Author Topic: How quickly does it take you to get an erection?  (Read 3063 times)

Do you get a hard on as soon as you walk through the door and see her in her sexy underwear? Or does it take a while for example, she has to be touching you?

The reason why i ask. Its because I put to much pressure on myself and I'm conscious about time. So I expect to have an erection as soon as I'm sat on the bed. If I don't I start over thinking and I say to myself "time is money ".

My biggest nightmare is handing over money and no erection. Hence the use of the blue pill.

Also I don't want to book a longer session because I can only pop once. So 15mins to 30mins is good for me.

l get hard just thinking about an imminent punt therefore never had the need for a blue pill despite getting on a bit, l'm 55.l normally go for 1 hr meets and have been known to pop 3 times though 2 is the norm

Offline Zeusthedoc

depends on the session...
vanilla is usually as i'm naked and she starts sucking
kinky, the blood starts flowing to mini me as i'm knocking on the door in anticipation

Online Littlefoot

When the lips lock, arise Sir cock.  :yahoo:


Offline KentAde

For me the old boy does his trick when I see my 'playmate' for the 30mins/1hr coming towards me in nothing but stockings....  :thumbsup: so pretty early on the rising starts...

All I can say is make the most of it gents.

From the days of being embarrassed getting up from my seat on the bus with raging erections about 65 years ago, to my current situation of needing a pill, cock ring, ccswipes and sometimes a set of jump leads!!! :(
« Last Edit: June 30, 2020, 12:00:39 pm by Thephoenix »

Offline Colston36

All I can say is make the most of it gents.

From the days of being embarrassed getting up from my seat on the bus with raging erections about 65 years ago, to my current situation of needing a pill, cock ring, ccswipes and sometimes a set of jump leads!!! :(

Do you find a cock ring helps?

Offline RandomGuy99

Stop putting pressure on yourself and relax. It's not a race.  It's about enjoying yourself.  I can even enjoy myself without getting an erection. 

It'll happen when it happens. I get hard when I am turned on.  Most SPs give me a nice snog and that usually does it for me. 

You may find over activities arousing.  Do those and enjoy yourself.

I'm a one pop person too but I prefer one hour bookings as a minimum.  I find 30 minute bookings are too rushed.  I like to relax and spend time doing the activities I enjoy.  One or twice I've not cum at all.  I've still enjoyed myself. It's just sometimes I'm stressed with work and don't cum.
« Last Edit: June 30, 2020, 12:48:27 pm by RandomGuy99 »

Online daviemac

I think this thread is only going to make things worse for you, the more you hear about others being easily aroused the more pressure you are putting on yourself.

Don't worry about what others do, as has been said relax and let things take there course.

Offline RandomGuy99

My main learnings from last year are:

1. Don't over think bookings as you'll just put pressure on yourself.

2. Don't read reviews of the SP and compare them with your own bookings with the SP and then spend time trying to figure out how you need to change or what you need to do differently to get a similar experience with the SP.  Just be yourself and enjoy yourself.

Do you find a cock ring helps?

Definitely...... Bought it from Sainsburys .....think it was called a Durex Pleasure Ring.

It's quite thick and strong. It's supposed to be worn on base of penis, but I find it's far more effective if you VERY CAREFULLY get your bollocks in too. Shouldn't be worn more than 30 minutes, and unless you want watery eyes, remove just as carefully. :scare:

Offline yandex

I have something similar. Sometimes nerves get in the way and I need a bit of warming up first. Thankfully, reviews help point to WGs who are better at their job than others. Sounds to me like you would be better off going for the expense of a 30 min session (vs 15 mins) and accepting that you need to relax into the session. The extra money would be offset by a more enjoyable punt IMO.

Wham, bam, thank you mam 15 min sessions are fine but the WG will also be looking to finish early and the pressure she'll put on you won't help. Especially if she's opened the door and she's not doing it for you straight away. Blue pills only help with the strength of an erection, you still have to want it and I find stress is the biggest hard on killer going.

As others have said, don't put too much store in what experiences people report.

My main learnings from last year are:

1. Don't over think bookings as you'll just put pressure on yourself.

2. Don't read reviews of the SP and compare them with your own bookings with the SP and then spend time trying to figure out how you need to change or what you need to do differently to get a similar experience with the SP.  Just be yourself and enjoy yourself.

Absolutely agree Mr Guy.

It's not only you putting pressure on yourself. It's finding a SP who won't put pressure on you.
The worst thing is feeling rushed. Comments like 'Come on Chuck...I'll miss me last bus home', or the dreaded fake porno sounds.... or even an impatient sigh when she's getting wanker's elbow. :(

Unfortunately for me because of quite severe peripheral arterial disease, the practical steps I described are required to achieve an erection.  A climax is ideal, but sometimes not achieved, and I've cum to terms with that. :)

At my age I need a little chemical assistance to be sure of a sound erection.
50 mg of the plasterboard shavings taken an hour prior does it for me, usually.
I sometimes surprise myself when visiting the three or so women I particularly fancy and forget to take a pill.
I am not as chemically dependent as I thought think I.

