woman I married had seen in me. It certainly wasn't my looks, but the financial stability the steady, unexciting job I had represented to her.

You can't lack confidence totally as you are confident enough to search, book and actually go through with a punt. That in itself takes a degree of confidence. How many times have we all read about escorts moaning about time wasters and no shows. These are probably the guys who lack confidence, book a punt and bottle it. Plus you admit you have pulled on nights out, so you cant be totally unattractive.

Women aren't as fixated with 'good looks' as us guys. Plenty of girls / ladies like their men to look like men. With a bit of meat on the bone and a masculine physical presence.

If you can just smile, appear interested in what they are talking about, smell nice, look clean and have fresh breath your half way there.

Or that's what Dear Deidre in The Sun told me...

And, of course, she's right!!

[Ali Katt]

This is going to sound sad, well, because it kind of is.

I'm 28 years old, been punting for a bit now, haven't had a girlfriend but mainly due to never really trying (have never asked a girl out before because I'm a pussy). However, when I'm out with the lads on holiday or on a night out I can sometimes pull, but don't have the balls to take it further. Although I'm a little tall, I'm also quite fat and as a result feel quite embarrassed when stripping for a punt (working on this).

Because of all this, I tend to go for more older milfier types of women when I punt and although I think they are attractive, I think its because I'm less likely to get judged and more likely to be accepted. I've been with younger girls or girls my age before and the punts have gone pretty well, but I'll sometimes see a really pretty girl around my age and would not opt to contact her because I think they'd be disgusted by my body. It's a really negative mindset that I want to get out of, does anybody have the same issue or am I just being a weirdo? I know that these girls are working and they are not in it for the pleasure but it would make me feel like shit If I could see the disdain in the girls face in the middle of a meet. The weight issue is something I was working on before the lockdown, was down 50lbs in prep for a holiday and then it all went tits up due to covid. Guess I need to work on it again. But I feel like I'm missing out on some quality punts with hot young girls because I'm stuck in this mental rut.

Sorry for the rambling, felt I needed to get this out.

Well, there's two good things everything you mention is within your control and you are willing to change.

It sounds like you lack self discipline. If you are drinking alcohol cut it out completely or cut down (no drinking at home) as it is loads of empty calories and will only make any negative feelings seem bigger.

The reality is if someone finds you attractive they couldn't care less if you are overweight, hairy or bald or any traits men feel insecure about. Seriously that shit doesn't matter, being negative or insecure does. If you tell a girl you think you are fat or whatever it gets boring fast; ever had a girl say it to you?

Also don't assume dating is a miracle solution or that she will save you. You might find it is like stacking any problems she has on top of yours. Also it can be a ballache.

I see what you call milf types because I want to see that person. I see a bit younger for the same reason.

Final point it didn't go tits up due to covid, it went tits up due to your lack of discipline. I know it's harsh, but try to deny it. The gyms might be closed, but what stopped you jogging every day? Or doing press up at home? What stopped you eating healthier?

[king tarzan]

in punting body image etc does not matter.. we are paying professional hotties.. i look somewhere like a gorilla  yet i don't have any complications.. complications are eradicated with the money we are paying.. only issue i have that hopefully the truncheon wakes up when it needs to thankfully he does, so money not wasted

[Chazz]

Thanks mate really appreciate it. Prof help is something I'm thinking about.

From personal experience, I would recommend trying hypnotherapy. (As it happens, hypnosis was recommended to me by an SP - when I first started punting I was suicidal, and punts were a form of therapy for me). It took a couple of sessions, but the hypnotist sorted out my depression and confidence issues without resorting to drugs or the ball ache of long counselling sessions. The hypnotist turned out to be cheaper than the SP who'd recommended her! - Definitely worth a punt!

[user1437]

If anything, I was in a similar situation couple years ago. Which is also why I started punting exclusively MILF/older ladies (well not like I wasn't attracted  ) to build my confidence up

I eventually felt good enough to go for a young, babe type, and was lucky enough to find a great one (that was before I had even heard of this forum!). I now go for pretty much anyone I'd be interested in without a second thought about judging or anything

Give it a try at some point mate. Look at the reviews here to know whether the young, hot SP you're looking it is sweet or not. Message me if you want some pointers, happy to help with this since I got through a similar thing!

