Author Topic: Swingers and Sinners - Sutton - FIRST TIME PARTY GOER  (Read 4328 times)

Offline Wlondon1234

So, let me start by saying I was unsure whether to do a review at all. And having decided to do one, I was unsure about whether to give it a positive or not. But I've gone with a positive because it is as advertised and whether you like it or not is quite dependent on your tastes. I want to try and write something without sounding judgemental because I really have no issue with what the offering is. I won't cover everything, as some of the details have been covered in previous reviews and remain the same.

At the very least, I can offer a first timers perspective. Anyway...

I arrived a little late and stuck around for about 2 hours. When I first entered, I was a little overwhelmed. The music was a little loud, plenty of people walking around. I was invited in, directed to changing rooms and offered a towel (pretty much everyone walks around in just a towel, if that). There was a decent offering of snacks and drinks. Eventually, still fully clothed, I took a quick tour of the place before towelling up.

For maybe 45 minutes or so, all I did was walk in and out of rooms, awaiting an opportunity. In the whole time I was there, I played with 2 girls. I don't know their names, one was I think Brazilian, thick, with big curly hair. She was, to me, easily the most attractive one there. There were a couple of other younger ladies who were very popular, particularly amongst the younger men. Besides that, it was largely as described in a previous review. You're not going to get ladies with porn star looks, and most of them are a bit older than what I would usually go for. On the other hand, the atmosphere was quite open and pleasant. The truth is that everyone is there to enjoy themselves, nobody is judgemental, and I can honestly say that I had no issue with fucking a woman in front of 10 other men while she sucked another mans cock (or vice versa). That alone is a major positive for me. The diversity of people there is also a pro, all races and ages.

So, what do I think overall? I'll be honest, much of my experience I can put down to it being my first time. However, ultimately I would say this party was not for me. The main issue is the type of person I am and therefore a big reason for going to these parties - the sociability. Much of the experience is about what happens away from the contact time, the chat and banter with everyone around. If that is not something you really care for, then you may find that there is a lot of dead time, with you hanging about quite literally with your dick in your hand. Which is my second personal con for this type of party, and that is the male to female ratio. It just meant there was a lot of hanging about - in fact, I would say it was queueing - for the next go. It is just simply not something I would want to do. There are  And the final con was quite simply that I did not find enough of the women attractive enough physically. Now, there is a lot to say for an attractive personality making someone sexuality attractive and that is not really something I got the chance to explore. But on the face of it, I just didn't fancy most of the ladies enough.

Perhaps some of that sounds harsh, and so I should reiterate that they are not criticisms as such, rather my personal prefereces. I'm not judging the party itself, only whether it is for me or not and what it was like to experience it for the first time. For instance, the male to female ratio was not a surprise - but in the end, it just wasn't suitable for me. There are other parties that are more likely to cater to my preferences. I went to experience what it was like, with the hope that I might enjoy it, and some of it I did. I was open to almost anything, but on the day, it just wasn't for me. On that basis, I would still give it a positive because clearly there were plenty of men and women enjoying themselves and I did too at times. For £75, you're not going to get a choice of 15 porn stars to yourself. It's just not that kind of party.

On another note - I don't know if I just didn't notice, but it didn't appear to me as though there were many swingers about. I saw two couples come and have a walk around, but they didn't really get very involved (which, of course, is completely fine). That may have made things a little more interesting.

Interested to hear other people's opinions.


Offline Steely Dan

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Thanks for the review OP.

Your review your rating.  But this sounds like you are giving it a positive because other guys might like it.  They can write their own review.  We hope they will. But this is what you think. Also you note they are honest, and the earlier review was accurate.  Whatever.

So if you yourself didn't enjoy it much, and won't likely go back, then a positive is generous.

This is brave for a first party. Do consider other parties with lower M:F ratio. Unless you now know it is totally not your thing.

Offline Wlondon1234

Thanks for the review OP.

Your review your rating.  But this sounds like you are giving it a positive because other guys might like it.  They can write their own review.  We hope they will. But this is what you think. Also you note they are honest, and the earlier review was accurate.  Whatever.

So if you yourself didn't enjoy it much, and won't likely go back, then a positive is generous.

This is brave for a first party. Do consider other parties with lower M:F ratio. Unless you now know it is totally not your thing.

I did consider giving it a neutral. But generally, I think if is a service (or party) is as advertised, I can't complain. There was nothing 'wrong' with it AND I enjoyed some aspects of it, so it nudged it into a positive. To be fair, if I had felt uncomfortable, I may well have given it a neutral, or even a negative.