Do you get a hard on as soon as you walk through the door and see her in her sexy underwear? Or does it take a while for example, she has to be touching you?

The reason why i ask. Its because I put to much pressure on myself and I'm conscious about time. So I expect to have an erection as soon as I'm sat on the bed. If I don't I start over thinking and I say to myself "time is money ".

My biggest nightmare is handing over money and no erection.
Hence the use of the blue pill.

Also I don't want to book a longer session because I can only pop once. So 15mins to 30mins is good for me.

That's your issue, your tying the money you are spending directly with the possible outcome of you having sex and that will lead to problems. You won't be trying to enjoy the session but instead thinking about trying to get every minute "worth" and overthinking...that will lead disappointment. You're a couple years older than me if I remember correctly, doesn't using the blue pill when you are young long term lead to issues further on down the line? Will you end up dependent on the blue pill? Will you be able to function without the pill in the future?

If you are too concerned about the money you are spending on the punt to the point that it interferes with your boner, then you probably should not be punting until you are comfortable with the loss of the money however the punt turns out (good or bad). It will be a great lift of pressure from your shoulders when you know you can stomach the loss of ££££ from a shit service and not think shit I could have spent the money on this and that instead, why did I do this  :dash:. Even if it means you punt once a month. When I first started punting, I started out once a month on the minimum entry fee (£40 P&D) as I didn't have disposable funds to be splashing.... and over time gradually increased it once I became more comfortable with the amount spent and how the money can be a complete waste or "well spent". At least this way you could put the money spent issue behind you and focus on having a good time or "performing" to your taste  :lol:.
« Last Edit: June 30, 2020, 06:19:12 pm by Payyourwaymate »

Offline Bedasha

I find I need some form of build up ie. undressing to start getting hard.
If the girl is already naked, there's no next level.

Generally though, I'll meet and start chatting with the clothed SP, start fast forwarding in my head what we're gonna get up to, and the blood starts flowing.
I then excuse myself to go to the bathroom cause my bladder alwys fills up before the meet , wait for my semi/full on to go away so I can piss, then come back and need to start from scratch  :dash:
 
So my ideal situation is meet a girl whose staying in a hotel, then use a public toilet so when I get to her room there's no bathroom use at the start.

Once I see the lucky lady  :thumbsup:
I mean she has the pleasure of sucking my Gentlemans sausage  :D

Offline Home Alone

Do you find a cock ring helps?

I'm like Thephoenix, except that because  of a really unhelpful attitude in the Boots in a neighbouring town, I got Mr. Amazon to send me a cock ring. Which, because I usually use Northern Rail for the majority of my journeys to appointments, I go to the train toilet to put in place about five minutes or so before it reaches its destination.

It's part of the belt and braces approach I have to adopt these days: cock ring; and Tadalafil!  :(

l get hard just thinking about an imminent punt therefore never had the need for a blue pill despite getting on a bit, l'm 55.l normally go for 1 hr meets and have been known to pop 3 times though 2 is the norm

+1 - Thankfully I'm a very horny fucker and I'm early 50s. Not sure I'd get 3 pops in an hour though - been a long time since I did that!!

Offline RandomGuy99

What does a cock ring do for you?

Keep you hard longer?

Stop you coming so quickly?

Never tried one, but I've thought about it.

Offline JAYZ

Do you get a hard on as soon as you walk through the door and see her in her sexy underwear? Or does it take a while for example, she has to be touching you?

The reason why i ask. Its because I put to much pressure on myself and I'm conscious about time. So I expect to have an erection as soon as I'm sat on the bed. If I don't I start over thinking and I say to myself "time is money ".

My biggest nightmare is handing over money and no erection. Hence the use of the blue pill.

Also I don't want to book a longer session because I can only pop once. So 15mins to 30mins is good for me.
Usually as soon as I start hugging and fondling the lady, the excitement down below begins to show itself.

Offline Home Alone

What does a cock ring do for you?

Keep you hard longer?

Stop you coming so quickly?

Never tried one, but I've thought about it.

I don't know for certain - hope the Doc comes along soon! - but, afaik, it keeps you hard for longer by trapping the blood flow.

Offline Home Alone

What does a cock ring do for you?

Keep you hard longer?

Stop you coming so quickly?

Never tried one, but I've thought about it.

I'm no medical man but, afaik, they help keep you harder for longer by trapping the blood flow..

Offline yandex

What does a cock ring do for you?

Keep you hard longer?

Stop you coming so quickly?

Never tried one, but I've thought about it.