[HarryZZ]

Few of us have no body confidence issues, indeed those spending hours at the gym self evidently must have more than the rest of us lard arses, but it's also true that stripping off in front of anyone creates more anxiety in some than others. Let's be completely honest, there aren't many Brad Pitts turning up at SPs workplaces and I doubt many of them are expecting him, it's easy to say that you're paying them so they better smile and pretend they're enjoying it, and perhaps they do, perhaps they don't perhaps Brad would be a let down and like the rest of them perhaps tonight they're into it big time and tomorrow they're laying back and thinking of England.

I've questioned how it must look to an SP in her 20s when I turn up 30 years her senior and consequently usually use SPs 30+ (like 20+ years makes tons of difference!) but it makes me feel more comfortable, and that's what we're doing it for. You'll never know whether weight loss will cure your anxiety until you try, just go for what you want book a 20 something, lose some weight, do what you want to do, the SP won't judge you, or at least she won't mention it. Just have fun.

[Horizontal pleasures]

Although I'm a little tall, I'm also quite fat and as a result feel quite embarrassed when stripping for a punt (working on this).

May I suggest a book Waist Disposal by John Briffa. It is about food and very easy to follow, not a diet but a new way of eating. I did not weigh myself but watched the holes on my belt and went from 42 to 36 inches and have kept it off. Private message me if you want more discussion so we shall not bore the other punters.
Best price for the book on
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[jag2912]

Mate.

I’m going to sound like a cock end here at first so bear with me...

I’m a big strapping 6’4 fitness enthusiast 33 and I can get normal women easy. Easy!

I’m telling you now mate... I fucking brick it with prossies... I have no confidence at all and would punt a million times more but I’m a shitbag... Like I sit thinking yeah fuck it I’m going to book her or her then I go... nahhhh I’m too scared!!

I’d LOVE to have your confidence with it... you’ve got to have bollocks to punt my man!!! Big time!!!

Don’t put yourself down too much mate...

[cunningman]

Like I sit thinking yeah fuck it I’m going to book her or her then I go... nahhhh I’m too scared!!

What of?  I remember my first time and I was very nervous - worried about being beaten up and robbed and STIs and all sorts of crap.  Then I found that by and large they were OK and (especially for English milfs) often really nice.

Biggest worry now is that I'll have a no-fault motor accident on the way there or back, or breakdown, or car theft etc - in a place I have no business being.  Punting by tube in The Smoke was easy but I fear those days are gone for many of us.  Productivity at $DAYJOB is hardly impacted by WFH, apparently.

[jag2912]

What of?  I remember my first time and I was very nervous - worried about being beaten up and robbed and STIs and all sorts of crap.  Then I found that by and large they were OK and (especially for English milfs) often really nice.

Biggest worry now is that I'll have a no-fault motor accident on the way there or back, or breakdown, or car theft etc - in a place I have no business being.  Punting by tube in The Smoke was easy but I fear those days are gone for many of us.  Productivity at $DAYJOB is hardly impacted by WFH, apparently.

Fuck knows mate honestly....

I only do it cos I’ve got a great deal with the OH and can’t be shagging Civis and risk losing her but last few years I’ve proper turned into a fanny about it...

Need to get back in the game!!!

[JonasG]

After about 5-10 punts the nerves soon go away and it becomes like any normal activity I've found.

I was ridiculously nervous for my 1st punt (and I was a bit tipsy too!) it just felt like a big line to cross.

[Yorkshirefatrascal]

After about 5-10 punts the nerves soon go away and it becomes like any normal activity I've found.

I was ridiculously nervous for my 1st punt (and I was a bit tipsy too!) it just felt like a big line to cross.

.

Lol I was so nervous I couldnt call her on the phone, I had to text and even them my hand was shaking so much it took about 10mins to type 3 lines!

[Bonker]

In a bad situation you have 3 options :
1.change the situation
2.change yourself
3.Live with it

[extraa]

Don't be too hard on yourself. Try to remember these woman are only interested in your money. They're not sizing you up as a potential partner.

Lots of good advice on here and I don't want to contradict anyone but going out to meet people through dating apps or nights out etc is one reason why I actually started punting.