In hindsight, it may have been better to not write it as a review at all, to avoid having to give it a rating.

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I did consider giving it a neutral. But generally, I think if is a service (or party) is as advertised, I can't complain. There was nothing 'wrong' with it AND I enjoyed some aspects of it, so it nudged it into a positive. To be fair, if I had felt uncomfortable, I may well have given it a neutral, or even a negative.

In hindsight, it may have been better to not write it as a review at all, to avoid having to give it a rating.
Nah you were right to make it a review.  It was a review.  And we thank you for it!

Offline davidgood

Thank you your review.  :hi:

As I  know how busy these parties can be, they are probably  not the best place  for a first timer. But we all have to start somewhere and I think that if you went to another of these parties or somewhere different in the next few weeks you would know the ropes and probably have a better experience.

Regards,

davidgood

Offline Mr Girth

Thanks OP for your review.

Like you, I attended one of their parties recently and also left a review.

Hopefully our efforts help others understand a little more about these parties and help them decide whether to attend themselves.

Offline cultvoid

Yes, even though I gave a positive this is a very fair review and you should give a negative if you feel negative about it.

I wonder if the entire membership of this board was there, so many reviews! Thanks for this one, I posted mine without realising there were already excellent reviews on the same day.

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Thanks to all for the reviews.  :drinks: I'm surprised you didn't notice each other taking notes!

Thanks OP for the very frank assessment.  Partying on this scale was never going to be a thing for me and your description confirms it.   :hi:

Offline magnetico

How many punters and girls?

I'm curious

Offline Wlondon1234

How many punters and girls?

I'm curious

Around 12-15 girls and probably around 50 or more men? It's almost impossible to count, but it was certainly VERY busy.

Offline kasamaa

Sounds like an FKK might be more down your street, the only downside is that you have to go to Germany to enjoy it.

Offline magnetico

Around 12-15 girls and probably around 50 or more men? It's almost impossible to count, but it was certainly VERY busy.

 that's far more than what i thought!
Thanks for the review and reply.

Offline cunningman

Your review your rating.  But this sounds like you are giving it a positive because other guys might like it.  They can write their own review.

I think that is actually the responsible and correct thing to do.  After all, I don't really care if you like an SP, I read your reviews to try to determine whether I will like the SP.

I think generally 'tried hard and OK service but not my type' should be a +ve.  I don't give a fuck what your type is.

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I think that is actually the responsible and correct thing to do.  After all, I don't really care if you like an SP, I read your reviews to try to determine whether I will like the SP.

I think generally 'tried hard and OK service but not my type' should be a +ve.  I don't give a fuck what your type is.
Well, we are all entitled to our views.  But your view is in the minority here, and also in the industry of market research.  Best if we report on our experience and then rate our experience, not mind read. Then we all decide if we want to see her. 

Since there are so diverse things many guys like, let's give every girl a positive.  Crazy, right? Same as not having a rating.

People that say 'I hate this new flavour of drink but my neighbour will like it' are not helpful.  Best if one rates what they like.  As you say, none of us know what anyone else will like.  If you hate marmite, you give it a negative.  It is fine to admit that other might like marmite.  But it helps no one, if marmite gets a 100% 'love it' score, when half hate it.

Offline magnetico

After all, I don't really care if you like an SP, I read your reviews to try to determine whether I will like the SP.
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 I don't give a fuck what your type is.

You misunderstand what a review is about  :dash:

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I think that is actually the responsible and correct thing to do.  After all, I don't really care if you like an SP, I read your reviews to try to determine whether I will like the SP.

I think generally 'tried hard and OK service but not my type' should be a +ve.  I don't give a fuck what your type is.

A review is meant to reflect how something affected the reviewer NOT for them to suppose it would be better for someone else.  Promoting a product you don't believe in or would not choose for yourself is touting.

A reviewer can ONLY be certain of how something succeeded or failed to impress them, they can ONLY suppose how someone else might rate the same experience, they can ONLY suppose that someone else might have a better or worse interaction.  In the greater scheme of the entire punter population all having a go, you might be proven right in supposing that someone would have a better experience BUT you cannot be certain what proportion of the population will likewise have a better or worse time.  Your accuracy of prediction would require magic or a full dataset on the entire population's ranges of likes and dislikes pertaining to all the possible behaviours the SP would or might be likely to exhibit.  The certainty we can all have is that that dataset does not exist... yet.