It helps with your erection by keeping the blood engorged in your penis. You still have to get aroused in order for it to work though.

I find, combined with a blue pill, I get a monster erection (for me) for a while. It can get a bit painful if left too long. Unfortunately it doesn't prolong my time to ejaculation though.

They come in a range of sizes, shapes and materials so start with something gentle and see what it does for you. I have a thick plain one and a little bit of lube helps it go on

Offline mr.bluesky

In my younger days a mere hint of cleavage or stockings tops would get the sap rising now I need the gentle touch of soft teasing to get it to rise to the occasion, and if it's a pretty Thai or Chinese lady so much the better. :yahoo:

Offline Home Alone

It helps with your erection by keeping the blood engorged in your penis. You still have to get aroused in order for it to work though.



Sorry for the double post earlier; proves I can't listen to "Who wants to be a millionaire" and post on this Board at the same time.

I should have added the line of my - Scottish  - GP who originally prescribed the Viagra when she advised, "Ye'll still have to go through foreplay, mind."



The reason I prefer the Durex pleasure ring is that it's stronger, thicker and cheaper than ones I've bought previously from my local Nice n Naughty sex shop.

They were thinner and prone to breaking when stretching, particularly in contact with massage oil.
I've had a couple of occasions when they've broke when trying to take off, went flying and nearly taken the poor girls eye out. :(

www.youtube.com/watch?v=68lJPS9DcJc

I agree, I have tried several types and Durex pleasure rings are the best.

All I can say is make the most of it gents.

From the days of being embarrassed getting up from my seat on the bus with raging erections about 65 years ago, to my current situation of needing a pill, cock ring, ccswipes and sometimes a set of jump leads!!! :(

Yep, at 71 in two weeks agree with that. But as some of my reviews show, can still do the job. As for cock rings, that MistressMusclePP in Crayford used a vibrating one on me last time. And a one similar the time before that. Now there's one lady that really knows how to work an old mans cock!!   :lol:

Offline wirehair

The reason I prefer the Durex pleasure ring is that it's stronger, thicker and cheaper than ones I've bought previously from my local Nice n Naughty sex shop.

They were thinner and prone to breaking when stretching, particularly in contact with massage oil.
I've had a couple of occasions when they've broke when trying to take off, went flying and nearly taken the poor girls eye out. :(

www.youtube.com/watch?v=68lJPS9DcJc

Agree. I’m a great fan of vibrating cock rings and find my partners have been too. So much so that one or two have knicked the ring for their own use later! I usually fire it up and use as a vibrator on their clit and pussy with it on my finger then roll it on my cock before entry. Coupled with a blue pill it really does keep me - an older man - harder longer.

Although in answer to the OP, I find that it’s not the chemicals or mechanicals that do it for me, it’s the build up starting before the meet and continuing with the fore play and undressing.

I’m mid 50s and get an erection as soon as I undress and quite often as soon as I see the WG if she is fit...luckily never had a problem even if I haven’t fancied the WG which is probably why I am a terrible “walker” as I am ready for action before my big brain kicks in !!

Always take hour long bookings as a 2nd, or even 3rd, rounds don’t seem to be an issue either...fingers crossed that continues

I’m mid 50s and get an erection as soon as I undress and quite often as soon as I see the WG if she is fit...luckily never had a problem even if I haven’t fancied the WG which is probably why I am a terrible “walker” as I am ready for action before my big brain kicks in !!

Always take hour long bookings as a 2nd, or even 3rd, rounds don’t seem to be an issue either...fingers crossed that continues
could have written that myself!

Offline FLYING BLUE

These days I really struggle to get fully hard & struggle even more to keep it there :cry:

Combination of age, nerves & sexual hang up's in the majority of cases - even in the best of sexual scenario's.....

Blue pills do work for me & I've taken to dropping one prior to 'important' punts such as duo's - so damn expensive though (£5.00 per pill last time I got them from Asda)

Ummm .. whats an erection?, summatt to do with scaffolding or the like;?...

Offline winkywanky

Ummm .. whats an erection?, summatt to do with scaffolding or the like;?...


No, it's what the Chinese Communist Party holds every five years.

And just like any other type of erection, it normally has exactly the same result  :hi:.

Offline Home Alone

These days I really struggle to get fully hard & struggle even more to keep it there :cry:

Combination of age, nerves & sexual hang up's in the majority of cases - even in the best of sexual scenario's.....


Blue pills do work for me & I've taken to dropping one prior to 'important' punts such as duo's - so damn expensive though (£5.00 per pill last time I got them from Asda)

Have you any other medical difficulties, FLYING BLUE? I'm thinking here of things like circulation problems.

I've previously recounted on this Board about the combination you describe above which was affecting my, erm, staying power with one of Bury's raunchiest Parlour Girls about 15 years ago. She said she could get me some Kamagra but I told her to wait till I'd had my heart and blood pressure checked.