I'm 32 myself and could end up spending £60-£100 easy on a night out not including a taxi there and back. I'm fairly good looking and confident too and would still rarely pull. Just wake up feeling like crap, hungover. I tried the dating game too. And after a year or so realised it is just that, a game. Lot of girls not knowing what they want or lots of 1st dates and nothing else. Punting takes out the middle man so to speak. It's straight to the point and you can meet some incredible hot girls you would never cross paths with otherwise.

Don't limit your field. If you enjoy punting with older ladies you'll love it with the younger ones too

[extraa]

What of?  I remember my first time and I was very nervous - worried about being beaten up and robbed and STIs and all sorts of crap.  Then I found that by and large they were OK and (especially for English milfs) often really nice.

Biggest worry now is that I'll have a no-fault motor accident on the way there or back, or breakdown, or car theft etc - in a place I have no business being.  Punting by tube in The Smoke was easy but I fear those days are gone for many of us.  Productivity at $DAYJOB is hardly impacted by WFH, apparently.

Glad it's not just me lol  I spend the whole drive back felling more and more relieved the closer I get to home that my excuse becomes believable for where I am with my car. 

[myothernameis]

After about 5-10 punts the nerves soon go away and it becomes like any normal activity I've found.

I was ridiculously nervous for my 1st punt (and I was a bit tipsy too!) it just felt like a big line to cross.

My first punt, didn't know quite what to expect, or what would happen, followed a news story in the Sunday mail.  A massage parlor in Glasgow seemingly was offering extras, and I didn't even know what was meant by extras

So decided to head to the place, had an incline of what might be on offer, arrived and paid my fee, and got undressed.  The girl doing the massage was in her mid 40's, and asked me why am I here.  Told her straight of, seen the news story, and asked what extras can I get.  I should say, at this point I was a virgin, and told the girl, and I ended up getting a quick lesson in sex

Would have returned, but the place got raided the next day, but then soon found plenty other places

[sparkus]

I make absolutely no connection to my punting preferences and non-hobby sense of self/dating expectations.

Interestingly I did see a BBW escort (and regretted it, mainly as pictures were 'angled' to flatter) who said she attracts a lot of larger male clients who assume she will be less judgmental on their appearance.  I asked if it bothered her or if she found them repulsive, she said not really as you're just providing a service and are indifferent to who the client is (basically 'blocks of time').

I suppose it could bother some who might be looking for the WG to 'fancy' them or delude themselves they'll get a pat on the back for being such a handsome stud etc.

[SamLP]

Escorts shouldn't judge and most probably won't. For them, it's your money, hygiene and attitude that they care about, but mainly the money. You're paying them for a service, and not to impress them with your physique. They see all sorts, young, old, fat, skinny, good looking, ugly and all the others in between. They've seen it all. You may lack self confidence and esteem, but don't let it prevent you from punting with younger wg's if that's who you really want to see.

[Colston36]

One or two others have touched on this but it is incredibly important. Get fit. Eat better. Exercise.

The fitter you are the better you feel. And the better you feel the happier and more confident you will be.

I am not in the least sporty, obsessed with fitness or food faddy but after 30 odd years of fierce boozing and general misbehaviour I decided to change my ways.

That was 20 years ago. I shall be 84 in 4 weeks. I still do a lot of exercise and watch my diet. I just got into the habit.

I never even thought I'd live this long. But till the bloody corona thingy I was punting two or three times a week.

Look after yourself - and it will look after you. So will the ladies.

Good luck!

[hellohellox123]

One or two others have touched on this but it is incredibly important. Get fit. Eat better. Exercise.

The fitter you are the better you feel. And the better you feel the happier and more confident you will be.

I am not in the least sporty, obsessed with fitness or food faddy but after 30 odd years of fierce boozing and general misbehaviour I decided to change my ways.

That was 20 years ago. I shall be 84 in 4 weeks. I still do a lot of exercise and watch my diet. I just got into the habit.

I never even thought I'd live this long. But till the bloody corona thingy I was punting two or three times a week.

Look after yourself - and it will look after you. So will the ladies.

Good luck!

Cheers man. I 100% agree, when I was lifting, I looked and felt good. Will try to get to my best again.

