I've read and re-read your OP, Hp; before throwing in my twopennyworth, because I'm not quite sure what you're asking here.
In the past, I used to write Field Reports on AW, and now do so here. In both places, I've always followed what I've always thought of as the "Party Line", so to speak. An good example would be our now-retired mutual friend "Lustylush". My AW report on the first of my visits to her used her "Punting ID"[Lustylush] rather than her actual forename; and recorded the name of the town in which I saw her I saw her, which I much later discovered is some 15 miles as the crow flies from her home town, thereby minimising any chance of her cover in that home town being blown.
I have to say I don't understand the meaning of the 2nd paragraph of your OP.
I now know that someone I shall soon meet will see me discreetly so that her partner will not know that she has been with a punter. I also know what I think is her real forename as distinct from her punting ID. (I do not yet know if the partner is a man or a woman and if they are married to each other).
To me, you have [deliberately?] worded that paragraph so as to require clarification before any of us could offer a meaningful opinion and the questions which occur to me are as follows:
Does the first sentence mean that you're planning to have a punt with someone whom you've "met" through some medium/circumstances other than [e.g.] Adultwork?
Is the implication of your phrase "her punting ID" that she's a WG, with a WG's alias?
If she's got a "punting ID", why on earth would you not
want to use it in any FR?
I've never read any of your Reports on here because we shop on different stalls of the market, so to speak, and I haven't looked at any of them before typing this so I don't know what your "usual manner" of reporting is.
What on earth would be your purpose in using what you think
, possibly wrongly, may be her actual forename in any report, other than to be at least mischevious, or at worst a trouble-stirrer for her?
If she's got a "punting ID", why wouldn't her partner know that she has been with you as a punter?
And what, other than total prurience, does the gender and marital status of her and her partner matter to you?
I don't think it's right that you should ask us in your later Post not to "virtually yell" at you; you surely know how many of us on here feel about your apparent boasting of "barebacking" - your OP strikes me of you trying to think up another issue to scandalise us.
How about responding on here to some of the questions I've asked you, and trying to convince me that you're not planning to make trouble for the woman you're intending to see?