So I went to see my GP; told her I'd got a new 'girlfriend' - I wasn't quite 60 back then - but we were having problems which she had suggested 'curing' with Kamagra, but I'd wanted my heart and b.p.checking first. The GP duly checked both; said I was fine to take that medication but added that, because I had a congenital medical problem, she could prescribe me 4x Viagra a month. :yahoo: We started @ 25 mg, but went through the gears till I was on 4x 100 m.g. a month.

If you do qualify for Viagra, but you find they don't fully 'do it for' you, it might be worth going back to the GP & asking if there's anything else. When Viagra became less effective for me, 3 years or so ago, I did that and saw a Trainee GP who went through the Formulary and prescribed Tadalafil. So I'm now on a 4-weekly prescription of 4 of them. And, as you might imagine, building up quite a stash for when the punting Referee blows his whistle to re-start the game! ;)  :D

She, like the original GP, said the tablets on their own wouldn't be enough; there'd still have to be foreplay. Oh well, if there has to be, there has to be!! :yahoo:

Offline FLYING BLUE

Have you any other medical difficulties, FLYING BLUE? I'm thinking here of things like circulation problems.

No, not at all - I've recently retired but, up to that point, I went through very comprehensive health checks every 4 months or so and was considered 'Class One'.
Personally, I think my biggest issue is down to hangup's - I have more hangup's than a Chinese laundry  ;)

Offline Jeffe

Hopefully some good advice in here op. Just to add I think most WGs have seen it all so as long as they’re not a complete newbie they shouldn’t be phased by anyone not having a raging hard on from start to finish. Their job is to get you off and a good SP will get creative if you need help. Sometimes it’s not your day so just keep calm and enjoy whatever the result

Offline RandomGuy99

Hopefully some good advice in here op. Just to add I think most WGs have seen it all so as long as they’re not a complete newbie they shouldn’t be phased by anyone not having a raging hard on from start to finish. Their job is to get you off and a good SP will get creative if you need help. Sometimes it’s not your day so just keep calm and enjoy whatever the result
+1 been there

Putting pressure on yourself will just make it worse.  Remember it's supposed to be fun. Stop thinking about it. Relax. Enjoy it. There's boobies, bums and pussies. Smile  :D

OOh an afterthought. The German cock and balls sleeve available from Love Honey are worth exploring I have found. One has to have the beginnings of a stiffy to get the blessed things on and with a bit of lube as well but once in place they certainly help maintain things. There is somewhat of a debate as to whether the condom should go on first or not. I personally find that issue one of 6 and 2x3.

Offline Discord

I'm more like the thread starter in that it usually takes me a little while as in after the foreplay has started before I'll start to get a proper erection.  Very rarely would I get one just from seeing the woman initially before the action properly starts.   

Depends on how long the planning permission takes. :unknown:

I'm more like the thread starter in that it usually takes me a little while as in after the foreplay has started before I'll start to get a proper erection.  Very rarely would I get one just from seeing the woman initially before the action properly starts.   

Similar. Sight alone won't wake the old fella up. Once foreplay commences, I get a stiffy pretty quickly.


Offline HarryZZ

It depends on the situation, in perhaps a 30 minute meet it would start slowly as soon as we're disrobed and full on snogging begins and work its way up as more touching starts, in a longer session starting of with a massage, I'm pretty relaxed as I lay on my front and enjoying the massage but then as soon as I turn over I become more excited.

Twitching when i make contact-Soon as i am buzzed in & in the lift its semi-once the door opens i can feel the grow-quick peck & into the shower & he is there looking at me thinking "here we go again you dirty bastard", out of the shower & over to the SP he is throbbing !!!!

Offline RandomGuy99

Basically we're all different. We get hard when we're turned on. A number of factors affect how long it takes us to get turned on.  Stop comparing yourself to others.  Stop worrying about not being hard immediately the door is open. Just relax and enjoy what happens. You'll get hard when you're turned on and ready.  If you worry about it and put pressure on yourself you then you probably won't get hard. You feeling uncomfortable will also rub off on the SP and possibly make the booking a little awkward.

Offline cueball

Aahhh.... Erections.....

If it's a new to me lass then during the first snog and feel up.

If it's a return visit to a lass i know I'm going to enjoy, I'm hard on the walk to knock on the door.

It's a massive turn on is the paid podging game for me. Daft as it sounds, the money part adds to the naughtiness for me. Like a naughty secret, a taboo.... Great stuff  :hi:

Hookers dont care if you get hard or not....

 its all money to them...

 Tell her you have performance anxiety in advance via tex...ext

or you done a line of coke it might not get hard to save face,

find a decent understanding sp whos not a clock watcher...

ego means fuck all when money is changeing hands

Always pop a blue pill regardless