[Ali Katt]

I make absolutely no connection to my punting preferences and non-hobby sense of self/dating expectations.

Interestingly I did see a BBW escort (and regretted it, mainly as pictures were 'angled' to flatter) who said she attracts a lot of larger male clients who assume she will be less judgmental on their appearance.  I asked if it bothered her or if she found them repulsive, she said not really as you're just providing a service and are indifferent to who the client is (basically 'blocks of time').

I suppose it could bother some who might be looking for the WG to 'fancy' them or delude themselves they'll get a pat on the back for being such a handsome stud etc.

I see big girls quite a bit, but it's worth noting if a guy weighs 20 stone and he sees women who are say upwards of a size 20 it could be a logistical nightmare.

[sparkus]

I see big girls quite a bit, but it's worth noting if a guy weighs 20 stone and he sees women who are say upwards of a size 20 it could be a logistical nightmare.

I saw a super svelte Pole with freakishly huge chebs ("overdeveloped") at Chelsea Cloisters once and she was by far the skinniest bird I'd ever boinked and she did complain that I weighed too much (most blokes would) So there's optimal matches either way.

[king tarzan]

oh stop being a sissy, your paying for sex, all they care about is the bunce, your not auditioning for some suave six pack lothario role that you have to be bothered that you will be co starring with Scarlett Johansson, so man up..

[luv2kiss54]

Good luck 123! Self confidence/self consciousness can be a right bastard. The knack is getting lost in the moment so that you forget yourself. I know it's hard to believe as us blokes are hardwired to visually appreciate women, but at the end of the day I really believe that women don't really care much about what blokes look like. That goes for civvies as well as SPs!

There is a lot of good advice and replies on this thread but... "women don't really care much about what blokes look like ". is simply not true in civvy life. If you have ever been on a dating site and  post a picture and you are not blessed with good looks your chances of success or even getting past the starting block of a reply are  very slim. You can be the nicest guy in the world but its looks which provided the initial reaction, fact.

[daviemac]

There is a lot of good advice and replies on this thread but... "women don't really care much about what blokes look like ". is simply not true in civvy life. If you have ever been on a dating site and  post a picture and you are not blessed with good looks your chances of success or even getting past the starting block of a reply are  very slim. You can be the nicest guy in the world but its looks which provided the initial reaction, fact.

There's loads of not very good looking blokes in relationships with decent looking women. You can't compare a dating site with meeting someone face to face. I will agree looks to give that initial reaction do count for a lot on a dating site as all they have to go on is a picture. It's not the same if they get to know you as a person over a bit of time.

[Dani]

OP we don’t care what you look like as long as you’re clean and polite.  Older women are just as judgemental as young women.  You won’t get a look of disdain no matter the age simply because the prossie would have seen bigger/older/hairier/uglier etc than you.   Your weight has no bearing on your booking.  The only time it would is if with a very petite woman and laid your whole body weight on her

Otherwise you’re good to go with prossies of all ages

[Colston36]

There's loads of not very good looking blokes in relationships with decent looking women. You can't compare a dating site with meeting someone face to face. I will agree looks to give that initial reaction do count for a lot on a dating site as all they have to go on is a picture. It's not the same if they get to know you as a person over a bit of time.

Three things matter more than looks. Fame, charm and money. John Wilkes, a famous 18th century politician was ugly and cross-eyed but well-known for his success with the ladies. When asked how he managed it he said "It takes me 10 minutes to talk away my face".

[Ali Katt]

Three things matter more than looks. Fame, charm and money. John Wilkes, a famous 18th century politician was ugly and cross-eyed but well-known for his success with the ladies. When asked how he managed it he said "It takes me 10 minutes to talk away my face".

Let's also not forget Peter Crouch:
"What would you be if you weren't a footballer?"
"A Virgin"

[Yorkshirefatrascal]

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I bought the book, really interesting and cheap (and in good condition) from the site above. Eating all my old junk food before I start eating as it advises.

[nurfe7]

Just remember, the girls see all sorts. You are not going to stand out unless you make it that way. You have paid your money and that is all they really care about (and that you are clean). I also went for older women to start with as there was less perceived pressure but once you have done it a few times and built confidence you will be better equipped to see younger girls. I have and you get good and bad escorts in all age brackets.